godwinboy:
You must have dealt with that guy sha

Swears

Tealover:
I didn't reciprocate his love like that but I didn't deal with him either. I kind of feel guilty even though I don't really know what made him take such decision..

Obviously you didn’t “love” him, whatever that word means. But can you expantiate on what it was about him that you just couldn’t bring yourself to “love”?

ImoleNaija:


Se ko funny ni?



The respect that comes with being someone's ATM.

SenecaTheYonger:


Obviously you didn’t “love” him, whatever that word means. But can you expantiate on what it was about him that you just couldn’t bring yourself to “love”?

I enjoyed being his lady even though he sometimes act weird (I don't want to go into details) and then he's diaphoretic which sometimes gets me irritable..

Just to be clear here, you don't love him but due to his money you hang around and manipulated him till he finally regained his senses and call it quits. Kudos to him and i sincerely hope he finds a better lady who truly loves him. As for you and your likes, i assure you the universe will take care of you.

Tealover:
I didn't reciprocate his love like that but I didn't deal with him either. I kind of feel guilty even though I don't really know what made him take such decision..

He came to his senses. Why it took so long is what I don't know.

Limassol:
Just to be clear here, you don't love him but due to his money you hang around and manipulated him till he finally regained his senses and call it quits. Kudos to him and i sincerely hope he finds a better lady who truly loves him. As for you and your likes, i assure you the universe will take care of you.

My bad.. I'm hurting already

Limassol:
Just to be clear here, you don't love him but due to his money you hang around and manipulated him till he finally regained his senses and call it quits. Kudos to him and i sincerely hope he finds a better lady who truly loves him. As for you and your likes, i assure you the universe will take care of you.

This sounds vindictive, but it's very true.

In this relationship matters, everyone must collect one way or the other.

You break somebody's heart, someone else breaks your own etc.

Raalsalghul:


He came to his senses. Why it took so long is what I don't know.

I brought this here to get consolations and advice but the reverse has been the case..

Raalsalghul:


This sounds vindictive, but it's very true.

In this relationship matters, everyone must collect one way or the other.

You break somebody's heart, someone else breaks your own etc.

I'm the heart broken one here

Tealover:
Lol.. Honestly, I don't even know.. I didn't really like him at all initially but I started trying to develop love when I noticed how caring, kind and mature he is.. If a man can show a woman care, protect and provide for her, I think that's good enough..

One day, I was having a convo with my aunty about this guy;

Me: Aunty, I don't really like this guy o, just that he's really nice and caring

Aunty: That is the best kind of man for you, he seems to love you more and he cares about you. Try to develop the love for him because he's the one that has cared for you the most

Me: Ok aunty.. And I started working on that aspect.. Seems I didn't do it well enough

That's interesting

bepositive11:


That's interesting

Tealover:

Lol. Why the angry face?

Your reply was interesting. Pointing out how women easily fall in love with men who care and provide for them

I didn't mean to offend you

yuping:
Sincere break up, but I hate people hiding behind there keyboard why not come to your face and say it like a man. Anyway good morning breakfast is served.

What is there to come to her face and say it? Can't you see that women do not like or appreciate nice guys?

The guy was playing the "nice guy" card and that was why she didn't reciprocate. Women HARDLY do cos it turns them off.

And this stem from the fact that when a man does not present himself well, he would be friend zone. it happens ALL THE TIME.

From her post, you can easily deduce that the guy meant well but she just didn't feel the need to reciprocate cos women are not wired for such men. They are wired to reciprocate men who are indifferent about them.

It is sad but that is what it is.

Thank you all for your contributions..
The most important thing here is I've learnt my lessons and I've moved on..

NiceMen:
What is there to come to her face and say it? Can't you see that women do not like or appreciate nice guys?

The guy was playing the "nice guy" card and that was why she didn't reciprocate. Women HARDLY do cos it turns them off.

And this stem from the fact that when a man does not present himself well, he would be friend zone. it happens ALL THE TIME.

