bukatyne:


You haff taken it personal ke

Is the average woman happy spending on men as men are happy spending on women?

I don't mean on family or bills.....

Just spoiling the man with material stuff or giving him cash gifts?

Just pondering.

You didn’t see the one on frontpage that is giving one boy all her mother’s provision?

He will buy toothpaste of N520, give her N1000 and she would give him N2000 change. Which material stuff pass that one Bukatin?

Crossroad1:
rain go fall today

I swear

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

Dont mind the woman

Yoruba would say, ti aaba reni feyinti, bi ole laari.

You wanted him to step up but u re refusing to grant him loan despite ur highr financial capacity.

Mtchw

pocohantas:
Her head is not okay.

Yenyenyen love.

You have money and you can’t use it to help your husband, you will now be disturbing his ears with love.

How do you claim to love someone and not help them in difficult times?

Useless love!

The woman na mumu woman.

pocohantas:
Her head is not okay.

Yenyenyen love.

You have money and you can’t use it to help your husband, you will now be disturbing his ears with love.

How do you claim to love someone and not help them in difficult times?

Useless love!

the funniest part of the article is "the male ego is very fragile" lol typical twitter feminist always able to move the fault to the other person. A man who actually asked you for loan to fund his project is whom the writer is claiming has fragile ego

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

Shuo! Am I the only one that saw the below statement from the OP's writeup?
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He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn't willing to do so and it became war.

Odunharry:

Bless you for this. It's sad to many people, A man's money is fr the couple while a woman's money is hers.

Na simps dey create that problem.

Im an artisan married to a graduate,a civil servant.Have never asked her for a kobo.she knows when im in need of money.she pays for our house rent,even our children school fees. Etc.she want me to be asking but i just dont like it

lalasticlala:
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Trash talk.

As much as his insecurities showed, so did your pride do a double run.

And who says a man has to double up because you are earning more than him. If you can't respect him for more than what he earns which you knew to be less than yours before the union, why make it an issue in the union.

Many just want to eat their cakes and have it.

This bitch is definitely based in America.

Any man who still believe in the so called love is a fool of the century.

Any man with money who believes his wife loves him is a walking corpse.

I will advice men to watch this series "Ambitions" and learn how to treat and handle corporate hoes.

lalasticlala:
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You are the cause of your predicament. If you die 2 days into that marriage, will they bury you with that money? Live and let's live. You were not patient to exercise trust. You lived by the society norm without understanding. If he is the leader and you the help meet, how else would you have proved to him you are a help meet. You call your money your money and his money our money. (Silly chant).

The woman is the cause of her failed marriage. If she earns more, I see no reason she couldn't help her husband with the loan after all she claimed to love him. So what is LOVE?

On the other hand, the man looks lazy, jealous, bereaved of ideas and married the woman because of her money.

And who knows, maybe the woman wasn't financially supportive at home leaving the bulk of the financial burden on the man

In all, I don't think LOVE exist between people who are not blood related. If it did, not anymore

This is entirely true. A man's ego is fragile when the woman earns more. But most times, the women change because they earn more. A woman always looks to her man as a leader. So as a man, if you want to be worth it, if your woman is struggling to make it, don't just sit there, you have to struggle twice as hard.

bukatyne:


Just extra two minutes reading would let you know the OP said the issue cuts across races.

It is not a black woman or Nigerian woman thing.

Concepts such as 'marrying up', 'hypergamy' etc. are not Nigerian concepts.

imagine is Ngozi Iweala not married ? My mom was a doctor while dad was a teacher and I can’t say for a woman earning more than you the game is different because love go fade she has to see something in you that will make her submit totally trust me if you richer obviously your money, caring attitude will do the work but when she is richer she has to see something in you. In my parent case, nah pure wisdom and hardworking and very playful ooo mom paid our fees took care of the home dad saved And built our home. This lady married him with massive ego and pride.

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

So baba don take the pill too. We are getting there.

