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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 7:53am On Oct 20, 2021
McLizbae:
All I know is that the God I serve will never let my daughter settle with a man she's higher than financially, educationally and intellectually.

What if she becomes 'higher' in marriage?

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 7:57am On Oct 20, 2021
Vision101:
@pocohantas



When I talk, one redpiller will start quoting me with terrible English.

Despite the fact that our mothers married early, if you come for their 20yrs old daughters in 2021, they will pursue you! Affliction shall not rise a second time. They will tell you to allow her to graduate. Next they’ll tell you to allow her to serve. Then they will tell you to allow her to get a job. All this is to buy time!

The major exception is if you both are relatively young or they are so broke they need you to elevate. If not, they will look out for their daughter because the kind of men you would meet when you are working in KPMG is different from the ones you meet as a broke undergraduate.


If you are a man above 34, you must bring more to the table. If you want a very young educated girl from a middle class home, you must make her very comfortable. She can’t be trekking under hot sun and jumping Obalende bus with a man that conductors would mistake for her uncle/father.



@me
Poco... I agree with you totally on this. Education na scam na when you no get am. A lot of educated young ladies that married illiterate or semi-illiterate men whether rich or average know what they are missing. They don't just flow no matter the pretence.

When she is with the man in a restaurant and he shouts "I will eat menu like you" and the whole people turns to her and her husband that's when she will know the difference between abakaliki rice and foreign rice.



Many educated illiterates on this thread. So, after your secondary school, you didn't know what menu is abi? Na for uni dem start to teach you English? How do seemingly educated persons look at a secondarians as illiterates? Like how? I was already very good in speaking and writing English before I entered the university. And if you've been to the university yourself, you of all people should know they don't teach English there. Even GST 101 didn't go half deep into what I learnt in secondary school. In fact, that class was so unnecessary, I barely attended. As someone who've been to the university, I can authoritatively tell you SCHOOL NA SCAM. The only reason I dey enter school na to use the degree find work. If I see something way better to generate income later, my certificate would be totally useless. I know many graduates who can't speak good English sef. Why? Their educational foundation was faulty. You only need primary school and secondary school education to be able to speak good and sweet English. If you think otherwise, you're more likely an illiterate yourself angry

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NoToPile: 7:57am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


They have started. Hypocrites. Hypocrites that have never told a lie. I can say anything l like to anyone as long as I'm not hurting anyone in the process. Nobody lives my life for me.

Now take note, if I have to lie to protect the interest of my loved one, I will again, again and again.


Your stand is noted

But you have not yet answered my question

Would he lie to his parents about your own status?

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:01am On Oct 20, 2021
NigeriaIsGreat:
You will still continue telling tales of lies, that's the truth smiley

You've started with lies already. You will lie yourself to marriage. No Jupiter can tell me you won't continue with that. It's in your blood already

I know your type, una dey carry man put for head. Yoruba girls wey dey put love above everything, they can marry anything, just anything

Na love dey shark you wink Madam love in Tokyo smiley No worry, you go still get sense wink continue giving reasons why is good to be telling lies especially when it comes to marriage

May God not give us daughters that would take us for a fool because of a man. May God also give parents the wisdom to detect every lies their daughters will tell just to favour a man


The babe shock me aswear

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:03am On Oct 20, 2021
NigeriaIsGreat:
This is what you know how to do best

1. Carry man put for head a.k.a love wantiti grin
2. Lied and decieve your parents about a man
3. Always doing what a man tells you

Do you know what? Those of our parents and senior omes who did exactly or similar like you. Putting man on their head always regret it. That's the fact

Those men usually fail them at the end. You can go and ask. Ask from your elder ones. Do you know Why? Because they are not supposed to marry him at first, but they're so foolish enough to be blinded by his dick and senseless obsession as someone rightly said, that you lots call love

Dick and love that you can always get elsewhere

That isn't love but foolishness. Those men will never bend any rules for you in their family. Those men will never cover up for your short comings to their friends and family

I still don't know what is wrong with some girls. Especially Yoruba girls. Didn't you read NPTJ post about his sister on family thread? Na your Yoruba sister like you. She was so stupid and foolish to have be lying like you and covering up for the man

Look at where she is today.

I don't pity you honestly. Na una parents i dey pity

Having raising una up one idiot will come and use deceit to take them away. Parents make una shine una eyes o na mumu daughters some of una dey raise cheesy

Btw, yes you will continue lying in your marriage. You will be telling your parents and family members good good things about your husband even though it's all lies. You've started the lies already. You will forever continue. I know your type so you don't have to say anything

The babe no get sense aswear
grin grin

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 8:05am On Oct 20, 2021
NigeriaIsGreat:
This is what you know how to do best


Jeezuz, see epistle. This werey needs to check into an asylum. You're just a pained, disgusting idiot jare. May you heal from whatever illness you're suffering from.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 8:06am On Oct 20, 2021
ityP:


The babe no get sense aswear
grin grin

Your mother doesn't have sense.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:07am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:


He can even do NOUN that is online.



