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I can never marry a woman like my mum

In her happy mood..when you know shes not angry with u or any1.

Ask her why she dislikes u, respectfully..
Tel her " Mom u know i love u ryt,no matter wot but pls tell me why u dislike me so mch."
What have i done to u mom?
Pls share with me.
Do this and she might tell u things u did u never knew was a problem..or she wil jus change and respect u more.

These people will further turn you against yoyr mother. Continue

My dear move out and keep away for 6months without any communication and see many calls to come over.

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Move out to where
Leave pride alone and work don’t be lazy
Staying at home when you can sew..

Dissap:
Yo Hommies! I just wanna tell you something;

Fvck 'em all, bro. They ain't worth no shit! Damn! Drill every hole they gat to offer... Make them bitches scream like their ain't no tommorow!

Fvck them bitches! Fvck 'em real hard like a real cholo! Damn!

All these women are all whores!

Drill their ass and make them SCREEM your name while you ride them like a fvcking cheap horse! Damn it!

This one just smoke AZ for the first time

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Pls just move out. Respect her tho. Don't even let her suspect anything

Eiya. Just try and gather some money and move out. She will appreciate you better then.

Omo, your mental health should be a priority.
Please move out before you become unproductive because of the constant insult.
You are too young to be always talked down on, it can eat you up gradually.
Please move out!

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

brotherly one of my big uncle's who I always reported my Dad to years back gave me a simple advise and I'm confident that it'll work if you try it. GO AND GET A PLACE OF YOUR OWN!!!! as long as you are under that roof you go complain tire

Dissap:
Yo Hommies! I just wanna tell you something;

Fvck 'em all, bro. They ain't worth no shit! Damn! Drill every hole they gat to offer... Make them bitches scream like their ain't no tommorow!

Fvck them bitches! Fvck 'em real hard like a real cholo! Damn!

All these women are all whores!

Drill their ass and make them SCREEM your name while you ride them like a fvcking cheap horse! Damn it!

You okay bruv??

Moving out dey your mind before. We all had that one way or the other in our family home, some na their driver sef dey insult them for their own papa house lol and it has never been an excuse why adults moved out

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Too hard for 2 adults to stay together, try to get job and move out

In advanced contry, boy of age 18 moves out under the roof of his parents, government deliberately design it that way, they know by then ,it would be very difficult to obey fully with every instructions dishing out by parents

Move

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Sorry dear

Your mum must be igbo, As i heard, she insults "your finance too because he does not have money". It's igbo women that do that alot. Nd na them carry church organisation for head pass

It's time to leave

Dissap:
Yo Hommies! I just wanna tell you something;

Fvck 'em all, bro. They ain't worth no shit! Damn! Drill every hole they gat to offer... Make them bitches scream like their ain't no tommorow!

Fvck them bitches! Fvck 'em real hard like a real cholo! Damn!

All these women are all whores!

Drill their ass and make them SCREEM your name while you ride them like a fvcking cheap horse! Damn it!

Bros you dey para oo

Lol you don't have a customer base and you want to rent a room and parlor. And using the parlor as shop. I can see reasons why you mom think you are not sharp and very dull.

You need a shop at a busy place. Make alot of samples of your work and display them to passerby.

Better remain where you are and rent a shop first and not a room and parlor.

Foo l. U don't have money na why,I rem when I was broke,life hard. Rent a duplex for 2m,use 4m to love-vendor it and open club up,lounge down. Car park max,10 cars. U will make 20m In a month . 3ven if u no be yahoo boy,u must claim yahoo. Room and parlour,like 2 rooms, shared toilet. Nawa o. No kitchen,no wardrobe, kiosk kind of room. Chai 100 level days.

igbowoman:


I just felt that reading your story that was why I asked.There is something she's taking out on you.Try your best not to argue or have quarrels with her ,she is going through some pain and her aggression is misplaced.Have you tried telling her how her attitude makes you feel?
Sometimes bringing it up may even make her act uglier you have to be mentally prepared to carry out that conversation.People like that get defensive and say even more hurtful things but at least it is good to try.
I pray the Lord helps you .
It must be rough for one's mom to be so judgmental like that.
Forgive her
God sees your heart but you must move away from her so she doesn't destroy your confidence and self esteem

She is a narcissist. The only way she will feel good is after insulting her daughter. So forget about she being in a rough situation or whatever, she is a narcissist, I am also suffering from same situation, and Alhamdulillah I am almost out of sight!

AlabiKILLER2021:
Guys please,
I'm unable to comment on business section



What could be the issue?

You've probably been banned by one of Nairaland moderators. Next time watch the kinda things you type here as some maybe tagged as abusive

This na normal thing with every first born in a family until you move out

Where you born out of wedlock?

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

If your father is still alive and pays the rent in that house. Challenge your mom to let you be and give you the respect you deserve but if you are raised by a single mother without a father. Leave her house for her in peace. You can’t be paying the bills in a house and be giving me headache or lack of peace of mind in my own father’s house! I don’t care even if na you be the woman wey born me. I love my peace of mind

Iyaebe:
[s]I feel your pain dear, find a way to move out.

[/s] She is the one feeling the pain not yhu, yhu can only imagine her pain





Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind

Juliusdaughter:
Let me just start somewhere
Growing up as an introvert was difficult cos I guess my mum didn't understand my quite personality, she talks about how I am not 'sharp' how I am not fashionable and whatever else she cannot really relate to. I am in my mid 20s now and she still insults me when she is in the mood.
It's funny how I am the only child she insults so much, I am her first born. I left my former work place due to Corona last year and I've been home since. I have trained as a tailor tho I don't have a shop or customer base yet.

She insulted me tonight again for cooking dinner late, she said why should I finish cooking dinner by past 7? Called me names and all that. Its been over a year that she went to the market last because I now do that, I make breakfast and dinner, I don't keep late night, I barely go out, yet she finds reason to talk me down.

She has started to insult my fiancé now too, she says he is poor and cannot take care of me, what has he achieved for himself? And the reason she isn't much against us is because she doesn't know if he will have money tomorrow. He isn't even jobless, it's just unfortunate that government don't pay their workers on time.

I don't have a single emotional connection with her, I have tried and I have failed. I think it's time to move out of the house and start my tailoring business. I don't have the finance to rent a shop and a house separately, so I want to rent a room and parlor and make it both my living and work space. Is this a good move? I cannot function properly in this house anymore.
How do I build my customer base from working in the house?

How to solve this problem
Step one Save or find someone to help with the shops and house rent money.

Step two leave not when you just finished quarrelling.

That your mother if you don't leave on time will frustrate you are become nothing.
But know that you should not go and get pregnant when is not cool.

And don't go and stay with any boyfriend.

You can’t function properly in a toxic environment.

U have a overbearing,toxic.@ Julius daughter,u'll need to grow thick skin and endured that insult/suffering.Believe me,it won't last. I regret d day I told my mama dat my GF back in those Abacha days mama iya Alagbo .She insulted both of us.Nah dat day I saw d girl last.After I settled down,I stay faraway where she won't be able to visit anyhow.And again,her insult do challenged/motivated me to build my own house