lovedgal:

Is this normal for a guy who says [size=13pt]he loves me[/size]? And how do I make him drop without asking directly?? 
He knows i am not one to totally depend on anyone but i need a push every now and again especially in school,

Guys, do you hold off [size=13pt]financial help[/size] from the girls you love, maybe in the bid not to spoil her?

lovedgal:

Won't it be a problem if I had to ask someone who sees that I need help? Even friends would ask how they can help and offer. I have never dated a guy whom I have had to ask. This is going to be a first. The others used their initiatives.

I will learn to ask as I don't know how to.

kistehsia:

@ OP
Could you not maybe ask friends and family for help instead of BF.  That way you can work on letting your relationship grow without pressure, I would find it very hard to ask a BF to help support me if we were not in a committed relationship where we shared expenses.  I would be embarrassed to ask as well.  Take a load off your mind and ask family and friends.  I think its ok for him to dote on you financially in the way of dinner, movie, nite out etc.  But unless there is a commitment I would find it very uncomfortable.  Try to keep your finances separate from your relationship.  

JMO kistehsia  

Dyt:

Claremont so dats ow u do 2 your so called GFs?
Nt even sm choc?

Go and work and earn your OWN money, I am the epitome of stinginess itself!

claremont:

Have you thought about getting a job and making your OWN money, by doing so you don't have to depend on anyone.

claremont:

As far as the both of you are not yet married, you are NOT your partner's financial responsibility. The emotional energy you spend here calling your boyfriend a "stingy man" may have been better channelled looking for a better job for yourself.

lovedgal:

@2goodbobo,

Thanks. Would do that, although I really hate asking.

2goodbobo:

house, i think most of you are been to hard on the chick.ever heard of the saying ''no romance without finance''.am a guy and i think helping one's chick without her asking is not a crime.it only becomes a crime,when she ask incessantly without consideration.@poster, my advise is you have to device a means of asking him even thou it will be hard for you cos if u dont tell him,he wont know.