Hmmm

how can I find a woman who doesn't have atleast one of these
make who na no dey make people dey fear these marriage of a thing
no marriage is perfect

Don't marry at all, if you are a man.

Marriage is only for women. There's no such thing as happily ever after for a married man. Na only wahala dey a married man's future.

Somebody go just sit down and decide to look for problem. Na so una like problem?

Mood11:
Nobody is perfect..
Just marry who you can manage with.

Some characters are not manageable. Can you marry a thief?

Once you have car and money

All these points no concern Nigerian girls at all

greencard:
Many people love the idea of marriage but the bad news they keep hearing is distancing them from the idea.

Some especially the redpillers may claim defiance ,but deep within they wish to settle down, but they just don't know with whom

I can't tell you who to marry, But I can advise you on whom not to marry

I- Never marry someone without the fear of God. It's dangerous.
They may fear you at your presence,maybe because of your economic power as their benefactor or because you may get upset and do them dirty if they wrong you. But don't underestimate their quick change if they finally get that which you offer them from somewhere else , then the fear of you diminished and they do what they wish . Cheat on you , blackmail you and of course divorce you.


2 ...Never marry someone that find it hard to forgive simple fault

I had to add simple fault, because if I say just forgive, then you might take him/her for granted and be doing anyhow. , because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes

3 Don't Risk marriage with some one with too many opposing beliefs to yours

By opposing beliefs, I don't mean APC Vs PDP, they are almost the same thing, I mean, don't risk marriage with an extremist of any kind, except you two are extremist. If you are pro life and they prefer abortion, don't go there. If they laugh at the death of another person who is simply not their tribe or religion but they feel happy at it. That person is not sympathetic, he/she will laugh at you one day and you will hate yourself. Only you can properly tell the contrast. Just don't risk marriage with some one with too much opposite beliefs to yours.


4 don't marry a liar
Fooooool, you will see it o, but you will laugh and say but you can lie sha . Don't worry na, marry him/her . You go hear whin. You will always know where you stand with a womanizer, you will always know where you stand with a thief, but you can never know where to place yourself with a chronic LIAR. Don't say he doesn't lie to me sha, the breakfast go reach everybody one day and you will hate it that you were one of the many wise people he/she fooled

5. Don't marry a sadist
There are some things smiling and laughter can àvert , there are some things dancing and playing can repair, there are some things , cuddling and chiding can fix , but if you end up with a sadist . There is nothing I have to say to you than the LORD is your strength

6.. don't marry a nyph if you can't cope
At first you will think it's fun and you can match the game , but when e go over you , even the gods with their might and wisdom won't be able to settle the matter

7. don't marry out of pity
She came from a poor background so she must me humble and needy , Bros that should not be the main reason you should marry her. If I don't marry her who will? Let me just pity him cos he has been disturbing me, the boy try self . Me I pity you o. She doesn't have a helper let me help her by marriage, no go marry witch o

8. if there have been several warning signs, don't be stubborn, don't marry o
You may have noticed the signs , when they are with you, or in the dream or through your father or mother or friends or neighbor or strangers..
e get why o.
Don't follow your mumu heart o. You self reason am

Don’t marry someone who doesn’t have family values.....slay queens and kings

A word is enough for the wise, no matter how love blinds u, marriage will heal those eyes...

And u think you can get a perfect person without all these ...?..only God.

Never marry a sadist ooo!

Including those with mood swings like NEPA

One minute y'all are smiling, next minute you're wondering what you've done wrong.

Once i notice you are stingy and very narcisstic, i will just dump you.

BUSHHUNTER:
Don't even marry a Nigerian girl

You're right my gee.. Niggas don't forget this,if you value your peace of mind.

Never marry a woman that can beat you.
She go be beating you during every little misunderstanding.

Don't marry the OP.

From the stories of married people I have gathered on Nairaland Lately;

1. Please, never get close to any Lady without any source of income with the view of consummating her as your wife.
There must be indices showing she will generate income in few months to come if you must go ahead. Some Men who dared such are still praying for breakthrough & Naija isn't getting better anytime soon. Be warned!
A Lady making #20k every month is far far better than the most beautiful girl in Nigeria who sits at home, taking nude pictures of herself & uploading them for likes and fan base!

