KimberlyWest:
How am I supposed to believe that a man last kissed his wife on their wedding day?
Did she start mingling with politicians right at the wedding venue?

This one off me, sha.

If you two built a house together and she contributed the bulk of the money, I'm assuming you must have spent at least 2 years together. House no be 1 naira thing. And in that two years you've never touched your wife and she's never asked to be touched?

This one no follow, sha.

I concur!

bukatyne:


You have three kids yet claim you have no sex life?

Or are you both hyper fertile that the three times you had sex turned to pregnancy?

Unfortunately, all your problems seemed tied to money.

It seems she now has more money/access to more money than you hence the disrespect.

How was your marriage prior to her joining politics?

What about her family? Your family?

@Pastor: is he just saying you stay together without proffering solutions? Is he aware of the true picture?

What does your wife want (apart from money)? Upon engagement, what are her pain points?

@slaps and blows because of sex: that is serious sexual abuse; was she raped?

I think you both should really engage as regards your expectations or go to a therapist.

@divorce and remarriage: there are two reasons for divorce; adultery & abandonment/the other person walks away. I would also strongly consider divorce/separation in the case of physical abuse (not fighting). That is loving my neighbor as I LOVE MYSELF.

If you can remarry in scenario two is what I don't know.

From time to time she allow me touch her. No kiss. Half bread is better than none. You have no choice.

In a year we might have sex an average of 6 to eight times. The few times we met resulted to children.

My crime is well known by me. I don't have big money. Not that I am not providing but it is below her expectation but I am not relaxing

crackhaus:

I find it very hard to believe any of this.

Well. I pray no one experience this kind of thing. Experience might make you believe. But I needed more on why it is wrong to re marry.

cybertruss:


From time to time she allow me touch her. No kiss. Half bread is better than none. You have no choice.

In a year we might have sex an average of 6 to eight times. The few times we met resulted to children.

My crime is well known by me. I don't have big money. Not that I am not providing but it is below her expectation but I am not relaxing

Why doesn't she allow you kiss her?
1. Mouth odor
2. Not properly brushed teeth
3. Poor technique i.e. slopping with spit instead of kissing?
4. No attraction/ love towards you

Six or eight times a year is a type of sexual abuse called withholding sex. The question is why? Did you tell the pastor that?

I am trying to wonder if your marriage has always been like this (for 22 yrs) or this degenerated along the way.

If it is the former, you chose her (for whatever reason) and endured for 22 years; you can do more

If it is the latter, what went wrong? If you were always in this income bracket, the. I doubt your wife would become disrespectful now because of that except she JUST joined politics.

I pray everything becomes resolved. This is the time to do mummy & daddy around the house. Your kids are independent and you both still sound 'young'.

cybertruss:

From time to time she allow me touch her. No kiss. Half bread is better than none. You have no choice.

In a year we might have sex an average of 6 to eight times. The few times we met resulted to children.

My crime is well known by me. I don't have big money. Not that I am not providing but it is below her expectation but I am not relaxing

So you say she has abandoned the marriage, how long has it been? And why are you considering remarriage now?

cybertruss:


From community meeting she recently joined politics 2 years ago. I just let her be. Things worsened after we build our house. Our contribution to the building was equal in the house.

She is in her 40's, right?
Maybe she has reached menopause.

cybertruss:
My wife no longer loves me. She always insults me, snub me and has no respect for me. I will confess I am not very rich but I work extremely hard. I noticed that my wife attends political meetings and they have overpowered me as she has no atom of respect for me.

In fact a time I sent 90% of my total monthly earning she told me real men send their wives 500,000 naira monthly but you send me this rubbish and call it money. The time I wanted to pack my things to the house we built together she told me that I cannot bring it in because it is her house.

It is a very shameful thing for me to mention that she gives me blow sometimes when I ask for sex. The day I got angry and revolted the whole world went against me that I went against the rights and dignity of a woman. I was accused of trying to rape my wife.

The last day I kissed a woman was on my wedding day when they said I can kiss her. Till today I have never kissed a woman. I take a lot of pains but cannot take that anymore. She seems to have carry on with her life in her political group in Ogun State. As she is mingling well with politicians there.

The problem is why are pastors telling me that I cannot carry on with my life.

