Simply take permission my brother. There is nothing wrong in been humble in your brothers house. I will be surprised to see my brother cook in my house. It sends wrong message to my wife and of course I will be at the receiving end. Those who don't understand marriage will see nothing wrong with your action. Of course including you.

ImaIma1:


Not entering the kitchen is not the same as denying a person food. You don't have to go to the kitchen for you to eat. They are two different things.

When people visit you, do they have to cook themselves before they eat?

Even if both are working doesn't mean things should be wasted or that anyone should just go into the kitchen indiscriminately. If everyone who comes to visit goes to the kitchen on their own to cook, you'll come back one day and there's nothing to eat.

I'm very free with food. People visit and eat and take away. I send soups to my husband's friends/family. It's not the same as having to enter the kitchen to cook the food without asking.

.... The thing is that as long as most women continue seeing their husbands family members that comes around as visitors and not as families,then this kitchen rubbish will never stop.

A wife and the husband is one and it should be so with their respective relatives.

Are you now saying that your own relatives knows how to handle and manage the food items in the kitchen better than your husband's family?

Make Una forget this power tossle about kitchen.

A commenter said here that anytime he visits her elder sister's house and demand fro food,she tells him to go to the kitchen and get food but doesn't do same to her husband's people.

My question is. When has it become a norm that it's only the people from the husband's side that his wife should demand respect from and not from both sides? Note. Inrespect of the kitchen.

JONNYSPUTE:
.... So what's the difference between cooking only indomie and cooking okro soup in the kitchen?

Will the kitchen stop being kitchen if he cooks another thing?

I think that her annoyance was him cooking it for himself only without caring if others will want to eat. Finish.

Lol.. I don't think at bold was the reason for her anger. Maybe she feels from soup, op will turn her kitchen to "buka" and might want to start dragging the kitchen space with her when she needs to use it without any intrusions.

Mercychen:
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Lol.. I don't think at bold was the reason for her anger. Maybe she feels from soup, op will turn her kitchen to "buka" and might want to start dragging the kitchen space with her when she needs to use it without any intrusions.

.....Odi egwu.

So op go just come person house turn her kitchen to buka?
Make Una take am easy Oo.
This life no hard but na we dey make am like say e hard

JONNYSPUTE:
.....Odi egwu.

So op go just come person house turn her kitchen to buka?
Make Una take am easy Oo.
This life no hard but na we dey make am like say e hard

Not so.
The thing is, since the woman doesn't starve him and serves him whenever she cooks, op has no right to enter the kitchen. He's just an "ocho nga lokwu" who's looking for what the woman would say.

Let him just pipe low until he gets his own apartment. Abi, na for person house he wan come turn oba? .

God bless you for this info
The same way i do tell my niggas that its not right as a bachelor for you to give all the ladies permission to enter your kitchen and cook for you , i mean a lady you just met and all of a sudden she visits you and you give her the freedom to enter your kitchen and cook. Like how well do u know her ? A kitchen is the most sensitive place in a home. Whether married or not, if you're living alone try and guide ur kitchen. No d allow anybody ebter ur kitchen or open ur pot anyhow all in the name of na my friend blah blah blah

godofuck231:
You have done all wrong , no matter how rich she is or educated , in the African context you have broken into her kitchen , without her permission it’s not allowed , even amongst women , it’s a thing of trust , except permitted do not do such it’s seen as treachery, she knows how she has rationed her food stock and poisoning a full family starts from the kitchen or around, she’s accountable for her kitchen and keeping it clean , so as what ever comes out of it , it’s so bad that some woman don’t let their husbands or sons into the kitchen,
1, their body de hot when them de cook they are under pressure and heat , them fit use hot oil teach you lesson quietly self
2, it disorganises them
3, it’s dangerous accidents occur
4 , for safety reasons strangers and visitors in their kitchen due to African wickedness could drop harmful substances in the pot
5 , some woman frown at opening their pots
6 ,you are a guest , forget your brother only when she loves you as an inlaw she would permit you in

Nice counselling.

Bola146:
as for me, there is nothing wrong with that inasmuch she didn't cook the eba, but before you do this make such they have enough no that they are managing themselves, so you should cook for others to eat. As for me as the wife, I'll be glad to eat from it if it's sweet I don't see anything wrong with it. But if she doesn't like it please let it be like that please, don't let her hate you, pray to God to help you get your own house to be free as you like.

This thread re-enforces the fact that women are women's biggest enemies. but they blame it on men

TheStakeHolder:
You've done nothing wrong.

When next you go there, without permission, locate their tubers of yam. Cook and make pounded yam. Locate their soup and enjoy your life. After all it's your brother's house.

Alainilakaye.

tolakush92:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls

You probably should apologize for your actions since you know she wasn't cool with it and try to consider how other would feel and react before taking some actions.

tolakush92:


There is no form of entitlement whatsoever
They own and plan their house

I just feel it shouldn’t be a bug if I cook in the house

If I was I her shoes I wouldn’t have felt bad

How are you at Igbobi and still cooking okro in someone's house

PrimadonnaO:



People are different.

