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Simran94:
Reading the comments from most of the guys here which basically is all about SEX is enough reason to know why these people go into relationships in the first place, it's more than enough reason to know why a lot of relationships have failed and why many more will keep failing.

Apparently, most youths of this generation prefer SEX to any productive activity in relationships.

You are right. But I blame it on absolute Christianity that criminalizes human behavior uses such words as "fornicate" and threaten ppl with hell.... that's why ppl get into relationships for sex because they believe any sex outside marriage is fornication.

Me I hv sex with my close friends that is a Christian without marriage and I see nothing wrong with it

Toochildish666:
We do so manythings like we lash, plash, kpansh, smash we keep firing an firing til heavens falls after all nigerian girls lak enything productive. Maybe dey ar all program like dat. I enjoy white women more dey ar more productive an lively not just puccy.

White women are the way they are because of white men. Nigerian women are the way they are because of Nigerian men. Men have always guided and shaped the behavior of women.

Datboredberry:
Before you judge, consider the influence our society has on us... and our lifestyles.

I know most Nigerian men love to criticize Nigerian women, call us unproductive...etc.

But take your time to read the comments on this thread... Especially those from men who mention that they only have sex in their relationships... Even you... And it's as much your fault as it is the girl's.

You could be creative... But I'm sure you've never suggested doing anything more...

White women from first world countries... That are very different from yours where most women need to offer sex to survive and most men commit crimes such are rituals, internet fraud...etc.

Most men can't offer anything apart from sex too...

Yous a star!

Marry your friend and you will have lots to do apart from sex.

Even when we were still dating, we've never been all about sex. We gist together and never get tired, we take evening strolls, we attend shows, concerts and events together. We play Ludo game, we watch movies together, he made me love Action movies and I sold Premier League love to him too.

Sometimes, he plays his guitar and I sing to the tunes. At times, I just listen to him play and sing. We compose songs together too and record it. We go out to eateries, make jest of ourselves over a meal and return home.

We've been married for about a decade now, things haven't changed much, we still gist into the night, he tells me about his day and I tell him mine. We still tease ourselves and run around the house. Our sex life is still intact, he's not my brother so we really can't take that part out. Relationships are amazing if you find the one.

Aproko.. Gossiping.

We chat
then chating wil lead to small small quarrell then she will hit me and run then I will start chasing her to hit my own back then I will catch her and em then........that was before the kiddos

We run a business together, we study together since she's trying to get here master degree, We workout together, we cook together and then bleep...

• WHEN TO AVOID SEX IN PREGNANCY
There are conditions where sex in pregnancy is not advised, they include:

1. PLACENTA PREVIA

This is when the placenta covers the gate of the womb called the cervix. Sex is not advised here because it could lead to life-threatening bleeding.

2. TWIN GESTATION

If a scan reveals you're having twins, you might need to reduce the rate at which you have sex especially if you've had a history of early labor.

And if your partner is not faithful, use a condom during sex to protect you and your baby from STI's.

3. CERVICAL WEAKNESS

The cervix is the gate of the womb and it should be close until it's time for the baby to come out but there are conditions where the cervix is weak and can't close the womb properly.

Sex would increase the risk of miscarriage or go into early labor.

Sex is safe in pregnancy and only becomes a problem if you have any of the above.

Sex during pregnancy should be "GENTLE".

There is a possibility that vigorous sex may cause the placenta to separate.

Pregnancy is not the time for "harder baby" kind of sex.

Benefits of having sex during pregnancy are as follows.
*It increase sexual satisfaction
*It help to women to reach their orgasms.

* reduce stress
*improve labor and recovery time
*It also help to reduce anxiety ��

And Excessive sex can cause

*Sex becomes a major interference in your work and life.

*Too much sex makes you forget your household
Or responsibilities.

*Excessive sex is causing inflammation or irritation in the vagina Too that is it..so u may have sex 3times per week


Note::
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�A health couple having frequently intercause have about an 18-20% chance of conceiving in a single menstrual cycle.
� Both frequency and timing of sexual intercause impact strongly on the chance of conceiving naturally.
� Couples having intercause three times a week are three times more likely to conceive than couples having intercause once a week.

Lastly � All women trying to conceive should Commence taking folic acid to reduce fetal neural tube Defects... thanks for listening..

Sign By #Al Jamiu# ✍️..

