gentlegenius:

I disagree with you on this...
Though, there are some men that can sleep with anything that has hole between her legs, but I am not one them. There are some women I see and I will tell myself NO MATTER WHAT I MAY BE THINKING OR FEELING, I can't just sleep with this one. There are some women that even if I am having erection on my own, and they suddenly appear before me naked, my erection will go away. This is not a psychological problem because there are other men like me. Men who have high taste for women don't sleep with anything they see. Even animals dont sleep with anything that is of opposite sex... A male lion can't sleep with a female tiger even though they are all cats. There can't be any attraction between them.
Every reasonable man should have taste when it comes to female attraction. As, a man, if every woman you see in this world can attract you sexually, then something is wrong with you.

ROFLMAO

valentineuwakwe:
Perhaps you still dey eye her sister or you get another woman outside wey you dey date and sleep with.....
I don take from experience, you betterre trace your steps and love her again.
Only when you start log in your wife that you can have sexual feelings!
Thanks

U may be right but you didn't expatiate on your solution

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

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Op this ur feeling is not ur fault ,most times it’s cause by 2much closeness ,doing d same thing wt d same person everyday,every minute ,see finish will always come into d picture ..n u dated her for 6yrs probably u guys were living together for 6yrs b4 marriage ..dats y sometimes u wonder y some men cheat on dere wifes wt a lady dat d wife is more beta than in beauty n all ,cus most time dere wife’s is 10times more presentable than those ladies ..becos in those ladies d man has not seen it all ..cus he strive to av sex wt them but his wife he can do it anytime ,n he has seen it all..so d best thing is to spice up ur sex life wt ur wife ,maybe go out on weekends to a guest house or suit for two days n go av some fun n Gud sex wt ur wife n do oda things ,dats is not d usual things u normally do wt her ,n tell her wat u want if is to wear sexy night gown or jean strings etc 90% of marriages destroy because of this ,woman cheat on dere husbands becus of this ,am so happy dat u realize it n want to solve it ,some men dnt n when d damages comes knocking ,Dey start pushing blames to each oda ......Gud luck op.

Does your wife still obey your instructions? If yes; then you need to check your self because there is something wrong somewhere, but if she is not obeying your instructions, then tell her to change her ways of life and by so doing you begin to find her attractive because there is love in loyalty.

Again, naturally as a man you need to know or to understand that in most cases that women use to grow older than their husbands due to many circumstances. Sometimes it could be because of birth and in some cases it could be because most of them just leave themselves to look older that because they that they do not have any other things to bother themselves about. After all them don marry. Once you have this understanding and your are ready to follow this as a man, then your are matured.

The OP don go bleep another gal na why he d talk.. He don d cheat since.
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she beg for sex bfore she get it once or twice in a whole month, can you imagine such statement from a so called husband?
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in a situation like, the wife should be allowed to cheat without been purnished
i pity the wife sha,

Incredible128:
this is a bad advice, I wouldn't advice th e o.p to follow this advice as ur problems would still persist and later escalate. @ o.p, find ways to spice up ur marriage; maybe take ourselves out, and stuff lyk dat

It is good advice if done well. He can get himself sexually aroused then bleep his wife. It's a slight mental shift - if he stops insisting the initial arousal must come from his wife, he'd be able to bleep his wife a lot more.

bekpo:


Make ur wife attractive, it's in ur hands to so do. Buy her perfumes, creams n artificial hair. Buy her clothes (sexy ones) and stop nagging n making her nagging. Avoid doing to her those things that makes her unattractive. And always b romantic. Stop seeing another woman. Have heart to heart conversation with ur wife, get close to her n dont always miss her, do so many things together n b happy together. Rekindle that flame of love again as u guys met for d first time. Guy, it's in ur hands. Thank me later, goodluck.

Tell them.

Op I'm afraid you might find it very difficult to condition your mind bcuz you have polluted it already. Work on your mindset most, you can never always have the best kpekus. Spice your marriage and be content with the improvements you get

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

You indeed love her.

The following will be controversial:

I expect, very few men find the woman they truly love and respect sexually attractive. You see, although Bonobo chimpanzees’ sexual proclivities are sighted by palaeontologists as evidence that, besides species promulgation, sexual intercourse may play similar bonds-reinforcing role in humans, intercourse for humans is really about producing the healthiest children possible. For this reason, human spices evolved through unnatural choices in partners that humans superimposed upon nature by understanding the demands of their environment. It became that female humans evolved to seek Excellent Provider looking males and male humans, Capable Offspring providing females. And due to the relative scarcity of these types in all human societies, producing children acquired a competitive dimension that became war like at the extremities. So, in short, intercourse for men became like and act of conquest, with sadistic undertones. However the western world wants to paint it, and women want to influence it, men generally want to Bleep woman not Make Love to women. At Men’s foundational being is hardwired the notion, ‘Love making makes Love not babies; Fucking produces babies!’

