For those who followed my previous post, i'm sad to let you know that i've finally conducted a DNA test On my two children & discovered that the first child is not mine. This has confirmed my years of suspicion. You really need to see how dizzy i became immediately i read the result, God. Thank God for the doctor who spoke to me & calmed me down. Please guys i need advice on how to go about it, should i confront my wife first or go straight to her parent? I'm certainly ending the marriage, but i must confess that i feel deep pity and sympathy for the boy as i understand it is not his fault. But then i can't continue taking care of another man's child when he is still alive enjoying life. I know the psychological torture i passed through all this years. Honestly she is wicked for doing this to me.

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Infidelity is becoming something these days . But I would advise that you call a meeting and confront both parties with the results. That way, all issues regarding the marriage and the upbringing of the children can be settled amicably without psychologically hurting the children in the long run . Once again , my sincere apologies

Lord deliver us from such women

Ok

Ammishaddai:
Infidelity is becoming something these days . But I would advise that you call a meeting and confront both parties with the results. That way, all issues regarding the marriage and the upbringing of the children can be settled amicably without of psychologically hurting the children in the long run . Once again , my sincere apologies

you're right sir, but i pity the parent as they both have high BP, what if something happens to them on hearing this. But on a second thougit she never considered me when she did this to me. You need to see how they were busy disturbing me & even coming to my house when i got her pregnant.

DNA tests should be made mandatory the moment a child is born.

This will save us from pathetic stories like this.

Whatever decision you make, consider how it will affect your kids.

The father of the first child must be grossly irresponsible for her to dump the pregnancy on you.

I only pity the innocent kids, and you should too. This brouhaha is going to deprive them of a normal childhood.

Blood is not the only thing that makes people family.

The first and second is yours, as long as they are carrying your name, and have been under your responsibility.

Divorce the woman, but please take care of the kids. Get them a nanny if that's what it takes.

Unless in a situation where the other dude is found and he's ready to take responsibility.

Please follow this with wisdom.

Meektunz:
you're right sir, but i pity the parent as they both have high BP, what if something happens to them on hearing this. But on a second thougit she never considered me when she did this to me. You need to see how they were busy disturbing me & even coming to my house when i got her pregnant.

...but her infidelity has liberated you. And as it stands , you don't need to dwell on the past. So make your life easier and tell her people that she was unfaithful , and you are no longer interested in the marriage. Simple

HenryDion:
DNA tests should be made mandatory the moment a child is born.

This will save us from pathetic stories like this.

Whatever decision you make, consider how it will affect your kids.

The father of the first child must be grossly irresponsible for her to dump the pregnancy on you.

I only pity the innocent kids, and you should too. This brouhaha is going to deprive them of a normal childhood.

Blood is not the only thing that makes people family.

The first and second is yours, as long as they are carrying your name, and have been under your responsibility.

Divorce the woman, but please take care of the kids. Get them a nanny if that's what it takes.

Unless in a situation where the other dude is found and he's ready to take responsibility.

Please follow this with wisdom.

most sincerely you spoke with wisdom sir. To be honest with u, i still love the boy but i hate the mum for this. I cant continue with the marriage at all.

One of the biggest concern is what will i tell people after the divorce. You know people will ask what happened. This is really a shame to me.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

Bad Women spoiling other good women's name

Meektunz:
For those who followed my previous post, i'm sad to let you know that i've finally conducted a DNA test On my two children & discovered that the first child is not mine. This has confirmed my years of suspicion. You really need to see how dizzy i became immediately i read the result, God. Thank God for the doctor who spoke to me & calmed me down. Please guys i need advice on how to go about it, should i confront my wife first or go straight to her parent? I'm certainly ending the marriage, but i must confess that i feel deep pity and sympathy for the boy as i understand it is not his fault. But then i can't continue taking care of another man's child when he is still alive enjoying life. I know the psychological torture i passed through all this years. Honestly she is wicked for doing this to me.

Sorry bro, i can imagine the pain you are going through right now. But shit happens, you gat to move.

Am sure you've already bonded with the kid, and as such trying to release him will cause all parties involved a great deal of heartache, keep him and love him as your own, how about pple that adopt kids ?

I know you're hurting man, very few things puncture a man's ego as infidelity from a woman you've sacrificed a lot for, that has got to hurt !

But you're the man and 90% of what will go down, will depend on you
I cant tell you what to do with your cheating, thieving and lying wife though cos that my friend is something you have to react to with much sensitivity

Meektunz:
For those who followed my previous post, i'm sad to let you know that i've finally conducted a DNA test On my two children & discovered that the first child is not mine. This has confirmed my years of suspicion. You really need to see how dizzy i became immediately i read the result, God. Thank God for the doctor who spoke to me & calmed me down. Please guys i need advice on how to go about it, should i confront my wife first or go straight to her parent? I'm certainly ending the marriage, but i must confess that i feel deep pity and sympathy for the boy as i understand it is not his fault. But then i can't continue taking care of another man's child when he is still alive enjoying life. I know the psychological torture i passed through all this years. Honestly she is wicked for doing this to me.

Not really a nice experience!

But if i may ask, how much did you conduct the test and which clinic?

miccoy:

Not really a nice experience!
But if i may ask, how much did you conduct the test and which clinic?

Blue gate medicals, Abuja

We've come to embrace it. The future is DNA

Creativeace:
Am sure you've already bonded with the kid, and as such trying to release him will cause all parties involved a great deal of heartache, keep him and love him as your own, how about pple that adopt kids ?