2. IF you are a very neat man; never marry a DIRTY woman who may seem recalcitrant towards adopting your sanitary values.
Reason: it's very easy to pass Filthiness over to kids than Good habits since a woman is known to spend much time with the kids.

Seasoned advice.

Lastly don't marry a female nairalander.they're all hypocritical feminist

emmyluizzz:
how can I find a woman who doesn't have at least one of these

make who na no dey make people dey fear these marriage of a thing

no marriage is perfect

Find one who respects you, who's teachable and ready to make sacrifices. You should also be the same to her

phemmyfour:
Some characters are not manageable. Can you marry a thief?

What of woman beater, chronic womanizer, man that would carry another woman come home to sex on his matrimonial bed?

Or for a man , a wife that everyone in neighborhood is fucckking.

Some red flags are no go area

K

From experiences from my previous relationships,
I can say there are 3 set of people to avoid.
1. Don't marry a liar. A liar will always cheat on you, take advantage of you and always manipulate you.
2. Don't marry someone that cannot take decision for him / herself. Any relationship that a partner or both are still under influence of friends, parents, spiritual heads are bound for doom. My mummy said, my pastor said, my friend said blah blah blah, always avoid this type of people.
3. Also, look at the family beliefs, views, ethics and perspective about some issues that are germain to you. For example, if your partners parents are separated, if all his / her siblings have failed marriages etc, this may have some effects on your own relationship / marriage.

greencard:
Many people love the idea of marriage but the bad news they keep hearing is distancing them from the idea.

Some especially the redpillers may claim defiance ,but deep within they wish to settle down, but they just don't know with whom

I can't tell you who to marry, But I can advise you on whom not to marry

I- Never marry someone without the fear of God. It's dangerous.
They may fear you at your presence,maybe because of your economic power as their benefactor or because you may get upset and do them dirty if they wrong you. But don't underestimate their quick change if they finally get that which you offer them from somewhere else , then the fear of you diminished and they do what they wish . Cheat on you , blackmail you and of course divorce you.


2 ...Never marry someone that find it hard to forgive simple fault

I had to add simple fault, because if I say just forgive, then you might take him/her for granted and be doing anyhow. , because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes

3 Don't Risk marriage with some one with too many opposing beliefs to yours

By opposing beliefs, I don't mean APC Vs PDP, they are almost the same thing, I mean, don't risk marriage with an extremist of any kind, except you two are extremist. If you are pro life and they prefer abortion, don't go there. If they laugh at the death of another person who is simply not their tribe or religion but they feel happy at it. That person is not sympathetic, he/she will laugh at you one day and you will hate yourself. Only you can properly tell the contrast. Just don't risk marriage with some one with too much opposite beliefs to yours.


4 don't marry a liar
Fooooool, you will see it o, but you will laugh and say but you can lie sha . Don't worry na, marry him/her . You go hear whin. You will always know where you stand with a womanizer, you will always know where you stand with a thief, but you can never know where to place yourself with a chronic LIAR. Don't say he doesn't lie to me sha, the breakfast go reach everybody one day and you will hate it that you were one of the many wise people he/she fooled

5. Don't marry a sadist
There are some things smiling and laughter can àvert , there are some things dancing and playing can repair, there are some things , cuddling and chiding can fix , but if you end up with a sadist . There is nothing I have to say to you than the LORD is your strength

6.. don't marry a nyph if you can't cope
At first you will think it's fun and you can match the game , but when e go over you , even the gods with their might and wisdom won't be able to settle the matter

7. don't marry out of pity
She came from a poor background so she must me humble and needy , Bros that should not be the main reason you should marry her. If I don't marry her who will? Let me just pity him cos he has been disturbing me, the boy try self . Me I pity you o. She doesn't have a helper let me help her by marriage, no go marry witch o

8. if there have been several warning signs, don't be stubborn, don't marry o
You may have noticed the signs , when they are with you, or in the dream or through your father or mother or friends or neighbor or strangers..
e get why o.
Don't follow your mumu heart o. You self reason am

Nyph or Nymph?
If Nyph, then pls who is a Nyph?

greencard:
are you a manager??

