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Anytime her mama and siblings come, na police I go use pursue them.

If she talk too much, make she park her load follow them.

Some stubborn women need to be taught like that.

ikennamadu1:
Bro lemmi give you one advice .. since her mother and brother are in your house presently.. tell them you want to do a little get together between you and her siblings including her...

* Go out , buy small chops
* Buy soft can drinks and red wines
* Buy cake

After you must have done all this , call all of them inside .... Start your speech by saying .. you wan to appreciate God for a good and wonderful year.. despite all that happened this year .. God kept us alive ... That this is just a way to say thank You God ... Then say mama , tell your daughter I'm no longer interested in this marriage .. mama despite everything I did for your daughter , she has successfully showed me how wicked and evil she is
.. mama can you imagine she has successfully thrown all my family members out of my house.... But whenever yall come around she feel happy... How can a good woman be so evil and wicked to her in-laws .. this is a woman I sacrificed my all for ... Mama at this juncture tell your daughter to pack her things and leave my house.. the children is mine ... I will take care of them .. let her leave with the last born .. I'm no longer interested...

Then sit-down and wait for her kneeling down to beg you .. that she will change ..

Not my own kind of wife. She will just go inside with her mama n pack her things. Wetin I dey talk self. Na she pay for the apartment we are staying presently. Las las , na me go commot for them

It seems that your not a man of your words and your wife uses that as an advantage because a woman will never try such in my home.
Let your No be No and Yes be Yes. You bought everything for her then what of your siblings; are they living ok? Build your siblings, so that they will live on their own without begging you for bread every morning and you can be spending some quality time with them outside your camp when you wish then your wife hatred towards them will be minimized because they will care-less about her

This hoes aren't loyal

Op I had similar experience, stand up as a man and take a stand with wisdom, heaven won't fall

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Bro am a woman too and my husband's siblings are my watchword. Anything that will make them to say"she chased us out of our brother's house,I avoid it like poison" We are trying to rent a new apartment and each time I mention to him that one room will be left locked in case his siblings visit us,he doesn't believe it.
I hope Ur people doesn't show her attitude anyway cos women don't like being challenged in their husband's house by his siblings,truth be told.
Otherwise,stick to an INSTRUCTION THAT NO THIRD-PARTY BE ALLOWED IN UR HOUSE" both from the two families,she will ask u ur reason,then u tell her. Maintain the instruction until she's willing to change

,I'm facing the same shit but I have getting over it because what ever she did ,I did 10* of it to her, she don't want to see my families I don't want to see hers also ,of she need to see her family let her go to them , now she is regretting all her actions

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

As for me I don't have any advice for you. You're a man and you know just what to do but you just choose to be weak. Continue being so till it becomes late. That's my advice for you




Pukes

Woman get away with a lot of nonsense in Nigeria. Despite all these you kept giving her belle lol

Hintona:
Sorry.


But it's your fault.

How?

chicogentil:
You made a mistake yet you got 3 kids with her

That one happens all the time. For me it's even good, atleast the kids is ur evidence on the marriage.

This same thing happened to me. The worst was when my friends comes to the house she starts frowning her face. My friends noticed her attitude and decide not come to my house again.

I actually confronted her and asked her why she hates my family and friends. But she said she does not hate my family. Saying she did nothing wrong.

I couldnt take it anymore so I sent her packing to her parents house and called for family meeting so she can explain what wrong my family did to her and why she hates my friends.

After the family meeting. I told her to stay there for 1 week with condition of she changing.

Bro up till date my wife has changed. I told her that if she continues with her attitude I will send her pack g for good.

Signum:
That one happens all the time. For me it's even good, atleast the kids is ur evidence on the marriage.

It'll definitely be good for you ladies.

Have you tried to find out if your family is the reason for her behavior? It may not be her, it may be that your family also have an attitude that she can't accommodate.

It sounds like your home is always an open for all where all extended family are always welcome. Her mum, siblings etc are in your home? You need to set your boundaries. You are the architect of your own problem. You seem like the type who wants his woman to marry not only him, but also his family and you will marry not only your wife but her family also. It can't work. It can never work that way.
Both of you need to sit down together and rearrange your priorities for your marriage.
It is Mr and Mrs.
Not
Mr with his family and Mrs with her family.

Richpet85:
I never knew she will change like earlier. She was cool with my family and friends until d wedding night. Secondly, immediately after our marriage she started her Youth Service and my company redeployed me to another state. So we weren't actually together for almost 2years.
If I had saw this redflag initially I wouldnt have end up with such miserable life.

Finally I work with financial institution, I can't follow through such decision that required time aspect during annual leave which sometime is not enough to enable one take care of some challenging family issues.[color=#770077][/color]

sharply carryout a DNA test on your first child.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Am a woman...your story is not strange...some of us are like that . I don't know why a woman would think her own family are better....selfishness

Please get it that ur are bond to your siblings by blood...a woman remains a stranger that eventually becomes a part of u....

