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Pes13:
When it comes to choosing who to marry, you must learn to be contented and celebrate your partners physical look in as much you have decided to settle with her.

Even after marriage, regardless of how beautiful she is, you will meet myriads of people far beautiful than her, you will see the ugly part of your partner.

Mind you, we don't always look beautiful. There are times we are caught unfresh.

I think you need to work on your contentment first, then you can decide if you can settle for her.

Even if you marry in quote ' The most beautiful lady in the world' she may loose her beautiful during pregnancy, she can suddenly break out after child birth and become plus size, she might develop big stomach, and loose that beauty, what will you do then?


One major ingredient for sustainable marriage is first contentment to the person you choose.

NOBODY has it all.

If after this, you ARE still not proud of her look, let her go, it means somebody else deserve her instead of you. It does not make you a bad person at all, it only mean she deserve better..

who u bee sef?
Very intelligent..

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

.when u go born yellow slowpoke u go appreciate wandecoal color.
If u want fair pikin, go for Caucasian u no go hear story. Most gals bleached dere skin. N u might get married to a fair lady n still give birth to a dark skin pikin, very possible!!! Her grand mama fit be blacky n en go transfer to ur kids, watin u go do. U no see baba rex ' comedian daughter, him and him wife are extremely fair buh de daughter is dark. Make him deny de pikin? No way!!! Ide treat her better than de others to boost her confidence as a child and a lady as well

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

.when u go born yellow imbecîle u go appreciate wandecoal color.
If u want fair pikin, go for Caucasian u no go hear story. Most gals bleached dere skin. N u might get married to a fair lady n still give birth to a dark skin pikin, very possible!!! Her grand mama fit be blacky n en go transfer to ur kids, watin u go do. U no see baba rex ' comedian daughter, him and him wife are extremely fair buh de daughter is dark. Make him deny de pikin? No way!!! Ide treat her better than de others to boost her confidence as a child and a lady as well

Marry her if you so desire, if not let the poor girl be. Its your choice. you know how she looks and not nairalanders so we can't give you that excuse you need to end your relationship with her

Pierocash:
You never loved her person. You are been driven by lust for beauty that is why her looks is what determines your feelings for her.


You are emotionally unstable,and I am afraid for her,you will be a very big problem for her after marriage.

no.... You are wrong... My babe had exactly thesame issue. She used to be beautiful and she suddenly drifted apart. Sometimes she maintains beauty and othertimes shes just there... Its not because i didn't love her... As i complained severally, i realized hers is more of dress sense, weather, or just free will!
I stoped complaining and i had the believe that shes still beautiful. I always gave her attitudes whenever i meet her and she looks so casual. She started adjusting and right now she is lady i once fell in love with.
I think they tend to care less about there looks when they think they are settled... Thats what happend in my case

Pierocash:
You never loved her person. You are been driven by lust for beauty that is why her looks is what determines your feelings for her.


You are emotionally unstable,and I am afraid for her,you will be a very big problem for her after marriage.

Exactly. Baba never do relationship b4 dats y. I pray make him leave de lady early enough, so make she fit hook up with fair guys way go give her fair pikin

The truth is you don't love that lady, just let her go find her happiness elsewhere, you have always known what you wanted before meeting her. You probably see her all the time, got used to her good qualities and decided to compromise. Your whole complain sounds selfish, what about her, you never mentioned that you even had a chat with her about facial expressions, it might even be that you look at her disgustingly sometimes without meaning to and she response by expressing her unhappiness.
Like someone rightly said follow your heart, let her go and find your tomato Jos elsewhere. Please don't make her unhappy, because that's what will happen if you remain in this relationship

Pierocash:
You never loved her person. You are been driven by lust for beauty that is why her looks is what determines your feelings for her.


You are emotionally unstable,and I am afraid for her,you will be a very big problem for her after marriage.

he is just carnal minded.

Village people don dy play drum on top this one head...

Men you are about to chained further in the abssy.... That lady is route of escape from the spiritual chain your village people have on you.

They know she's the key and now wanna work on your head via your flesh... Continue oooo, by the time you clock 40, you go realize say na only rubbish women full your profile along with seriously depreciated wealth or money

Lol. She was average-looking before you entered the place. After the deed the situation is now more pronounced. In my class days there were many like her. I avoided trying any form of wanting them as more than friends because I knew what you’re currently suffering would happen. Na you put head enter there. Fix your situation.

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

From what I understand she holds most of the wife material quality.. Really is not her changing but is you not yet satisfied about her looks..Things will really change if you overlook and truly love this girl.. Remember love is beyond looks work on yourself mentally take your time, they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.you haven't seen that beauty in her yet that's why the face keep changing...

MaXiK:
[s][b]Good day Nairalanders!![/b]Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....[b]My questions:[/b]How important is look in marriage?Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?[b]Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.[/b]I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.[/s]

Absolute Nonsense.

Take clay and mold a statue of the type of woman that you want who will have a STABLE look at any given time.

