descartes400:


Should you no get money, you are broke[i][/i] EQUATE to U no even near what a man should be"

is this how you view yourself

And you meekly took it in silence while smiling sheepishly without any form of blowback to her? say because you don't want to loose a rich girlfriend?

Aaaah! O ma se' O!!

Bro, Coming from her views
Bro, I no get money o
This babe is rich
I'm the most average nigga she ever been with
She already said what she wanted to say joking. I understood the message
No need to blow hot
To what extent?
I know what to do
Her breakfast is on fire and will be served hot

Amotolongbo:
There is nothing bad marrying a man with lower income, but make sure the man is a very ambitious man and not a man not ready to step up his game and income.

You have said it all

I would and I must Earn far greater than my wife no matter the job she does.....House rent, school fees and basic domestic needs are my responsibility........But excessesive spending on unnecessary things are not for me......

My questions are these.

1)
Is it a crime or sin if a lady earns more than her husband?

2)
Why does wife supporting husband financially sounds as a Charity case. When the man has other rolls he plays at home. Just that fate is probably yet to smile at him financially?

3) The money a wife makes at home what is it for? For her or for her home? ( as far as i know anything a husband owns belongs to the wife vice versa)

4) is it composery that a man must be richer than the wife?

I dont understand.

I think people have lost purpose of Marriage.

Why does it sound like men have the control of there future and destiny in there own hand while woman are more special?


Society has finally suceeded in making sure a man who is not rich or richer than the wife is now a loser or a fool who is not worthy to live.

(Now you all forgets that even in these same society woman are more favoured (but its a topic for another day)

Connected1:
This Kind of woman should not locate me abeg.

Ordinary Loan na be issue.

Some people just too wicked.

Even if the man was richer, at some point he would still need a loan from his wife sef.

Nigeria can never produce a true feminist abeg.

Even though she was richer, she was still a leech.

If you want loan go bank.If you want guarantor I go stand for you as a helper role wey God give me.

Life lessons , psychology even the ancestors have confirmed that it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for man to borrow money from his wife and pay back.


Since you call it a loan will you as a person be willing to sign the necessary documents before your wife gives you the "ordinary loans"?

As long as she is not neglecting her duty as a wife and helper. Na so my aunt take give her husband money wey e take go dey carry okpo for club , nonsense ingrates.

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.

The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

point of correction, its not "give him money"
its "lend him money"
lend! Lend! Lendiii

The rate at which men gets married has gone down compare to the past...most of our Dads didn't get to 27years before tothey get married because it was cheaper no "open eye women as we have now"..... And statistics are indicating that singles will rise with time this 21st century because of this modern way of dating caused by feminist

SaveMeLord:
My own is why are men still getting married?

Judybash93:


According to her, i think the man should also have a say before one can judge. What a number of women refer to as emotional abuse is a response to gaslighting initiated by women in the first place..

True that. A balanced view and judgement would be to hear from the husband.

But for most men, when the wife is richer , problems are most likely to arise in the form she described.

Haven't you heard of men asking their wives to sign over their assets to them.

LyfeJennings:
Lemme share a true life story
My present girlfriend is richer than me
On like 3 occasion, she helped with some very funny bill
Yesterday, we dey talk
She jokingly seriously told me
"You no get money guy, U are a broke, U not even near what a man should be"
I swear I wan die
E pain me ehnnnn
My ego was bruised but she no lie

In your shoes I would look for plan B. That joke is not acceptable. I can't imagine telling another human I have a relationship with that crap.

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?

Read the article again.

Pierocash:
A woman can earn more than man in the Western world and there will still be peace in the marriage.

In Nigeria here, a woman doesn't even need to earn more than the man before their ego begins to play out. Nigeria women believe that once they can be financially independent ,they don't need a man so they start acting rebellious and arrogant.