Don't be a weak man. Talk with her...make her understand how u feel and how two families are part of u both and none should b more Superion than the other.....if no changes....the decision is yours, ....but don't forget ...your family is your family...the ones who love u unconditionally and will always be there in good n worse time for u.

May God give u d best guidance.....u need to b happy in ur home...else it doesn't worth it

Man up my man.

You're the owner of the house

SolaScrivens:
When I read generalized posts like this, I am always careful drawing opinions.
Coz there are multiple sides to a story...

Well from the OPs write up, it's apparent his wife and siblings don't get along well...

But OP never stated reasons, or gave instances.
If you check well the reason they don't get along might not necessarily be the wife's fault.

Judging from my experience of how overly entitled the relatives of African males can be.
I remember my useless mother inlaw telling me she bought me with her money and can do whatever she likes to me, despite my parents sponsored the wedding down to cloth her son wore on wedding day, I paid rent that we live in, my parents as a tradition don't collect bride price...

My husband came with incomplete yams and very empty box I rejected on wedding day despite I and my parents foot all bills and I even paid over 70% of rent o(I basically paid rent and he paid agreement fee and co coz he begged not to postpone wedding coz covid 19 affected his finance etc... Plus my parents particularly my mum kept pressuring it's bad omen to keep shifting wedding date).

So I don't Know what the evil Aduni Ilegbusi (ex mother inlaw) feels she bought me with!

This same inlaw I arranged Xmas package for despite their son refused to drop money asking me if it's only December they will be eating "onje Omo", despite I got married to their son in August and take gifts there even before December, but December was when I took bulk shopping...

Same ppl I sent biscuits to their grandson, and the motherinlaw called me the next weekend I went there, that the biscuits I sent to posi, she went to look for it, it's 1250 naira, it's too expensive, that's how their son will not build house... She bought cabin biscuit instead, so I should be buying cabin...

Now same useless inlaw whose daughter got pregnant twice outside wedlock and wears bumbshots telling me who married her son a virgin that my knee length wear is too short...

All manner of madness demands within one year of marriage.

Stupid inlaws vexing I only come visit during weekends. I explained I work from home during the week. Yet it didn't sit well with the useless ppl.

Now same man(rather 37 yrs old foolish boy) comes saying I hate his parents...
Blabla... The marriage got broken (Story for another day)
And I curse them!

Yes, curse be unto the Emmanuel and Aduni Ilegbusi family, parents of Oluwaseun Ilegbusi who reside in Kajola, berger(Akoko crescent). May their immediate biological daughters never enjoy Marital bliss for their wickedness to me.

Fact is sometimes the relatives of African males just want to Subjugate the woman! And when you can't be Subjugated they tag you bad.


As for the Ilegbusis', I will still open a thread here on Nairaland on their story, but today is not the day.
I just know Oyinade and Busayo (their 2 daughters) will never enjoy Marital bliss in Jesus Name!
According to psalm 35, so shall it be unto Seun Ilegbusi for he and his family's wickedness to me.

This is strong my sister.This thing goes both ways.Human values are not gender based.PLS loop me in when Abt to tell your story.Sorry Abt what happened to you.This is gut wrenching!

chicogentil:
It'll definitely be good for you ladies.

Am even remarking in favor of the man having children in the marriage, even if it fails, the children is his greatest achievements and a point he could not regret totally

Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.



This I can't take if my family will not come over then your family too will not come over, besides you saw the red flag before the wedding but you ignored it...

May God help you to do the right thing because your wife is not a good woman

Mr loverman continue living ur SIMPle life

As for me you can't like your family to come to our house then when ever mine comes you frown at them not liking them around will not work ooo, as long as yours would come over then mine will come too.

Your wife thought she got married to you alone and you got married to her and her family so is that not wickedness in high places!

You even tried for 8 years to over look all this meaning ever since you got married to her your house is a no go place for your family no be juju be that!!!

Bane every one from coming to your house including her people, but 1st discuss with your people and tell them your plans so they don't feel offended when u bane them..do this for atleast 1 year..since she doesn't want your own people, her own people should stay clear

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

Richpet85:
Please do not mind my english consider any error as typo but I honestly needed a sincere advice.

My marriage will be 8 years by September 2022. The journey of marriage has not been rosy and sometime I feel I made a very huge mistake by marrying my wife. I met her in April that year, we date for 6 months and we finally got married Sept same year. Prior before we got married I took her to meet with my siblings since my both parents were late specially our 2nd daughter who her husband sponsored my secondary education. She was cool with my family and never raised any concern during this period of courtship.

