I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and i am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

you don't need a lover, you need fun.

you don't need romance, you just need fûck.


you don't need girls attention, they need yours.


stop been a simp bro.

stay redpilled.




#streetdrills

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

Maybe ur nerd level is low quality based on appearance, fun e.t.c
lots of nerdy, fantastically handsome funny guys are successful daters of women.They know how to fix shit.


If we check now you are boring as hell..so you ain't nerdy.

Focus more on your skills and carve a niche for yourself, you'll see us rushing you and we won't care if you are romantic or not because money would have blinded our eyes to notice your unromantic side.Don't you see how we are rushing Pansophist and he's forming what I don't know. So just focus and don't let anything distract you,we will rush you when the money comes.Everything I typed is the bitter truth,so I'm not joking.Sorry oooo I no sabi pretend.

Damnnn niggarrrr
Simpleton everywhere

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

I know the reason why you are not romantic

So I was having this conversation with a close friend. We were talking about how to groom a guy to be attractive to the opposite sex. Below are what we came up with:



You have to up your dress sense and general sense of hygiene.


You have to work on your communication skills. You got to learn empathy and human relations. You can't give what you don't have. You have to learn stuff not some nerd shit but basic human relationship.

You must be the prize here. The woman's desire. That shit works like charm. Basically upgrade yourself.


Take charge when you are with a woman. They like that.

There is so much to learn so make time for that.


Oh, by the way. You are not a simp. It's just a phase. You will come through.

@Op you make me want to throw up

interesting....

As for me...I just need a mentally ill girl 4 some serious relationship..say someone with ..bipolar...PTSD...anxiety disorders... depression e.t.c...if u av any of these qualifications pls indicate 4 a serious relationship...
normal girls don tire me...I want something abnormal this time..
Extraordinary things I'm doing... ordinary things no fit move me again....

Iyaebe:
Focus more on your skills and carve a niche for yourself, you'll see us rushing you and we won't care if you are romantic or not because money would have blinded our eyes to notice your unromantic side.Don't you see how we are rushing Pansophist and he's forming what I don't know. So just focus and don't let anything distract you,we will rush you when the money comes.Everything I typed is the bitter truth,so I'm not joking.Sorry oooo I no sabi pretend.

I understand you

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

You don't need a relationship if you're not planning on getting married now lol
If you get money ehhn, meet girls and ask for hookup, you just need sex

Dress well, you're already a smart guy. Take care of yourself, woman go come. Wetin go sup go sup. Do not worry about it. I'll advise you not to chase women, especially in this Nigeria, them go bill you, your mind go dey.

"I am a programmer, I build games, I am a nerd..."

Lol... Here is what I think: I believe those are feel-good statements nerds hardly make and the laughing emoji only goes to show you really just want to feel good about yourself. Yes, programmers could be very nerdy sometimes (just like some lawyers, doctors, etc.) but such people don't miss the social life cause it's thier personality and they certainly don't go around telling people how they're unromantic nerds with a broad smile. ​You're probably not just 'unromantic' but also not fun. And it's not about being a programmer, I've been programming for more than a decade postgrad myself. It's simply because you've subscribed to the idea that programmers should be a certain way and you clearly want to have that aura. It's as though you couldn't wait to finally be able to complain about how your career makes you different from others.

​This might not very evident even to you but I believe you're conditioned by your innermost desires, the uniqueness you admire in others which you'd eagerly accept as your reality. It's like some people always complaining how they are busy not because they really can't afford to spare some time for certain things but mostly because they just like to be in the league of those saying they have no time or a professor growing his beards cause "that's how a professor should be". It's all in phases, some more years in the industry and you'd realize your job isn't really much different from that of any other career driven professional out there, and then you'd start living your life with less desire to conform.

Just a thought.

WoundedLamb:
"I am a programmer, I build games, I am a nerd..."

Lol... Here is what I think: I believe those are feel-good statements nerds hardly make and the laughing emoji only goes to show you really just want to feel good about yourself. Yes, programmers could be very nerdy sometimes (just like some lawyers, doctors, etc.) but such people don't miss the social life cause it's thier personality and they certainly don't go around telling people how they're unromantic nerds with a broad smile. ​You're probably not just 'unromantic' but also not fun. And it's not about being a programmer, I've been programming for more than a decade postgrad myself. It's simply because you've subscribed to the idea that programmers should be a certain way and you clearly want to have that aura. It's as though you couldn't wait to finally be able to complain about how your career makes you different from others.

​This might not very evident even to you but I believe you're conditioned by your innermost desires, the uniqueness you admire in others which you'd eagerly accept as your reality. It's like some people always complaining how they are busy not because they really can't afford to spare some time for certain things but mostly because they just like to be in the league of those saying they have no time or a professor growing his beards cause "that's how a professor should be". It's all in phases, some more years in the industry and you'd realize your job isn't really much different from that of any other career driven professional out there, and then you'd start living your life with less desire to conform.

