UndauntedYOCA:

Lol. You think some ladies don't experience things like this as well even after being so faithful.
Y'all act like just men get cheated on,.just men get hurt etc and that more often than not, all women are the cause of failed relationships. The earlier you all begin to realise that even your fellow gender fit hurt you the better. Faithfulness is dependent on the person and not the gender. You're entitled to your own opinion.
I have seen faithful ladies get cheated on, get heartbroken, my very close friend got her heart broken by a guy and it made her change her mind.
Men should stop acting like their always the only victims in love. If some ladies begin to talk about their experiences ground go full abeg.
Blame the person not the gender.

1billi:
Ogbeni shut up and focus your thinking for money, ordinary chewgum relationship you don dey give advice like divorced married man.ozwor

Lordbinsmar:
SIMPle guy detected.

Kuku talk say you no sabi BOOk.

How ordinary girl go dey make you score zero for book. Oloodo rabata.

Naa your parents I pity for giving birth to a SIMP. You dey waste your parents money dey call vagina Pipu four times in a day.

Nonexisting1:
I hope you have taken redpill because if not, a second heartbreak is coming your way sooner than you think. True love doesn't exist in the hearts of women, get that into your skull. A woman will love you for a reason and when that reason is no longer there or when she sees someone with better offer on that, she will head for the door. Wise up and love only your mother and sisters.

Pilate2016:
Calling someone every morning and even four times a day? Nawao.
Truly I can't be in a relationship.
I can never do all these rubbish in the name of love.

Expresswriter:
When a relationship starts on a high note of excitement or when a relationship begins way too fast with both partners always being in each other's world all the time

Chances are that it won't last.

I commend you for not accepting her back.

Never, ever accept a woman who dumped you for another guy.

She's not coming back because she has realised her mistake but because you're a supply to her-- a supply that gives her attention.

Narcissists are fond of displaying this type of trait.

They use people and dump them.

When the people they dump heal and start doing great again, the narcissist will try coming back.

Never accept such people back into your life.

Ignore them.

Ignore her.

Never allow memories of the good times you had with her becloud your reasoning into accepting her.

Those were faked acts.

Narcissist are good at mirroring.

They study you quickly and know so much about you in a short time then they begin to do, say, act the way you'd want them to.

Avoid them. They're actors with an evil heart.

iKON11:
I met this lady in our 200L (2019) and we started dating.. We were both good and at least 80% faithful to each other. I found this mad vibe in her that I have never had before. We could chat for a whole night without getting bored.. We never ran out of jokes for once, she knew what I love and what I hate, she can tell when I'm about to get angry and I knew that much about her too, I can tell when she's about to tell a lie, when she's feeling insecure, we were best of friends then, she can hit me up with a call and discuss silly things just to laugh. My whole squad knew her and actually loved her.. She was the toast of all my friends cos she can come around and boom the whole place becomes lively..
But I started noticing some changes in this lady late last year around July, I started complaining, she always promise to change but was only getting worse everyday, she started ignoring my calls and msgs, chats became more of arguments than the usual jokes and laughing emojis, babe started disrespecting me heavily. We had a ritual of calling each other every morning and I actually got used to it, she stopped doing this and even when I call she will sound so disinterested, we went from calling each like 4 times a day to not hearing from each other for a whole day to weeks. Mehnn I was hurting badly, found out she was now dating a new guy, was broken tbh, I tried everything I possibly could to salvage the relationship but the more I tried, the worse it got and more hurt I was becoming, I begged, did lots of funny things to get my woman back, at this point I was slowly dying inside, my studies was greatly affected, my productivity dropped, was no longer going to the library, was eating less.
To a point I realized I was chasing a lost cause and turned my attention to forgetting her and moving on yet it wasn't easy, there were days I will kneel down and pray to God to heal me and help me forget about this lady.. I knew it will take some time but the pain eventually subsided after it finish teaching me the intended lessons and left but the lessons I learnt from this experience are invaluable. The funny thing is this same lady for a while now is trying to come back to me, she gets mad seeing me with another lady, this same lady knows she can't get half the energy she used to get from me yet is willing to come back, I still care about her and wish I can still love her the same way I used to but I just can't,
seeing her reminds me of the pains, heartache and disrespect. I wish she never broke me this bad

LESSONS LEARNT
1.Never trust people 100%, always leave room for disappointment cos someone you love and trust so much can also ruin your life forever.
2. Never overlook a red flag in your relationship, always discuss it out before it develops
3. Never ever take your mental health for granted in any relationship
4. Know when to leave before you start looking stupid.
5. Pray whatever they're hiding from you isn't enough to kill you

Rickmann:



Lesson well learnt bro..
I'm still healing from mine as well.