He is right. If we should follow all the OP has said, nobody will marry.

What if he/she possess all the listed attributes and you're in already with kids??

Newborn27:
What if he/she possess all the listed attributes and you're in already with kids??

Explain Better.
Can't comprehend your write up?

don't marry a fornicator except if you also one

Does this apply to the women too abi poster thinks nairaland is solely for Nigerian men?
Abi men do not possess all this negative qualities you posted? Anyway 99percent of nairalanders are men so I understand.

MALIGNANTGuest:

Explain Better.
Can't comprehend your write up?

If you don't get it..... forget about it.
#smiles

Never marry a man who will never want you to improve your self.
Or a man who would prefer you remain a full time housewife with your school certificate..
Or a man who would tell you that every hard working woman out there is a prostitute just because he doesn't want you to be useful to yourself,so he uses that to try and convince you.
Don't marry a man that feels bad that you are earning money no matter how small..
Don't marry a man that would disregard your family.
Don't marry a man that will always make reference to every mistake you ever made..
Don't marry a man that makes you feel he is perfect
Don't marry a man that is an extremist in anything at all
Don't marry a man who believes that because he paid dowry on your head,he cannot do some house chores too.
Don't marry a man that makes you feel that you are wrong all the time.
Don't marry a man that hits you in courtship, he will almost kill you in marriage ( that's if he doesn't kill you).
Don't marry a man that keeps malice for days even when you try to beg him to forgive and forget..
Don't marry a man that never accepts his fault, but would rather count your own wrongs.
Any man that puts you down in the public, is a no no
Any man that gives you reasons to cry all the time is a no no.
No marriage or relationship is perfect, but there are a lot of lives and destinies that would have been saved if some of these factors listed above were taken into consideration.
But usually love,money,looks etc blinds our eyes.
Same goes for the men too..
Take all these into consideration too
I can go on and on....
Modified: don't marry a man who would gossip you with his friends or his relatives.
Don't marry a man that would report everything you do to his relatives.
Also, don't marry a paranoid man.
I know a man that is always accusing his wife of being a witch, or even wanting to kill him
So when the man sees thyme( herb) in his jollof rice, he will start shouting that she wants to poison him with thorns.
People should just watch out for abnormal signs in a relationship or courtship.
There are a lot of people in bondages in their marriages and some that just had to bolt out of their marriages.
I am not an advocate of divorce, because I still believe in miracles. But if the miracle is not coming, it is better one lives the marriage with his / her life and sanity intact.

Never Marry A Man who has spent all his life and youth having sex and sleeping with different sexual partners.

Never marry a man who keeps sleeping around. Keeping girlfriend and having sex. Some their body count has reached 1000 before age 30

You marry any of these men, YOUR MARRIAGE WOULD END IN BITTER TEARS.

I come in peace.

Why an online thread on an obscure platform should be the perfect reference for a guideline to a successful marriage really stretches the imagination!
Of what use then are the abilities of discretion? The knowledge from experience, firsthand, reported and third person? It is a topic and subject that has been so over-flogged it is everywhere you look in the human culture! It is in books- religious and literary! In the entertainment of movies, theatre, and music! It is in the literature of novels and poetry and already redundant in the Sunday sermons on altars!

Still Discretion and experience trounces all other sources of information on the organization of the institution of marriage! Some threads are insignificant because of the dearth of innovation and information! Of what use are your enumerated points in application in the physical reality of a relationship that the numerous sources enumerated above are not sufficient for! Did your parents not mentor you about relationships and sex education? Or better still were you unconscious through the duration of your parents marriage enough not to have ingrained the necessary knowledge about matrimony from your understudy of their marital experience? There are better use of space than recycling redundancies! Moreover are you the counselor general of the federation in the ministry of women affairs? Lol an emergency designation of that title has to be made for you!

Judybash93:
I only started reading the article and the first point is entirely useless. Why should anyone fear something you can't prove exists?
The rest are amazing points though... Good article

Please Does JuJu exist?