Their situations are different.

Their pet peeves are different.

It was just a simple matter of casually asking for permission or letting the kitchen owner know what was about to happen.

Casually asking for permission to cook?

A derica of yellow garri is just #200,how pitiable is there condition to warrant a permission fgs!

Lmao

Allegory:

How are you at Igbobi and still cooking okro in someone's house

What's the big deal pls?

Allegory:

How are you at Igbobi and still cooking okro in someone's house

I checked out to my brothers house already
Thanks

Oh

JONNYSPUTE:
.... The thing is that as long as most women continue seeing their husbands family members that comes around as visitors and not as families,then this kitchen rubbish will never stop.

A wife and the husband is one and it should be so with their respective relatives.

Are you now saying that your own relatives knows how to handle and manage the food items in the kitchen better than your husband's family?

Make Una forget this power tossle about kitchen.

A commenter said here that anytime he visits her elder sister's house and demand fro food,she tells him to go to the kitchen and get food but doesn't do same to her husband's people.

My question is. When has it become a norm that it's only the people from the husband's side that his wife should demand respect from and not from both sides? Note. Inrespect of the kitchen.

Naaa..you don't get it.

I'm the last child. But my older ones cannot come to my house and go to the kitchen to cook or take food without asking me. It's not about husband's family or mine.

Even when I visit my sister and I'm the one who cooks for the house for her, I still ask her to come and dish for me when I want to eat. It's simple courtesy and respect for boundaries.

And I enter her kitchen as much as her husband's family. It's the relationship that matters.

All this is common sense. There's no written rule.

ImaIma1:


Naaa..you don't get it.

I'm the last child. But my older ones cannot come to my house and go to the kitchen to cook or take food without asking me. It's not about husband's family or mine.

Even when I visit my sister and I'm the one who cooks for the house for her, I still ask her to come and dish for me when I want to eat. It's simple courtesy and respect for boundaries.

And I enter her kitchen as much as her husband's family. It's the relationship that matters.

All this is common sense. There's no written rule.

....Ok. I understand now.

jornwhite:




lets stop all this when you married bullshit, its how you carry your family your wife will take them. you are the man, creat a fair structure for both parties, i alway tell my babe she as no choice she must love my family and my family i dey let dem know you must respect me thru my babe because directly we play alot, when ur wife know you won't pick her over ur family and same applies to your family they will find a way to blend even if it is fake love, as long as i have my peace

Hello? you need to calm down and be civil. whats with the Bullshit talk now? you aired your opinion on the matter and i aired mine, you will not force anyone to accept your marital beliefs neither am I imposing mine on you. You don't need all this insults to pass your message.

PS: if you don't agree with my submission and you have no idea on how to articulate your argument respectfully, please just pass on to the next comment. Thank you.

My brother, please take this advice and live long.
Women love territorialism.
Even if you were living in d same house with your bros before he got married, d moment a lady comes into that house, it takes only the grace of God to retain "The Brotherhood of Former days" linking you and your brother.
If you watch her language closely, you'll realize dt she uses sum common phrases like "my house", "my plate", "my gas", etc.
So, abeg d earlier u find Ur way d better oo

greenie77:
Your brother's house is equally his wife's home. Just as your father's siblings had to respect boundaries (believing they did) when he started his own nuclear family, so should you.

When it comes to your brother's house, his nuclear family (wife and kids) rank up before you.

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77star:

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Feel free.

greenie77:


Feel free.

Thanks

You are wrong, very wrong, it shows lack of respect

Except she did not cook , when you are in a place eat what they cook, if you are not comfortable with the food,go to canteen with your money and eat what ever you like .


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And if you must cook,
1. Use your money and cook for everybody

2. If you do not have money, ask for money and also take permission that you want to cook for everybody

I am sure ,you disrespect her, I am sure it was entitlement mentality you used in that kitchen, mindset of after all it is my brother' s house,
Anyway ensure you wash the plates and clean the kitchen
Keep the kitchen clean.










.. uote author=tolakush92 post=107474802]Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable an wed experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls [/quote]

Most Nigerian wives are very wicked!


Assuming OP na her brother she go behave like dat? ...... Wicked woman!

Women problems no dey finish
I'm sure she no happy u even dey the house

tolakush92:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls

You no tell her make she die it?!

You are supposed to seek her permission first ,na women get kitchen

Bola146:
as for me, there is nothing wrong with that inasmuch she didn't cook the eba, but before you do this make such they have enough no that they are managing themselves, so you should cook for others to eat. As for me as the wife, I'll be glad to eat from it if it's sweet I don't see anything wrong with it. But if she doesn't like it please let it be like that please, don't let her hate you, pray to God to help you get your own house to be free as you like.

I had a wrong impression about you. Been reading your comments. I apologise for my initial comment.

AutoChick4U:
Did any of your dad's sibling enter your mom's kitchen to cook without permission? Better drop the "my brother" house mentality

The real problem here is that the guy is the husband's relation.

Just to secure her future pot of soup...
If na plates you go wash, she won't complain

It will soon be ur turn