I tell myself,even if she earns more than me,I won't ask her a dime of her money,I will play my role without looking at her purse. By so doing, I will know if she is a supportive wife,or parasitic one

In that western world out of your biased mind you forgot to also tell us the men become house horsebands,men in that western world dont mind being home keepers while their wives work and bring in the money but here Nigerian men will still be walking around with their ten feet shoulder padded ego, na you as a wife go keep the home,fund am , submit ,pound yam and soup come still kneel down serve am food ontop. .

Una to funny for this obodo naija I swear. But the funny thing is Nigerian men have no issues being a house horseband outside Nigeria o, but na when dem dey the soil of Nigeria dem dey remember say their ancestors dey forbid am

Pierocash:
A woman can earn more than man in the Western world and there will still be peace in the marriage.

In Nigeria here, a woman doesn't even need to earn more than the man before their ego begins to play out. Nigeria women believe that once they can be financially independent ,they don't need a man so they start acting rebellious and arrogant.

I tell myself,even if she earns more than me,I won't ask her a dime of her money,I will play my role without looking at her purse. By so doing, I will know if she is a supportive wife,or parasitic one

mens stupid ego is fragile - and who is not as succesfulnjas an ego problem so huge but will always try and blame his wife - for a low earning or jobless man even good morning is an insult .
Stop lying on women - as if we don't see how you people tie your whole self esteem and ego to having money - ofcourse when.you don't have it - your fragile ego will assume everything is an insult to you because you don't have money..

Any man who asks a woman for money, has immediately lost the respect of that woman. No matter what a man does, he must hustle and try without the woman's help. Once a woman sees that, she will stylishly help the man because he has earned her respect. Any man who is stingy with his woman, no matter how small his earnings will not be respected by the woman. Give what you have to make her feel important and she will give the world to you.

LyfeJennings:


Bro, Coming from her views
Bro, I no get money o
This babe is rich
I'm the most average nigga she ever been with
She already said what she wanted to say joking. I understood the message
No need to blow hot
To what extent?
I know what to do
Her breakfast is on fire and will be served hot

I was angry with her on your behalf. In the end, do what you have to do..but have in the back of your mind, your brokness does not in anyway invalidate you as MAN.

I sincerely feel you spoilt your marriage. You could have supported him like a rich guy would support his wife and open a supermarket or something for her.

But you’re not a virtuous woman, and you rubbed that in his face . You want to be the victim so that people can support you. However, I’d hate myself if my woman doesn’t support me cos I’d go beyond the stars to support her if and when I’m capable.


So think about it, would you be happy if he wad richer but refused to give you money to expand your small business?

Shallom!

tranxo:
This woman has bad female friends that have fed her with many lies they don't even practice in their own homes.

Now she is paying dearly for it as a feminist independent woman.

You sir have dissected the issue
The people whispering stuff into her ears are the one leading her down this black hole
Because if she considered him an issue
She would not have even married em in the first place

My earn more than I do but my respect remain intact because I never for once let her do my responsibilities. (School fees, House rent, feeding and clothing.) In the other room I am still the champion.

A man can be the sole provider in a home for 5 years and nobody will know how the money flows.

But peradventure he hits a snag like lose his job/business or the wife gets elevated financially above him then turns provider for for 5 just days, the while neighbourhood will know in an instant. Only intelligent wives have passed this test with flying colours.

With the repeated use of the phrase "step up his game" by the OP, it is evident she turned the Homefront into some kind of competition with the size of one's bank account as the deciding factor of who wins the competition. I can tell you she made that man see hell simply because she was better placed financially.

If as a woman you can freely offer your body but not your money, what does that make you? Between your body and money which is more important?

lalasticlala:
As shared by Nike Adexa @naikiadex



https://twitter.com/naikiadex/status/1460605285865828357

You call just before clocking 30 young?
Your failed marriage is all on you.
Do you not know men have ego? There are certain things you would have known before marrying him and relationships that leads to marriage at your age.
Most probably your parents saw you were immature and knows your ambitiousness won't suit that kind of man but you didn't listen.
You can be ambitious even in marriage but you don't let it ruboff your man's ego.
No be crime for woman to have more money or more ambitious than the husband.
Is that how men with more money treat their wives?

