Double0h7:
This pissed me off . Who is she advising after scattering her own relationship? What point was she trying to make. Someone should tell her to shut up!

If she is the breadwinner then she failed in her role, if she loved the man like she claims why wouldn't she build him up and invest in his dreams? Isn't it meant to be their home, two become one and all that?

I'm so pissed off after reading this, she still wants to play some sort of victim after all that.

bukatyne:


Just extra two minutes reading would let you know the OP said the issue cuts across races.

It is not a black woman or Nigerian woman thing.

Concepts such as 'marrying up', 'hypergamy' etc. are not Nigerian concepts.

pocohantas:


Nothing irritates me more than stingy people. Ahnahn! You claim to love him, yet you watch him struggle to meet up and survive. He isn’t even supposed to ask!! She has brains and eyes. She can see his needs and should know where to come in!!

How do people act like that and still have the nerve to say they love you? It builds resentment. It was only a matter of time he begins to hate her. Rather than make amends, she is still claiming he is this and that. She should getaut with her money.

It is better to be with an alata that supports you with her N10, than a Linda Ikeji that won’t give you N100,000.

Munzy14:

No surprises at all...Them say man wey woman the feed suppose they collect condolence visit every morning..

Kholiwe:

1000 likes

Verysmart101:


No man ever wishes to marry a woman for her money buh as a wife for crying out loud y can't u support or help him grow financially.U don't trust ur husband but u want him to trust you right? Honestly the part u said "he is trading his pride" is just emotional manipulation by women cos this is husband and wife not boyfriend and girlfriend pls.A reasonable woman should have been able to support her hubby with something she can afford to lose.If u can't give ur hubby money when he is in need then u shouldn't be trusted either.

KillIgbohoN0W:
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Ashawo hotel
After sex, what else can you offer a man?

Answer if dem born you well. Pig.

baby124:

The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

Olam09:


Wow.. first time I'll be seeing your comment on nairaland Mr. Seun

Crossroad1:
rain go fall today

bukatyne:
This one Lala opened a thread & Seun commented on first page.

Christmas came early.

cococandy:

“In the so called west” men are also more hands on with family upkeep. It’s easier to be a wife who contributes financially if the man doesn’t leave all the domestic work for you. EOD!!!
Take it to the bank.

Nigerian men want women who play the roles of providers with them but will catch fire when they asked to help around in the home. Whack mentality!

nenyewrites:



So from the story up there, you could already deduce that she didn't support him? Do you know how many times she could have loaned him money that he spent on failed projects? Then instead of owning up to his failures and striving hard, he chose to easier route and resorted to abusing her emotionally to kill her self-esteem. If you've not met such men, you're lucky.

SILVERLINES:


Guys these days are becoming useless, they are even waiting and praying to meet Richer ladies to pay their bills.
Just few years ago God sent me a beautiful damsel, she wasn't bouyant nor coming from a rich home and then I was just struggling to stand on my feet. The say lady now my wife was depending on me to start a life, I evaluated her then and she was business intuitive and needed a start up for business, then I was a beginner in computer science, programming and informatics. My friends kick against the relationship bitterly in a sense that I am coming from a broke home and not doing well in life I shouldn't date a broke lady from a poor home. They advised me to look for a reach lady who can support me instead of taking from me reminding me our struggles in our university days. I almost harken to their voices, I was given my wife then girlfriend then hash attitude but she didn't stay away from me and me then I was already having some 'well to do babes' both acquaintance and friends. Some day a man told me about marriages stuff how men suffered even marrying richer women and lack of peace in their marital home, he told be there's a big difference between girlfriend and wife. To cut the story short I started given attention to my wife 'then girl friend' we sat down talk about life and future and what we can do to better our lives, I discovered right there she had already agreed marry be without even outer a word about marriage we already started discussing it just two of us. Babe came up with business ideas we agreed on one cos it wasn't called for big money. Then I was planning on out to move my company forward. Three months after I struggled for the money she started then business just two months in business babe was already bringing gifts to my house, there was a big difference as money was started coming from her side. Seven months after babe move into my house and we started leaving as husband and wife in a self-contained apartment, then I was a bit down financially and my babe carter for everything in the house including rent. I was somehow ashamed but she covered everything. Just few months after babe broke the pregnancy story as in d thing rang in my ear like thunder. I was furious like this babe has finished me she calmed me down telling me she has a savings somewhere that I shouldn't bother much, I became more crazy cos I was with nothing on my side, unprepared. Getting married or have a child in a single self-contained wasn't what I wished for myself. Jobs wasn't coming on my side. We survived on her business, my mother was calling for financial support, jeeeez I don enter again sixth months of her pregnancy we went for a scan it was twins, two baby girls, she came home happy and I was crying inside. Her support wasn't ok for me cos as a man I always want to take my true place as a man and piller of the house, was thinking how am I gonna attend to people when she put to bed? Which house am I gonna welcome visitors? As an introvert that I am. I noticed her business was thriving she even assist me with money to send to my mother at home, I couldn't just tell my mom that the money came from me, I opened up everything to her so at least she won't bother calling for financial help again in closing time on hearing this my mom wasn't happy she suggested I should have well stand on my feet before embarking on such journey. Eighth month just one month to put to birth I got a contract job with a company and two NGOs through a female friend in the university who directed me to her brothers cos she saw my numerous WhatsApp status adverts. Omo money start coming immediately and hurry that first money go rent 2 bedroom arraigned ham well though the babe was upset I supposed investigate the money for something me 4 my mind I was like dis babe no me u want disgrace when ur people go come see me for single bed with two girls and u together and una know as Igbo people de do now dem no too value in-laws wey no get money. I arraigned myself sharp sharp within one month plus na dey I know say money move at the speed of light boom the two girls in the womb had arrived, things got balance and jobs upon jobs keep coming. I employeed experts to work with in areas I wasn't too good in. Just last month we finished everything marriage rites traditionally and court as our dear church wanted to do anyhow for the wedding for the sake that we have children we move forward to Court. I thank God for bringing her into my life

truthsayer009:



I use to be pro 50/50 before. I have given up that idea this year. Wahala too much.

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

BlackSan:


*Humans are influenced by words and what they see*
You lost me when you called *Women* Though I'm quite aware that gender has certain things that influence them but your writeup doesn't make you more of an. I mean I won't take offenses of being called a kid but at the end of the day, it is about how you think and judge things.

Yes!! Literature mirrors life but wasn't I clear enough? So bold of you to have a prejudice for all women because of a certain series. In every movie there's something to learn but accepting everything you see? Pardon my use of words, but isn't that foolishness?

BlackSan:



I'm not a fan of feminism or equality though I emphasize on respect for both partners in a marriage but I'm curious of your second to last paragraph.

Though correct me if I'm wrong but I will be using a theological approach. A wife is more than just a helper, she is also his partner. Maybe your word "helper" meant more than that but I rather you call a wife a partner than a helper, (using theological approach) the reason a woman was created was because man was alone and lonely. She is supposed to help him physically, emotionally, psychological and on

Seun:
For whatever he needs. Men who are rich give money to their wives all the time. If a man is rich and never helps his wife financially I don't think the marriage would work, but it's usually not an issue because men are expected to provide for their wives. I think she was the defacto breadwinner but as a woman society had not equipped her for the role so she failed at it. The same goes for the man. I bet he didn't know how to use seduction to extract cash.

cococandy:

“In the so called west” men are also more hands on with family upkeep. It’s easier to be a wife who contributes financially if the man doesn’t leave all the domestic work for you. EOD!!!
Take it to the bank.

Nigerian men want women who play the roles of providers with them but will catch fire when they asked to help around in the home. Whack mentality!