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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by chloride6: 8:34am On Oct 16, 2021

Lol is your daughter with her?

If your daughter is with her you better send her money if you have because hunger dey follow wack your pickin.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by cayorday89(m): 8:34am On Oct 16, 2021

Jorge91:
she is using that child to get to you, find out more about her husband, stop believing every words that comes out of her mouth, seems you are a very soft person.

There is no point stressing himself to investigate the husband, he should take his daughter away from her and cut ties or he continues sending money if he can afford for the sake of his daughter if he cannot take her away...

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Themandator: 8:36am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

You are alive and according to your article, now earning money but still left your baby with an irresponsible woman and still had the guy to come here to ask for silly advice.

You no get sense.
. The summary of your person

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by ZooOga: 8:40am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend
But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Bro, be a good Christian and heal all these tingz. The Lord loves a charitable giver. Christmas soon arrive. cheesy

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by wisz1(m): 8:44am On Oct 16, 2021

I dey see your update,you they always drop better code...You get Sense , the gods say make I take you say we go soon give you tittle for this Nairaland community.

Sonnobax15:

Mennnnnnnn,carry your pikin from her make the matter rest . The fact that she insulted you when you were a nobody should always serve as a quick reminder to you whenever she calls to beg you for money....

You see this life en,na so this kind stories take dey end...... Especially when woman discard and loosegaurd her man during him hard times,na then God take dey vex dey tear shirt just to open door of blessings for the man..

But wetin go cor vex God na be say when the guyman cor later forgive her.......No matter what,an ex should always be in the ex zone.

I don talk my own finish

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Lugianostar(m): 8:49am On Oct 16, 2021

Please take home your daughter back else hunger will kill her and leave the woman to face her destiny....!

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by smiliyB(f): 8:57am On Oct 16, 2021

Kobojunkie:
Why is your child not instead in your own house since she is married to another man and left it with her parents instead?

Why are you so willing to listen her marriage business rather than focusing all your attention on the well being of your child that is in her hands? If she is asking you to fund her child with another man, don't you reason that even money you give her for your own child may go to taking care of her current situation and concern instead?

I don't even understand, the child is not even with her sef... Finally is the poor child that'll suffer all these wahala. Op better take that girl and raise her to be a better woman abeg

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Sonnobax15(m): 9:00am On Oct 16, 2021

wisz1:
I dey see your update,you they always drop better code...You get Sense , the gods say make I take you say we go soon give you tittle for this Nairaland community.

thanks bro

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by kakaflex(m): 9:02am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

If you can still help her, You should do. Helping someone should be a Normal thing in Nigeria.But mind you be care full

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by sheDD(m): 9:03am On Oct 16, 2021

dan9ice:
I wonder how most of these girls get into event like this..

Most of them do see the red flag oo, but because of greed and belongingness, they'll use the husband for boyfriend and the boyfriend for husband

Op you no get family, where you can take you daughter to? .. All these type will use the influence of your daughter to run you local

op treasure this suggestion with all adherence.....
Return ur child to ur fam

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Gandollar(f): 9:06am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

You should only be responsible for your daughters upkeep. Sit down and calculate what your daughter would need to be ok and only that should you send. But Don't send them in bulk. But if you can take your daughter from her, better.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Imstar: 9:12am On Oct 16, 2021

Sonnobax15:

Mennnnnnnn,carry your pikin from her make the matter rest . The fact that she insulted you when you were a nobody should always serve as a quick reminder to you whenever she calls to beg you for money....

You see this life en,na so this kind stories take dey end...... Especially when woman discard and loosegaurd her man during him hard times,na then God take dey vex dey tear shirt just to open door of blessings for the man..

But wetin go cor vex God na be say when the guyman cor later forgive her.......No matter what,an ex should always be in the ex zone.

I don talk my own finish

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Imstar: 9:17am On Oct 16, 2021

Take your daughter away from her and train her yourself. Build your life and forget about that woman before she will kill you

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by preciousmetals: 9:18am On Oct 16, 2021

You can assist her if you have the financial capacity to do so but don't let the devil enter you.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by preciousmetals: 9:20am On Oct 16, 2021

Did you truly understand this post?

Imstar:
Take your daughter away from her and train her yourself. Build your life and forget about that woman before she will kill you

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Edyice: 9:25am On Oct 16, 2021

Handsomeyitayo hope you can see now that you are a Yoruba demon

I just pity all them girl that will come in contact with you , not to forget your friend list are all gals ( I just checked now )

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Rexnegro(m): 9:25am On Oct 16, 2021

zed7:
What is your business with all these drama? Stay away from toxicity and focus on being a better version of yourself.
What is gone is gone. Send your daughters upkeep and mind your business.

Even the daughter upkeep money how is he sure that she's spending it on her accordingly... For me he should take custody of his daughter to ease burden on her , then try set up a business for her to maintain if he can so as to stop been asked for money every now and then. Then if she fail in the business that's her business.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by ogbonti: 9:31am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
really... Even I still have some of them my ex girlfriends asking me for money...I wonder why their boyfriend don't give them

Guy no form mugu ooo - Dont mind those crazy ex's beggin for money. One of my ex's asked me money the other day barely 3 months after she got married to a guy who lives in Europe. I asked her, "why are you beggin me for money? afterall the guy you got married to lives overseas like me too, so what is all these about? can't he assist you with money?"

