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Hathor5:
In my own family I never felt like anyone comes first or second. I just knew that we have different roles to play. I also knew that our parents would do anything for us, even die for us .... and for each other.

Of course, but even if your mom told you that she loves her husband more than anyone else, you sure won't be disappointed.

Acidosis:
Of course, but even if your mom told you that she loves her husband more than anyone else, you sure won't be disappointed.

The first time I discovered that women have to rank their family members on a love scale was on NL.

Will you tell your daughter or son that you love them less than their mom?

Hathor5:
The first time I discovered that women have to rank their family members on a love scale was on NL.

Will you tell your daughter or son that you love them less than their mom?

First time? This thing happens daily but people don't talk about it. It takes different forms ,e.g. "next of kin"

To be honest, there is no other way to earn my kids' respect than to treat their mother rightly, and that includes showing her all the love she deserves.

Acidosis:
To be honest, there is no other way to earn my kids' respect than to treat their mother rightly, and that includes showing her all the love she deserves.

There are plenty of ways to earn their respect but I agree that this can be one of them and I am sure that it makes kids happy and healthy when their parents love each other and have a good marriage.

ahnie:
I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

The best thing is just to have a baby daddy so you can give all your attention to your kids.

Most men labour for their family and get little or nothing in return.
Women transfer all the attention to the children and when the children are grown, it is their mum first.
Where does that leave the man?

Self love is very important.
Always love and care for yourself in a relationship because if you don't, you may end up with regrets.
Self love no be vanity but sanity.

Is common with mothers. Support,love your wife and children in the way you can.

ahnie:
Oga please Rest.

Like I said,
By that time, you might have forgotten your comments

v2:
The best thing is just to have a baby daddy so you can give all your attention to your kids.

Most men labour for their family and get little or nothing in return.
Women transfer all the attention to the children and when the children are grown, it is their mum first.
Where does that leave the man?

Self love is very important.
Always love and care for yourself in a relationship because if you don't, you may end up with regrets.
Self love no be vanity but sanity.

Where would the Baby Daddy be in the Life of the Child When the child grows up?
(Since he had not been available so often in the early life of the baby)

BluntCrazeMan:
Your kids are still small.
Wait till they grow a little older.
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Your husband will totally forget about you.
The love he has for the kids will take over.
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By then, you might have forgotten you made this comment here sef.

From a man's point of view

ahnie:
From a man's point of view

That time now, you would be asking lots of questions.

Kobojunkie:
So what happens in the case of women, and men, abandoning those same children? Do you say nature got it wrong in those cases?
There are currently over 10 million abandoned children walking the streets of Nigeria, and many of them not orphans. So where is nature in that situation?

You're misunderstanding what I mean by a woman's biological role. By biological roles, I mean her ability to get pregnant and bear children. She really doesn't have to do anything to achieve that. However, I would admit that just because she is able to carry out the roles of conception doesn't mean she wants to do the extras or even love the baby she bears. They are two different things.

ahnie:
I dunno.
In my own case the bond I share with my kids is far more solid and stronger in quantum than the one I share with my husband.

Sometimes sef,I dey even forget say I get husband.

Pls nobody should quote me oh,I have gone to buy paracetamol.

Hmm, Annie 2Face

Acidosis:
First time? This thing happens daily but people don't talk about it. It takes different forms ,e.g. "next of kin"

To be honest, there is no other way to earn my kids' respect than to treat their mother rightly, and that includes showing her all the love she deserves.

Dats de secrete. When u love ur wife die de kids will love u die

Princedapace:
Because women never loved their husband. Women are very selfish creatures when it comes to love. Lol
They are with u for their own gain.

So, husband, get a side chick and enjoy the attention because ur wife will divert the attentions to their kids once they start coming.

Women are naturally manipulators, de so it unintentionally. Also women. Can't love a man that is not his blood unconditionally. That's y u see Dem doing anything for their kids n brothers without thinking twice. bf woman will do for her husband something the husband must have done 100x for her.

