greenie77:


And you think it is every woman's dream to be a wife or baby mama?

Some women are choosing to be mothers without being wives nor a man's baby mama. They go for intrauterine insemination, get pregnant and have their child without baby daddy drama.

And you think that mariahAngel and her family can afford that? I know them too well.

mariahAngel:


I’d rather grow old in my father’s house with peace of mind, than have an element like you ruin my life.
Chinekenna ekwekwala ihe ojoo!

Amen to your prayers.

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

Madam learn to enjoy the football as well. Watch it together

Justbehave:
And you think that mariahAngel and her family can afford that? I know them too well.

YOU ARE A LIAR!

You know NOTHING ABOUT ME!

wunmi590:


Madam, I understand what you are going through, I'm sure you are very lucky to have him stay glued at home and watch football instead of going out everytime to watch and keep late night...

You know men likes football, that's what keeps them happy and going when depressed...

Just keep talking to him to get you the GOTV and your own small television, you will be fine las las...

Don't chase your husband out because of this...

She no get sense, so she wants d man to watch those stoooopid zeeworld shows or telenovela ni? When there's champions league qualifiers and EPL

Justbehave:
Amen to your prayers.

All things work for my good! Amen!

mariahAngel:


YOU ARE A LIAR!

You know NOTHING ABOUT ME!

If not for your brother,I will just expose your ugly ass here but YA DiBA.Becareful Mariah Ka oghara idi gi otu odi enyi gi nwanyi. Mechikwa onu.Ka emesia.

Justbehave:
And you think that mariahAngel and her family can afford that? I know them too well.

Sperm is quite cheap in comparison to eggs.

greenie77:


Sperm is quite cheap in comparison to eggs.

Then go get it. And have yours in peace.

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Justbehave:
If not for your brother,I will just expose your ugly ass here but YA DIBA.

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No wonder your life is messed up!

I repeat; YOU DON’T KNOW ME!

Justbehave:
Then go get it. And have yours in peace.

Good, so there are options outside being a wife or baby mama....that is liberating.

Justbehave:
Yes and you should be ashamed that even at that. Your fellow ladies still kneel and cry for me to Bleep them. But I'm done. 3 boys from 3 different ladies is enough for me.

A couple of questions for you.

1. You pay 3 different women for the upkeep of your boys and other men also pay some of the same women for the upkeep of their own kids by those same women?

2. Or is it instead the case that you raise your boys yourself?

3. Those 3 women are the mothers of your boys, so do you badmouth them in front of your children the way you badmouth other women I general or do you enter "hypocrite" mode when in front of your boys?
Just wanting to get an idea of how you process these things is all.

Kobojunkie:
A couple of questions for you.
1. You pay 3 different women for the upkeep of your boys and other men also pay some of the same women for the upkeep of their own kids by those same women?

2. Or is it instead the case that you raise your boys yourself?

3. Those 3 women are the mothers of your boys, so do you badmouth them in front of your children the way you badmouth other women I general or do you enter "hypocrite" mode when in front of your boys?

I'm not paying any of them. My kids are always with me every weekend and on holidays because of the nature of my offshore job and because they are still little and the court ordered them to stay with the kids until they are upto 7 years.. The first will be seven by this October and I ve made arrangements for his home coming. I never wanted to marry but I want kids so I choose this option and the baby mamas are happy to have my kids.As per bad mouthing them,I do so anytime any of them is late in bring my kid over on weekends.

mariahAngel:


No wonder your life is messed up!

I repeat; YOU DON’T KNOW ME!

Just like your brother is languishing in a rehab center.Ewu Obosi. Don't make me say things you will not like. Bye

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Justbehave:
Just like your brother is languishing in a rehab center.Ewu Obosi

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What a weak comeback!

Carry your baggages go osiso! Obu ngwogwo!

AutoChick4U:
She no get sense, so she wants d man to watch those stoooopid zeeworld shows or telenovela ni? When there's champions league qualifiers and EPL

Don't mind her

mariahAngel:


What a weak comeback!

Carry your baggages go osiso! Obu ngwogwo!

Yes like we use to say. Onye ikpu bu Onye nku.

mariahAngel:


What a weak comeback!

Carry your baggages go osiso! Obu ngwogwo!

Lol

Maria na ndi nairaland ya...

Unbothered14:

Lol

Maria na ndi nairaland ya...

Ha ga ekwekwanu’m zurutu ike? Ndi ara! Ndi ara!

Omoh.... I can feel your pain... He needs to sacrifice for you...

Lamanii22:
Omoh.... I can feel your pain... He needs to sacrifice for you...

And who among them is supposed to sacrifice for the other? The man who has the TV only when he wants to watch football or the woman who makes use of it whenever she wants? Why is it that most of you ladies reason anti clock wise? Who dey raise Una sef?

anita98:
good day nairalanders, I created this new account for incognito purposes. my hubby lurks around NL once a while... so yea I think my husband has an unhealthy obsession with watching football, he watches it everyday when he comes back from work or if he's at home all day during the weekends, I find it inconvenient cos it's like watching football has now become a compulsory thing in the house! I can't even watch what i want like dramas and stuff, anytime I asks he complains anyhow saying he only gets to watch the TV when's he back from work, that I have it all to myself all day which is false! am also working, albeit not the long hours he does but it's not like am glued to the TV all day.. me I don't like watching football, I find it boring, as an husband can't he sacrifice time for me, most of the shows or movies I would like to watch are aired in the evenings and the power in our area is rubbish! we have gen but like the usual, it's still football nonsense even tho they aren't showing any match, he's always watching supersport!
some of you might think am exaggerating but if you were in my shoes you'd understand, I've told him to buy me a TV and probably gotv since it's cheaper but he always find reasons to say no, the only time he thinks about me is when he wants sex, we are a young couple going on our 3rd year now and honestly am stressed with his selfishness! we really haven't had a big argument over this issue but I can see it happening soon. so I need advice, I know I might not get what I want here but am tired and need solutions anywhere.