From her post, you can easily deduce that the guy meant well but she just didn't feel the need to reciprocate cos women are not wired for such men. They are wired to reciprocate men who are indifferent about them.

It is sad but that is what it is.

He could have been nice or rude to her by saying it to her face, sending a text to her is wasting another #4. Save that money for better days ahead.

yuping:

He could have been nice or rude to her by saying it to her face, sending a text to her is wasting another #4. Save that money for better days ahead.

Going to tell her to her face would not make her change her mind to date him officially.

She had already decided not to give him a chance LONG LONG before now and it seems he is just finding out. That is how women are. Your approach is what will determine whether they will date you or not.

Tealover:
Thank you all for your contributions..
The most important thing here is I've learnt my lessons and I've moved on..

what lesson? u never liked the dude. and u will repeat it with another guy as long as the next guy act like this one here. There is no lesson to learn, ma'am.

I wished he didn't waste his time but gave himself enough options such that 4 other girls will be on queue to replace you quickly...

SenecaTheYonger:


Obviously you didn’t “love” him, whatever that word means. But can you expatiate on what it was about him that you just couldn’t bring yourself to “love”?

Bro, if men know the way women respond and decide whom to date, we will be extremely careful in our engagements with them in order not to end up like this dude here.

See, ALL women never date guys that are too emotionally invested in them. They go for the opposite. Once you become too emotionally invested, they take off, even the ugly ones among them exhibit this trait.

I am even experiencing it now but the good thing is that, as soon as I realized she has withdrawn, I started looking for alternatives. I have completely pulled out and will not even contact her anymore from now till next year. I am sure she is going to buzz to call me, which is something she stopped doing since April. I had been the one initiating all the chats. There are chances that I might not respond to her calls or text and kill everything because I HATE this part about women.

Now, the best way to deal with them is to SHOW no interest. Get other girls, like 4-5 girls on standby.

Tealover:
You were loving and caring, I didn't reciprocate your love so much but one thing I know for sure is that I respected you.

I wasn't crazy about you but I felt peace and secure around you. I was happy you were in my life.

You provided for me like I were jobless even to buying me sanitary pads and panties but I gave you too little. I'm sorry about that even though in all honesty I had plans to surprise you before whatever happened. I was planning something special for you with a colleague of mine.

My relationship with you was the best I've experienced and at the same time, the worst.

I laughed the most with you and you made me cry the most.

You treated me like I were a baby, yet you allowed me to fall from such a height with reckless abandon.

This message is still one of the most shocking I've gotten in my lifetime. Even the demise of my loved one didn't hit me so hard.

I miss you and it's really hard to say Goodbye but according to you, "what is meant to be would be".

GOODBYE FRIEND

Did you see all the emboldened text? Once you allow a woman describe you like this, it is finished. It means there is nothing exciting about you anymore.

Favfables1:


Well...
Lemme advice...
Don't beg him...
If you do you'll look cheap and even if you get back together, he'll only be doing so outta pity...
He made a decision, however painful it may be to you, you just have to move on...
You can try to make him tell you the reason for his decision, atleast just so you find closure ....
Stay away from relationships for the now until you heal well...
Read books on love, relationships and marriages, it'll help you see other people's experiences, learn from them, become better...

You spoke well but this part is very unnecessary sha...the babe no send the guy. she knows she didn't like the guy.

Tealover:
You were loving and caring, I didn't reciprocate your love so much but one thing I know for sure is that I respected you.

I wasn't crazy about you but I felt peace and secured around you. I was happy you were in my life.

You provided for me like I were jobless even to buying me sanitary pads and panties but I gave you too little. I'm sorry about that even though in all honesty I had plans to surprise you before whatever happened. I was planning something special for you with a colleague of mine.

My relationship with you was the best I've experienced and at the same time, the worst.

I laughed the most with you and you made me cry the most.

You treated me like I were a baby, yet you allowed me fall from such a height with reckless abandon.