Oh Boy, you make sense!

Outside sex, I use to take my late wife for an outing. Most times too we made plans for our children's future and ours too. We sometimes gossip or play games on our smartphones or tablets. Sometimes we hardly think of sex.

Ogbotobo77:
Men get into relationships for sexual access..if women didn't have Vjays men wouldn't deal with women....women control access to sex...so men in turn give commitment to gain access to sexual exclusivity...cos women don't treat sex as an equal value exchange... they've always leveraged sex since time immemorial for compliance, resources,commitment,attention etc

BigBashiru:
You are right. But I blame it on absolute Christianity that criminalizes human behavior uses such words as "fornicate" and threaten ppl with hell.... that's why ppl get into relationships for sex because they believe any sex outside marriage is fornication.

Me I hv sex with my close friends that is a Christian without marriage and I see nothing wrong with it

Se engbo werey ���

Swinger60:
Alot.

I can spend all day with my hubby without getting bored, even when we were dating it was still same.

we tease each other. We have pillow fights. we play indoor games like ludo and even play cards betting with money. (when I see he is winning me, I start cheating) .

we also go out too. (I'm married to an oringo/flexing guy).

Ehen, there are some times we have fun on low key too without breaking bank. all we do is take an evening stroll, buy corn, stroll to his snooker place, I sit and munch my corn while watching him play snooker with his friends and listen and laugh to their jokes and jabs at each other.


see ehen.., in choosing a partner, choose a friend who you can be silly, unserious, shameless, witty, crazy and in their presence, e get Maka why..!!

You just made my day. Same reasons i married my wife. One cold evening, i took her out from her African-Magic, drove all the way down to an unplanned location, parked the car somewhere far and we used our legs to start trekking. When we got tired, we lay by the sidewalk and started playing while we stared at the moon.
We got walking again, after exhausting her, we stopped at a cream shop and i bought enough to make her happy.
Babe said we should go again the next day. I just burst into laughter. Mehn, i love my wife.

Sex, sex, sex, plan our future, sex, sex, raise our kids, sex, sex, pay bills, sex, secx, sec, se, sssssssssss. Make I come first, we wan Se.

apart from ses,what sensible and educative post can u bring to nairaland.all these talk about sex sex sex is irritating

We play ludp and do ten ten

Datboredberry:
Before you judge, consider the influence our society has on us... and our lifestyles.

I know most Nigerian men love to criticize Nigerian women, call us unproductive...etc.

But take your time to read the comments on this thread... Especially those from men who mention that they only have sex in their relationships... Even you... And it's as much your fault as it is the girl's.

You could be creative... But I'm sure you've never suggested doing anything more...

White women from first world countries... That are very different from yours where most women need to offer sex to survive and most men commit crimes such are rituals, internet fraud...etc.

Most men can't offer anything apart from sex too...

...isn't this true?. No o, let's face it, devoid of sentiment. There might be some few negligible fraction that do exhibit exceptional trait beyond imagination among female folks, but in total...mehn...the situation is worrisome and calls for paradigm shift.

But I won't put the blame on female Gender, I'll rather blame it on custom/tradition that made them to have notion of being "dormant" unreactive even when they are full of innate potentials. All what they know is about celebrities and Instagram... Now tiktok..

Lòbátàn!!!
Engage them in conversation bothering social issues, religion, politics, logic, health&wellness ...dem go japaa ...but mention tonto dike and few nudities...their ear's goes up like Eskimo puppies in excitement its sad

Datboredberry:
Everyone hears the word relationship and immediately thinking of sex... especially Nigerians

What else do you do with your partner?

We gist,joke around,act naughty,see movies,cook,atimes go out,fight and settle,sex sex and more sex....but still it's friendship over relationship.

ReneeNuttall:
I wish for that too.Here in Benin,fun spots are very few and always crowded especially on weekends.

Benin ?? Na the driest state capital in the whole Niger delta region . A typical 3rdworld state . The only big time cinema hall is kada cinema and its own by igbinedion family .... The only big time shopping mall there still own by the igbinedions because they don't like competition and no body has been able to break the monopoly ... ... ShopRite unlike in Delta state , has been unable to break through since 18c ago . Night life in Benin the poorest in the whole federation. Don't even think of bringing any invention, they hate invention . It will be dead on arrival . Very bad place to have fun . Cult war and robbers

jaxxy:
Hahahahaha remove money, remove sex let me see what u both have left? Hahahahaha

The fact is many people are not in real relationships they are in sexual entertainment services.

