oshorstan:
You see that daddy's friend, he was the one that disvirgined her. She cannot do without him. Most women are disgustingly shameless. God please I don't want to be in this condition, because I go kill person. Pls Lord, give me a gift called Good wife. I don't want anyone that will give me wahala. I beg you Lord

Are u a lesbian asking for a wife while u are a female on this forum?

Tell him to man up and stop crying like a lil bitch and do the right thing by sending the hoe back to her parents house and take her daughter for DNA test, and after that he can come over to join our club of barchelors that are single and not searching, NO WIFE NO PROBLEM, this is why the thought of marriage scares me to death, there is a way you sleep at night with peace knowing there is nobody somewhere cheating on you, last night i prepared better eba and egusi soup myself, who need a wife when i cook better than all these women

tenry:
Please don't mind my grammatical blunders .My brother in law called my wife and I tonight sobbing profusely and confused about what to do.

He caught his wife cheating on a man erroneously believe to be her daddy's friend.

It all started when his wife's phone was bad and he gave him to repair it for him while coming from work. Engineer repaired the phone and on his way home, he curiously checked his wife's phone and discovered sex chat his wife had with the man she called her daddy's friend.

His wife snapped her private parts and sent to the man. They exchanged so many dirty videos including pornography . All the wife's family members (mother, sisters) all knew the man introduced to the husband as dad's friend.

Her dad is late. Their wedding is one year this month with a three month old girl child.

He is worried about the father of the child cos according to him, his wife had visited the man shortly after their wedding.

My wife and I have been disturbed seriously on this matter. The husband called for advice on the step to take.

Please I need your advice cos we are in shock as we didn't expect that from the lady.

First I'm 9.99% convince the child isn't his... The wife had been sleeping with the so called "Dad's friend" before marriage, because no woman starts cheating in a marriage barely a year.

If he can afford DNA test, he should conduct one and he can't afford one... He should do the natural DNA test God gave us by checking out the traits and physical resemblance of the child and man.

On what decisions to take, he's in the position to make one.
If he can forgive and bear the burden, find.... And if he can't, he should get rid of her instantly.

princewarri1985:
Tell him to man up and stop crying like a lil bitch and do the right thing by sending the hoe back to her parents house and take her daughter for DNA test, and after that he can come over to join our club of barchelors that are single and not searching, NO WIFE NO PROBLEM, this is why the thought of marriage scares me to death, there is a way you sleep at night with peace knowing there is nobody somewhere cheating on you, last night i prepared better eba and egusi soup myself, who need a wife when i cook better than all these women

is the s younger sister...to the OP

AquaPetals:





He is your brother in law right? That means he must be married to your sister, right?
If the wife in question is your sister then I find the bolded statements a little bit odd. You are making reference to her family from an outsider's point of view.

Good observations, I was shocked to see that too

DigitB:
All these stup.id NLanders talking trash on every thread. Imagine if this happens to you. Then you know such needs to be handled with great wisdom.

The choice to divorce should be the last option.


OP please take only the wise answers and forgot the thrash these little boys who are tired of Facebook come her to type

You are the stupid Nairalander talking trash, so because your wife sleeps around like a dog others should do the same.

Mariangeles:
First things first, he needs to be away from his so-called wife to prevent him from doing something (in anger) he might later regret, and also some time off to himself to get himself together and process his thoughts on what next to do.
Whatever decision he decides to make, he should be supported because it is not going to be easy in any way.

What a world shattering situation.

Gbam!

greypencils:
When you date women with their fine faces working in well-paying organizations, the first thing to do is to rate their IQ, the courses they did at school, the GP they graduated with and their family backgrounds. If they don't score high in these categories, they most
likely nyashed their way into those organizations. That nyash will always never be for you only.

They are coming for you...

But wait...u wicked ooooo

nairalanders make we tell am ? the future is female !!!!!!

OP:

This thing una dey do no good. Person called you to complain him problem and ask you for advise, you come carry the manner enter Nairaland without any confirmation that the guy who called you is in support of you posting his challenge on Social media.
Make Una dey do the right thing oooo....I don't have any thing to advise because I am not good in gossip

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

I've been a victim of 'that small boy'
Babe even cried when I first suspected. She said I humiliated her for even allowing the thoughts of it to cross my mind. I felt bad afterwards and had to apologize. Meanwhile, the small boy was chopping puna like no man's business. We later broke up and she ended dating 'that small boy'

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Instead of your to learn how to think critically, you prefer to play betnaija, now look at how you're displaying your half-baked reasoning online

Lexusgs430:



He should start with DNA.........

If the child is his, and his wife is truly apologetic..... He should forgive her.......

If he refuses to forgive her, can he swear he has never cheated on his wife?.....

And if he can swear nkó that he has not cheated

Team manager
Colleague
Step brother
Nobody

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

Op most of the time, this happens when the woman is in the marriage just to answer Mrs. but the love or source of her money is outside and not adequately coming from her husband.
If that is the case, she is most likely to continue seeing the man even after you confront her.

I suggest your brother in-law really love this woman, he should review the above and if he is lagging in any way, he should sit up, take up his responsibilities and then confront her. This will make her not to have any excuse or reason to cheat any more. Forgive her of her past if he can and she has shown remorse, but if she continues then to avoid affecting his life, he can let her family know and probably call it an end of the fraudulent marriage.

May God give you the grace to do the right thing at this time.

tenry:
Please don't mind my grammatical blunders .My brother in law called my wife and I tonight sobbing profusely and confused about what to do.

He caught his wife cheating on a man erroneously believe to be her daddy's friend.

It all started when his wife's phone was bad and he gave him to repair it for him while coming from work. Engineer repaired the phone and on his way home, he curiously checked his wife's phone and discovered sex chat his wife had with the man she called her daddy's friend.