Because he wan marry babe? grin
You people are funny
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 8:07am On Oct 20, 2021
Mayeldah:
Baba find a woman that will love you for who you are.

for the records, what is she saying? Can't she convince her family on this? It is her life not theirs.

What matters is the money not the qualification. a lot of PHD holderss are poor in Nigeria today.

Your writing skill is already good enough.

Some families know that it is more than money.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Nobody: 8:07am On Oct 20, 2021
NoToPile:


Your stand is noted

But you have not yet answered my question

Would he lie to his parents about your own status?

You can ask him yourself since you're really bothered and can't sleep at night.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 8:08am On Oct 20, 2021
ityP:




Because he wan marry babe? grin
You people are funny

Would the school retrieve the certificate after his marriage?

Would the knowledge he gained (which can expand his business) be lost on his wedding night? undecided

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:13am On Oct 20, 2021
NaBanga:


Would you want your highly educated daughter to marry a dog breeder? What do you they have to discuss? Money is very important but it's not everything. Unless the dog breeder has Buhari level money, help your child avoid disappointment later.



They're married and they seem very happy together. For your mind now, if I marry babe wey go uni too, we go dey discuss better abi? LoL. We will be talking about uni days cheesy grin.... You people should stop deceiving yourselves. I dated a fellow uni student and we just didn't flow as much. My ex sef wey be secondarian, we flowed more. She run marry, if not, I for don dey think marriage. I know many couples who are like these ones and they're living happy. Make una dey segregate dey go
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:18am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:


What if she becomes 'higher' in marriage?


Good question. I await his answer
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:20am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


Your mother doesn't have sense.


Aswear she get sense pass you and your mama. Most likely, na your mumu mama teach you to lie. She probably lied to her own parents about your dad grin.... Generational foolishness

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 8:24am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


GraciousGod190, take the advice of this person I quoted for your own good. As a female myself, I can tell you that she's 100% right.

If she really wanted you, nothing in this world would make her reveal to her family that you have only SSCE, even if a gun was pointed to her head. Forget the tears she's shedding.

The person I'm in love with is an ND holder. I did not only tell my mum that he has BSc, also lied about his job/financial status. I can't let my family or anyone else for that matter look down or judge him. Besides, it's nobody's business.

So, your girl is either playing you or is too childish to handle such matters.
@bold:

Interesting.
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:26am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:


Would the school retrieve the certificate after his marriage?

Would the knowledge he gained (which can expand his business) be lost on his wedding night? undecided



Which knowledge? Cram and pour? Lmao. I've been there abeg. If I show you my transcript, you go fear. But all na wash. Nothing like knowledge. We cram, we write exams, we pass. We're hailed as good students and those wey even sabi sef, na Dem dey fail shocked.

This dude has never thought of furthering his education, but because one family said their daughter won't marry a secondarian, he should now run to school, so that he will marry ONE girl Out of the billions of ladies in the world Lmao.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:28am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:

@bold:

Interesting.


E shock you abi grin
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NigeriaIsGreat: 8:28am On Oct 20, 2021
ityP:



The babe shock me aswear
I'm not surprised anyway. There are foolish girls like her out there who would always dance to the tune of their boyfriend and husband. If she can boldly lie about his level of education to her parents. Then trust me she'd forever lie for anything just to make him look good to her family

Last last na premium tears dey always end am wink

They would find it difficult going back to their parents and family because of shame. Whatever you start with lies especially relationship, friendship, marriage don't always end well

I pity her parents honestly

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by ityP(m): 8:29am On Oct 20, 2021
NigeriaIsGreat:
I'm not surprised anyway. There are foolish girls like her out there who would always dance to the tune of their boyfriend and husband. If she can boldly lie about his level of education to her parents. Then trust me she'd forever lie for anything just to make him look good to her family

Last last na premium tears dey always end am wink

They would find it difficult going back to their parents and family because of shame. Whatever you start with lies especially relationship, friendship, marriage don't always end well

I pity her parents honestly


Beautifully put tbh

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 8:30am On Oct 20, 2021
This thread is the reason why people should marry their social class.

I have read some posts and I am like waow!

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by bukatyne(f): 8:31am On Oct 20, 2021
ityP:



E shock you abi grin

As in shocked

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NigeriaIsGreat: 8:41am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


Jeezuz, see epistle. This werey needs to check into an asylum. You're just a pained, disgusting idiot jare. May you heal from whatever illness you're suffering from.
Agboko lori grin grin

You go get sense no worry wink

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NoToPile: 8:46am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


You can ask him yourself since you're really bothered and can't sleep at night.

Loool just like I thought .... no response


Have a lovely day miss
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by pocohantas(f): 8:47am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:

@bold:

Interesting.

grin grin grin grin grin

bukatyne:


grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

I actually believe love is enough.

After strategy that is
....

Most people can't make a proper assessment of themselves to know what they truly weigh in the sexual market and market of life generally so they keep stretching to reach above their level.