Suddenly a night of our wedding everything changed. That same woman that took care of my family as hers turned into directly opposite of who she used to be. To cut the story short, she started dispising my family and the thought of their sight irritates her.

She started by complaining about my sister's son living with me before we got married, her mum and other of my siblings to the point that anytime my eldest sister visited she will leave my house with tears.

My wife also ensure she send all my siblings and relations away from me and my house no go area for them. But what confuses me was that she doesn't behave in a similar manner whenever her own siblings or her mum visits our home. Her behaviour towards my family has destroyed the joy we once had as siblings. The marriage has produced 3 kids of which my last child is less than a month old. Anytime she put to bed her mother has always been the one coming for OMUGOO. None of my siblings can come to my house because of her attitude towards them.

I can't tolerate it further am dying silently as am typing this msg her mum, her immediate junior Sister are in my house and every where is very peaceful. If they were my mum or sibling my house would have been burning by now.

I made conscious effort to kill and ignore this feeling but anytime I see her mum and sister. I feel very depressed in my own house. There are other ill behaviour she have which I can tolerate but seeing myself separated from my siblings because of my wife is my greatest Marital night mare.

I am sincerely fade up with her but my kids are my greatest weakness. The thought of leaving my house and go far away from her or rather travel abroad and leave there permanently has recently overcrowded my mind. But I can't stop thinking about my kids, their future and what they will turn into if she is to raise them alone.

Don't forget I have provided her with everything needed to be comfortable in marriage, house, cars, business etc mostly importanly I am not cheating on her, I don't smoke, I don't keep late night and I don't have friends because she has sent everybody close to me away from my life.

I need a mature advice and no insult please.

I am emotionally trumatised and feel so depressed.

I don't know how u melt her but one thing is certain any woman who can't treat ur family as hers den she is not worthy to be a wife. U have made the mistake already but u can't continue like dis if her own people is in the house then u go and bring urs too. But make sure u have the capability to feed them all.

U don't have to be soft on her act like a man and take total control of ur house.

If she is saying ur family members can't come to ur own house and her own family is always welcome to ur own house den send her family away let her pass through a bit what u are going through.

Send them away is ur house and u have every right to do what ever u wish in ur house don't allow a woman to control u.

And one last thing be prayerful ooo some women get dis kind behaviour from their parents especially the mom so be prayerful and watch.

lomprico:
You are not fed up yet o, give her another 8yrs then if she does not change (which she will not) then u can japa since she has destroyed your relationship with your siblings and friends.
Abeg getat!

As she change on your wedding eve na dat time you for change am for am too, things for balance.

Iswear! Your head dey there, you're the one that's supposed to be doing what she's doing, it's your house for crying out loud. 6 month is not even enough for courtship.

[quote author=SolaScrivens post=108650845][/quote]Hmmm.

It is well.

Cheers.

You are an Alpha. Love what you did

9jausedauto:
Treat her family the way she treats yours but this time make hers worse than she treats yours, oga trust me she will change, my wife tried it, she is still suffering the consequences, she even moved out of the house thinking I will come beg her my brother I didn't move after three weeks her family came begging, she has change towards my family completely but I still dy give her family heat, she don beg tire

Your bias is apparent. Most Nigerian ladies are not hospitable to their in-laws. This is a well known fact.

whiteroses:
Do you give resources away to your siblings ? Or did they initially had a habit of assaulting or despising her and you turned a blind eye ?
There will be a reason why she loathes your family.
She’s not a house help that you can use her matter to play games. If she sensed that, she will fight back.
From your write up I can see that your family over steps their boundaries. They don’t need to be coming to your house often and act like they want to take over. If they are around your wife is the boss of all of them and cannot be relegated to the background.
She’s your other half. She’s more important to you than your family.
Two should become one and you ca no longer cleave to your sister.
Nonsense… Your wife is fighting for boundaries if you ask me. If your family has your balls in their pockets please free that babe.

I AM WRITING IN CAPS TO DRAW ATTENTION TO THIS RESPONSE.

I HAVE READ THE POST ABOUT THIS MAN’S MARRIAGE TO HIS WIFE, AND AM AMAZED AT THE VAST MAJORITY TELLING A GROWN MAN WHO HAS COME TO A FACELESS ONLINE FORUM TO GIVE A TINY TINY FRACTION OF WHAT COULD POSSIBLY BE LIES BECAUSE HE NEEDS ENABLERS TO CEMENT HIS INTENTIONS AS A COWARD.

LET’S START WITH THE WIFE (AND I AM SPEAKING FROM VERY CLOSE EXPERIENCE - SO CLOSE THIS ALMOST SOUNDS ALIKE) - THIS MAN HAS PAINTED THIS WOMAN LIKE THE DEVIL - AND I CAN BET YOU THAT IF SHE HAD ANY MOTIVES OR ILL INTENTIONS TOWARDS PEOPLE CLOSE TO HIM, THEY MOST LIKELY WON’T BE MARRIED. HE SAW SOMETHING HE LIKED AND ADMIRED.

