[My brother marriage is not boy friend and girlfriend ,if you like date one billion ladies ,you will only get mess up, and damaged when you finally settle down,
All you do as boy friend and girlfriend is sex, in relationship most girls pretend to be at their best, marraige and relationship are two different game, a neat girl in relationship can become shabby in.marriage, if you like date her 100 years
A girl that like sex in relationship , might keep rejecting sex in marraige,


, the more partner you date in relationship, the more damaged your heart becomes which will affect your marriage and how you reacts to your wife or husband.
















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incogni2o:


Just know 50 to 80 percentage of Nigerian women are like this.

My Wife is about 50% of your Wife's character(with the crying part too and even the vision part)

Firstly, people like her need a lot of maturity from the husband, maybe partly due to the upbringing, They are ignorant of a lot of things, listen to a lot of negative things from the Devil and his manipulations rather than from God, it difficult to change their point of view unless something emotionally traumatizing happens to them.

The issue now is that you have already travelled abroad, me, I am still here and we are doing the physical and spiritual part and really making progress, [/b]You have to be the Dad they never had in terms of Love(This is hard I must say). You also have to be the more truly spiritualy leading[b]

Your only best bet now can no more be physical but spiritual. God respects the Man's say over the Wife,

Report her to God, although this looks funny it works, also let her know you have authority over her spiritually, even before God, Trust, me, when God start dealing with Her spiritualy, She'll come back with true humility and submission.

It truly works.

Never listen to the manipulations of the Devil.

I agree with the bolded, My immediate ex girlfriend was sort of very stubborn, I'm more matured in terms of age and experience, each time I try it to correct her, she sees it that I'm trying to control her life, meanwhile a lot of the things I warned her against is happening right before her very eyes. She's the type that is very stubborn though very loving but she can be very disrespectful not minding the consequences, I guess improper home training. After I made it clear I won't be able to marry her given the constant issues we were having, she became abusive... meanwhile she has confessed to me that most things I warned her about has happened or already happening. I'll just smile and remind her the days I told her about it. She can be manipulative, but there's no way I'm getting back with her coz she will.never change. The mentality of the average Nigerian lady is sickening. God help us

pocohantas:


Where una dey see these women marry sef? Which kind talk be this?

There are very many of them out there

When redpillers talk say women are very manipulative

Na the type of op wife them dey talk about

They will so much hide there true nature

And they always go for easy going men
Men wey no get wahala

That's how my mum's last born go marry one like that

This my uncle is very soft, churchy, good looking, can't even harm a fly

But he come carry cross of the worst wife anyone can think of

The painful thing is because na churchy type
He no believe in divorce
He has been managing for years now.

Those kind of women know the kind of men they Target

Dem no dey near werey men

Campbellseun:
My advice,if you can still recall all those things you do to her before marriage that always makes her happy...try and figure out these things and start doing it again. Start doing as if you guys are still in courtship because everything is not by prayer sometimes. Action on issues like this sometimes could bring back the first sweet relationship you had before marriage back.

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Bonesbreaker:
go back and Read his post please stop been ignorant okey

I am telling you to quote where you saw it that she called his mother a witch. I read his post and he said her church does. Did she tell him her church does or did he hear a church sermon implying such. Which is what I think happened here.

pocohantas:


It is the things he stopped doing that made her call his mother a witch and made her refuse the woman access to kitchen? Commot hand for meth, you no gree.

OvertheTop:



Your SON will be Washing Pant when he his Married and will Tell You (Mother) to her him Spread it on the Line Outside....

Then You will Understand what we are talking About.

Is that all you could come up with it? Shush shush

baby124:
This guy your demands and your need to control everything this woman does is extremely ridiculous. She never called your mother a witch. You assume she did because her church may have mentioned such doctrines. For her to cry shows you are frustrating this woman.

Look most women don’t like anyone controlling their kitchen. She did not refuse your mum coming she just said she does not want a takeover of her own kitchen.

As to the sex part, are you jobless as a married person that you want constant sex? She’s also now a mother and might be fighting libido issues. Did you care to ask her if she’s going through anything and profer a medical solution?

May this happen to your son..