Evolutionlove:
Make una no dey fear to talk this thing naw. Na only "MUMU MEN" always think WoMEN loves them. WoMEN don't have the capacity to love Men Unconditionally. Nothing to be worried about here. It's a normal thing, Nobody go beat you. Men are only shown "FAKE & CONDITIONAL LOVE BY WoMEN" because of what they provide. Shikena.....

No human being has the capacity to love UNCONDITIONALLY.
know this and know peace

Virusvetty:
Because most of them married ones that were available for marriage and not ones they love

If not all. Besides love don't sustain marriage

Johel:
They never loved their husbands genuinely,they got married either because of escaping poverty, marrying to quit wayward lifestyle totally or partially, marrying because of wealth and power, or marrying becos of children or some other personal desire....but trust me,85% of these women never married out of genuine love...That's why they love their children,their family and friends even more than their husbands....Las Las...woman need man as man need woman too...Let love lead.

Igbo gals, 99%.

bigjackass:
Why do fathers prefer their children over their wives?

Especially daughters, n their wife don't seems to like dat

PrimadonnaO:
Questions like this aren't nice.

I want to refute it and say women don't love their children more than their husbands. But how can I know? I don't have either.

But I already know that there's nothing I wouldn't do for my children.

At the same time, I also know that I must make effort to not let my children become a priority over the husband I married for myself. Because no matter what, those children will move on with their lives.

I mean that's the point anyway, the whole raising and grooming is so they're able to lead their lives away from us in the future.

It's not in ur power. U loving ur husband very well depends on how ur husband loves u, how often does he buy u stuff, how protective is he to u. By so doing u can be able to reciprocate that to him even if it's 50%. Marriage dis days is very difficult Sha bcus women are now wiser n manipulative. N u knw u can't have two captain in a ship

vickydevoka:
Igbo gals, 99%.

Igbo and Yoruba.

It's Annie 5 faces

Blyzz:
Hmm, Annie 2Face

Stargurl20:
*in today's world where all men love has been fake n unreal*.

How did you arrived at this statement?
What is the yardstick you used to arrived at this?
Fake and unreal love should not be shifted to only men my dear.
In this little life of yours, you have not come across girls/ladies/women faking love and deceit abi?
Say truth and it shall set you free (biblical).
Prophet SAW said say the truth even if it is bitter than poison.
I come in peace.
Sweet popcorn for you.

vickydevoka:
Women are naturally manipulators, de so it unintentionally. Also women. Can't love a man that is not his blood unconditionally. That's y u see Dem doing anything for their kids n brothers without thinking twice. bf woman will do for her husband something the husband must have done 100x for her.

You are right

Kobojunkie:
It is time we start being more honest about these things so that the truth can come to light.

I am totally honest about this. I love my kids more than my wife and it is an open secret.

SmileDance:
Because husband is not a blood relative
Because children won't divorce them




Nobody should quote me o I have not eaten

Go eat come back

vickydevoka:
It's not in ur power. U loving ur husband very well depends on how ur husband loves u, how often does he buy u stuff, how protective is he to u. By so doing u can be able to reciprocate that to him even if it's 50%. Marriage dis days is very difficult Sha bcus women are now wiser n manipulative. N u knw u can't have two captain in a ship

Valid!

Because they’re like cersei

BluntCrazeMan:
Well..
You got what you went looking for.
12years long..
And phone checker never got tired.
She never found anything, because there was even nothing to hide.
Yet she never taaya.

Lol... You be coded guy na.
You'll have coded everything I guess.

Mercychen:
Lol... You be coded guy na.
You'll have coded everything I guess.

Women sef.
..
So, instead of you to agree with me that there is nothing to hide, you are here forming solidarity..
Chaaiii.!!
..
I no be coded bikooo.
I never get enough time inside 24hrs sef, na to come dey do hide and seek na’im I go come get time?

BluntCrazeMan:
Women sef.
..
So, instead of you to agree with me that there is nothing to hide, you are here forming solidarity..
Chaaiii.!!
..
I no be coded bikooo.
I never get enough time inside 24hrs sef, na to come dey do hide and seek na’im I go come get time?

Oya now. If you say so.

There's a hierarchy of love my dudes, husband loves wife unconditionally, wife loves children unconditional, it's always conditional going back up

Mercychen:
Oya now. If you say so.

Chaaiii