₦airaland Forum

Smhart1:
Never is it happening again to me or anyone close to me. I will never advise any lady to help a guy organize his life. I’ve been there and I can boldly say that it will not end well.

Men will disgrace and ruin you.

E no go better for the person wey do you this kind thing o

Buh honestly, this generalization makes you look petty (no offense)...

But to every one his Kaya I pray you heal sha

shortgun:
Truth is that the more things change the more they remain the same.
A Young man who is still struggling to survive have no business keeping someone's daughter with the hope that he will "make it" or "blow" in the future.... it's setting the cart before the horse!

In the olden days, a man will only be eligible to have a girl or wife by his side when certain conditions have been met and he's proven to have become a Man...like a house of his own, a farmland and plenty tubers of yams in his barn
It's still the same thing today. You must be on your feet first before desiring a girl or wife beside you.
When you do the opposite, you invite problems and sorrow.

There's no point desiring to have a girl or wife when you are not yet matured... maturity here also includes the ability to provide for your woman's needs and not only having a very strong D*ck that can shift womb that is in a empty hungry stomach.

OP sense wee nor kill you sir...
Your comment is spot on...

Buh lemme add this...
The women the men married in those days (you sighted), were well charactered virgins, who were taught to be respectful, resourceful and supportive ...but the women of these days are quiet different... infact I can boldly say that the standard of women of today has dropped drastically, in comparison with the women of old ((I hope you get my point sir))...

There was a standard for men and women of those days before marriage could take place, men were well to do (just as you sighted up there) and the women were properly trained and all....

Now my question is, if the standards of women have dropped, why should the males continue in the same standard of old??

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Kuriosmynd:
It's true men are supposed to get their shit together and help themselves no matter what situation they find themselves.
But these days, it's easy to find intelligent guys struggling to make a head way. While it's also easy to see that women seem to find it easy to get job and look posh especially after school.
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While many of them remain single, even getting old, or falling into the trap of obviously bad boys, why can't fine girls just pick interest in a struggling guy, understand his struggle, and help him back to his feet. And they live happily ever after
Abi is this a taboo?
Men are finding it hard nowadays and as a result even avoiding relationship while our girls are complaining of no husband...But some of these ladies have connect to help a guy who can eventually be her husband.

Just thinking sha....Or must it Always be that ladies should only have to show up with genuine interest when a man is made?

All of this makes me have certain bias and less respect for female folk though...and it influences my mindset and makes me lose respect for women when they are with me in my state of abundance
Men dey suffer o

I have struggled with most of my exes and at the end of the day when the money came, that was when they knew i wasnt the one for them, that was when they knew i was not the right person.... Honestly as things are now i cant struggle with any man again, na me sabi wetin i face those times....

Some men will still mess up the help with their fragile egos.

Smhart1:
Petty or whatever I don’t care.

1. I’m sure you know deep down I said the truth.

2. I have come to realize that an average Nigerian man do not like peace of mind and y’all are getting exactly what you deserve from these ladies.

3. You can preach to everyone else not me. ✌️

1. Kikikikikiki ...
I don't know what you know...but I'm quite certain, you don't know what I think "deep down"

2. Kikikikikiki
Tor!!! Madam wahala, the great trouble giver kikikikikiki ...give them trouble kikikikikiki, you have my full support ...

3. Who one preach give you?? Kikikikikiki that person get time o...

Abeg try and heal eh...
You're already becoming toxic...
((No offense))

And please come back on my mention, to reply you just dey give me joy..
Kikikikikiki

Favfables1:
The same way you believe that "not all women goes for those guys", is the same way, not all guys will kick out the woman who helped them stand...and I mean like HELPED them... ((Just so we're clear, Having sex with a broke guy is not "help", dating a broke guy is not "help" and the likes...))

And besides, I'm yet to meet a guy who kicked out a *respectful* woman, who helped him stand on his own two feet, nahhhhhhh... Maybe it's because of my circle of friends, buh I never see...

Every guy I know that was helped by a woman ((either by her dashing him money to start up a business or using her connections to get him a job)) is still in a relationship with that woman ((2 of the guys will be getting married in February))...

But like you said, we all know what we want and if it's not it, then we shouldn't settle for less...

The same way a woman has a list of what she wants is the same way a man has his own list....just that nairaland males are making it seem like women's standard are higher

If you've not seen, well, me I've seen.

The lady sponsored her guy in the University but she didn't go because she was also feeding and taking care of this guy with the hope that he'll marry her.

After school, this guy called her and told her he can no longer continue with her. This lady collapsed and was rushed to the hospital. I only saw when she was being rushed into the after we heard shouts from their compound and ran out to see what was happening.
That was the last I saw her.

Men..

Mercychen:
If you've not seen, well, me I've seen.

The lady sponsored her guy in the University but she didn't go because she was also feeding and taking care of this guy with the hope that he'll marry her.