So sad..the way our women treat our mean abroad is very disappointing and embarrassing.

tarantino1:


The abuse is probably what she's after. It's obvious she is not a citizen yet, she married OP for the green card and is looking to compete the process without him. One way to do that is to claim abuse.
Check the link.

https://cis.org/North/Victims-MarriageRelated-Immigration-Fraud-Tell-Their-Stories

baby124:

I am telling you to quote where you saw it that she called his mother a witch. I read his post and he said her church does. Did she tell him her church does or did he hear a church sermon implying such. Which is what I think happened here.

In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch she's the one who integrated this not her church.

Mehn.. I'm very much like op always trying to please others and peace keeping but am not married yet nor thinking of it for now. I would love to see how this ends out sha. God epp us

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Get your wife something to do , get work for her , being an ordinary house wife is the height of irresponsibility, raising a family shouldn't be the work of a man alone, it takes two to tangle, I don't know if you courted this your wife before you marry her , these are some serious red flags dating her could have shown you , it seems you are the one pushing for the love and oneness as a family, you even talk to her for you both to eat on the same plate which she refused, well pray she changes, these are serious red flags and I don't think that your wife understand what marriage is all about.

I won't blame your wife much, but you're to blame most, cos you have turned yourself to a wife in this marriage and maked her your husband... Your wife has succeeded in her systematically manipulated you Even against your mom, but first, you must take back your position as the husband and head of your house, then all other necessary things will aline back.

If I were you, I will first stop her from going to that church or attend thier service online, then we will both look for a new fresh church to be attending and praying together...

Your second step: your wife has a spirit of man, she needs deliverance on this otherwise she won't enjoy any marriage unless her husband can be mumu like the one you have been practicing with her.

You're a good man, it's always difficult when marriage is one sided � if only one person keep giving their all and the other person is doing anything they like that marriage cannot work naw?!?! Hope your wife change for good of the family!

NewKidInTown:

May this happen to your son..

My son will behave better and know better.

Bonesbreaker:
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch she's the one who integrated this not her church.

So, did she call his mother a witch or not? Did you bother to ask the OP straight out? Or how did he come to this conclusion?

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

Are you me or i don't understand?. This is everything g that is happening to me in my marriage also.

Bonesbreaker:
go and print fake divorce paper drop it for her to see give her two days to make up her mind on the way forward and watch the drama, remember when you give her that fake divorce do not sleep in the house make arrangement with ur friend or hotel to sleep over that night, ignore her food do not give her attention and watch the drama display she will come back on her sense

My own wife will sign it fast fast. The op should not try this oo

Your bedroom skills are terrible. The woman is suffering. Nigerians hide so much due to fear. See how Precious almost ran mad with FFK due to lack of sex. Sufferheads....

movid:
My opinion, it depends. You are saying your own side of the story and she may have her own side too and you may the one at fault. A one sided story!! Also there are soo many things happening inside homes that can solved inside homes. Evrything is abt respect. She may also have issues against you tht you are � guilty of. About not interested in the marriage..If she is not interested will she marry you? .. Men nowadays like "hole". She might have been convinced in soo many ways but decided it's YOU. Tell her family what's happening.. Speak out! I have seen marriage of a week dissolve. You can prostrate for her if possible inside home and nobody will know. Nobody is in the light of things happening inside your home..you guys are. Gain your respect without violence and talk to her family if the issue persist. My opinion again though..

What about a wife's family that says u must not come to them to make a report . That both of u should sort out ur grievances . No third party. And the wife will never listen to the husband

neonly:
From yur write up you still young my best advise is dat don't make another baby with her for now it will be more easy to detach yurself from her with only one child d more children d more it becomes more hard to detach
Yur family is yur family because without them u won't be what u are today don't let any body ridicule yur family I mean anybody
Start making plan B I am in same shoe but dis static am using now is making me to have my sanity so many Jezebel outder careful

It is Quite Common. Once the Wife Has Kids (She has Already met her Life Goal) she will now try to Lord over u. Reduces the sex to the minimum as a punishment and manipulation tool

Godstime234:


What about a wife's family that says u must not come to them to make a report . That both of u should sort out ur grievances . No third party. And the wife will never listen to the husband

I understand sir but try create respect for your self sir and it shouldn't be in a violent way. Nobody can see what is going on in your home. You guys know what is going on so to give an advice in marriage situations takes wisdom so tht the person advising won't turn enemy when the issue has been resolved. Bottom line; Call her to order and try gain respect without violence.. My opinion

Ebubechuwku:


Praying doesn't means you are a Christian, praying means saying positive things, wishing yourselves good fate. And its 50/50, it may work out and it may not..