Super story ..just to counter the thread earlier Nigeria ladies are so useless

If men behave like women this life no go balance ooo! So because u make more money u cannot assist!! Continue!!

Walkee:
the funniest part of the article is "the male ego is very fragile" lol typical twitter feminist always able to move the fault to the other person. A man who actually asked you for loan to fund his project is whom the writer is claiming has fragile ego

Loan o! He asked for a loan! She refused to give and still made it an issue. People like her would be protecting their money till the other party begins to despise them or see no need for their money. Then they’ll twist it to mean you wanted them for money. If only they know how disgusting that attitude is.

If she likes, she should marry an Indimi, with this her attitude, they’ll still have problems.

God knows that I'll rather marry an illiterate, poor but sexually attractive lady than marry a richer, educated feminist. God forbid!

Look at them typing jargons here! Mtcheewwww

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

I am not in support of 'mordern' equality but Most men on earth earn more than their wives. Even wives that work attest to not spending their monies for things. Many examples abound.

Safra Catz is a US executive & the CEO of Oracle. Over the years, her earnings in stock options has seen her become a Billionaire, with her husband quitting (his job) to be a stay-at -home husband. We don't hear any negative stories from such families despite her earning 500x more than him.

Poverty is just a bane around here & I sincerely understand their plight.

Moreso, there's no such thing as 'Ambition' in Nigeria if the Money doesn't start coming in in 1- 2 years. In Nigeria, often to others your efforts can never make you ambitious, just results.

Besides what's the meaning of Emotional abuse. I hear that a lot. Is it a synonym for quarrels?

lalasticlala:
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I was young and free. Just before clocking 30 and dating this guy I thought the world of. I earned like 5-10 times as much as he did. He wanted us to be married. It felt great and right only that some older people said No. Reason? I earned way higher.

It made no sense at the time. What did earning capacity have to do with love. Dad said you are even more ambitious and driven with more at your disposal. Don't do it!. I thought it was just cheap talk.

I stuck to my guns. It was going to be him or nothing else. Love was enough. It didn't take 6 months before all they said came to life before my eyes. He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn't willing to do so and it became war.

Verbal and emotional abuse ensued. He cursed me to no end. I was acting too big or thought I was. I wasn't a supportive lover etc. It went on until I couldn't take it anymore. Then it got worse. How dare I walk away from the relationship and his love?
The emotional blackmail and insults. It took a while to get over such a person and all because I wanted him to double his own career goals and steps rather than live off me.
Over the years after, I learnt a lesson. Money is the no 1 reason for divorces and who brings in more changes the dynamics of relationships. If a woman does, this has to be discussed headlong and not assume the relationship will be like any or every other.
It won't be like every other relationship and it's even different if the woman starts to earn more in a marriage than before marriage. The male ego is very fragile and [b][size=14pt]the freedom money gives a woman[/size] [/b]may come off as a threat even if unintended.

A gentleman must understand this and be prepared to navigate the relationship away from a basic traditional one where the man brings in the bacon. It is often dangerous when a woman marries down because the man's once-hidden insecurities come up and fight.

That is when you see unabridged verbal, emotional and sometimes physical abuse. Then the guilt tripping, blackmail, manipulation etc. Only mature and secure men thrive well when a woman brings more into a relationship from the outset. This cuts across races.

A man expected to lead a family in a traditional sense must understand that his leadership isn't only from money but support, care, direction and guidance he brings as long as he's not lazy.He only earns less which isn't a crime.

Barack Obama earned like 25% of what Michelle earned when he entered the presidential race but their marriage was fine although Mrs O stated in her book "Becoming" how she made it clear he had to step up when he worked as a grassroots community leader.
Good enough, he became a senator, earned better and was more physically and emotionally available at home. That helped their marriage but not without the therapy they sought at that stage. Most women want their men to step up in all areas esp once married.