When people marry, some men grow to love their wives in deep, affectionate ways that demand respect. When this happens, they no longer want to Bleep their wives and since men generally cant associate sex with love, it become difficult to “sleep” with their wives. The entire situation is compounded by the subtle signals women send in loving relationships that their partners aren’t Conan the Barbarian but Big Cuddly Teddy, the loving father and husband.

Don't worry, you will get over it. I felt same way too when I had my daughter. I will be like, a whole human being passed through that honeypot

ahnie:

Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

Mrs. Idibia is that you??

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Are you cheating?

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

You are plain silly. I don't see how you will take good care of your wife and don't find her attractive

See a therapist.

Mrsoft3:


Are you cheating?

Do you see him say anywhere that he does?

You guys should go for sex counseling and therapy with a professional

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

Do you find other ladies attractive?

you need to listen to this


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5l5ZS5tvtg

FreeIgboho:


Do you see him say anywhere that he does?

Even if He didn’t say it, it is a valid question that begs for an answer.

Being open to other Women can make ones wife seem sexually unattractive, even if She is sexy… and vice versa.

NetValueFX:

You are plain silly. I don't see how you will take good care of your wife and don't find her attractive

YOU are plain naive… it’s called taking care of your responsibilities, which may have little or nothing to do with feelings of attraction. She’s His Wife.

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

have you been In a broken home before ,or have you grown up in a broken home before ,if you haven't don't pray for such ,,if na to get drunk just to fuvk your wife better do it ,na small small things they scatter hux

She is a mumu, let her give other men, chance, maybe when you see other men finding her attractive ,you sense will come back ,


She is begging for sex, some women no get sense, why will you beg your partner for sex, ask him for sex, if he refused ,ignore him
Simple.







Other men uote author=isaacology3000 post=105664757]I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage. [/quote]

FreeIgboho:


Do you see him say anywhere that he does?

Exactly the point, half baked story.

There should be a pointer to the fact that he lost sexual feelings to his wife, atleast a maybe

FreeIgboho:
Easy. Find some girl image you find very arousing (maybe through porn - just once) then think that image to get aroused to bleep. No need to go outside

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Master in the game..... ladies pic too to masturbate ??

This is genuine advice.

Thank you

Mercychen:
I wonder how some men come up to say such things but easily find prostitutes sexually attractive enough to patronize them.

Now, my question is , what changed?
Did her body become loose after child birth?
Did her boobs stop being perky or what? Cos i know for most men with this kind of issue, it's always changes in the woman's body that come with child bearing that causes the drop in attraction.

Op, it's just only one child and you're already tired. Hope there's no other girl in the picture. It may not even be physical but mental picture? you sure you're not having someone else in mind?

The thing is, you have to bring your mind back home and stop trying to compare her to other women.

"See finish" can also be at play here like pastor Kumuyi rightly said in a post yesterday.
Maybe you need some time away from her ( not separation). Like take a trip out or something so you can miss her. Trust me this works.

I remember my experience with my ex. Whenever I was tired of his face and felt like dumping him for no reason, I'll just run off to another location for a month. By the time I get back, the attraction will feel all new and the relationship sweet again. So, "see finish" can be a contributing factor here.

Take a trip.

Seriously this issue of sex and sexless marriages is becoming an issue in naija... i thought it just a western problem or Asian self!!

Now paternity has joined.... its becoming scary oooo

IJEYdiamond:


Master in the game..... ladies pic too to masturbate ??

The initial arousal doesn't have to come from the wife.
If you can train your thoughts, sky is the limit

Mrsoft3:



Exactly the point, half baked story.

There should be a pointer to the fact that he lost sexual feelings to his wife, atleast a maybe

What do you mean? He no longer finds his wife sexually attractive. That's the hole issue.
"hole issue"

isaacology3000:
I and my wife met through her senior sister who happens to be my friend and also my toaster.

I ended up falling in love with my wife through her sister who claims we can't date because we're of age bracket.

We courts for 6 years before getting married to her and blessed with a beautiful daughter.

Lately I don't find her attractive to me anymore. She's the one begging for sex before I consider her once or twice in a month.
Please nairalanders, I need advice what could cause it and what should I do because I don't want to loose my marriage.

You must have cheated on her.. i don't understand how you just lose interest all of sudden.

ahnie:

Save your breathe...he has already gone outside.

And how do you know that?

AvalonSpace:
You must have cheated on her.. i don't understand how you just lose interest all of sudden.

What do you mean? Same way you can start losing interest in the egusi soup you used to love, if you are begged to eat it everyday