This message is still one of the most shocking I've gotten in my life time. Even the demise of my loved one didn't hit me so hard.

I miss you and it's really hard to say Goodbye but according to you, "what is meant to be would be".

GOODBYE FRIEND

I am in this same boat rn, a Nairalander too. All is well sister!

Well I can 1000% bet there was no sex in this relationship?

yuping:
Sincere break up, but I hate people hiding behind there keyboard why not come to your face and say it like a man. Anyway good morning breakfast is served.

I get you...but sometimes it's not because the man is weak...i think it's because they have too much love to look the other person in the eye and be telling them all that. It's all part of the love..

Mryacks:


I get you...but sometimes it's not because the man is weak...i think it's because they have too much love to look the other person in the eye and be telling them all that. It's all part of the love..

Hmm. So romantic

Favfables1:


You said it yourself...
"You didn't reciprocate his love" so maybe he felt he was wasting his time...
He "put up" with you for that long because maybe he thought that at one point you'd change or something...
Or maybe he found someone better...
I don't know o...
All this one's na assumptions...

I can't speak for him or for all the guys out there, buh I can only speak for myself...
I cannot be with a girl who cant match my energy or reciprocate my love...
I'm not saying she should do everything I do for her tit for tat o... buh she should put effort by going out of her way to SHOW me she cares...

It's one thing to love a person and it's another thing to make the person KNOW that you love him/her... You can say you love me, then do things that makes me sad... Yes your love for me could be genuine, buh the fact that the actions you take proves otherwise will make me think otherwise...

Well...
Lemme advice...
Don't beg him...
If you do you'll look cheap and even if you get back together, he'll only be doing so outta pity...
He made a decision, however painful it may be to you, you just have to move on...
You can try to make him tell you the reason for his decision, atleast just so you find closure ....
Stay away from relationships for the now until you heal well...
Read books on love, relationships and marriages, it'll help you see other people's experiences, learn from them, become better...

lol.....what kind of rookie advice is this ?
na today you start relationship ?

lol

Opeyemiextra:
The way breakfast was served this year is something else. This is the kind of whatsapp message I got and I thought it was a joke but he had thought it through and had other plans. And I was still doing Lover girl not knowing my breakfast has been served and well garnished.

Sis, pick the lessons, improve and move. We will be alright las las.

I commend them for even sending WhatsApp message.

I served her my own breakfast in my mind and moved on.........

relationships are nice but the price to be in one is not worth it from my perspective.


how wouldn't you be alright las las
when most of you already have a backup somewhere just in case ?

OP abeg drop him picture make we see something.

NiceMen:
What is there to come to her face and say it? Can't you see that women do not like or appreciate nice guys?

The guy was playing the "nice guy" card and that was why she didn't reciprocate. Women HARDLY do cos it turns them off.

And this stem from the fact that when a man does not present himself well, he would be friend zone. it happens ALL THE TIME.

From her post, you can easily deduce that the guy meant well but she just didn't feel the need to reciprocate cos women are not wired for such men. They are wired to reciprocate men who are indifferent about them.

It is sad but that is what it is.

Where is the lie here?

NiceMen:
Going to tell her to her face would not make her change her mind to date him officially.

She had already decided not to give him a chance LONG LONG before now and it seems he is just finding out. That is how women are. Your approach is what will determine whether they will date you or not.

Summary is that women don't like nice guys. Guys stop being nice. If she doesn't like you, nothing on Earth can make her do. Stop trying to drag a dead horse, you will get weary, you will hate yourself and curse yourself in the end.

Well done Missy! You've added another Alfa mailman to the market. Now another innocent girl will suffer for your evil. Next time, if a man doesn't make your womb twitch, leave him alone!

Also, make your own money and buy your own pads! You have no shame to say in public that another adult bought you underwear and pads as if you are 11 years old

adzone:
Well I can 1000% bet there was no sex in this relationship?

You're right..
I loved him more because he agreed to a sex free relationship.. But I allowed heavy petting