After school, this guy called her and told her he can no longer continue with her. This lady collapsed and was rushed to the hospital. I only saw when she was being rushed into the after we heard shouts from their compound and ran out to see what was happening.
That was the last I saw her.

Men..

Awk...
Compare the number of men who break the heart of their sponsors/gf to the number of girls who break the hearts of their sponsors/bf and honestly tell yourself the truth, which number is greater??

Now I'm not in anyway downplaying this man's wickedness, buh the point I'm tryna pass is that, just because a very minute minority of men act this way, doesn't mean all men are the same...

It's just like me saying, all girls are prostitutes, just because the girls I met in my University days were sleeping around for money...that wouldn't be fair to you as a lady, would it

So my dear...
Keep an open mind when dealing with people ((the opposite sex in this case)) and don't be quick to put all of them in one basket all because you or people around you have had a few bad experiences with them...

There are good men out there and there are amazing women out there, you just have to pray that God sends them your way...

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Smhart1:
If I had checked your profile I wouldn’t have responded to your mention boy!!

Kikikikikiki
I don't know bout that...
But I know for CERTAINTY that if you had checked and made sure that the connection between your brain and your tongue was awk, you definitely would be typing with sense kikikikikiki

Anyways...
Just Sha heal...
I'll be praying fervently for your recovery kikikikikiki

Mercychen:
If you've not seen, well, me I've seen.

The lady sponsored her guy in the University but she didn't go because she was also feeding and taking care of this guy with the hope that he'll marry her.

After school, this guy called her and told her he can no longer continue with her. This lady collapsed and was rushed to the hospital. I only saw when she was being rushed into the after we heard shouts from their compound and ran out to see what was happening.
That was the last I saw her.

Men..

What do you mean by that's the last you saw of her, did she give up the ghost?

Kirkman:
What do you mean by that's the last you saw of her, did she give up the ghost?

I don't think so though. Maybe she stayed away due to shame cos people already know them together in the area.

Mercychen:
I don't think so though. Maybe she stayed away due to shame cos people already know them together in the area.

Sad!! Even for a guy, that kind of shame is very unbearable.

Mercychen:
Ok.. so that after she's helped him back on his feet, he'll now kick yet out.

You try.

Only women take note and have this mindset, guys once we love a woman we will get her the world with no question asked, guys no matter what you do in this life never put a woman first before money, rather invest on your fellow men, this women will be alright with or without you, there's always a simp willing to break a bank. Help your homies so that when the chips are down they will return the favour , women go remind you how many sex una get and tell you sex ain't free with no remorse.

Hayee:
you now understand that Nigerian don't actually like good women
All this one they are saying on Nairaland na wash
Men don't actually want peace of mind
Men don't actually know what they want
Men like women that can give them heart attack

Abeg I appreciate good women o. Though u are also right. Me I dey find such woman o.

Kuriosmynd:
It's true men are supposed to get their shit together and help themselves no matter what situation they find themselves.
But these days, it's easy to find intelligent guys struggling to make a head way. While it's also easy to see that women seem to find it easy to get job and look posh especially after school.
.
While many of them remain single, even getting old, or falling into the trap of obviously bad boys, why can't fine girls just pick interest in a struggling guy, understand his struggle, and help him back to his feet. And they live happily ever after
Abi is this a taboo?
Men are finding it hard nowadays and as a result even avoiding relationship while our girls are complaining of no husband...But some of these ladies have connect to help a guy who can eventually be her husband.

Just thinking sha....Or must it Always be that ladies should only have to show up with genuine interest when a man is made?

All of this makes me have certain bias and less respect for female folk though...and it influences my mindset and makes me lose respect for women when they are with me in my state of abundance
Men dey suffer o

They love already made but no worry abobi, hustle hard and play with their smelling TOTO

Any man waiting for a woman to uplift him is worse than a swine. You have been made the head and you want to sell your birth right?
Men uplift women and not the other way round.

AoifeNightfall:
Abeg gettat. Stick by her indeed.

Is it not a well-dressed, educated man on twitter than said if he gets a better job or get more money he's going to dump his girlfriend and guess what? That post had over 20k likes and I checked the likes, they were mostly from men, especially Nigerian men.

Nigerian men are gold diggers it's just that Nigerian women are not richer than them. See how they shamelessly scam white women and cunningly label it hustling.

Nigerian women you have the right to set your standards anyhow you want. Most of these men don't have standards because they are still broke or they don't have the resources to attract the kind of woman they desire. But when they make it, they'll start setting ridiculous standards like her nyash must be bigger than Omotola and Destiny Etiko nyash combined, her skin must be lighter than the sun. But if a Nigerian woman especially here on nairaland should say she wants a tall, dark, handsome, rich man they'll start asking her if her father is like that or if her father is rich.

You people should find the girl that will stick by you when you're broke and poor because as for me and Siofra, we aren't doing that nonsense.

Yasss Queennnn!!!!! ✌️