TheFearless:



I told her that several times already.

This morning she already sent me 9 messages on WhatsApp. She sent me her flight ticket which she already paid for, informing me of her intention to come spend the weekend with me.

why you dey run from free toto and free money?

Lies
Very fake

Just sit down and look at it very well. Is she good for you? If the answer from the bottom of your heart is no, please move on, you will get a better if you are yet to get. Marriage should not be one sided, it is a game of two. I love and you love me. Once it is one sided, please run for your life. I have had 3 girls like that in my life before, but I know what I wanted which is not in anyone. I knew they loved me sincerely but I didn't so I made up my mind that I would never sleep with any among them because if I do, they can give me a child which is not mine and God helped me. Today, I have been married for over 15 yrs and I always thank God that I didn't fall for any of them.

TheFearless:
Please I need mature advise on how best to handle this.

Yes we dated during NYSC 2015/2016 in South West with no promise of marriage. After NYSC she moved back to her own state in South South while I moved to another city in search of a greener pasture.

She kept calling and even chatting me up on WhatsApp up, keep tagging me on Facebook until I had to unfriend her on Facebook because I like my privacy.

Last three months she met a guy from my state who was asking her out, rather than outrightly accepting or turning the guy down, she showed the guy my picture that I'm the only one she dated and will never date any other guy in her life. She gave the guy my number to help her beg me. The guy called me, introduced himself and started telling me how much the lady told her about me.

This is scaring the hell out of me already, is this normal ?

I need your advise on how to tell her to go and get herself a husband. Insults are also welcome.

Man nigga if you fall for this kind scam ehn heaven no go forgive you..... No reason her at all oo cos she and the guy wan run you street.. #getsense

At op, one cogent reason why you can't wife her ?

I'd rather go with someone who loves me more than I do.

Dbarrzx:
I thought u are a female, ur moniker is questionable.

THEY NORMALLY OPEN AN ACCOUNT WITH FEMALE IDENTITY TO SCAM SIMPle NAIRALANDERS

TheFearless:
Please I need mature advise on how best to handle this.

Yes we dated during NYSC 2015/2016 in South West with no promise of marriage. After NYSC she moved back to her own state in South South while I moved to another city in search of a greener pasture.

She kept calling and even chatting me up on WhatsApp up, keep tagging me on Facebook until I had to unfriend her on Facebook because I like my privacy.

Last three months she met a guy from my state who was asking her out, rather than outrightly accepting or turning the guy down, she showed the guy my picture that I'm the only one she dated and will never date any other guy in her life. She gave the guy my number to help her beg me. The guy called me, introduced himself and started telling me how much the lady told her about me.

This is scaring the hell out of me already, is this normal ?

I need your advise on how to tell her to go and get herself a husband. Insults are also welcome.

Why don't you open up to her by telling her you feel nothing for her anymore so she picks the pieces of her life and move on..and perhaps she considers the guy wooing her.

Or if you still feels something for her, you say so cos it really hurts that she still loves you..you don't lead a girl on when you feel nothing for her or see no future with her ,it's dangerous bro.. you had better be a man and stop keeping everyone in unnecessary suspense.

A word should be enough for you..

TheFearless:
Please I need mature advise on how best to handle this.

Yes we dated during NYSC 2015/2016 in South West with no promise of marriage. After NYSC she moved back to her own state in South South while I moved to another city in search of a greener pasture.

She kept calling and even chatting me up on WhatsApp up, keep tagging me on Facebook until I had to unfriend her on Facebook because I like my privacy.

Last three months she met a guy from my state who was asking her out, rather than outrightly accepting or turning the guy down, she showed the guy my picture that I'm the only one she dated and will never date any other guy in her life. She gave the guy my number to help her beg me. The guy called me, introduced himself and started telling me how much the lady told her about me.

This is scaring the hell out of me already, is this normal ?

I need your advise on how to tell her to go and get herself a husband. Insults are also welcome.

Two things are involved.... It's either the op has a fat bank account or Okafor's law due to the power of op's gbola

ajoo17:
Just sit down and look at it very well. Is she good for you? If the answer from the bottom of your heart is no, please move on, you will get a better if you are yet to get. Marriage should not be one sided, it is a game of two. I love and you love me. Once it is one sided, please run for your life. I have had 3 girls like that in my life before, but I know what I wanted which is not in anyone. I knew they loved me sincerely but I didn't so I made up my mind that I would never sleep with any among them because if I do, they can give me a child which is not mine and God helped me. Today, I have been married for over 15 yrs and I always thank God that I didn't fall for any of them.

Thanks a lot bro

Rickmann:



Come, kneel down there , raise ur hands and close ur eyes..
Are you a kid?
Why don't you open up to her by telling her you feel nothing for her anymore so she picks the pieces of her life and move on..and perhaps she considers the guy wooing her.

Or if you still feels something for her, you say so cos it really hurts that she still loves you..you don't lead a girl on when you feel nothing for her or see no future with her ,it's dangerous bro.. you had better be a man and stop keeping everyone in unnecessary suspense.

A word should be enough for you..
Oya stand up and go

I had on several occasions, told her to move on but she just won't. She is quite a pretty lady and we'll mannered too. How she has refused to move on is what I don't understand.

skillmyman:
you dont know what you have bro.
are there issues you are running away from:
if not, a lady waiting on you for 6 yrs is a lot of loyalty which you might not easily find anywhere.

my 2cents

It's kinda scaring me bro.

She's such a pretty lady. Our LGI did everything to date her during our NYSC but she refused.
She made sure everyone knows we were dating. I told her I like my privacy but that doesn't seem to bother her at all!

TheFearless:



I had on several occasions, told her to move on but she just won't. She is quite a pretty lady and we'll mannered too. How she has refused to move on is what I don't understand.

You just said she is beautiful and most importantly 'well mannered'..whatelse can one ask for in a woman?

You should count yourself lucky man. A lot of guys will give anything to have such a girl. I know you are scared of losing her eventually probably cos of your current status.. But don't fret, just be more vocal and ask her if she is willing to hang on with you as you try to stabilize...whatever answer you get will determine your next phase.. I think you should try and make it work cos I wouldn't want you to lose her.

Gems like her are really hard to find today, remember that..
Good luck bro.

Rickmann:


You just said she is beautiful and most importantly 'well mannered'..whatelse can one ask for in a woman?

You should count yourself lucky man. A lot of guys will give anything to have such a girl. I know you are scared of losing her eventually probably cos of your current status.. But don't fret, just be more vocal and ask her if she is willing to hang on with you as you try to stabilize...whatever answer you get will determine your next phase.. I think you should try and make it work cos I wouldn't want you to lose her.

Gems like her are really hard to find today, remember that..h
Good luck bro.

Thanks a lot bro.