SOME WOMEN CAN DEFINITELY CHANGE IN MARRIAGE AND RIGHTFULLY SO - THE OP HAS LEFT OUT A VERY CRUCIAL PART OF WHAT MADE HIS WIFE CHANGE. SO I WILL GIVE A STORY OF THE CLOSE EXPERIENCE TO PERHAPS JUGGLE HIS MEMORY SO HE CAN SHARE THE REAL TRUTH.

THIS COUPLE MARRIED ABOUT 8/9 YEARS AGO AND IN TRYING TO SETTLE DOWN AND KNOW EACH OTHER, THERE WAS DEEMED TO BE ARGUMENTS WHICH ARE QUITE NORMAL FOR NEW COUPLES.

BUT THE HUSBAND STARTED GOSSIPING TO HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS EVERY SINGLE THING THAT HAPPENED IN THEIR HOME EVERY TIME THERE WAS A MISUNDERSTANDING. THE WIFE TRIED TO GET THEM TO COMMUNICATE AND SEE WAYS ABOUT RESOLVING ISSUES WITHOUT THIRD PARTIES INVOLVED (MEANWHILE IN ALL OF THE GOSSIPING, THE HUSBAND WOULD LIE AGAINST THE WIFE AND PUT HER IN A BAD LIGHT TO GAIN SUPPORT FROM WHOMEVER HE WAS TELLING AN ISSUE TO)

WISE PEOPLE KNOW TO NEVER GET INVOLVED IN A COUPLE’S ISSUES EXCEPT THEY BOTH HAVE AGREED TO BRING THEM IN - OTHERWISE WHEN ONLY ONE PERSON COMES TO TELL YOU STUFF ABOUT THE OTHER PERSON, THERE ARE USUALLY LIES INTERTWINED.

FOOLISH PEOPLE OR EVEN THOSE WHO KNOW THE TRUTH, USE THE OPPORTUNITY THE ONE SPOUSE HAS GIVEN WITH THE OPEN GOSSIP AND START TELLING THE HUSBAND WHAT HE WANTS TO HEAR AND IN OTHER WAYS, DISRESPECT AND VIOLATE THE WIFE’S PLACE IN HER HOME.

LIKE SOMEONE SAID ABOVE, THE AFRICAN MENTALITY OF MOST MEN’S RELATIVES IS ASTOUNDING- THEY TRY TO GET THEIR NEEDS MET AND WHEN THEY MEET RESISTANCE FROM THE WIFE WHO PROBABLY IS TRYING TO BUILD HER NEW MARRIAGE AND HOME WITH RESOURCES THAT THEY WANT FOR THEMSELVES, THEY TAG HER BAD AND THE HUSBAND NOT BEING ABLE TO HAVE BOUNDARIES, ALLOWS LOOPHOLES WHICH USUALLY CAUSES A WIFE TO FORM A DEFENSE MECHANISM AROUND HER - WHICH SOMETIMES MEANS THAT SHE DOES NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE BEING NEAR (ESPECIALLY IN HER HOME) PEOPLE WHO DON’T MEAN HER WELL; HAVE DISRESPECTED HER WHEN GIVEN THE CHANCE, AND WANT HER OUT OF HER MARRIAGE.

LET THE OP BE TRUE TO HIMSELF. YOUR POOR ACTIONS HAVE MADE YOUR WIFE DEFEND HERSELF. YOU MOST LIKELY DID NOT PROTECT HER OR DEFEND THE TRUTH ABOUT WHY SHE FEELS OR ACTS THE WAY SHE DOES.

YOU WERE NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE, AND HAVE A LOT OF GROWING UP TO DO.


SHE IS RIGHT TO ONLY FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH PEOPLE WHO TELL HER THE BITTER TRUTH WITH GOOD INTENTIONS AND NOT THE ONES WHO GOSSIP BEHIND HER BACK LIKE YOU HAVE DONE.

Alpha males enjoy their marriages for the simple fact the ladies know he has no problem calling it quit if she won't bend to his leadership. A man must be firm in dealing with his women lest he perish

BiggyB242:
Of course, that's why you should have some element of bad boy in you. Don't be too predictable.

AmokwuJS:
Alpha males enjoy their marriages for the simple fact the ladies know he has no problem calling it quit if she won't bend to his leadership. A man must be firm in dealing with his women lest he perish

I'm telling you. That's why in the dating stage let them know their level. Most times they say I'm not romantic that's another word for "mumu-stick"

Brunosamel:
its Good to see a warrior in this platform the only problem now is can the man take actions and up his games

It’s either he change or perish.