ImaIma1:


So you know better than those who are married based on your parent's marriage? I knew you were talking hypothetically. Because a married man will be wiser and more mature in his utterances.

Before you guys were grown to help your mum out, who did those things?

So as my husband and I are in a young marriage with a 3year old and no househelp or any help whatsoever, who do you think will put on the generator? Who is stronger?

Am I the one to climb stools to change light bulbs especially if I were pregnant. If I were to fall and lose the baby, my husband will say it is a woman's role abi.

You can't be single, without any form of marriage experience and be making categorical statements. Please be guided.

Please you know the roles I'm talking about, cooking, nurturing and cleaning, that most mordern women see as oppressive, don't misinterprete my message, mordern women want to reverse traditional gender roles,

JovialJune:



Not his personality really? Yet every weekend, men still struggling do get married, is the basis for women marrying these sets because of provision when it is obvious na suffer head go be their watchward? Be realistic dude, money and more money doesn't make one a man, a healthy personality, good trait, and lovely character makes one a complete man, other material things can follow if available, or do you think only rich people enjoy their marriage or don't divorce? Lol

all the women that married for personality Don divorce finish for abroad and it is happening here too.

elonmuskbaby:
he's her husband.tell her the implications.a lot of women misbehave because they don't know the implications of their actions for not just themselves but everyone connected to them-children, husband etc

True, but sometimes, they know and they don't care. Some women are selfish. Not all, some

vickydevoka:

So wen u loose ur job u should commit suicide. While de woman live with her money. Abeg anybody can be jobless for sometime

Who said who should commit suicide? Of course, anyone can lose their job at any time. I'm referring to men who are jobless and do nothing about it. I have no respect for them

JovialJune:



Is this guy for real? Dude you are delusional, seems like you like to hear/see yourself talk/type

yet you can't describe this alleged disrespect. Or abuse.
No one is falling for your righteous indignation

Where do men disrespect wives ?

Romanoff:


I worship my husband cause his worth is not tied to his wallet.

Fine man with brain and self worth.

If I come this world, na me go find am marry.

who pays the bills in your house. Lie and busy your children

JESHAL:



Please you know the roles I'm talking about, cooking, nurturing and cleaning, that most mordern women see as oppressive, don't misinterprete my message, mordern women want to reverse traditional gender roles,

You are quick to quote roles and Prov 37. Do you follow every rule and scripture in the Bible or Prov 37 is the only important one to you because it fosters your agenda.

After you have been married for 6months to a year and you have managed a home with a wife, come back and give us your experience.

You cannot be single and you rubbish the efforts of people that are in the marriages. Do you think a woman leaves her father's house to come and be a slave?

What is cooking that a man cannot do? Or bathing and dressing your own children born from your loins is a crime.

The comment section is filled with single guys imposing their marriage fantasies. Get married first!!!

BRATISLAVA:


And. . . You're back

Your post is the truth. Subtract "money" from most Nigerian men, and they are very undesirable. And that is why women leave them when they are broke, all the ugliness is laid bare then.

They spend so much time preaching on what a virtuous woman is, and yet their own virtue is in shambles.

so we agree women are gold diggers

Kobojunkie:
I am asking again for the source of the claims made on that image. I would like the vet the authenticity of the claims made by reviewing the source for myself.

google is your friend
You cannot be that lazy

BRATISLAVA:


Fear Bible bangers when it comes to women matters. Most of them are infidels by the same biblical standards.

The only righteousness to them is to be the head of the home and for women to be submissive. The rest of the Bible doesn't exist to them. Not even the 10 commandments.

Religion twisted to the patriarchy. That is why they don't want women to preach, because their control points will be trashed.

but you all looking to freeload off these men ba

Shebi you don't want to be controlled
Go and marry duck boy so you can make him your houseboy

Kobojunkie:
Since you have no source to reference, am to then assume them possibly made up?

Not even a Google search of the claims on there returns a valid reference linking them equality in marriage. So why do you do this?

right
Google didn't show divorce rate in the west or single motherhood rate

ImaIma1:


You are quick to quote roles and Prov 37. Do you follow every rule and scripture in the Bible or Prov 37 is the only important one to you because it fosters your agenda.

After you have been married for 6months to a year and you have managed a home with a wife, come back and give us your experience.

You cannot be single and you rubbish the efforts of people that are in the marriages. Do you think a woman leaves her father's house to come and be a slave?

What is cooking that a man cannot do? Or bathing and dressing your own children born from your loins is a crime.

The comment section is filled with single guys imposing their marriage fantasies. Get married first!!!

Ok
That's how western Feminism started and now 50% of marriages fail woefully, traditional gender roles has always worked in every civilization and every era, only mordern time with Feminism is these reversing nonsense, even shocking Christian women are accepting these

Good night Ma

cococandy:


100.

Either the man employs someone to help out or he helps out. There’s no reason why it should all be on one person.
We all know MOST MEN expect financial contribution. therefore there shouldn’t be a debate about the domestic duties in that case.

why did women marry unworthy men

JESHAL:



Ok
That's how western Feminism started and now 50% of marriages fail woefully, traditional gender roles has always worked in every civilization and every era, only mordern time with Feminism is these reversing nonsense, even shocking Christian women are accepting these

Good night Ma

Marry first and see if everything is about feminism or traditional roles.

The marriages that have lasted 30 40 50yrs, do you think it it's because the husbands stuck only to their "roles".

