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Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by BabaIbo: 1:15pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
This post is for intending grooms. I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me. Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable. This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done. Dear single men, what do you think about this? Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding? To the married ones, did you experience this? How were you able to handle it? MODs, please do the needful. 8 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Elporo(m): 1:22pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
My sisters moved in with their husbands after traditional. I have 3, 2 are married (trad, court, church) with kids Once tradiitonal marriage is done. Girl is your wife. That nonsense na eye service. 256 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding. 27 Likes 12 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Elporo(m): 1:26pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Some churches won't get couples married without traditional rites carried out. Make I hear somebody tell me wife will move in after church. I go carry you go customary court - teach you some senses 49 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Nobody: 1:28pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Elporo:Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by ednut1(m): 1:35pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
There should be one wedding which is trad. All these ones are just nonsense and waste of funds 203 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Bola146(f): 1:36pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size why not do small traditional wedding and go to the court straight all in low key? 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Nobody: 1:40pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
ednut1:That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding 14 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by BabaIbo: 1:40pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Elporo: Nna ehn, na that same thing my ex talk o. There was a time her cousin got married while heavy i.e pregnant, I asked her "shebi you said your family don't do this and that, why is she pregnant before marriage?" but she couldn't answer but blab on about family rules/policies. My wife dey follow me go home after our trad. Anyway, I dey plan to do both on the same day sha, if not make I see anybody wey go tell me story sey na after church wedding. 4 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by ednut1(m): 1:42pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Iyaebe:no biblical backing for this. Only traditional wedding was in the bible 164 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by BabaIbo: 1:47pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Iyaebe: Traditional wedding is the real wedding, you can't have white without doing it first. You can find it in the Bible but that can't be said about white/church wedding. Where does paying of bride price take place? Do you know prayers are also said in traditional wedding? 95 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Elporo(m): 1:50pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
BabaIbo: Dem think sey dem get sense. If dem know sey the trad useless, why them collect bride price. No gree .. promise them thunder and lighting if they mention this nonsense to you. Funny, if you accept. Your inlaws no go respect you sef. 4 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by greenie77: 1:51pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
OP, what is your own family's stand regarding it? Did they allow your sisters/ female cousins go to their husband's house before the Church wedding? 4 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Righteousness2(m): 1:56pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be. Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out. Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church. We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage. That is Exactly what happened for my sisters. These things are known right from the introduction. 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Sonnobax15(m): 2:09pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Like seriously,I don't know who impacted the mentality of white wedding being a MUST-THING into the brains of Africans......As a matter of fact,I think if we as blacks must make this white wedding stuff a compulsory thing,then we must put it at the back of our minds that we haven't been completely freed from mental slavery I still dey talk am... Personally I won't do any white wedding.......Abi no be the same white wedding wey couples dey do,at the end,one party go still go cheat with his/her ring on ? . Sister,if you say I go must do the white wedding,abeg no vex, shift go front small,you go see who you dey find for front Make Africans dey continue to dey deceive themselves......Oyinbo no gree do black wedding,but na we carry their own for head...So tay we even do am pass them now self 40 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by overdrive(m): 2:15pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Wedding traditionally is our culture. Church wedding is oyibo man culture. C'est finis. 58 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by BabaIbo: 2:20pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Elporo: You dey talk about "gree or no gree?" Aswear, that talk above is funny. Me wey plan to give any babe wey I go marry belle before we proceed to the next stage. No be when them get option them go bring up that kind talk? 6 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by GboyegaD(m): 2:21pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
It depends on how they sync up with their faith. If her believe of the bed undefiled implies until the vows are shared before God and the congregation as a witness, she has every right not to move in after traditional. Both parties have a right to define what they want and how they want it. 6 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Swinger60(f): 3:10pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Whatever works for the couple ooo. for me, I have never been a fan of church wedding, I only wanted to trad wedding, do court and go home and rest. So, after trad wedding, I told my hubby "Oya oooo Let's go". my sister brought my bags, I entered car, and off to my husband's house and village. The thing is Couples should always do what works for them. 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by greenie77: 3:25pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
BabaIbo: What if your babe no want the belle and goes ahead to...... |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by lusid: 3:26pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Iyaebe:traditional wedding supercedes all that 15 Likes |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by yuping(m): 3:36pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Iyaebe:The problem we have is that we don't believe in our self just because its called church wedding does not mean is going to happen in a church, during the traditional wedding pastors are also invited and they make prayer is that not enough for church wedding? 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by BabaIbo: 3:42pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
greenie77: She won't or let me say she can't... A man should know the kind of lady he's with na. Again, I go don dey play her the tape small small i.e I go don dey tell tell her codedly before the e happen. So when it happens, her mind go dey. |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by IKBARUTEN11(m): 6:45pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
NO I didn't marry her for her parents |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by DropsMic(m): 6:45pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Lol.. Africans |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by simhosting: 6:45pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Marriage is marriage, |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Peace081: 6:46pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Once you've paid her bride price, na you get her be that 1 Like |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by kennethfranc(m): 6:46pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
I just pray sat I go meet person wey go understand me cuz if I must do church wedding then it must be Chapel wedding. 1. My family(brothers and some uncle) 2. In-laws and their few relatives cuz they won't completely agree. Others who cares, nah for phone we go settle 1 Like |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Atheistan: 6:46pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
Why not |
Re: Will You Allow Her To Stay With Her Parents, After Trad Without Church Wedding? by Hemanwel(m): 6:46pm On Nov 13, 2021 |
I know the bible talks about consummation of the marriage, which is, doing all the necessary things you need to do, including paying of bride price. To me, that means God already recoginizes her as your wife the day you pay her bride price. The so-called white wedding or church wedding is just to follow the band wagon. 11 Likes |
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