Mistake number one, don't presume that love conquers all. Mistake number 2, there is no husband or wife money in Marriage. U two have become one flesh. Know this and have peace.

The problem is not earning the problem is the attitude of Nigerian men.


In the western world , women are protected by laws. If I help a man and tomorrow he decides to start carrying yellow sisi in the front seat , I can have hope that the law will do me justice. But in Nigeria you can help lift a man up and he will throw you out for putting too much pepper in his soup

Men in the western world have no issues with being domesticated if their wife earns more,some are even willing to stop whatever is not bringing in enough money so their wives can concentrate, but you see these Nigerian men, no way, them go expect you to feed , clothe ,pay the bills , cook kneel down and serve them food ontop.

Some will even expect you to collect salary and give it to them, so they can mismanage it to their taste

Seun:
The main problem was that she didn't give him money. Why would you marry a guy if you dont trust him with money?

What she called emotional and verbal abuse sounds like they were fighting but she wanted to make herself the sole victim. The husband should have handled it better. He is not entitled to her money. But I think the lady contributed more to the failure of her marriage than she realizes.

She speaks of trying to get him to aspire higher which means she was not satisfied with his professional and financial status. So why marry him if his level was not high enough for you? She could have just given him money from time to time like most men who are richer than their wives tend to do.

Don't encourage men to be lazy. A man who cannot take care of his family is worse than an infidel

This story is funny and uplifting as well. I legit laugh while reading. God bless your marriage Brother.

SILVERLINES:


Guys these days are becoming useless, they are even waiting and praying to meet Richer ladies to pay their bills.
Just few years ago God sent me a beautiful damsel, she wasn't bouyant nor coming from a rich home and then I was just struggling to stand on my feet. The say lady now my wife was depending on me to start a life, I evaluated her then and she was business intuitive and needed a start up for business, then I was a beginner in computer science, programming and informatics. My friends kick against the relationship bitterly in a sense that I am coming from a broke home and not doing well in life I shouldn't date a broke lady from a poor home. They advised me to look for a reach lady who can support me instead of taking from me reminding me our struggles in our university days. I almost harken to their voices, I was given my wife then girlfriend then hash attitude but she didn't stay away from me and me then I was already having some 'well to do babes' both acquaintance and friends. Some day a man told me about marriages stuff how men suffered even marrying richer women and lack of peace in their marital home, he told be there's a big difference between girlfriend and wife. To cut the story short I started given attention to my wife 'then girl friend' we sat down talk about life and future and what we can do to better our lives, I discovered right there she had already agreed marry be without even outer a word about marriage we already started discussing it just two of us. Babe came up with business ideas we agreed on one cos it wasn't called for big money. Then I was planning on out to move my company forward. Three months after I struggled for the money she started then business just two months in business babe was already bringing gifts to my house, there was a big difference as money was started coming from her side. Seven months after babe move into my house and we started leaving as husband and wife in a self-contained apartment, then I was a bit down financially and my babe carter for everything in the house including rent. I was somehow ashamed but she covered everything. Just few months after babe broke the pregnancy story as in d thing rang in my ear like thunder. I was furious like this babe has finished me she calmed me down telling me she has a savings somewhere that I shouldn't bother much, I became more crazy cos I was with nothing on my side, unprepared. Getting married or have a child in a single self-contained wasn't what I wished for myself. Jobs wasn't coming on my side. We survived on her business, my mother was calling for financial support, jeeeez I don enter again sixth months of her pregnancy we went for a scan it was twins, two baby girls, she came home happy and I was crying inside. Her support wasn't ok for me cos as a man I always want to take my true place as a man and piller of the house, was thinking how am I gonna attend to people when she put to bed? Which house am I gonna welcome visitors? As an introvert that I am. I noticed her business was thriving she even assist me with money to send to my mother at home, I couldn't just tell my mom that the money came from me, I opened up everything to her so at least she won't bother calling for financial help again in closing time on hearing this my mom wasn't happy she suggested I should have well stand on my feet before embarking on such journey. Eighth month just one month to put to birth I got a contract job with a company and two NGOs through a female friend in the university who directed me to her brothers cos she saw my numerous WhatsApp status adverts. Omo money start coming immediately and hurry that first money go rent 2 bedroom arraigned ham well though the babe was upset I supposed investigate the money for something me 4 my mind I was like dis babe no me u want disgrace when ur people go come see me for single bed with two girls and u together and una know as Igbo people de do now dem no too value in-laws wey no get money. I arraigned myself sharp sharp within one month plus na dey I know say money move at the speed of light boom the two girls in the womb had arrived, things got balance and jobs upon jobs keep coming. I employeed experts to work with in areas I wasn't too good in. Just last month we finished everything marriage rites traditionally and court as our dear church wanted to do anyhow for the wedding for the sake that we have children we move forward to Court. I thank God for bringing her into my life