U are a mumu man,

Oga, you are not ready to marry yet, when you are ready you will understand that outward beauty isn't guaranteed. What will you now say when she is pregnant? Naim be say you go run comot for the house now..... Look at her personality, her heart and not the facial one because anything can happen to someone's face at anytime i.e, accident, fire disaster, hot water could disfigure the face etc, what will you now do then? To be fair sef na wahala and the expenses to maintain the colour too much if not, people can easily size you up with your skin look but a dark person no get wahala. So follow your spirit...

I guess she enhances her look with certain things that she removes...like make-up and all the artificial stuff abi why else will her look keep changing? If you can't stand her natural look, there's wahala

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

Send her picture let me evaluate.

Please free her so she will accept other suitors since you don't like her dark skin, not after turning down others you will now open a thread on NL saying you want to let her go after 8years and paying bride price.

Let her go since you don't value her nor like the color of her skin or changing facial features,despite the fact she doesn't use make up. You don't even love her sef.

You are experiencing lust!!!!!!!

It's not her look, it's your heart, her looks are okay, but your heart is unstable. Pray against the heart of lust!!

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

senseless writeup from an attention seeking Op.all these silly children self.always bringing in useless relationship issues online

I just pray u won't marry a lady who uses cream to look light skin sha oo. Because na ur pikin uglyless go hear am...be with the natural black skin beauty ..don't be discriminative....

MaXiK:
Thank you for this very candid advice, may God bless you. I had the intention of marrying a light skinned lady but you know sometimes life can be funny, there'll come a time that we will have even our deepest and most cherished goals and plans adjusted because we humans only make our plans but God....

I'm about to adjust to that new reality now and that's why I'm seeking advice from intelligent and experienced nairalanders if it's something I can truly outgrow. I also want to know how important look is in a marriage and what really matter in a marriage if beauty will not really count in the marriage in long run.

Once again thank you

Female faces change with thetype of hairstyle they have on. My observation.

Hahhahah hahahahha

But life sef nor balance..... Take it easy as all that glitter isn't gold. In marriage, peace of mind is far more important than anything else including beauty.

Look before you leap, focus on the important things and properly adjust your lens.... Maybe its your view.

Bros 1st of all don't ever assume that she is turning people who are far better than you down to show commitment.
Believe me, if she found some1 better she go jakpa.
If she is a virgin as you say, difinitely she be looking for a guy who will understand that and don't want sex.
She can't just accept any sex maniac/freak come close and their finance and fat bank account and affluent lifestyle won't matter to her.
The day she will meet a rich, handsome, God fearing, trustworthy and caring guy who will simply understand her sexual status then you will understand that others rejected were not better than you.

Marry a light skin beautiful woman to have a light skin beautiful kids

MaXiK:
Good day Nairalanders!!

Please I need your advice. My current girlfriend has all the good characters that perfectly defines a wife material plus she's a scholar and also a virgin (not particularly concerned about this anyway but to evince how disciplined she is) but sometimes she will look attractive to me and other times she will appear unattractive and I won't feel attracted to her at all. To clarify things, this changes has nothing to do with her dress sense neither my beholding senses but real changes in her facial appearance and allurement.

To be frank and sincere, she is just greatly above average in attractiveness but she's not stable in her look, she falls far below average occasionally. Also we're both dark in complexion and I will prefer my children to be lighter than I am, if not fair.

I have been trying to look beyond her look by focusing on other quality attributes she possess but the issue about her irregular look keep on fluctuating my feelings for her.

The crux of it is that I'm in my early thirties I need serious relationship; someone to build future with and finally get married to but here I am with someone that meet up with more than seventy percent of my requirements in my ideal wife but with unstable look that is threatening my feelings for her.

I am concerned about this because of some issues we consider trivial are still crashing marriages these days....

My questions:

How important is look in marriage?
Is it me that is making issue out of trivial matters because this lady is receiving a lot of relationship advances from people far better than I am and she's turning them down to maintain her commitment to our relationship?
Is there any possibility of stability in her look in the future considering that she's still in school?

Your genuine, mature and constructive advice is highly needed.

I will appreciate ones from those who have experienced what I'm currently going through.

After 5years maximum in marriage, looks don't matter anymore as it's what the person offers you that matters.

But also consider the looks of your children. You won't want them insulting them in school.

What bollocks! Poor girl

MufasaLion:
You're welcome. Look is very important. Even though I'm sapiosexul but look is very important to me.

Olodo feeling funky. no be only sapiosexual na pancakesexual

Looks are deceptive,

First if you acknowledge God, you would get the perfect guide on this issue. Public opinions to personal issues can be confusing (for next time try to get counsel instead of public opinion).

Marrying a person because of the beauty is like buying a house because of the paint (but na wetin owner of money like, e dey take him money buy sha)
My point:
Las las, the decision is still yours to make however first accept that is the way she currently is, and(maybe) she has not made herself like that, and maybe she too does not like the same thing you don't like seeing about her but she can't deny those current realities about herself.

Oga sir, many ladies you see out there beautiful outward, if you are given the grace to see the secret of their beauty, you might start to re-priotize your priorities.