What do women really want sef

You have a nice husband that doesn't womanize or keep late nights and you are still complaining. Na wah

Spits in disgust

Legendrysailor:
Hell no !!!

A man dat does not watch football is an infidel. Such man should be cast into d lake of fire.

Football is life especially when u support Liverpool

THINK OF THE BIGGER BOYS CHELSEA
END OF FOOTBALL DISCUSSION

I'm so sorry. Your husband is very inconsiderate.
I live with people who like like everything I hate on TV. But I let them be.
The man should consider getting you a TV if he likes football that much.
But a three-year old marriage having this kind of problem does not bode well. Wetin be TV?
You are in for a long ride. The Lord is your strength.

DDDEnterprises:
Women don suffer for this world. Just imagine the comments above; most of them making impressions that are directed towards the idea that the woman should shun her own desires and will and yield to those of the husband. A marriage where compromise and inclusive arrangement cannot be reached, which will give both parties the chance to pursue their interests and fulfil their individual, distinct desires in the home, is that one marriage or subtle slavery?

Someone was even saying she should be prayerful he doesn't find someone interested in the sport? Does that not apply to the man too?

Should he also not be careful and prayerful that the freedom and joy he's depriving his wife of in the home, she gets it somewhere else and someone snatches her from him?

What's so special about him that should make the wife fearful of losing him and doesn't apply to her too?

It's quite saddening this exaggerated sense of authority many men possess in today's world.

But little worries do we have though, after coming to know of the coming of The Unity.

In the New Era, The Unity will orchestrate a turn of events and soon enough, women will start getting the respect they deserve. Men will be forced to bow to the right orientation and consciousness and a society that respects women's desires and wishes and grants them the chance to satisfy them in an honourable manner will be fashioned!

Humanity must learn the lessons of the true and upright ways to live. That time is nigh!!!

And we await your coming, our dear Unity!

Abi she has a job. Let her buy the Tv

mariahAngel:


Ha ga ekwekwanu’m zurutu ike? Ndi ara! Ndi ara!

Lol...otu eshi unu ga ku okpo ebe a...

Babes, I'm sooo sorry for laughing honestly, please believe me.. This is funny but it really isn't cos I can totally relate.. It could get really crazy but then I cannur comman kee myself by myself(I'm not so much of a TV person anyway)

When I'm not in the mood to watch football or any sport channel with him, I go fix myself up in some other section of the house maybe music, reading articles, knitting or doing stuff on my laptop.. I suggest you both talk, he shouldn't gaslight you please, it's only fair for you to want to enjoy watching your shows and movies just as he enjoys watching football, I don't see anything wrong.. At the end of the day, everybody is happy and not having to feel this way all the time.. You both can really figure this out but if he still doesn't get you and you're tired of having to explain orrr nag, never run low on your happiness.

I don't think your husband is as bad as mine. My husband is football personified . I'm glad that he watches it at home and keeps him home on weekends because I like having him around.

I know when the leagues start and what they mean to him, so I allow him watch. In fact, right now I'm so grounded in the knowledge of football of all leagues because I watch with him. Right now we are even watching Besiktas vs Dortmund.

Instead of fighting it, develop interest or you watch on your phone if it's dstv. If I'm not interested in the match showing, I watch Dstv Now on my phone. I don't do Telemundo or zee world, so it helps.

You might end up pushing him away if you constantly complain about it

Allow ur husband watch his football match in peace.

@anita98:

From your OP, you stated your husband is selfish and only thinks about you/your welfare when he wants to have sex with you.

That is what is making you resentful about the TV stuff.

I advise that whenever your husband does something you do not like, address it on the spot or earliest convenient time so they don't linger and begin to expand in your mind.

If you feel he is selfish, have a talk and outline the ways you feel he is selfish and take it up from there.

While engaging him, also understand the principle of fairness and common sense.

For instance, you work from home/close earlier hence you have access to the TV till he comes home. It is sensible he takes over the TV because you should have watched your fill.

Unfortunately, your program and his are same time. Engage him with those facts in mind towards resolution: subscribe for dual-view and buy a new TV; download DSTV app on your phone; record your programs & watch after he is done with the TV or the next day; subscribe to Netflix and watch the series there etc.

Goodluck.

bukatyne:
@anita98:

From your OP, you stated your husband is selfish and only thinks about you/your welfare when he wants to have sex with you.

That is what is making you resentful about the TV stuff.

I advise that whenever your husband does something you do not like, address it on the spot or earliest convenient time so they don't linger and begin to expand in your mind.

If you feel he is selfish, have a talk and outline the ways you feel he is selfish and take it up from there.

While engaging him, also understand the principle of fairness and common sense.

For instance, you work from home/close earlier hence you have access to the TV till he comes home. It is sensible he takes over the TV because you should have watched your fill.

Unfortunately, your program and his are same time. Engage him with those facts in mind towards resolution: subscribe for dual-view and buy a new TV; download DSTV app on your phone; record your programs & watch after he is done with the TV or the next day; subscribe to Netflix and watch the series there etc.

Goodluck.

Ija ba pari!