I will add that to my notes. Love after strategy. ;

Not only proper assessment, but a honest one. I was having this conversation with my friend yesterday. I know someone battling with same issue and keeps wondering why breakfast has become the other of the day. cheesy

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by GraciousGod190: 8:49am On Oct 20, 2021
bukatyne:


Hmmmmmm.

The relationship is not worth a lot to you either.

Look for someone who doesn't mind an SSCE holder.


who told you am looking?
since yesterday she's threatening to commit suicide, when I told her we should move on, because am no longer interested in it.

she told me she has spoken with her uncle to talk with her parents, I told her blantly am no longer interested.since she has a master degree let her go get someone of same educational background. that's what her parents want.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by pocohantas(f): 8:49am On Oct 20, 2021
NigeriaIsGreat:
I'm not surprised anyway. There are foolish girls like her out there who would always dance to the tune of their boyfriend and husband. If she can boldly lie about his level of education to her parents. Then trust me she'd forever lie for anything just to make him look good to her family

Last last na premium tears dey always end am wink

They would find it difficult going back to their parents and family because of shame. Whatever you start with lies especially relationship, friendship, marriage don't always end well

I pity her parents honestly

As harsh as this is, it is the sad reality.

No woman, I mean, no NIGERIAN woman going into a marriage, should ever joke with the support of her family. You need it 100% and you must get it with clean hands.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NoToPile: 8:50am On Oct 20, 2021
pocohantas:


As harsh as this is, it is the sad reality.

No woman, I mean, no NIGERIAN woman, should ever joke with the support of her family. You need it 100% and you must get it with clean hands.


Thank you oooo.

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NYSC17(f): 8:56am On Oct 20, 2021
GraciousGod190:


who told you am looking?
since yesterday she's threatening to commit suicide, when I told her we should move on, because am no longer interested in it.

she told me she has spoken with her uncle to talk with her parents, I told her blantly am no longer interested.since she has a master degree let her go get someone of same educational background. that's what her parents want.
Move on Mr man. She's just chasing clout. She can never attempt killing herself for you. Are you a billionaire or what? Abi you are that educated that she can't find replacement forever?

Go and marry your level simple

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by crackhaus: 8:58am On Oct 20, 2021
NoToPile:

Your stand is noted

But you have not yet answered my question

Would he lie to his parents about your own status?
Does it matter if he would/could?

If she says she can lie to her parents about his status, the only problem there should be the lying/deceit on her part, not whether her partner can do the same. cheesy

Unless you have another motive sha...
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NoToPile: 9:01am On Oct 20, 2021
crackhaus:

Does it matter if he would/could?

If she says she can lie to her parents about his status, the only problem there should be the lying/deceit on her part, not whether her partner can do the same. cheesy

Unless you have another motive sha...

Well the main issue is the deceit

Also I needed to confirm something grin grin grin

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Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by NYSC17(f): 9:04am On Oct 20, 2021
toren:


GraciousGod190, take the advice of this person I quoted for your own good. As a female myself, I can tell you that she's 100% right.

If she really wanted you, nothing in this world would make her reveal to her family that you have only SSCE, even if a gun was pointed to her head. Forget the tears she's shedding.

The person I'm in love with is an ND holder. I did not only tell my mum that he has BSc, also lied about his job/financial status. I can't let my family or anyone else for that matter look down or judge him. Besides, it's nobody's business.

So, your girl is either playing you or is too childish to handle such matters.
You are a shameless girl. You lied to your parents about a man?

Are you that foolish that you don't know that your parents and family are your first love? Are you mad or what?

Foolish Yoruba girl disgracing some sensible Yoruba girls. If you can lie to your parents and family about your foolish man level of education then i don't need anybody to tell me that you would continue lying bigger bigger lies

I wish i could meet you in person. Let me strangle that miserable life off you. You don't deserve to live because you are a waste products. Shameless being

You are minus one already
Re: Her Family Says I Can't Marry Her Because I'm An SSCE Holder by Otunla236: 9:07am On Oct 20, 2021
You are right sir and I understand you very well and that is the why I said, he can also apply for part-time school and continue with business and settle down for family also. We all know that, nothing like business or investment likewise what you said and especially in Nigeria...Even me with degree, I am not better than him or doing good than him. But, he can need school certificate tomorrow, than millions of graduate � in Nigeria. That is the why, I said what I said...And not because I even better than him.
ityP:



Wash. Degrees in naija is useless, believe me. The only use of a degree is to get a job. If you already have a well paying, secured job, forget about school and make more money. Train your kids in university if you so wish after. Advising a 36 year old man that has a thriving business to go to uni, a man who from all indications has no interest in getting a degree, instead of advising him to get married ASAP and father kids is a very very poor advice. We can do better. I see so many of my lecturers and professors and I compare them to friends of mine who got into crypto early and frankly, school feels like scam nowadays. That money he wants to waste in school, he should use it to buy Bitcoin. Bitcoin would be worth a fortune 10 years from now and his kids would thank daddy for being wise

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