yuping:

The problem we have is that we don't believe in our self just because its called church wedding does not mean is going to happen in a church, during the traditional wedding pastors are also invited and they make prayer is that not enough for church wedding?

What about offering?

Your wife is your problem bro.... If your wife sees reasons with you and on your side ...
Your wife is the problem bro....sorry...your wife to be....if she sees reasons with you and she is on your wife ...there would be little or no issues with her family..... Na she day instigate and ginger her family say na church wedding she wan do..... Una carry white man tradition for head like gala..... Bro I hope you Don find woman way get sense now

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

It's either you choose to sound this uninformed or you simply have no regard for african customs and traditions.

demolagilbert:
false! A good number of our parents did only trad. To say their marriages aren't complete is utterly illogical.

Kindly point out where in the bible where it is stated that a couple must be wedded in the presence of the 'body of Christ'. Cos the bible I read, parents choices of spouse, and where parent's didn't make a choice, parent blessing and go-ahead were well documented as paramount. I can back up my points with the same bible, can you?

You will need to understand the difference between the old testament and the new testament. The old testament is more about Israel while the new testament is about the Church. You will have to come to the presence of God to bless your marriage. You need to know that you are more a Christian than a traditional man. The Jew rejected Christ because of their tradition.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

It is better to have the conversation early to know the smart/mumu with you o.
Once bride price is paid, that is it. White wedding is the traditional wedding in the Western world, our people just perish for the fact that their mumu can never do.
A man pays bride price and wedding is done, what else with these people?

Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

If you don't know that peanut and the procedure before paying the peanut matters most than that eye service you call wedding (white wedding).

ogascomax:



You will need to understand the difference between the old testament and the new testament. The old testament is more about Israel while the new testament is about the Church. You will have to come to the presence of God to bless your marriage. You need to know that you are more a Christian than a traditional man. The Jew rejected Christ because of their tradition.

mention one reference in the new testament. Just reference it.

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

These things are known right from the introduction.

@bold:

It is not Biblical.

There is nowhere in the old or new testament that marriages were conducted in the Church.

Paying of bride price is the real marriage. That's why most serious churches would not join you until you have paid the bride price or fulfilled the traditional requirement of marriage.

I have not said Church Marriage is wrong; it is just additional ceremony.

Funnily, some churches that issue legal certificate would not wed you if you go to the court for civil marriage.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

what of court wedding that one is not it because there's no vow.

Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

Which kind somebody's daughter? Mtcheew! Ashawo wey wan go leave na him you dey talk.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

No church will Wed you without paying the bride prize.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

u guys should stop disturbing us o.if you have paid her bride price take her home which one is church hall prayer wedding again

Bola146:
Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size why not do small traditional wedding and go to the court straight all in low key?

Aunty there is nothing like traditional wedding.

Church wedding
Court wedding
Traditional wedding

Which of them is NOT a wedding?

Unless wedding is no more defined as union of a man and a woman, any of them should suffice.

BUT, talk it out when dating to be sure you're both on the same page.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?
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MODs, please do the needful.

See, real marriage is traditional marriage. When the 2 families bless the union. And that is what God stamps too. That is all! Its even biblical. Church wedding is hocuspocus. It doesn't make you more a Christian and not doing it doesn't make you less one.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

If the both of you couldn't come to a compromise because of 'Church wedding', you made the right decision to break up.

You do not fit each other.

Na mumu go let her do that shit, Traditional marriage b4 any damn thing, my guy sister don born self and she and her husband no dy think of so called white wedding, dia traditional marriage was so big like say na governors own

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

goat

Pimine:
Aswearugaaad

White wedding na oyibo man traditional wedding. Make Africans try dey get sense abeg.

Trad na the main marriage gan gan. Anything else na extracurricular activity.

Many a times I have try to change the misconception people have about this white wedding calling it Oyibo tradition. It is not white wedding it is called Church wedding. Christianity does not have culture, Christianity is for all. Concerning Church marriage the most important thing is carrying yourselves to the church and receiving the blessings of the Church. The reason why many people are confused about the church wedding thing is because of the spending part. No body force you to do party. Carry your wife to church so that they can bless both of you and go home.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

I wan marry make I come turn onigbese because of one day. U not helping matter at all o. God no send us this one wey we dey do. U go do trad, court and church for wettin na?

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Is church wedding part of africa, and which did the bible recogzi most bride price or church wedding.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Says who? When did church wedding become a yardstick to judge when a lady becomes your wife? Trad is the real deal. You can decide to go to court and sign the necessary documents after. Bleep the church

ogascomax:


Many a times I have try to change the misconception people have about this white wedding calling it Oyibo tradition. It is not white wedding it is called Church wedding. Christianity does not have culture, Christianity is for all. Concerning Church marriage the most important thing is carrying yourselves to the church and receiving the blessings of the Church. The reason why many people are confused about the church wedding thing is because of the spending part. No body force you to do party. Carry your wife to church so that they can bless both of you and go home.

Thank Goodness I'm an atheist..

Nwa mental mugu.

ogascomax:


Many a times I have try to change the misconception people have about this white wedding calling it Oyibo tradition. It is not white wedding it is called Church wedding. Christianity does not have culture, Christianity is for all. Concerning Church marriage the most important thing is carrying yourselves to the church and receiving the blessings of the Church. The reason why many people are confused about the church wedding thing is because of the spending part. No body force you to do party. Carry your wife to church so that they can bless both of you and go home.

Aswearugaaad

And I keep correcting the fallacy that God is only found in the church. God is in my home. God is with me. And God is in me.

If you desperately need your pastor's prayers as per say na him be the way to God, then let him attend the Trad and pray for you there. Simple sturvz.

ogascomax:


Many a times I have try to change the misconception people have about this white wedding calling it Oyibo tradition. It is not white wedding it is called Church wedding. Christianity does not have culture, Christianity is for all. Concerning Church marriage the most important thing is carrying yourselves to the church and receiving the blessings of the Church. The reason why many people are confused about the church wedding thing is because of the spending part. No body force you to do party. Carry your wife to church so that they can bless both of you and go home.

The pastor can be there at the trad marriage

Bola146:
Always cut your cloth according to your cloth not size why not do small traditional wedding and go to the court straight all in low key?

Should we do one

Na church sister you wan marry, so it comes with the terrain. A reasonable church would not wed you if your bride price hasn’t been paid, that should tell you even the church knows how symbolic it is.

Marry atheist and have peace.

You try...

So I will use the money am supposed to use to start my family to do one worthless white wedding!!! If I pay ur bride price and u still insist that u wld stay in ur parents House. Then it's your father that wld marry you and start making babies with you.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Nwa mental mugu

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

vow can still be made in the presence of any known clergy, it musn't necessarily be during wedding ceremony.
White wedding is a white man culture
Ours is the Traditional wedding.
If a man decides to hold both, good for him.
But otherwise, as soon as the bride price is paid and the traditional ceremony performed howbeit even in a low key manner, marriage had been contracted.
Pastors don't give women out for marriage
Rather parents do.
Pronouncement made by parents when giving out their daughters is more potent than any prayer offered by any pastor.

So what about ur ex now, is she married?
All does 3 in 1 wedding na stress thou