Just a thought.

So you have been coding for 10+ what's your stack if you don't mind.

FanOfMyself:

So you have been coding for 10+ what's your stack if you don't mind.

Actually more than 10 years if you include the jobs I did before my first degree. I've worked in about 4 different organizations post grad and used different tools/languages in these organizations. Here is a rundown (OP, excuse us to use your thread, please):

I joined the corporate world when desktop applications were still trendy, so had to use Visual Basic (and later VB.Net). I was still in the same organization when the wave of web apps struck. We quickly adopted PHP/MySQL and HTML/CSS as our major working tools (though I've always been more of a backend person). There was nothing like Laravel, React, Angular, etc. then, so we were using the traditional "form action". Laravel came out in 2011 (not sure) but I only got to use it in production a couple of years later. Then I changed jobs and started working in an organization where Python was the standard. We used Django and React for virtually everything. I loved Python and started exploring the Anaconda framework (even though it had nothing to do with my job then). The whole experience helped me get my third job in a mining firm where Python was used to write instructions for AMR's. I only spent a few months there before going back to school for my masters.

Most of the stuff I did during my MSc. program were either in C# or Python and that brought me back to .Net. I was excited to see how Microsoft had succeeded in making C# the new Java and a strong contender in enterprise applications development. With my new knowledge, pre-existing industry experience and quality professional network (thanks to my school), I knew I had to go into a more specialized form of programming. So I moved into Cloud Computing and business solutions (ERP's and e-commerce/retail/POS). This made me to use special purpose languages like C/AL, X++ and, of course, C# and Typescript. I'm still in the same organization post masters, but I presently work as a consultant/solution architect. ERP's normally have different endpoints developed using different technologies, so I sort of use all my accumulate knowledge here with a lot of theories from school.

Godada:




So I was having this conversation with a close friend. We were talking about how to groom a guy to be attractive to the opposite sex. Below are what we came up with:



You have to up your dress sense and general sense of hygiene.


You have to work on your communication skills. You got to learn empathy and human relations. You can't give what you don't have. You have to learn stuff not some nerd shit but basic human relationship.

You must be the prize here. The woman's desire. That shit works like charm. Basically upgrade yourself.


Take charge when you are with a woman. They like that.

There is so much to learn so make time for that.


Oh, by the way. You are not a simp. It's just a phase. You will come through.

I don't like it when my fellow guy's talk shht,so because a guy wants a girl's attention,he gats to impress the girl abi by your sttupid shiii you wrote up there

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

Bro juss tell any babe u roll wit celibrity mr cork every time u in London....and truss me u will get her nomba (THaANK ME LATER)

WoundedLamb:


Actually more than 10 years if you include the jobs I did before my first degree. I've worked in about 4 different organizations post grad and used different tools/languages in these organizations. Here is a rundown (OP, excuse us to use your thread, please):

I joined the corporate world when desktop applications were still trendy, so had to use Visual Basic (and later VB.Net). I was still in the same organization when the wave of web apps struck. We quickly adopted PHP/MySQL and HTML/CSS as our major working tools (though I've always been more of a backend person). There was nothing like Laravel, React, Angular, etc. then, so we were using the traditional "form action". Laravel came out in 2011 (not sure) but I only got to use it in production a couple of years later. Then I changed jobs and started working in an organization where Python was the standard. We used Django and React for virtually everything. I loved Python and started exploring the Anaconda framework (even though it had nothing to do with my job then). The whole experience helped me get my third job in a mining firm where Python was used to write instructions for AMR's. I only spent a few months there before going back to school for my masters.

Most of the stuff I did during my MSc. program were either in C# or Python and that brought me back to .Net. I was excited to see how Microsoft had succeeded in making C# the new Java and a strong contender in enterprise applications development. With my new knowledge, pre-existing industry experience and quality professional network (thanks to my school), I knew I had to go into a more specialized form of programming. So I moved into Cloud Computing and business solutions (ERP's and e-commerce/retail/POS). This made me to use special purpose languages like C/AL, X++ and, of course, C# and Typescript. I'm still in the same organization post masters, but I presently work as a consultant/solution architect. ERP's normally have different endpoints developed using different technologies, so I sort of use all my accumulate knowledge here with a lot of theories from school.

This is huge! I'm a JavaScript dev (VueJs, React and Nodejs), with flutter and dart in view. Will be joining a tech in the states remotely early next year (God willing) as it's on recommendation from a reputable NGO that I am currently with. Yeah so I will be smiling next year. Currently I work as a full stack javascript developer. I also have a degree in computer science and I don't intend to go further academically. A quick one, are you feminist? Just curious...