I guess she was not expecting that question on our whatsapp chat so she mis-Qed.... and she responded - "There is no reason for asking you money, I just want to eat your money, I think it will be sweeter than what my husband gives me" - I could not understand BUT I told her never to ask me or any other man for money because it amounts to cheating. She said NOOO OOOO what is cheating there to ask for help from a friend- so I told her, I can not render such help anymore because we are done and she should face her marriage

Na so I take get rest from that chic oooo - so guy, never give an ex - especially the married ones -ONE KOBO... most times she wil use it buy alcohol for her man and they will eat out full to the brim and fart generously --- on your money grin

and then they will laugh over your stupidity and retire to bed giggling to have thunderous s ex all in your name - o ma se ooo grin

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Lostchild(m): 9:37am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo

There are things I don't comment on. But I will only say if you continue to play along or dance to her tone, she will continue to play you.

God will allow people to make mistake and feel the pain of the consequence of their foolishness.

Just used wisdom

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by OGAStacks2021: 9:44am On Oct 16, 2021

You must be responsible for the child even if she is your ex or she is married. Work, hustle and pay. Your bed is laid.

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Nobody: 9:49am On Oct 16, 2021

GNBohr:
How does he take the daughter now? He will just go and grab her!!! There are processes to this kind of child custody with rules and regulations. The daughter in question is still a child and the mother has more right of custody than the father unless it can be proved that the mother is not mentally and psychologically fit to raise the child. They had a child together and the father can't deny the mother of that and vice versa.

You just said there are processes...he should come to an terms with the mother and if she doesn't accept, he can follow those processes...

And besides, mental and physiological unfitness isn't the only thing that can make a woman unfit enough to be denied custody...
Moral unfitness, physical health of the woman, mental health of the womans current husband and whether or not he accepts to be responsible for a child that is not his own...all these also play a part...

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Sukkyy2010: 10:00am On Oct 16, 2021

Orisirisi, wonder shall never ends cheesy

...eehn what a Billie jean.

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Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by mandax: 10:03am On Oct 16, 2021

You must be sending her enough money each month for the upkeep of your daughter. Or did you not know that before now?

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by malvisguy212: 10:21am On Oct 16, 2021

Iyaebe:
Not when its freely given.She needs help,its not bad if he can set her up with a business,remember she has a child for him.

yes, but in this caae the husband wasn't doing what he suppose to do , the woman may be tempted to go back to her Ex

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by loliapoopy2013(f): 10:29am On Oct 16, 2021

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

Plus all the girls and women in your family

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by Acesexcell(m): 10:29am On Oct 16, 2021

Acesexcell:
op take this advice

Favfables:
OP...
That girl is no more your gf, she is another man's WIFE and thus NOT your responsibility...

Take your daughter away from her and cut all ties with her, before the husband will come after you telling the entire world that you're nacking his wife...

And put yourself in the man's shoe, would you love your wife to still be this close to her ex?? Would you love your wife to call her ex and beg for money??

Use your head na...
If it's your daughter that's the tie, take your daughter and train her yourself

op take this advice

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by about2wed(m): 10:31am On Oct 16, 2021

Its a painful things for a woman to use her husband as boyfriend and use boyfriend as husband.
I suggest the best you can do to help her is to take your daughter and keep her up yourself or take her to your parent. If not, I pray you shouldn't blame yourself at the end of the day for what she might turn your daughter to.
And I will beg you not to associate yourself or feel too much pity to her because you are not living with them to know the real situation of her relationship with the husband.
No one will ever judge himself wrong for an action particularly women.
After then if you feel like helping her do so.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by adabaraabdul: 10:32am On Oct 16, 2021

If you are sure you won't get into issues with the husband, go ahead else just avoid her totally.

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by girlygirlyMain: 10:44am On Oct 16, 2021

You are only paying pension...
You MUST pay child support (whatever name you give it)
BE RESPONSIBLE!!

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

Re: My Married Ex Girlfriend Disturbs Me For Money For The Upkeep Of Her Newborn by lomprico(m): 10:51am On Oct 16, 2021

handsomeyitayo:
Good day nairaland,

I have this my ex girlfriend that just gave birth and she do call me at times to send her money, .. and come to think of it ,she has fought me before and also insult hell out of me that time I am still searching for job, telling me I don't have money to care for her..she left me though she had a baby girl for me of which I do send money for her feeding and school fees...but she will call me that she needed some money that I should send for her...to eat is difficult, she is doing creche job that they pay her token even where she stays with her husband is her husband friends house and that one had drove them away one night ..I have to send money to her to lodge in an hotel due to pregnancy ...the same husband did not show care at all dump her aside..I ask her about the whereabout of her husband she will say I should forget him, ....I told her can't she go to her husband family house ..she said no...

Even the naming ceremony self dey did...only the husband came..and it was this my baby mama father that just organise menu for the naming ceremony...

But I do send some money to for the sake of my daughter...

I do remember those days we were together ,she will be insulting me , talking to me mannerless ...

We fought then because she dates guys arround then until I broke up with her...

Now she do call for me to send money to her ...but I don't know what to do, I don't like insulting or shouting on someone because she needs help....but I only do for the sake of my daughter...but should I stop.the husband is not serious about her ....

And this my baby mama is stubborn.. hypertensive lady ..

But if I remember those days, is as if I should remind her... and I will stop sending her money.but as a Christian I just use church mind...

If she ask me for money, I do feel pity...

Should I stop or continue assisting her...

why not get your daughter from her and forger about her?

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