The truth is , most girls aren't worth it and the hurtful part is that they will still have the nerve to say ' all guys are the same'

Sometimes, this love is overrated..it only takes out all ur energy and leaves you exhausted in the end but I know better now and I'm stronger.

iKON11:
Bro the truth is, most times I feel like I needed that hurt, it has opened my eyes to a lot of things even the ones I thought I couldn't handle. Crazy how pains help you refocus. I pray you heal soonest

iKON11:
[s][/s]Bro sometimes try to read before embarrassing yourself, I can't remember saying I scored zero[s][/s]

bigcee:

I swear, I pity anyone who lacks knowledge on how Narcissist operates. Those people are master manipulators. I can spot them if they're around me but covert narcissist are very difficult to spot. I suspect the babe is a covert Narcissist.

BigDan69:



You just explained my ex... Like this like this, na free pyssy I dey get she thinking I love her. I go manipulate her too

zed7:
You're growing into a man. You have learnt valuable life lessons, I congratulate you.
Don't bother going back, it will still end up crashing. You will both end up unhappy because it will be a forced relationship. Keep the beautiful memories you have with her before it becomes overtaken with bad ones.

Lordbinsmar:


You are the one embarrassing yourself here, poor academic performance because of vagina Pipu. I cry for you

Rickmann:



Lesson well learnt bro..
I'm still healing from mine as well.

The truth is , most girls aren't worth it and the hurtful part is that they will still have the nerve to say ' all guys are the same'

Sometimes, this love is overrated..it only takes out all ur energy and leaves you exhausted in the end but I know better now and I'm stronger.

iKON11:
I don't feel embarrassed in any way.. Unlike you I'm not scared to show my weakness. It happened and I learnt.

chatinent:


Abeg, you cannot tell when a woman wants to lie. It's only a woman who will tell a lie, and still remember it in 100 years to come, well organized, and even referencing future discussion to the narrative in the lie to look truthful. She will be like: “you remember about 200 years ago when I told you I was going to see Mary..right? That was the day I knew you were for me.” And it was the same day she went to ..you know.

Now you, mumu pro max will be like.. “wow, this lady is truthful. She still remembered that thing. So truthful loving lady.”

Women are more organized than men when they lie! Men lie a lot and tend to forget lines hence they are prone to switch verses in lies. Women are not that way.


What does this mean? You cheated too!


Giving too much attention to sb sometimes is not good. They'll feel so bored and begin to hunt for sb who they need their attention.



Awww.




I do one thing in my life: I never accept a cheat. I let vomit remain vomit. However, you can still forgive her if you wish.

I'm glad you learnt your lessons.

Agbebakun22:
We had similar story mine happened by exactly this time last year baba e no easy oo but I gat brace myself up and move on.. Now i'm quite productive with mind and investing money and also on myself too.. I don promise not to keep a girlfriend again instead I will rather pay for sex(not runs girl) for other babes with no relationship with.. Brace up And move on baba.. Delete her completely from your mind, get your mind busy with other things.. Shalom

tayewomi:
Baba share a piece of the story let's someone learn from it too pls,if it's just short.

Expresswriter:
When a relationship starts on a high note of excitement or when a relationship begins way too fast with both partners always being in each other's world all the time

Chances are that it won't last.

I commend you for not accepting her back.

Never, ever accept a woman who dumped you for another guy.

She's not coming back because she has realised her mistake but because you're a supply to her-- a supply that gives her attention.

Narcissists are fond of displaying this type of trait.

They use people and dump them.

When the people they dump heal and start doing great again, the narcissist will try coming back.

Never accept such people back into your life.

Ignore them.

Ignore her.

Never allow memories of the good times you had with her becloud your reasoning into accepting her.

Those were faked acts.

Narcissist are good at mirroring.

They study you quickly and know so much about you in a short time then they begin to do, say, act the way you'd want them to.

Avoid them. They're actors with an evil heart.

Curvinus:


When you look up the definition of narcissism, you would see that almost everbody displays or has the tendency to display the traits mentioned one way or another - grandiose sense of self, fragile ego, preoccupied with thoughts of unimaginable wealth etc. Makes one wonder if the word narcissism isnt being used as substafuge to cover for our own inadequacies and weaknesses.

I say this because reasons abound that could compel a partner to exit or want to exit a relationship - ranging from looks, money problem, boredom, incompatibility, status and so much more.

However, when talking about narcissism, all these factors are often ignored and the entire blame is placed on the narcisistic personality syndrome.

So, I tend to think of narcissism as just word we use as a coping mechanism when our affection is not reciprocated in the way that we might have strongly desired rather than an anti-social personality disorder.

These are just my own thoughts based on personal experience and anecdotal evidence. They are not backed by scientific facts though.