FanOfMyself:

This is huge! I'm a JavaScript dev (VueJs, React and Nodejs), with flutter and dart in view. Will be joining a tech in the states remotely early next year (God willing) as it's on recommendation from a reputable NGO that I am currently with. Yeah so I will be smiling next year. Currently I work as a full stack javascript developer. I also have a degree in computer science and I don't intend to go further academically. A quick one, are you feminist? Just curious...

That's awesome. Javascript is not my stronghold but I use Typescript for POS and React for UI when I have to. Working for a company in the US while you're in Nigeria gives you the economic advantage. Actually, that makes you much better than most of us here who earn and spend in dollars. Best of luck!

Regarding your question, I don't subscribe to labels cause definitions are subjective and they come with baggage. But I am an apologetic advocate of fairness/equality in all its kinds, and I really don't see why everyone shouldn't be.

WoundedLamb:


That's awesome. Javascript is not my stronghold but I use Typescript for POS and React for UI when I have to. Working for a company in the US while you're in Nigeria gives you the economic advantage. Actually, that makes you much better than most of us here who earn and spend in dollars. Best of luck!

Regarding your question, I don't subscribe to labels cause definitions are subjective and they come with baggage. But I am an apologetic advocate of fairness/equality in all its kinds, and I really don't see why everyone shouldn't be.

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WoundedLamb:


That's awesome. Javascript is not my stronghold but I use Typescript for POS and React for UI when I have to. Working for a company in the US while you're in Nigeria gives you the economic advantage. Actually, that makes you much better than most of us here who earn and spend in dollars. Best of luck!

Regarding your question, I don't subscribe to labels cause definitions are subjective and they come with baggage. But I am an apologetic advocate of fairness/equality in all its kinds, and I really don't see why everyone shouldn't be.

You dey talk rubbish, wokeness won't help you

WoundedLamb:


That's awesome. Javascript is not my stronghold but I use Typescript for POS and React for UI when I have to. Working for a company in the US while you're in Nigeria gives you the economic advantage. Actually, that makes you much better than most of us here who earn and spend in dollars. Best of luck!

Regarding your question, I don't subscribe to labels cause definitions are subjective and they come with baggage. But I am an apologetic advocate of fairness/equality in all its kinds, and I really don't see why everyone shouldn't be.

Well, your signature says it all. I will not probe further. Thanks.

Na wao

Stop been a simp

Iyaebe:
Focus more on your skills and carve a niche for yourself, you'll see us rushing you and we won't care if you are romantic or not because money would have blinded our eyes to notice your unromantic side.Don't you see how we are rushing Pansophist and he's forming what I don't know. So just focus and don't let anything distract you,we will rush you when the money comes.Everything I typed is the bitter truth,so I'm not joking.Sorry oooo I no sabi pretend.

Me forming? How ? Because I no de do old woman, na forming ? My one and only crush on nairaland is UyaiIncomparabl, she is fresh, fine and young. Only say she refuse to pay my groom price. So no vex. I'm taken

pansophist:


Me forming? How ? Because I no de do old woman, na forming ? My one and only crush on nairaland is UyaiIncomparabl, she is fresh, fine and young. Only say she refuse to pay my groom price. So no vex. I'm taken

How are you taken when I have refused to pay your groom price?

UyaiIncomparabl:


How are you taken when I have refused to pay your groom price?

No be every person wey dem never come do something on top him head single na

WoundedLamb:


That's awesome. Javascript is not my stronghold but I use Typescript for POS and React for UI when I have to. Working for a company in the US while you're in Nigeria gives you the economic advantage. Actually, that makes you much better than most of us here who earn and spend in dollars. Best of luck!

Regarding your question, I don't subscribe to labels cause definitions are subjective and they come with baggage. But I am an apologetic advocate of fairness/equality in all its kinds, and I really don't see why everyone shouldn't be.

Hmm...
Some hours ago, I was really incensed about a post on nairaland and logged in to "enter the gutters" with the poster. But first, I calmed myself down a bit to look through the profile of the offending nlder.

And that was where I stumbled on a post of yours he quoted.

I immediately thought you were female. And so I went through your posts.

Some hours later, I have all but forgotten about the anger that made me log in. Seeing Nigeria through the eyes of a non-native is sad and hilarious at the same time. Couldn't help chuckling at your honest reactions to some things deemed normal here especially the insults.

I really don't know why I am writing this but thank you for being a male with empathy. It's difficult finding it around here.
Thank you for your civility and choosing to share your experiences without being condescending.

Tu es génial personne

Coolabbie:

Hmm...
Some hours ago, I was really incensed about a post on nairaland and logged in to "enter the gutters" with the poster. But first, I calmed myself down a bit to look through the profile of the offending nlder.