I know you're hurting man, very few things puncture a man's ego as infidelity from a woman you've sacrificed a lot for, that has got to hurt !

But you're the man and 90% of what will go down, will depend on you
I cant tell you what to do with your cheating, thieving and lying wife though cos that my friend is something you have to react to with much sensitivity

Thanks alot for your wise words bro... Sincerely i still love the boy regardless &very much ready to cater for him but can never continue with the marriage. I wish you know my pains

Meektunz:
Blue gate medicals, Abuja

What's the cost per child please?

miccoy:


What's the cost per child please?

40k per child. They are all doctors from the US.

That woman you are about to divorce is your backbone,I see that little boy calling you Daddy ! Please think twice before taking any decision.
I know is painful but u still have to reconsider we are all human and no one is perfect talk to wife and settle it amicably.
I see that little boy bringing joy into your househood.

Whoever is asking you to keep the child or the mother is wishing you bad. Kindly do not listen! The boy will always remind you of the mother's infidelity and the fact that they had to force you to carry the responsibility of another man's child. Send them away ASAP and give yourself peace of mind. Whatever memories and feelings you had for the boy will fade overtime. Concentrate on your own child!

Meektunz:
. Please guys i need advice on how to go about it, should i confront my wife first or go straight to her parent? I'm certainly ending the marriage, but i must confess that i feel deep pity and sympathy for the boy as i understand it is not his fault. But then i can't continue taking care of another man's child when he is still alive enjoying life. I know the psychological torture i passed through all this years. Honestly she is wicked for doing this to me.

Your wife, not her parents, gave you the child, so , why not direct your questions at your wife at this point?

Meektunz:
you're right sir, but i pity the parent as they both have high BP, what if something happens to them on hearing this. But on a second thougit she never considered me when she did this to me. You need to see how they were busy disturbing me & even coming to my house when i got her pregnant.

Do the parents know of what their daughter did?

Abeg, shove your pity inside your pocket and confront your wife, the one you are married to, with your findings. If divorce is what you want, no be your wife you go get am from?

HenryDion:
DNA tests should be made mandatory the moment a child is born.

This will save us from pathetic stories like this.

Whatever decision you make, consider how it will affect your kids.

I actually agree with that as that is also a best solution to problem of overpopulation and child abandonment in Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
I actually agree with that as that is also a best solution to problem of overpopulation and child abandonment in Nigeria.

DNA Tests should not be made mandatory at birth, it would be very easy for results to be manipulated and hospital personnel to be bribed.

Let every smart man devise a way on how to go about it. And for those that have decided to live in ignorance and self-deception, Good Luck!

It's as simple as that.
DNA is the Future.

Meektunz:
you're right sir, but i pity the parent as they both have high BP, what if something happens to them on hearing this. But on a second thougit she never considered me when she did this to me. You need to see how they were busy disturbing me & even coming to my house when i got her pregnant.

OK she committed the infidelity before marriage. She slept with both but hanged the pregnancy on you who was ready to settle down. I don't understand how people get deeply intimate with more than one person though. See you'll have to talk to her and not the parents

That is the height of all wickedness. I recommend you first of all publicly disgrace and humiliate her for such wicked act.
Pretend as though nothing happened. Wait for a heavy rainfall, pack all her belongings and throw into the rain and wait for neighbours intervention. Do not say a word if anybody approaches you just show a copy of the DNA test result.

I repeat, do not explain anything to anybody. Not even her parents.

Meektunz:
you're right sir, but i pity the parent as they both have high BP, what if something happens to them on hearing this. But on a second thougit she never considered me when she did this to me. You need to see how they were busy disturbing me & even coming to my house when i got her pregnant.

Don't pity anyone.

PrimeWatermark:

DNA Tests should not be made mandatory at birth, it would be very easy for results to be manipulated and hospital personnel to be bribed.

Let every smart man devise a way on how to go about it. And for those that have decided to live in ignorance and self-deception, Good Luck!

It's as simple as that.
DNA is the Future.

Not if we can get our acts together and do it like it is done in other countries. At this point, it is essential in helping fight both overpopulation and crime in that country. By requiring dna tests per birth - mother's dna should also be in system - we device a way fo track down every other offspring fathered/birthed by each donor in the system.

With over 10 million homeless children out there, a burden which they nation struggles immensely to bear, what better way to locate the parents of these children and force them to pay for their upkeep or take full responsibility.

Such a system in place will not only aid in curbing the population problem but force a sharp decrease in paternity fraud cases, and in increase in social responsibility as both men and women are made more responsible for the part they each play during conception.

Just thinking out loud.

Meektunz:
For those who followed my previous post, i'm sad to let you know that i've finally conducted a DNA test On my two children & discovered that the first child is not mine. This has confirmed my years of suspicion. You really need to see how dizzy i became immediately i read the result, God. Thank God for the doctor who spoke to me & calmed me down. Please guys i need advice on how to go about it, should i confront my wife first or go straight to her parent? I'm certainly ending the marriage, but i must confess that i feel deep pity and sympathy for the boy as i understand it is not his fault. But then i can't continue taking care of another man's child when he is still alive enjoying life. I know the psychological torture i passed through all this years. Honestly she is wicked for doing this to me.

They are all wicked, Nigeria women is poisonous , i fear who no fear them

Meektunz:
One of the biggest concern is what will i tell people after the divorce. You know people will ask what happened. This is really a shame to me.

Tell who care to know what happened, don't hide anything because if she's the one in your position now she won't hide anything

Did you guys noticed that no nairaland girl comments on this thread