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Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by lomprico(m): 3:15pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter: what of your dad? |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Alfamann: 3:15pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Insult her back. You no force yourself come into her house. Na she born you. You need to be madder than her to cure her madness. 8 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by chatinent: 3:15pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Waiting to hear mum's side of the story. |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Jerryherd: 3:16pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
All boils down to Money... Ego ... Mula ... Kudi,.. Owo That's typical Nigerians for you with few exceptions It's only in Nigeria you are broke and walk up to a family gathering and for smiling or laughing, everyone feels offended.. yet your rich cousin or brother cracks a dry joke and everyone laughs so hard and look at you madly for not laughing or getting the dry joke Move out with your fiancee, start your own life from somewhere . 6 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Harddiskng(m): 3:16pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Matthew 10:36 - A man's enemies will be the members of his own household. No stay let her be realigning your destiny with curses, Family is not defined by blood; it is simply anyone that always shows up to fight for you through thick and thin NOT someone that looks for any venue to put you down; that person is your enemy, plain and simple. 4 Likes
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Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Guest911: 3:18pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter:Moving out is the only way out. But don’t hold it against her. Just remain disciplined and CONSISTENT. You’ll succeed 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Ninokingz1(m): 3:20pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Move out but before you go, sit down with your mum and make peace. Make sure you’ve got her peace before leaving. I took the same position in the year 2011 and I have every reason to thank God. Though mine was not with my mum but my big bro wife. God bless your plan. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by exever100(f): 3:21pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
There is no peace any where in the world....only you can give yourself peace my dear |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by donforeign: 3:22pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Dissap: Including ur mom? |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by kunle75(m): 3:23pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter: I will only comment on business side of you. Put up whatever you made on social media and start from there |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by ustyne: 3:23pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Its possible there is something or someone she don't approve of. Find out what it is and tell yourself the truth without sentiments |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by lkillbrokehoes: 3:24pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
I think you need to upgrade and get your own place, and also I think if you have money, she won't disrespect you in such manner. |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Help2020: 3:25pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Kobojunkie:I'm concerned about the part where you said you don't have abusive parents, yet the emotional bond has not been there but u started developing it in ur adult years.I'm kinda wondering why. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by saintruky(m): 3:25pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter: Ma dear don't rush into marriage cos of ya mom... So u don't end up like her someday... Fact ur mom sees u home everyday being idle n eating all her foods coupled with d fact something must have led to ur birth is d reason she's like that towards u... At this juncture i can't advise u sit n talk with her... Rather I'd advise thus; Since u have d finance to rent a room n parlour.. I'll suggest u look for a low-cost store to rent, then find a 2nd hand manual sewing machine to buy, get an iron n table then commence ur fashion job.. like someone said earlier, charge a lil less but be sure u are good at d art of fashion... As a starter ur jobs done will sell u... If i may, wetin ur fiancé dey talk about the whole issue? 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by pikechukwu6(m): 3:26pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Are you asking for solution or taking the solution. You should know that, you are do to move... As far as you have money to rent a house, go on and do to start your life else where Finally, tell your guy to do the needful as to build a family if he is really ok to build family with you... That is what your mum needed |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by AmuEbule: 3:26pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter:Still Reading |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Olayetan(m): 3:27pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter: My dear Would you listen to the word of elders? Do not move out, your mum is being hard on you cux she felt where you are isn't where you should be, improve yourself in what you do and try place value in your handwork, also try to keep up with the cooking at home, all of this aren't going to kill, in fact, it will build you for your home. Moving out isn't an option you should consider, don't let her words get to you, she's also pained n doesn't know how best to approach the situation, but don't see it as hatred towards you, just focus on how to improve yourself in what you do and your mum will realise what she's doing to you as time goes on... 3 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by BRATISLAVA: 3:28pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter: Are you getting married because you truly want to, or because you're trying to escape her? Don't push yourself into something worse if you're trying to escape her. She isn't accepting you two being together because he will have money later, as much as you would like it to be her reason. She is having other conflicting feelings which you may not understand because you don't know her past. In whatever decision you make, choose not to hate and have revenge. Because that will not solve anything. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Offpoint1: 3:28pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter:Just what you do when you move out make sure you succeed... Falling back home will mean suicide. |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Serialchiller(f): 3:28pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Please move out Your mental health is really important and she’s obviously suffocating you I moved out of my parents house a couple of months ago ,I’m barely 24 but I was done with all the insults and condescending remarks from my mother but now I’m in my space,I’m not going to say it’s been uhuru because honestly these past months has been crazy financially but I’m glad I’m on my own now I can succeed and fail in peace I came visiting this week since I moved out nd once I sense any drama I’m carrying my back nd going back to my self con I’ve never been happier tbh 9 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Kobojunkie: 3:30pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Help2020:Those who struggle with mental illness can also struggle with forming some of the typical bonds the average person out there considers Normal. 