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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Onarabu: 1:29pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

upgrade myself?
so to you am not upgraded enough? because am an Ssce holder.
please bro this discriminations needs to stop.
Bro, it's not discrimination rather,they're saving you future frustration!
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Guyman02: 1:30pm On Oct 19, 2021
ityP:




There's nothing upgrading about naija's education system. Na just certificate abeg
Every new knowledge is upgrading yourself, did you see where I mentioned getting patronage that boosted my business by going to part time school and building up a new network?

Why do think rich semi illiterate Igbo businessmen go to Oxford, China, America for executive certificates, it's to boost their knowledge and confidence and get new exposure. They come back after 1 month with executive MBA certificates and place it strategically in their offices and boasting of schooling abroad. E get why?

That's another form of upgrading, you will surely gain a new knowledge, it's not about certificate, I do respectfully educate my lecturers with my field knowledge during lectures and they love it because they are mostly working in the classroom

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Abbeyworld: 1:30pm On Oct 19, 2021
Newboss:


He doesn't need the knowledge na. When we start to dey reason for this country?

He has made money. That's the goal. He can learn anything he wants to learn through Google. Abi he also need degree to use Google?

This thread dey vex me Baba no be only you abeg, as in my stomach is rumbling as I read through comments here.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by shantti(m): 1:31pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

Bro, u are not upgrading urself for her, you are upgrading yourself for yourself. Let her go. There are adult programmes you can run in a year or two to get a bsc.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by tarantino1: 1:34pm On Oct 19, 2021
mibrims:

Bro try and upgrade if you can, part time will fit you because of your business, your next generation deserves better, stop being proud of illiteracy, i guess you are thinking of marrying someone with Ssce too? White man this white man that, you attend Sunday service and also have plans for a white wedding? Age is jst a number oga..
my wife’s family will never give out their daughter’s hand in marriage to an Ssce holder
I always advise pple marry their levels
E get why

Define illiteracy?
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Burgerlomo: 1:35pm On Oct 19, 2021
Samcent:

Upgrading his educational level is good, but he should not upgrade just because he wants to please the in-laws to be.
What if after upgrading, they come up with other criteria; maybe he must be a car and a house owner.

The girl's parents are more concerned with their ego than the happiness of their daughter.

Op, if you so love your babe you can make that sacrifice for her. However, just pray that this will be the last of demands from her parents even after the wedding.

Well said bro or sis. cool

Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Godbless3(m): 1:38pm On Oct 19, 2021
Stop crying and wake up. That girl don't even want to marry you in the 1st place and she wasn't ready to let the cat out knowing fully well she has been benefactor of your riches.
She knew you're ssce holder but your cash was ok.
You mate her parent on sunday for the 1st time, you let your intention known, and left, on monday your gf call you that she wants to come over and she did. She openly tell you that her brother and mother is against the union just because you're ssce holder only and she didn't protest about her choice to her parents, atleast try over a week to convince her family but she spew it to you and you belief that shit.
Bros the signs are written all over.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by 0m0nnakoda: 1:38pm On Oct 19, 2021
mibrims:

Bro try and upgrade if you can, part time will fit you because of your business, your next generation deserves better, stop being proud of illiteracy, i guess you are thinking of marrying someone with Ssce too? White man this white man that, you attend Sunday service and also have plans for a white wedding? Age is jst a number oga..
my wife’s family will never give out their daughter’s hand in marriage to an Ssce holder
I always advise pple marry their levels
E get why
Do you know the meaning of illiteracy?
There are too many opinionated ignoramuses around
Holding very strong and ignorant opinions
Some people will come here to tell us that a person who went to university to study medicine is "educated", a very unfortunate illusion
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Spherical77(m): 1:39pm On Oct 19, 2021
0m0nnakoda:


Sir did you attend university ? It does not show from your writing
Can you put up what he wrote? You are asking if he attended university? No, he attended Monotechnic wink

Mumuni grin
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Benzemma(m): 1:39pm On Oct 19, 2021
The family, including the girl didn't like you, if not they wouldn't have given that as a reason for you not to marry their daughter. Even the girl wouldn't have agreed with them, as her family is not supposed to make choice of whom to love for her.
And again, if you are hurt by their downgrade on you, then you have rejected yourself just the way they have rejected you. So my advice to you is to forget everything about the girl and her family, if she is mean with you, she should challenge her family and let them know that you are her choice. Do not let her put pressure on her family and marry you out of pity, cos any time you had issue with her, she will use it to insult you. Do not let someone's "definition of your self, to define your life." If you are doing well in business and you take because of this and look for way to further, God forbid if the business falls and you are broke, the people will say, you are not capable financially to take care of their daughter.
Lock up and look for another person that their parents will accept you for whom you are and not what you are. That is love for you!

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by WaffenSS(m): 1:40pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.

They're obviously a greedy and needy family.

They want their daughter to be their pension plan.

Avoid them.