Why is it called sin if I go for another woman. Didn't God himself say it is not good for man to be alone. I blame myself, I might have married a wrong lady. But didn't God himself say that if his people repent he will heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

Dude own your shiit. You have successfully married an assassin. I wonder what you saw in her that made you choose her. Dude you better go for deliverance first. E fit be powers of your fathers/mothers house they turn the woman head. Go for prayers but if the matter still pass you japa!

Kobojunkie:
So you say she has abandoned the marriage, how long has it been? And why are you considering remarriage now?

No I ran from her as my family advice me. I was told that she is capable of killing me. I am always in contact with my children. All the drama happened before them.

So she is in the building we built together. I ran for my life. I am in constant contact with my children.

Mleeperbother:


She is in her 40's, right?
Maybe she has reached menopause.

She is close, she has not reached

efficiencie:


Dude own your shiit. You have successfully married an assassin. I wonder what you saw in her that made you choose her. Dude you better go for deliverance first. E fit be powers of your fathers/mothers house they turn the woman head. Go for prayers but if the matter still pass you japa!

I agree

cybertruss:


Well. I pray no one experience this kind of thing. Experience might make you believe. But I needed more on why it is wrong to re marry.

Oga, why do you need anyone's permission to do what will give you peace of mind?

This kind of attitude is perhaps the reason why your wife has so much power over you.

cybertruss:
No I ran from her as my family advice me. I was told that she is capable of killing me. I am always in contact with my children. All the drama happened before them.
So she is in the building we built together. I ran for my life. I am in constant contact with my children.

Do you actually have proof that your wife is capable of killing you, this after over 20 years of marriage?

You followed family advise, so may I ask what evidence family presented you in order to convince you that your wife of over 20 years was capable of killing you?

You abandoned your marriage and you are wondering why you are told you should not remarry?

bukatyne:


Why doesn't she allow you kiss her?
1. Mouth odor
2. Not properly brushed teeth
3. Poor technique i.e. slopping with spit instead of kissing?
4. No attraction/ love towards you

Six or eight times a year is a type of sexual abuse called withholding sex. The question is why? Did you tell the pastor that?

I am trying to wonder if your marriage has always been like this (for 22 yrs) or this degenerated along the way.

If it is the former, you chose her (for whatever reason) and endured for 22 years; you can do more

If it is the latter, what went wrong? If you were always in this income bracket, the. I doubt your wife would become disrespectful now because of that except she JUST joined politics.

I pray everything becomes resolved. This is the time to do mummy & daddy around the house. Your kids are independent and you both still sound 'young'.

Withholding of sex is a problem from day one. I actually Don't know why because everything she complained I tried to correct it. I changed my dressing pattern and many other things but denial never ceased. The only crime is that I did not get large money.

But there were times I made big money but I think I was foolish in love. She pressurised me to divert to some other thing instead of what I know best and I did

That is my other mistake. I was completely open to her about my finance and I bring everything on the table. If I want to strengthen my business sometimes I receive stiff opposition. I was succumbing to her way until l learnt to hide my finances from her

Kobojunkie:
Do you actually have proof that your wife is capable of killing you, this after over 20 years of marriage?

You followed family advise, so may I ask what evidence family presented you in order to convince you that your wife of over 20 years was capable of killing you?

You abandoned your marriage and you are wondering why you are told you should not remarry?

I might not have prove. But experience have taught me that sometimes those waiting for prove will get it in the grave. There are medical conditions that suggest something went wrong. You need to be alive to carry out investigations. I might be lucky she did not think of it in the beginning. With her open threat before the hearing of the children the she will deal with their father then everyone will know she is the woman of the house does it need further proves

cybertruss:

I might not have prove. But experience have taught me that sometimes those waiting for prove will get it in the grave. There are medical conditions that suggest something went wrong. You need to be alive to carry out investigations. I might be lucky she did not think of it in the beginning. With her open threat before the hearing of the children the she will deal with their father then everyone will know she is the woman of the house does it need further proves

Well, it is your marriage!

So you want to marry again and you don't want to just go do registry and be done with it? Is that it?

Are you planning on divorcing your current wife Or are you trying to add a second wife at this point?

cybertruss:


I might not have prove. But experience have taught me that sometimes those waiting for prove will get it in the grave. There are medical conditions that suggest something went wrong. You need to be alive to carry out investigations. I might be lucky she did not think of it in the beginning. With her open threat before the hearing of the children the she will deal with their father then everyone will know she is the woman of the house does it need further proves

Her action of cooking and refusing to give her husband food for many days. One-day she will pretend to have repented and add poison for the poor man to die. We should learn from nollywood films because they act what happens in our society . The man waiting for proof will get it in the grave.