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Hezzyluv: 3:34pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Kobojunkie: Same with me. At a point, I started finking is anything wrong with me? But refused to walk with guilt because I know I'm just fine with my parent (dad), Mum is late. I may not call him for days and be comfortable knowing fully well he's doing fyn. Then later force myself to call just to check on him. This emotional attachment to parents stuff u just said relieved me more ooo... Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Blackdisciple(m): 3:35pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Just as you said it's time to move out. Moving out is the best option now. |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Skillsnigeria: 3:36pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Hmmm |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Nobody: 3:36pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Angels are being birthed into demonic families The OP is not alone in this problem, just that many of those reading her story are too ashamed to share theirs, and find it needless to create new usernames to share their woes. Most introvert are very loud in their thoughts hence the energy generated by their loud thought actuates brainwaves that interacts with the field around them and trigger the brains of demons around them, hence the squabbles. What you must do: STEP 1: Do you know how to sing? Do you have a favorite song? May be a religious song? Sing it while she quarrels with you and ensure that you commit to the song and in such a manner that your rendition takes you over and your voice quietens your thoughts. Stay on the song until you feel a sudden shift in your mind/brain signal. If you do not have a favorite song or can not sing............................ Then chanting the any of the vowels is okay, simply chant.... either of a, e, i, o u, just anyone of the vowels in such a way that your thoughts are enveloped, continue singing until you are overwhelmed and you feel a shift in your mind/brain faculty. The point of the above is to shift the amygdala in your brain and tune to a different channel. Life we see or perceive are multi-channels broadcasting based on your choosen bandwidth. When you change the channel, the brain of your mum will no longer vibrate in harmony with yours. The frequency harmonics that runs both your and her brain are in sync and when you do that simple exercise you are not just changing your channel, you are no longer in her threshold of thought, hence you will find peace even when she squabbles and without any trigger, she will realize she has no more effects on you. Angels must always know how to escape the demonic frequencies. STEP 2: End your Relationship with your fiance: If your background is poor, do not date based on love alone, take charge of your mind and focus on the very wealthy. Do not date a poor man for love, because you are also planning to become like your mother in future. Love alone is not enough to make marriages work. Love expires, love fades, it is energy and is always converted when poverty sets in. If your bobo had money, he would have rescued you. So, if you do not find a wealthy person, please stay single, you can not be lamenting right now if you had someone who isnt depending on slave job of a failed government. Find a business minded fellow and grow together. I know you wont take this, and many will fight this fact. That is the reason many suffer. Majority is always wrong. STEP3: Meditate Daily and find your mission Meditate daily to the ONE who built you. You are a designed being and you have a Designer. In your prayer use the word 'You, who made me'. You are going to see changes rapidly if you do these. You know you need money, so whatever you can do to make money, whether you adjudge it to be right or wrong is not yours to judge. Do it. Survival is the name of this game. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Hisroyalbadmeat(m): 3:37pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Aboy die it, stop whining, sail out and find your island, pin your flag and pilot your own ship, sufferings are lessons |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by alpharoyalty: 3:39pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
In this kind of issue, you have to be very strong indeed. Learn to develop a thick skin to her insults, what she says does not make you, she only speaks from her feelings. Go to God in fervent prayers, get more serious with your work and also with your relationship. You can limit your fiancee's coming to your house to avoid embarrassments. Play good music, sing songs, dance, go to the mirror and speak positive to yourself each day. Bless yourself with positive words. Do everything to make yourself happy, then work towards moving out of the house, and live a happy life. Don't allow your mum to destroy your life, she is your mum, not your God. I wish you all the best. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Femi316: 3:40pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
My brother leave your mama house before she go finish you with insults... i was once like you many years ago.... Juliusdaughter: 1 Like |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by AutoChick4U(f): 3:41pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter:I was once in your shoes and I knew I'd probably end up killing myself or doing what I'd regret so I simply moved out for my own mental health. It even got to a point that she slapped my eye for no good reason and that gave me solid stand to move out. Your happiness and peace of mind is important 4 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by AmuEbule: 3:43pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
Juliusdaughter:I think your mum is frustrated about something that you are unable to decode yet. She is taking it out on you because there's no one to pick on. Some parents are unable to even understand how much they damage their kids self esteem and this is really sad, in your case. My advice for you is to see these insults as a challenge or motivation to be a better person because it will not really stop anytime soon. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mum's Constant Insult Is Driving Me Crazy, It Is Time To Move Out? by Mystery9(m): 3:44pm On Sep 14, 2021 |
I feel your pain dear. I have seen mothers that have frustrated their children lives as if the mothers na witches. It was so bad that one of the ladies was telling me about suicide. Please if you can move out, do it o. But keep on praying for her. 3 Likes |
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