No one needs paper certificates to do well.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by sammirano3: 1:40pm On Oct 19, 2021
Op. Whether you like it or not the family's decision is final. I stand by such decision. Why would i strife to make my daughter well read for her to settle with one pot belly ssce holder who thinks cause he understands and speak English is enough. Money is inconsequential in this instance. Frankly, you are like a liability to the young woman. Worse off you are unwilling to work for what you want.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by PrinceGallant: 1:41pm On Oct 19, 2021
They rejected you because your supposed well-to-do is not impressive to them. Had you gone with a car, and given them cash, such unfortunate reason would not have emerged. Who did education help? Most graduates are now looking for businesses to venture into.

And your wife, she has been convinced, so I advise you think of other way.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Elporo(m): 1:43pm On Oct 19, 2021
tarantino1:


Walk into a random department (with the exception of medicine courses) and you'll probably be able to bribe your way out and graduate with a second class upper.

.

Na money e no get. Shikena grin
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by faceland: 1:43pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.

Please ignore these jokers. You can read and write and is self sufficient. That all. You can go back to school solely for sentimental reasons. Higher Education in the shithole called Nigeria is overrated. There are many smart graduates but they are even more dull graduates.

It's her families complex, it should not affect you.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by BigDawsNet: 1:43pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:
Am hurt, 4 years relationship about to go down the drain.first time meeting her parents was last week Sunday, they did welcome me with a smiling face.
After all the introductions and making my intentions known to them I like to marry their daughter.

my girlfriend called me on phone yesterday that she's coming over, which she did and start saying that her elder bro and her mum is kicking against our marriage. i asked why? she said because am an Ssce holder.

yes I might be an Ssce holder, but am self employed doing well for myself (I noi de beg to chop) isn't that enough.

can't an Ssce holder marries a bsc, msc or a phd holder.
why the discrimination towards a brother because of a white man education?
because of a white sheet of paper.


I'm sorry you are going through all this
But it's obvious you not an illiterate and can even speak better English...

Getting a degree now is like telling your people's wife to wait for the next 4years ....

Why don't you try and get some skills online..
The skills can come with a Certification...

Duration is around 2,3_4 weeks
You can get certified from School across the UK and some around the world...

Atleast the school name will appear in the certificate giving to you!...

Not sure if I'm making Sense but if it's gonna work...I don't know...

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Oracleforce: 1:43pm On Oct 19, 2021
Every family wants an already-made son or daughter-in-law...
I know that their daughter might as well be unemployed or wayward or have one defect or the other... This is a story for another day...
What happens if the family accepts you and promises to train you as their son to the university....

Naija marriage Nah scam...everyone one to marry because of the prospect not because of love or God anymore...

My brother, a similar story was shared on this platform some years ago, and the guy took up the challenge and went back to school...now, the guy is rich...he is also a master's degree holder and become the envy of his ex-girl family member....

Take up the challenge and educate yourselves...her parent is afraid of giving their daughter to an uncultured and unrefined school cert holder...education brightens you up...go back to school or go and marry your ssce level

Shekinah

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by shawnquest: 1:43pm On Oct 19, 2021
My brother I can’t blame the parents. Nigeria is tough and If you can’t take care of her or your home cause of Financial constraints. Then you’ve failed. So upgrade. I for instance can’t marry or date a broke lady. Everyone has to support the family to grow.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by CharlesSammy: 1:47pm On Oct 19, 2021
That's really harsh though, you speak good English and I personally don't see any need of going to school in Nigeria if one is making Cool money, so you can call it a day and call off the relationship you've already gone too far in life to be doing things in other to please someone or for them to clap for you. If they're demanding for qualification before marriage then when your wife is pregnant they will definitely be demanding for a particular gender during birth undecided

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by MacANDIES: 1:47pm On Oct 19, 2021
dahmie2013:

My brother, seeking knowledge has nothing to do with age. This attitude is not the best. I still advise you go to school and upgrade yourself.


You seriously need to stop this crap you're saying. A businessman doing well in his business should go and upgrade himself for what again I ask?
Is he going to look for a white collar job?
Nawaoo
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by faceland: 1:47pm On Oct 19, 2021
PrinceGallant:
They rejected you because your supposed well-to-do is not impressive to them. Had you gone with a car, and given them cash, such unfortunate reason would not have emerged. Who did education help? Most graduates are now looking for businesses to venture into.

And your wife, she has been convinced, so I advise you think of other way.

The One that frustrated me was during graduation, the VC of a Federal University was advising graduates to learn "handwork"!

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Starzo: 1:47pm On Oct 19, 2021
KillingIsFun:
The syntactic and grammatical quality of his written English is nowhere near as good as he thinks it is. It may be better than others with his level of education, but it lacks the degree of fluency associated with a good University education.

