Hathor5:
You can run your home as you and your wife want it to be run.

Your opinion of how other husbands and wives should run theirs does not count.

And for you to think that your dïck will shrink from doing the dishes is a sign that you are very insecure in your 'manliness'. Maybe you have some growing up to do first?

Richy4:
OP... I just want you to be honest ie if you can.... are you married? if yes, for how long?

Iyaebe:
Nice thread

9japarts:




Make your point

Thanks.. I just got my answers ..No further questions

Richy4:


Thanks.. I just got my answers ..No further questions

9japarts:


You only made a point in your mind

Richy4:


You know what judges/ lawyers thinks when a witness or witnesses refused to answer simple questions right?

9japarts:


Objection, the marital status of the op has no bearing to the conversation.

My lord OP's marital status is needed in this case for honorable Nairalanders in this court to know where he got his experiences from.. is he married? How long has he been married.. and how long has he been practicing what he was dishing out to the public? My lord we are not asking if he was happily married.. I mean how many people can actually say they were..

If he is not married My lord, we need to know if he is a relationship coach. How long has he been practicing and his location or address my lord..

My lord we do not need people misleading the general public, ending people's relationship with cut and join relationship advice..That is why his marital status is needed to be declared in this honorable court..

Section 17 subsection 76b of the evidence Act my lord... If he is not qualified, he should put a disclaimer... ( In case u don't find the sections, just smile in your heart )

Richy4:


My lord OP's marital status is needed in this case for honorable Nairalanders in this court to know where he got his experiences from.. is he married? How long has he been married.. and how long has he been practicing what he was dishing out to the public? My lord we are not asking if he was happily married.. I mean how many people can actually say they were..

If he is not married My lord, we need to know if he is a relationship coach. How long has he been practicing and his location or address my lord..

My lord we do not need people misleading the general public, ending people's relationship with cut and join relationship advice..That is why his marital status is needed to be declared in this honorable court..

Section 17 subsection 76b of the evidence Act my lord... If he is not qualified, he should put a disclaimer... ( In case u don't find the sections, just smile in your heart )

9japarts:


Off your mic

U ARE WELCOME BUDDY.. blame it on secondary school debate way back..

LilMissFavvy:
Majority of men including you did chores when they were not yet married right? So what makes it bad if they continue with chores after marriage? How does a man doing chores make him less of a man? Yes men should be providers, but the reality/truth is that majority of wife's are contributing financially in homes, while some are the bread winners, therefore if a man can help with chores fine, if he can't, let him get a domestic help.

InTheCloudySky:
You can go back to the Victorian era, OP. Ain't nobody stopping you. Please stay there.

When your masculinity is tied to washing or lifting a damn plate, you've serious issues that need resolving. Ever thought of seeing a shrink?

I only pity the woman you marry, because men like you with rigid, insistent, sexist stereotypes of how to be a man are more likely to use and tolerate violence against women.

Richy4:

U ARE WELCOME BUDDY.. blame it on secondary school debate way back..

InTheCloudySky:
And if you had any control of yours you wouldn't be so easily frightened by the thought of your masculinity being depleted by a mere kitchen item or any household item. A confident man and one secured in his masculinity would see it as a fixed trait and not something that can be easily taken away or that requires external validation, both of which are beaming clearly from your posts. You're insecure and have low self-esteem, and sexist men such as yourself, with perceived threats to your fragile masculinity, often exhibit toxic behaviors, aggression and violence towards women, and others. Get help.

By the way, broke men and poor people in general are more likely to be victims of violence or violent crimes than higher income earners. You're probably no h.i.e that you're claiming to be, otherwise you wouldn't be so preoccupied about something so frivolous. If Stephen Curry, John Legend, and other wealthy celebrities can help their wives in the kitchen and cook for them, who you be? These are activities you should see as fun and that you could do together with your wife to bond, but you would rather turn it into an unnecessary war.

It's almost 2022 and times are a- changin'. Real men do dishes; volunteer at food kitchens for the less fortunate, doing dishes and cooking for them; and have no problem doing and helping their wives with them at home either. Either get with the system or kindly get lost with your pompousness.

9japarts:


The bolded lies the problem.

Women should be provided for, no real man should shelve his responsibilities of provision to his wife.

Is it wrong to have a wife that contributes financially to the home. Absolutely not.

The trap of letting women take the sole responsibility of you being a man should be discouraged. And it start with the mindset. I am the provider for this home. It enables him to make better plans and decisions for his home.


Should men do chores, Yes. Real men know how to cook, wash, keep his environment clean. That's manliness.

Now, should it be his responsibility to do chores, where it is defined, baba Nura, you are doing dishes next week! No

The context is in the duty. It is not manly to subscribe to such sissyness

greenie77:


Why tie the validity of a.man to only his ability to provide for a woman?

With the economic realities of Nigeria and the gap between the life expectancy of Nigeria men and women, you want to risk a family depending on a single income?

olabrinks:
Blah blah we know the ones that are married and those that yap on Nl to waste time. Some of you are so bored, come up with all manners of nonsense to write as a thread. Lool.

9japarts:


Would you rather a man that takes care of you, or one that wants to do roaster for house chores?

I know. I know

9japarts:


Men should sustain their role as providers.

If you had read the write up without bias, it encourages men/husband to take care of the home and be more responsible.

It is also largely against the new concept of sharing chores, which transcends from just being a choice, to a duty. It is not the duty of men to do chores. Will their dicks shrink, of course not. Should men know how to cook or do dishes? True manliness requires that!


The point is, men should focus more on their duties of being providers. If your wife complains of too much chores, the next action shouldnt be, let's divide chores, but rather, how do I make this easy for her. Should I get an help, or whatever will bring less pressure on her.

My opinion as to how husband should run their home, is necessary and counts. This conversation is important to bring a more balanced view. For men that will run with this , it reduces the number of sissies in our communities !


Now, if after this summary, you still don't get it, then forget about it.

9japarts:


Would you rather a man that takes care of you, or one that wants to do roaster for house chores?

I know. I know

9japarts:


There is no where in my writeup i mentioned depending on a single income, nor that women should not work or contribute financially to the home.

It is directed at a change of mindset for men, and own up and to be Men.