Anybody can pray, irrespective of their faith

Listen don't confuse yourself from what you need to do and what prayer can do.

some people get killed with the same pray for the marriage instead of getting off with there lives intact .someone will be dying and you fanatics will be saying pray pray pray,

I feel so sad reading this, bros she is not in love with you , just have plan B and be ready for anything any time so it will not break you down when it happens.

EndRape2:
Dating alot of ladies is never the solution because it will mess your mind, and most men dating different girls can never have a good marriage research has proven this most ended up divorce withing 5years

If you like date 1 million women , the experience can never be de same with the one you finally settle with. No two women are the same .














author=larryking540 post=108290291] na here your problem take start ,you stayed without it for 9years most women can't stay without it for 6 months ,,,you na rev father ,even father day hide knack ,baba if u dateed alot you would have understand nature of female I swear ,

says who ,I wouldn't be surprised this coming from a lady ,,,will you as a lady date and marry an unexperienced guy ,let's be real here which most of you term boring or not interesting

Most comments are ignoring the fact that they do not live in Nigeria I'll assume you;re in the states.

This man needs to be very careful, else he will meet himself in jail and then in MM2 with just a coat.
It appears his marriage is on the path to fail and he lost control already as he failed to be the man.

Here is my take:
* Start taking pictures of the good deeds you do to her and most especially to the child. Keep receipts, invoices, record videos. You'll need to those in court.
* Visit a registered councillor and explain your worries. Be careful not to show your mind as unstable. Keep a record of the date you visited the councillor.
* Focus your attention on your baby and your career and continue the 'living' like housemates.
* Never shout at her (your neighbours can report you), assault, nor lar your hands on her. This is a very fast journey to jail or Lagos.
* Submit yourself to God since you're a Christian. Place your marriage in God's hands and stop trying to fix it.

I wonder how you managed to wife her without seeing traces of all these. Maybe you're one of those people who will arrive from Uk and want to return with a wife in 6 weeks.

What a disobedient wife. I wondered what you people discussed in courtship.

brightalo1010:


Listen don't confuse yourself from what you need to do and what prayer can do.

some people get killed with the same pray for the marriage instead of getting off with there lives intact .someone will be dying and you fanatics will be saying prayp pray pray,

Thats true.... we are product of our actions...

IbrahimSkiba:


You are a very good and caring husband who's only passions is seeing his marriage work.. God will give you your heart desire.. And reconcile that broken bond between you and your life... And abeg ehhh, if you get any single friend wey dey find Nigerian wife.. Holla at me.. I come in Peace

You Want to TRY your Own Juju too on another One.
so that when you get there....You TURN to LION.

You have the signs already....

OvertheTop:


You Want to TRY your Own Juju too on another One.
so that when you get there....You TURN to LION.

You have the signs already....

I didn't mentioned your name in my comment
Enemy of progress get behind me.. Winch

Kuriosmynd:
Simping in marriage will take u no where.
Those bullshit marriage councilors tell you, to do more, sweep more, fetch more water, cook more, clean more, watch plate more and all those bullshit will not a change a demonic wife. And if she's lost sexual attraction for you, to burst ur bubble, doing those houseboy work especially when u dont normally do it will only make her pvssy dry the more.

Most of u all never saw ur father do those bullshit, yet he commanded respect from your mother, but u want to become house boy to ur wife and think u will get her respect...shiior.

This is Africa..no matter the advancement, doing those bullshit will only bring premium tears and disrespect....except out of volition on rare occasion, not out of duty, or her expectations.

If she needs domestic helper, she should get a houseboy. simple. What does she do with her salary? She should pay for househelp paraventure a man doesnt have enough for that

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Nonsense

But they are not in africa