Keep kwayet. Nor b same University wey all of us go??.. University wey many dunce dey graduate with 2.1. Have u not seen University 2.1 graduates that can't spell properly?. And btw, knowing how to speak/write proper English does not determine someone's level of intelligence. Engineering students are not that good in written English cuz they mainly deal with calculations and structural problem solving but we all know they're among the most intelligent.
Knowing how to speak/write good English does not mean someone is intelligent. Na this kind of thinking dey make mumu naija politicians give position to dullards just cuz they studied abroad and have an American/British accent. At the end of the day they prove to be highly inefficient.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TheOldGods: 1:47pm On Oct 19, 2021
ityP:




How many Nigerian scientists for naija don find cure to malaria and other drugs? Oga, I'm a scientist and I tell you categorically, university for naija na confirmed scam. Na just opportunity to get job the degree dey for. If I get Obi Cubana money, if I go university, make my leg break

Which of the scientist are you categorized on? Cause, you talk about covid, did you remember when Ebola was in Nigeria, if not for the same scientist who managed it, you for don die by now. Or the doctor who took your mum and they delivered you, maybe a quack with only ssce could have delivered to, by now your mum intestines will be on the floor. Just think, don't comment for commenting sake.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by jimter44(m): 1:48pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

getting married to a woman can't motivate me to upgrade my educational background.
already told her it's over so be it, she's the one shedding tears over here.

If it's over! Why do you come here to rant.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 1:48pm On Oct 19, 2021
PrimadonnaO:
They may never respect you.

Just move on.

Especially since your babe couldn't even defend you.

She's been dating you all these while and she knew your educational background.

That crying she's doing is mere theatrics.

GraciousGod190, take the advice of this person I quoted for your own good. As a female myself, I can tell you that she's 100% right.

If she really wanted you, nothing in this world would make her reveal to her family that you have only SSCE, even if a gun was pointed to her head. Forget the tears she's shedding.

The person I'm in love with is an ND holder. I did not only tell my mum that he has BSc, also lied about his job/financial status. I can't let my family or anyone else for that matter look down or judge him. Besides, it's nobody's business.

So, your girl is either playing you or is too childish to handle such matters.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Spherical77(m): 1:48pm On Oct 19, 2021
0m0nnakoda:
Do you know the meaning of illiteracy?
There are too many opinionated ignoramuses around
Holding very strong and ignorant opinions
Some people will come here to tell us that a person who went to university to study medicine is "educated", a very unfortunate illusion
The Op is not illiterate but they ain't on the same page in terms of formal education

Marrying your level is very key in this life trust me. If not for anything, at least for peace of mind

I'm very sure there are girls that would be admiring the Op around. He's probably not giving them attention mainly because they aren't educated

Some Men are like that, once they had very little or no education. They'd want to marry an educated lady

Let him give those girls chance and go for anyone of them since he already said there's no crime for a school cert holder to marry a graduate

Then it would be an honour, if he go for any of those girls with either no formal education or had same school cert

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by trevorhorace(m): 1:50pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

Bro you are good enough. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. The family members are small minded people for judging their daughter's suitor by his academic qualification and not by personal qualities and character.
They don't deserve you. I suggest you try some more in convincing the father of the lady that you love his daughter and you would make her happy, and that doesn't require a degree. If they insist, you heal and move on because if you still by chance get married to her, you may get frustrated by your in-laws.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by TheOldGods: 1:50pm On Oct 19, 2021
ityP:




LoL. Oga, degree no be upgrade.... Even your president no get certificate, but you may never reach where the dude don reach... Be calming down
did you see me mention degree as an upgrade or criteria to be successful? Your so called president, how is he ruling the economy. Well both of us can beat our chest and say, Goodluck Jonathan with certificate in animal husbandry ruled this country better, 20* better than this dullard, who doesn't obey human right, which he should have learnt in the uni. with only ssce ha doing. Of course university is not knowledge, we know that, however, it exposes you to catalogue of experience.



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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Benzemma(m): 1:50pm On Oct 19, 2021
GraciousGod190:

no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

As if you have read my comment before you reply this. You just summarize everything am trying to let you know in my comment section down the thread.
You are indeed a wise person. Do not inconvenience yourself to meet the taste of people that will still be a responsibility to you.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Blekz: 1:51pm On Oct 19, 2021
You go school and you cannot feed ur self not to talk of thinking of getting married pls what is the use �‍♀️Love supersede this factor mentioned
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Sukkyy2010: 1:54pm On Oct 19, 2021
muykem:
You can go back to school. I can't allow my daughter to marry illiterate even if he's a billionaire.

If I may ask, could you please tell me the definition of illiterate that you mentioned?

No doubt your intuition for that word "illiterate" is of the literally meaning you are basically thought to know in school thats why you only have one side meaning of the word. The fact is everyone are illiterate irrespective your educational qualification as long you're having a specialized knowledge based on the specific theory you opt to study in school. so therefore, you can only become literate of the knowledge you desire to seek in life and become illiterate to those other theory you're ignorant of.

According to the Op, he said he's a business man which mean he had seek knowledge about the business he's into and that had qualified him to become a literate peraon of such knowledge regarding the business of which you an I might be illiterate to.

Now my point, everybody is illiterate and literate to one theory or another.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 1:54pm On Oct 19, 2021
Spherical77:
The Op is not illiterate but they ain't on the same page in terms of formal education

Marrying your level is very key in this life trust me. If not for anything, at least for peace of mind

Then it would be an honour, if he go for any of those girls with either no formal education or had same school cert

Hahahaha you're mean. But then again, you're right. I know why I said you're right and why I know you're right.

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