yinkaOdutuyo:



That's one of my plan this December bro

Better!

yinkaOdutuyo:



That's one of my plan this December bro

The time for planning is over sir...
Now its time to take action...
If you think she is worth you spending the rest of your life with, then go and marry her...
Forget the issue of not being awk now, you're no stranger to that family and considering all you've done for their daughter and for them, I believe they should make things easy for you...

That idea you have is a very bad idea...
If a married woman can leave a man and go and get married to another is it someone that is not married??
So do not think that putting her permanently in your house will guarantee that she'll stay...

Favfables1:


The time for planning is over sir...
Now its time to take action...
If you think she is worth you spending the rest of your life with, then go and marry her...
Forget the issue of not being awk now, you're no stranger to that family and considering all you've done for their daughter and for them, I believe they should make things easy for you...

That idea you have is a very bad idea...
If a married woman can leave a man and go and get married to another is it someone that is not married??
So do not think that putting her permanently in your house will guarantee that she'll stay...

Thank you comrade

yinkaOdutuyo:



Bros I know her than you do, so don't just conclude without knowing her pls. She does love me, but I'm just trying to be careful, because she staying in her father's house and me shouldering her responsibilities in her father's house gives room for suitors.

Then go and marry her na

So, after all the advise you were given from your last post, you are still on this girl's matter.
No wahala, I hope NL would still be around so that we would see how this would turn out, that is if you would even come and tell us.
Your eyes would clear soon. Continue

You are taking undue advantage of her families poverty. There is a scriptural saying"Do unto others as you want others to do to you". Won't you feel bellittled and disrespected if a man ask you to allow you daughter live with him for eight months. No father who has any sense of dignity will allow that.

No matter what people say, it is completely wrong for a woman you have not married to live with you. Only men with low or no morals do that.

Make sure you marry her first before she starts living with you. That you are feeling insecure and afraid that another man will snatch her from you if she continues to live in her father's house does not justify your asking g her to come and start living with you.

If she really loves you she will wait for you to come marry her in eight months time and turn down other men's proposals.

If you truly love and value her you will not manipulate her and her family, because they are poor, to allow her to come stay with you.

Considering how much you have done for her, I see no reason why her family will be unreasonable with their marriage list. If however they turn out unreasonable , stop spending on her until you can afford to meet their request.

Whatever you do, don't make her come and stay with you until you are able to marry her. It's improper.

yinkaOdutuyo:
Sequel to my last about how I sent my girl to school, which I was the one responsible for all the bills and fees from ND1 to ND2. And how I was the one that paid her rent during the cause of the 2years.

And how I have being shouldering her parent responsibilities for over 3years, due to their poverty status and their inability to provide for her, which I'm also aware of.

And how I was planning to enrol her a Catering school, about to about 250k.

My last post ended with the line, where I told you guys that she's in her parent house to stay with them for sometimes. Of which i told her, I cant be feeding you when you're in my house and be doing the same, when you're in your father's house is wrong.

Last post link >> https://www.nairaland.com/6881129/asked-cant-parent-provide-basic

To continue my story, I asked her to tell her parent about the catering school she want to enrol in and ask them for the fee, which is 250k. Her parents both replied her that they can't get the money from anywhere, that she should go and learn from a small food shop (booker) around them or if I have the power I can help her.

She called me and explained her parent response. And I told her, I can't continue to shoulder any of her parent responsibilities anymore, only if they will allow her to be staying with me permanently from this December, because if she staying in her father's house many will be coming to ask her hand in marriage or even dating. But if she's in a man's house, which might be a bit difficult.

And she also said her parent said, they're not collecting any bride price, because they're not selling their daughter.

Of which between now and 18months, I'll make arrangements and come for engagements and wedding. But from now, she will start staying with me.

I know some people will say, I want a woman that I have not pay her bride price to be staying with me that is abomination. Mind you many people pay their wife bride price even after 3 kids and some people even wed after many years of staying together.

She even told me a story about her uncle wedded after he and his wife have being staying together and had about 2 kids after 14years.

Another thing that make me to make the decision of coming to stay with me fully, was that her mother usually tell her whenever she's with me like a week, that she's staying with a man, that haven't pay her pride price. This also triggered me, that what of all these things I have being doing for a whole 3 years?


Am doing all this to protect all my investments and commitment on the relationship and to avoid stories that touches, like a guy sponsor a girl to school, but she finished and return to her father's house, where another man sees her and married her.

Pls is my decision ok or what can you suggest elders in the house.

you are man, you are free to do whatever please you. Don't post everything on NL and expect people validation

The OP is taking undue advantage of this girl's financial background which is is why he has the temerity to demand she come live with him when she isn't formally married to him. Shameful

Op, na wetin dey even do u self? All the things wey u done do for her and her parents never pass Bride price? Why u dey do like woman wrapper like dis? Abeg, allow the girl live with u joor! I hate seeing men SIMPING around, it annoys me.

What i will advice you is that till you pay her bride price you should leave her in her father`s house. Even if she end up getting married to someone else, just leave everything to GOD to reward you of all ur good deeds to her.

Op i suggest you see her parents and do the something shaparly no time wasting,the earlier the better for you