Or marriages that have failed didn't practice the strict traditional methods. Let's not be deceived or try to "agend". As I said, come back with experienced arguments after you are married.

Lovely night.

ImaIma1:


Marry first and see if everything is about feminism or traditional roles.

The marriages that have lasted 30 40 50yrs, do you think it it's because the husbands stuck only to their "roles".

Or marriages that have failed didn't practice the strict traditional methods. Let's not be deceived or try to "agend". As I said, come back with expe after you are married.

Lovely night.

Your little angel needs your cuddle

Cromagnon:
why did women marry unworthy men

unworthy how?

ImaIma1:
Marry first and see if everything is about feminism or traditional roles. .

Is that really great advice? No be woman go marry am with all that baggage he dey carry for him mind there? Or is he gay?

chatinent:


Your little angel needs your cuddle

She's been asleep, thank God. And my sleep routine has been distorted.

Kobojunkie:
Is that really great advice? No be woman go marry am with all that baggage he dey carry for him mind there? Or is he gay?

He's just a typical single Nigerian Nairaland guy who always has knowledge of what they have not experienced.

Kobojunkie:
And these are the brain-dead conclusions that lead me to believe many of you are children who have not even ventured out into the world outside of your own heads.

Divorce has existed far almost as long as marriage has - Long before the word Feminism was coined.

Not at the same rate

ImaIma1:


You are quick to quote roles and Prov 37. Do you follow every rule and scripture in the Bible or Prov 37 is the only important one to you because it fosters your agenda.

After you have been married for 6months to a year and you have managed a home with a wife, come back and give us your experience.

You cannot be single and you rubbish the efforts of people that are in the marriages. Do you think a woman leaves her father's house to come and be a slave?

What is cooking that a man cannot do? Or bathing and dressing your own children born from your loins is a crime.

The comment section is filled with single guys imposing their marriage fantasies. Get married first!!!

did your father cook in your house?
Is your mother a slave?
Abi the child is not from your loins, only from the man.
Were you both paying rent and school fees?
I blame the man for marrying such a shrew

bitingcool:


That's the mentality of some stupid men and unfortunately they actually do that. A woman goes out and works in traffic and they refuse to contribute to the house claiming its a taboo to enter the kitchen. I know some men that don't eat food put in deep freezer or lift a broom because ethey are men. Its a shame that we pass that to the male kids and the ugly cycle continues.

Marriage is a partnership. Any man or woman that cannot cover the gap for the other person is either together for togetherness sake or will soon break up. Something will definitely give.

They tried partnership in the abroad
It has failed woefully

Cromagnon:
did your father cook in your house?
Is your mother a slave?
Abi the child is not from your loins, only from the man.
Were you both paying rent and school fees?
I blame the man for marrying such a shrew

Answer these questions and come to your conclusion. What do you think?

bepositive11:


Who said who should commit suicide? Of course, anyone can lose their job at any time. I'm referring to men who are jobless and do nothing about it. I have no respect for them

O.k

Mind u no one want to be jobless. They only issue is dat, once you've had a good job b4, is hard for u yo start a menial job.

JESHAL:


I'm not married, but in my father's marriage it's the woman that coordinate the children to do domestic chores or she does it herself,, I have never seen my father cook but he bathed me when I was small for a small period of time compared to my mum, my father is always busy working to take care of his household, me and my bro put on the generator, my mum did it when I was younger because my Dad is always traveling he's not around and I respect that, when he creates time for us it's like gold

You don't need a working class woman as a wife, what you need is a full time housewife

Mrlola:


I don't really know because I work and take care of the house. However, I think it depends on individual cases. My wife has no issue filling gas. Your wife is the one with issue.

You are very lucky sir!

spice123:

My brother, I was out of job for like 6 months and wife took care of all the bills excluding rent and school fees and nobody noticed or knew I was out of job. No negative attitude showed up and I will tell you why. A close friend gave me this advice and I will share same with you. When you get your salary or business profit, remove your t-fare/car fuel and give the rest to your wife to manage the home. I was very hard for me to do but t I summoned courage and since 3+ years I started it, I have complete peace. Infact, my wife was praising me on how I was able to pay all bills and manage funds. By the time your wife will mismange the home funds (feeding, rent, kids sch fees e.t.c) she will wake up and realize that paying for gas in the home is the least issue. You will have utmost respect bro. I have been married for 7 years now.

Wow thank you sir

iamyemiakins:
That's one of the worst situations a man can ever find himself in this life

Bad boy!

MufasaLion:


Your suggestion is good also but be rest assured that women are different from one another. What works for you might not work for others. It's ideal to understand the woman you're with and deal with the situation based on that.

Humans ain't built the same.

Lol true

Hahahahahahaha
Waow
Like waowwwww
20 pages already!
Issorait

Hassanmaye:

Wow thank you sir

Unfortunately he lost his job for few months and had to liquidate 25% of the fund in his Retirement Savings Account in order for him to pay for his rent, it shows how bad.

Assuming his employer did not have a retirement savings plan for their employees I wonder how he would have been able to cope

Handing over all your salary or income is not a strategy, except if you have kept a minimum of 10% of the fund before giving it to her

Ficient:


Unfortunately some of them know how to forget easily when things change

Yep, women are built that way. Nothing new. Shouldn't make a man run out of his house. If madam talks and talk and turns to nagging, U walk out the door.
When U do that a few times the nagging always reduces. If she asks for divorce don't force the issue. After all ones piece of mind is golden