His wife snapped her private parts and sent to the man. They exchanged so many dirty videos including pornography . All the wife's family members (mother, sisters) all knew the man introduced to the husband as dad's friend.

Her dad is late. Their wedding is one year this month with a three month old girl child.

He is worried about the father of the child cos according to him, his wife had visited the man shortly after their wedding.

My wife and I have been disturbed seriously on this matter. The husband called for advice on the step to take.

Please I need your advice cos we are in shock as we didn't expect that from the lady.

Hello OP, kindly follow the following steps before confronting the woman.

1) Get more records( put someone to trial and get more pictures of them together, it will happen sooner than later)

2) Conduct a paternity test on that child (if you're in Lagos, Qmed Diagnostic in Adeniran Ogunsanya conducts this test as low as 50k last year if i can recall properly; this will enable him know if the child is his and things he should be prepared for)

3) Take all information available for the next move, to her family. That way you can split without having anyone calling you terrible names. If you're not afraid, take it to the father's friend family too.

But if you want to profit from it, then ......

AutoChick4U:
I don't understand, why not sex chat with hubby and send nudes to him? Nawaooo, probably her sugar daddy.

She does not rate her husband at all.

We need to hear the woman's side of the story.

One cannot just conclude on what a man claims happened. Some of these men have pushed and pushed the woman to the wall. The man won't say what he did.

Most men just like to play on sentiment by shedding crocodile tears.

Marriage is build on trust and she already broke that trust. Even if he forgives her the thought will always come back to disrupt his peace so divorce is the only way.

Mood11:
While we wait for the elders to arrive let me quickly update the list of titles we should beware of ;

Daddy's friend
Uncle
Course mate
Former neighbor
Church unit leader
Colleague
Pastor
Bestie
childhood friend
Choir master
"That small boy"
Daddy GO
Boss at work
Film producer
Benefactor
Family friend
Neighbour
Facebook friend
Tweeter friend
IPOB brother
Palm wine club gyrating friend.
Endless list.
He's just my fitness trainer and he even suggested this tight training pants for me so that I can become fit in a record time.

Quote me with anyone I missed out and I'll update the list speedily

Also be mindful of the "He is not even in Nigeria".
Na who want cum fvck your wife by December dey chat her every time from abroad.
I personally,use that pattern cancel one politician wife when I finally returned to Naija that year.
And also the "He is my ex" talk.
And "He is my godfather".
All the above mentioned dey finally cancel people wives.

If she's sincerely sorry, he should forgive her, especially if he has cheated on her too.

Simple.

BRATISLAVA:


We need to hear the woman's side of the story.

One cannot just conclude on what a man claims happened. Some of these men have pushed and pushed the woman to the wall. The man won't say what he did.

I think it’s ridiculous to try and justify cheating. On both sides, whether done by the man or woman. I hope they get to sort this mess out, I hope the child is also his because it’s more salvageable.

Girls of today are totally not worth to trust

That is why when I see many good looking ladies wandering about crying for husband I don't pity then

After all @womenareapess have said it they are all apes

Lexusgs430:



He should start with DNA.........

If the child is his, and his wife is truly apologetic..... He should forgive her.......
.

Fucking simpleton

OKOATA:
I swear you be imbeciile, you are either a kid or a fool still at 40. Did the man tell you he's a cheat? So because the man cheated, the wife also has the right to cheat. Ajeh you be fool. Until your wife carry another man pikin or give you STI your eye go clear that's even if you are married.

Haba, this one wey you carry anoda pesin mata put 4 head......

I bet, you're a serial cheat..........

DropsMic:


Fucking simpleton

JAW JAW, not WAR WAR........

TOPCRUISE:

And if he can swear nkó that he has not cheated

He without sin, should cast the first stone.........

eyinjuege:
He needs to do a DNA test on their child and if the child isn't his, let the father of the child know.
I would implore him to forgive his wife though, because the next woman may not be any better.
Even Jesus forgave the woman caught doing adultery, and asked those without sin to throw the first stone.
This is the first and only person he has caught her with, so I believe she can actually stop any communication with him.
He needs to also be very prayerful because the devil is roaming about trying to destroy marriages. Marriage is for better for worse and since there is no case of violence here, they can still work out things.
Also, get to the bottom of why she is still seeing this man after marriage, and if there's something he needs to work on, he should.
Is it money related? Is it fitness related or is her husband's bedroom game not so good? Any of these things can be worked on from his own part.
There is no marriage without it's ups and downs.
God will show you the next step to take, if you seek his face.

nicely said

PerfectlyPerfect:

I don't know about you but my rule is to NEVER forgive a cheating partner. A hoe will always be a hoe

Let's just say, it's you that gets caught......


Would you do a shaggy or see the love of your life, walk away.......

DropsMic:


Fucking simpleton

Life is easy.... Let's not over complicate it.......

First it was her lying about the man and also commuting adultery just quit the marriage and save yourself

lajid:


I think it’s ridiculous to try and justify cheating. On both sides, whether done by the man or woman. I hope they get to sort this mess out, I hope the child is also his because it’s more salvageable.

That man is supposed to find out where he has gone wrong, not crying and involving strangers in his family matter. It is his duty to give his wife peace, some men make the home front so terrible that the woman has no choice but to seek comfort from someone ready to give it.

The unique nature of a woman is that she is moved by sight, and as such she is moved towards comfort and polyandry by nature.

The man should up his romance game and give her peace of mind via money. Otherwise she should dump him. Every woman deserves peace of mind, not someone hoarding sex and money. Hopefully the man has learned his lesson. If he misbehaves, her side man will take over. It's that simple.