And that was where I stumbled on a post of yours he quoted.

I immediately thought you were female. And so I went through your posts.

Some hours later, I have all but forgotten about the anger that made me log in. Seeing Nigeria through the eyes of a non-native is sad and hilarious at the same time. Couldn't help chuckling at your honest reactions to some things deemed normal here especially the insults.

I really don't know why I am writing this but thank you for being a male with empathy. It's difficult finding it around here.
Thank you for your civility and choosing to share your experiences without being condescending.

Tu es génial personne

I read this post along with a friend, and he called me "social media influencer!" Haha...

Actually, it's a heart warming feedback cause sometimes, it feels like no one really wants to understand that we can't achieve the society we dream of if we keep thinking certain people don't deserve the privileges we enjoy.

Oh... and thanks for attempting to write me in French. I'm not even going to tell you how you destroyed the language.

Thanks, really.

WoundedLamb:


I read this post along with a friend, and he called me "social media influencer!" Haha...

Actually, it's a heart warming feedback cause sometimes, it feels like no one really wants to understand that we can't achieve the society we dream of if we keep thinking certain people don't deserve the privileges we enjoy.

Oh most of us understand but it's a battle of egos. It doesn't help that there is also a massive indoctrination going on.

This site was never this bad; the toxicity was usually contained to the politics section. This section was primarily for lighthearted banters and flirtings. That was until a Zimbabwean baby daddy arrived with his redpill ideology to 'free men' from their chains. Imagine Nigerian men believing they are victims of women! This same Nigeria that a man can throw out his wife of 30years from "his house" with nothing and no one blinks an eye.

You've been around long enough so you must have known about the NL pageants that used to be a massive buzz around here. I shudder to think of the dehumanization those women would be subjected to if it were to happen today.
The site is fast turning into a sausage fest and I think they prefer it that way.

Anyway, they can bark and vent online about how we should be like their mothers; we've allowed them that space. It won't stop the already changing tide.
They also know the tide is turning which is why the screeching is at an all-time high.

WoundedLamb:


Oh... and thanks for attempting to write me in French. I'm not even going to tell you how you destroyed the language.

Thanks, really.

Gah!
I'm sorry I won't apologize for the destruction. That's an acceptable rookie mistake for a native English speaker.
I've been learning the language for some months now on Duolingo and it's been...sigh. I just don't understand why words have to be male and female. Sexism is just everywhere
It was fun understanding some of the sentences you wrote in French, though. It lets me know my lessons are not in vain.

I'll try again.

Tu es genial

Coolabbie:
Oh most of us understand but it's a battle of egos. It doesn't help that there is also a massive indoctrination going on.

This site was never this bad; the toxicity was usually contained to the politics section. This section was primarily for lighthearted banters and flirtings. That was until a Zimbabwean baby daddy arrived with his redpill ideology to 'free men' from their chains. Imagine Nigerian men believing they are victims of women! This same Nigeria that a man can throw out his wife of 30years from "his house" with nothing and no one blinks an eye.

You've been around long enough so you must have known about the NL pageants that used to be a massive buzz around here. I shudder to think of the dehumanization those women would be subjected to if it were to happen today.
The site is fast turning into a sausage fest and I think they prefer it that way.

Anyway, they can bark and vent online about how we should be like their mothers; we've allowed them that space. It won't stop the already changing tide.
They also know the tide is turning which is why the screeching is at an all-time high.



Gah!
I'm sorry I won't apologize for the destruction. That's an acceptable rookie mistake for a native English speaker.
I've been learning the language for some months now on Duolingo and it's been...sigh. I just don't understand why words have to be male and female. Sexism is just everywhere
It was fun understanding some of the sentences you wrote in French, though. It lets me know my lessons are not in vain.

I'll try again.

Tu es genial

I totally agree with your submission.

A white friend of mine said to me, "this is not to undermine whatever challenges black people are facing, but I don't really see this racism. I have some black people as colleagues and many of my friends are blacks". For such a white guy in North America whose parents immigrated from France, it's not like racism wasn't glaring enough, but in his view, the present status was normal cause that's the norm he was born into. It took a long conversation to educate him. And that was possible cause we were both willing to have that conversation with an open mind. In my opinion, that open mindedness is what is missing here.


On a lighter note, your French is not bad for someone learning with an app. Trust me, some people have lived in Montréal for many years and still can't speak the language.

Merci !

McProspero:
I am a programmer. A nerd,. I create games and am a tech enthusiast but I don't know why I fail to get a girls attention. Help. What do I do. I need a lover

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1. Olodo oshi
2. Read "Rational Male "by Rollo Tomassi to understand women before even opening your mouth to them.
3. Practice! Practice! Practice!