Omo, I ran for now

Kobojunkie:
Well, it is your marriage!

So you want to marry again and you don't want to just go do registry and be done with it? Is that it?

Are you planning on divorcing your current wife Or are you trying to add a second wife at this point?

I will have to divorce her first then carefully remarry. However not immediate as I will have to study the new person carefully with prayer.

If I enter a second wife problem that is total destruction.

I would love to thank you all for your contributions. From what I could gather it seems that it's my problem I saw and marry her so I should do whatever I seemed that is right, pastor or no pastor.

Well I want to advise all unmarried people to be careful when getting married.

I blame myself for all my predicament. Some unknown old men told me not to marry my current wife but I was beclouded with love. So it is my fault. Those of you that is prayerful can just remember me in prayer so as to get out of these problem without going against God.

cybertruss:


She is my first love and we struggled together. We are married for more than 20 years. Our first daughter is 22. Everything was ok with us till I sold my car to build our first house in Obada, Ewekoro, Ogun State. Because I don't hear Yoruba so well I allowed her go for landlord meeting on my behalf. They elected her as the PRO of the community. That was the time the thing climaxed. I have asked her that I want to kiss why don't she allow me. No answer was given . Once in a blue moon either once in a month or 2 to 3 months she gives me green card for sex. Half bread is better than none. If you try to kiss and the green card goes you might not have sex in another months. I survive by masturbation. And in 2 ocassions I went for prostitutes (I won't lie, when I cannot take it again) but hate it because like my wife they don't want kissing.

every tribe has their peculiarities.
Yoruba women are popular to be very promiscuous especially after they get married. Once a woman starts having any form of power over her husband forget it she will soon start misbehaving or totally throw him away. Yorub women are worse.
Truth is yoruba culture encourages quick separation of women from marriage and theyre the most liberal women when it comes to promiscuity. The fact that you are not yoruba or cant speak yoruba well even worsens the case for you. They love their language too much to a point of tribal bias. worse now she entered politics with yoruba men that dont see anything bad in sleeping with other mens wives.
Better move on with your life. There are few good well brought up yoruba women but majority will do same to you once they have power over you o are around men richer than you.
All that glitters is normally gold to them. Most of them hardly hav self control once they see enjoyment.

MOVE ON

cybertruss:

I will have to divorce her first then carefully remarry. However not immediate as I will have to study the new person carefully with prayer.

If I enter a second wife problem that is total destruction.

Did you carefully pray before abandoning your current marriage? Because according to Jesus Christ, the only reason you can leave a marriage is if you have evidence of infidelity and you don't have any evidence of that nor do you seem to have evidence that your life is endangered, except for suppositions of course, so what makes you think or believe God is going to grant you a better marriage via prayer?

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You welcome.

cybertruss:


I will have to divorce her first then carefully remarry. However not immediate as I will have to study the new person carefully with prayer.

If I enter a second wife problem that is total destruction.

Must you remarry?

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Lack of discernment and gut are the main causes of your woes in the union from the inception; unfortunately, they're still oozing from the connotations of your submissions. If you were discerning, you would've known within the first few hours or days after meeting her from the inception what she could do at any given time subject to circumstances, therefore would always be a step ahead of her actions and inactions. In all that you gain, as a man, gain discernment.

And your lack of guts made it impossible for you to put her in her place at the inception when she began exhibiting her madness, which your lack of discernment made impossible for you to know beforehand, until it festers to this unbearable level.

Well, you can still humble her even now that her toxicity has gone public, assuming that you still wish to bring her under your dominion and continue the union with her - making a woman malleable regardless of the social strata and ethical leanings of the one involved is one of the easiest things to do once you know your way around life.

You don't relate with a woman who's a penchant for oppression the way you relate with one who has a penchant for fairness, just as you don't relate with one who has a penchant for servility the way you relate with the ones with the aforementioned dispositions.

Bornsinner7:
It look serious and at the same time funny..

I don't know what you want.. a reconciliation with your wife or the issue you have with pastors and their beliefs on remarriage..

Well.. I leave that to righteousness2 to enlighten you on the reason or reasons why it is wrong to remarry..