It helps the woman respect him and view him as a leader for real. If your woman earns more, no problem but don't be docile or abusive to her. That marks doomsday to your relationship. Step up. Take another course. Seek more openings. Help more domestically.
But don't be stagnant neither ignore the power dynamics and shifts that come with a non- traditional, non-binary romantic relationship. Things will be different for you.

https://twitter.com/naikiadex/status/1460605285865828357

Those two parts were your problem and the problem with most nigerian women.
They want "freedom" in marriage. There is no freedom in marriage that is why it is literally called marriage. It is a relationship were two people are accounable to eachother but typical black women want to copy white culture that is cultureless.
You want to do what you like while you have a marriage. No accountability or cooperation.
The typical nigerian women is ruthlessly arrogant to people, talk less her husband, once she starts seeing her own money.
NO MAN ON EARTH EVEN PASTORS will condone an arrogant and emotionally abusive woman in his house, and this is what money turns women without self control/awareness into 99% of the time.
You came even stated that you wanted him domesticated. You can imagine. So because make more money than him you want him to become the housemaid. Then before you know you[i] see him finish[/i] then start cheating with men outside you see as[b] on your level[/b].

Typical Nigerian men and men all over the world take pride in helping their wives with funds to start their own businesses, hobbies or things they want to do with their lives, but once its a rare turn of a woman we see posts like this online. With support from fellow selfish women.
I always say it that women are more selfish than men and hate helping. They only pretend when theres a benefit attached to it immediately or in the foreseeable future. Men will give their wives money without even batting an eyelid or remembering int but even that same women will start insulting that same man when things stop being rosy for him.

The definition of a wife was meant to be [b]helper [/b]but you modern girls have turned to destroyers of men. Its men that still take you all seriously and sacrifice for you all i pity their stupidity

We heard your well-baked side of the story. im sure if we hear your husbands side it will be a different thing

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

There was a time Bishop Oyedepo's wife earned more than are husband who is in the full time ministry, she submits all she had to her husband every month, same with Pastor Enenche and Pastor Ibiyome.
There is a big difference between having wisdom and having money, it is one thing to be visionary it is another to have the provision for making the vision a reality.
I can never marry a self centered lady, even though I have money more than you, you must be willing to part with your money just I do for you.

pocohantas:
Her head is not okay.

Yenyenyen love.

You have money and you can’t use it to help your husband, you will now be disturbing his ears with love.

How do you claim to love someone and not help them in difficult times?

Useless love!

Hahahah!

If you're not being sacarstic here then could we assume your account has been hacked?

Or Perharps we've had you all wrong all along?

Abeg who get girlfriend wey him no dey use again?nah watin i dey find nw b dat

Lemme share a true life story
My present girlfriend is richer than me
On like 3 occasion, she helped with some very funny bill
Yesterday, we dey talk
She jokingly seriously told me
"You no get money guy, U are a broke, U not even near what a man should be"
I swear I wan die
E pain me ehnnnn
My ego was bruised but she no lie

This woman has bad female friends that have fed her with many lies they don't even practice in their own homes.

Now she is paying dearly for it as a feminist independent woman.

Aksnoopy:
This bitch is definitely based in America.

Any man who still believe in the so called love is a fool of the century.

Any man with money who believes his wife loves him is a walking corpse.

I will advice men to watch this series "Ambitions" and learn how to treat and handle corporate hoes.

You are getting inspiration from series? Perhaps you were never told but it isn't good to generalize things and people's opinions should respected irrespective of their view on the matter. I believe both the man and the woman are both at fault for the problem but a certain series doesn't really tell you all about life.
You need more enlightenment!

If your wife is making a lot of money more than you do and your only job is to be lazy around and depend on her for everything bro swap that penis for a pussy.

Except if you are facing an unforeseen circumstance that demoted you from the breadwinner to lower part. Despite this sef a man has to push, if you see your wife as a source of free money even when necessary a and you are doing nothing to change your condition swap that Dickson for punni

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

U think like a 5th century person.... I pity ur husband

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

I feel when people get married, the money that comes in becomes "our" money irrespective of who earns it.

If you don't trust him with money, don't marry him.