Amotolongbo:
Give him money to do what?
She can’t just be giving him money for no just reason. She can spend her money on the home, not giving it to her husband.

A man requesting for money from a woman is only trying to trade his pride as the head of the home.


The only time a man should be given money by a woman is when it is needed for a personal and mental development which will bring a fortune to the man and home

Forget about pride, if the man isn't financially ok you the lady marrying him know there is work to do...
You find it as a problem when it's the man requesting for money but ok when it's the lady requesting money from the rich husband forgetting marriage is a 2 way street


The thing is the man shouldn't overstep his boundary in requesting

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xpressionx:
Stay off a woman's money dear fellow men to avoid see finish

You have spoken well but not all women, some ladies do everything including surrendering their salaries to their husbands to ensure that their home is ok but they won't talk about it in the public. It's good that a man should lead financially, it's good.

Mayflowa:


You should not apply this reasoning here. The main fact you have money changes everything. I have never seen an husband boss a rich wife around. The man is usually humble and homely except she wants him to put his head in her butt.

I will apply whatever reasoning makes sense in the situation. I don't know what country you live in that makes you think husbands don't expect submission from the same wives that provide for them.
When a woman provides she is still expected to be subordinate to the man and treat him like a leader and never let anyone know she is helping him. What kind of rubbish is that?

If men are the sole breadwinners they expect complete submission from their wives and they love announcing to the whole world how providing is very hard for them and how they are under pressure because their wife is not working.
But when women are providers they are expected to be understanding and sensitive and submissive to the man's needs.

Arrant nonsense.

baby124:

The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. A wise man should seek his wife’s advice if she is successful. She must be doing something right.

Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

I'm a man buh dis is de plain truth.

Idaytesj29:


Yes, and some women are also guilty of this exact point. Fed, bankrolled and have her set up in business and still cheats.

Men cheat very boldly and with impunity. They see it as their god given right. A woman who is fed and bankrolled and wants to cheat will NEVER be so bold to let their husbands know unless they want to end the marriage.

And still they wonder why sensible people don't take them seriously ever.

Ndi gender equality activists...

Making up silly scenarios to explain why a woman should not support her man financially.

I have been laughing... LOL
This thread is a good reminder to every man out there who still believes that these women are capable of loving/needing you for more than what you can provide for them.

baby124:

The man has to be very humble. Some men will be dirt poor and walking around with ego, doing everything to destroy what the wife has accumulated so that he will be better than her. They can’t see past their ego. That building on what she has will be to the benefit of their family. A woman has to be wise and know who the husband is before parting with huge sums of money.

Some will even dump the woman that helped them once they make it. Because they want someone who does not know their poverty story. So, Don’t blame women who don’t part with their money.

Women generally know how to manage money far better than men. A wise man should seek his wife’s advice if she is successful. She must be doing something right.

Men always trying to prove to their peers that things are still great even when they are struggling. If you perfect humility, contentment and a lack of need to show off or compete in this life. You will go very far.

Go to clubs and see men who don’t have jobs spending their wives money on bottles to impress people who don’t care. Dem plenty. Kings of fake life.

Thank you for saying it so intelligently.

Some stupid women on this thread are supporting the man as if they don't live in Nigeria and know how things work here.

Hmmm marriage