Back to your wife.. I don't understand what you mean by she gives you blow when you ask for sex.. blow as in ?? I want to believe it is Mouth Gig.. but if otherwise.. man!! Na wahala you marry oh

If you don't have kids.. it is best you move on with your life..

It better be a Mouth Gig lol....

I just feel like laughing because this writeup is a comedy script.

When you were busy argueing about politics online, your imiginary wife was arguing with real politicians offline.

My dear take heart, God will provide you with another wife.

@Innovia
Shallow thinking pastors. I have one question for you, If she doesn't change, can you continue with such for the next say 3, 5, 10 years. There lies your answer



@me
Yeah...if the scriptures must be followed, you are not allowed to put away. That's why one of hardest prayers a person must pray is for God to give him/her the true bone of his/her bone and the flesh of his/her flesh.

We warn that marriage must only be consummated within the bounds of true Christianity. Fleshly desires and considerations must not be the influence.

I must confess that even in the church today so many marriages didn't follow this rule and they are in trouble. Pastors are overburdened with challenges in even old marriages.

cybertruss:


Well that has been exhausted. Family, church, friends. Nothing can change her. However I have problem with people telling me it is a sin to remarry. However, I am going to be extremely careful if remarrying

. You have a lot of problems Sir,if you still care about what people are saying /will say about you. Has these people sayings stop your 'ex'-wife from her wayward life? Move on with your life, be a little selfish and enjoy your life to the fullest. You deserve that at least, before you die throway.

cybertruss:
My wife no longer loves me. She always insults me, snub me and has no respect for me. I will confess I am not very rich but I work extremely hard. I noticed that my wife attends political meetings and they have overpowered me as she has no atom of respect for me.

In fact a time I sent 90% of my total monthly earning she told me real men send their wives 500,000 naira monthly but you send me this rubbish and call it money. The time I wanted to pack my things to the house we built together she told me that I cannot bring it in because it is her house.

It is a very shameful thing for me to mention that she gives me blow sometimes when I ask for sex. The day I got angry and revolted the whole world went against me that I went against the rights and dignity of a woman. I was accused of trying to rape my wife.

The last day I kissed a woman was on my wedding day when they said I can kiss her. Till today I have never kissed a woman. I take a lot of pains but cannot take that anymore. She seems to have carry on with her life in her political group in Ogun State. As she is mingling well with politicians there.

The problem is why are pastors telling me that I cannot carry on with my life.

Why is it called sin if I go for another woman. Didn't God himself say it is not good for man to be alone. I blame myself, I might have married a wrong lady. But didn't God himself say that if his people repent he will heal their land.

Why do they believe it is wrong to re marry?

Divorce and remarry sharp sharp, do not ever listen to those who says it is wrong to remarry. If your marriage is not working out, by all means, try every possible avenue to make it work. Go e it your best shot.
If in the end, it did not work out , kindly divorce her and look for somebody who will go e you peace of mind. You have only one life to live and you deserve to ne happy. The same goes for ladies who are passing through hell in their marital relationships. Marriage is not do or die do not let any man control your life with fear.

This story is somehow. The issue is that your bedroom skills are lacking and one politician is giving your wife stacks of naira plus good knacking. You will be shocked at how sweet and humble your wife is among her favorite politician boyfriend. His name na chief, sir, baby...

When they say men should make money, many men won't listen. A man who cannot cater to his woman will not get respect nor loyalty. A man whose woman has more money should never step back and let the woman take up the responsibility. The moment this happens, you are now a "woman". Sir go and make money.

Angeldemon:



[s]every tribe has their peculiarities.
Yoruba women are popular to be very promiscuous especially after they get married. Once a woman starts having any form of power over her husband forget it she will soon start misbehaving or totally throw him away. Yorub women are worse.
Truth is yoruba culture encourages quick separation of women from marriage and theyre the most liberal women when it comes to promiscuity. The fact that you are not yoruba or cant speak yoruba well even worsens the case for you. They love their language too much to a point of tribal bias. worse now she entered politics with yoruba men that dont see anything bad in sleeping with other mens wives.
Better move on with your life. There are few good well brought up yoruba women but majority will do same to you once they have power over you o are around men richer than you.
All that glitters is normally gold to them. Most of them hardly hav self control once they see enjoyment.

MOVE ON

[/s]

Fool.....
Is nedu wife dat got impregnated by another.......even when she still married to her husband also a Yoruba Woman........