Repackaged escort services and hookups, if they get married its another level of same scam obviously they won’t be faithful cos it’s all about money and sex.

Why do you say that way about marriage
Are you married?

Cook together, stroll out in the evenings, watch tv together, go for outdoor games, play football in the compound.

GreaterFuture:
Why do you say that way about marriage
Are you married?

What way? Everything built in life is dependent on the foundation. Be it marriage or any other thing ur trying to build. It’s simple

U can’t have a wrong relationship and have a right marriage. It’s not possible unless u intentionally correct Smtn afterwards if it’s correctable.

Datboredberry:
Before you judge, consider the influence our society has on us... and our lifestyles.

I know most Nigerian men love to criticize Nigerian women, call us unproductive...etc.

But take your time to read the comments on this thread... Especially those from men who mention that they only have sex in their relationships... Even you... And it's as much your fault as it is the girl's.

You could be creative... But I'm sure you've never suggested doing anything more...

White women from first world countries... That are very different from yours where most women need to offer sex to survive and most men commit crimes such are rituals, internet fraud...etc.

Most men can't offer anything apart from sex too...

We're blessed with many beautiful black ebony woman in our country Nigeria, most of their achievement surpassed many , if you are contact with anyone of them and you are looking for sex you will be dissapointed

Double0h7:
I was so confused reading this mention! I thought I quoted myself

U sure did. We live in a strange world u know

AfonjaConehead:
Ehhhhh!!!! Same handle!!! And,what is that in your page!!!??!!

That must be my Mr Naija pose pix, you are referring to

The most important thing to most Nigerian youths (from 18-40 years) going by what they love talking about the most is SEX, SEX , and more what?? SEXXX!
DAZZ ALL
It's evidently clear by the number of comments that show how excited the readers where upon finding this topic.

Discussions about life's lessons and future plans.
We suggest/exchange life-changing books.
Help each other with movies.

Lukepeter:
She cooks, do my laundry, clean my house and bring groceries at times, and I return the favour by giving her some hours in my time to blab about all her dreams and whatnot.

I don't even know you but I like you already

Swinger60:
Alot.

I can spend all day with my hubby without getting bored, even when we were dating it was still same.

we tease each other. We have pillow fights. we play indoor games like ludo and even play cards betting with money. (when I see he is winning me, I start cheating) .

we also go out too. (I'm married to an oringo/flexing guy).

Ehen, there are some times we have fun on low key too without breaking bank. all we do is take an evening stroll, buy corn, stroll to his snooker place, I sit and munch my corn while watching him play snooker with his friends and listen and laugh to their jokes and jabs at each other.


see ehen.., in choosing a partner, choose a friend who you can be silly, unserious, shameless, witty, crazy and in their presence, e get Maka why..!!

Only you have said something meaningful. Keep enjoying your home, Amen.

Simran94:
Reading the comments from most of the guys here which basically is all about SEX is enough reason to know why these people go into relationships in the first place, it's more than enough reason to know why a lot of relationships have failed and why many more will keep failing.

Apparently, most youths of this generation prefer SEX to any productive activity in relationships.

if i say buhari and lara marriage is not productive, what activity could i possibly be referring to

ReneeNuttall:
Watch movies,play ,tease the hell outta each other.Quarrel and not talk to each other for like two days then settle again(after forming Sharon stone) and nack.

You go sweet to nack fa...
From your face.

ReneeNuttall:
Watch movies,play ,tease the hell outta each other.Quarrel and not talk to each other for like two days then settle again(after forming Sharon stone) and nack.

Sounds like you cause drama.

Datboredberry:
Before you judge, consider the influence our society has on us... and our lifestyles.

I know most Nigerian men love to criticize Nigerian women, call us unproductive...etc.

But take your time to read the comments on this thread... Especially those from men who mention that they only have sex in their relationships... Even you... And it's as much your fault as it is the girl's.

You could be creative... But I'm sure you've never suggested doing anything more...

[b]White women from first world countries... That are very different from yours [/b]where most women need to offer sex to survive and most men commit crimes such are rituals, internet fraud...etc.

Most men can't offer anything apart from sex too...

They really aren't. Their discussions are the same.