greencard:
Many people love the idea of marriage but the bad news they keep hearing is distancing them from the idea.

Some especially the redpillers may claim defiance ,but deep within they wish to settle down, but they just don't know with whom

I can't tell you who to marry, But I can advise you on whom not to marry

I- Never marry someone without the fear of God. It's dangerous.
They may fear you at your presence,maybe because of your economic power as their benefactor or because you may get upset and do them dirty if they wrong you. But don't underestimate their quick change if they finally get that which you offer them from somewhere else , then the fear of you diminished and they do what they wish . Cheat on you , blackmail you and of course divorce you.


2 ...Never marry someone that find it hard to forgive simple fault

I had to add simple fault, because if I say just forgive, then you might take him/her for granted and be doing anyhow. , because you know they will forgive after all. But in this context, I mean , don't risk marriage with someone who hold grudges for long and don't see reason to let go , who don't forgive easily but hold on to fault. You will see this singns during courtship, but if you are blinded by love, money, figure 8 or 6 packs. Marriage go clear your eyes

3 Don't Risk marriage with some one with too many opposing beliefs to yours

By opposing beliefs, I don't mean APC Vs PDP, they are almost the same thing, I mean, don't risk marriage with an extremist of any kind, except you two are extremist. If you are pro life and they prefer abortion, don't go there. If they laugh at the death of another person who is simply not their tribe or religion but they feel happy at it. That person is not sympathetic, he/she will laugh at you one day and you will hate yourself. Only you can properly tell the contrast. Just don't risk marriage with some one with too much opposite beliefs to yours.


4 don't marry a liar
Fooooool, you will see it o, but you will laugh and say but you can lie sha . Don't worry na, marry him/her . You go hear whin. You will always know where you stand with a womanizer, you will always know where you stand with a thief, but you can never know where to place yourself with a chronic LIAR. Don't say he doesn't lie to me sha, the breakfast go reach everybody one day and you will hate it that you were one of the many wise people he/she fooled

5. Don't marry a sadist
There are some things smiling and laughter can àvert , there are some things dancing and playing can repair, there are some things , cuddling and chiding can fix , but if you end up with a sadist . There is nothing I have to say to you than the LORD is your strength

6.. don't marry a nyph if you can't cope
At first you will think it's fun and you can match the game , but when e go over you , even the gods with their might and wisdom won't be able to settle the matter

7. don't marry out of pity
She came from a poor background so she must me humble and needy , Bros that should not be the main reason you should marry her. If I don't marry her who will? Let me just pity him cos he has been disturbing me, the boy try self . Me I pity you o. She doesn't have a helper let me help her by marriage, no go marry witch o

8. if there have been several warning signs, don't be stubborn, don't marry o
You may have noticed the signs , when they are with you, or in the dream or through your father or mother or friends or neighbor or strangers..
e get why o.
Don't follow your mumu heart o. You self reason am

Yampotatocarrot:


Something else is wrong with this man o. Even if e no wan go house chores, he can't do even school runs that dads love to do cos the few times they're chanced to do it, it brings extreme joy to their kids?? No o, trust me, this case isn't normal and definitely absurd

Mood11:
Nobody is perfect..
Just marry who you can manage with.

Bigchristo:
na for you to just give the girls and boys sand to mode and create the type of man and woman they want, nobody is a saint either ways we all are liars and unholy people out of imperfections we live to learn and reshaping ourselves to a better person. Nobody has it 100%

BennyDGreat:


Please Does JuJu exist?

temielects:
you are fool a very big one even if you think so must you disgrace yourself openly?

adedapodvirus001:


Your case is like a software saying programmers does not exist.

Opeyemiextra:
These are very valid points because we have come to understand that love is not just enough to sustain a relationship. Communication, understanding and a little compromise here and there are important for the success of marriage or any relationship at all.

xeju:

The communication, understanding n compromise all dey enveloped in love.

Charmingrascal:
Never marry a Benue (Idoma) lady if you are not from there.


Never marry an Ijebu (Yoruba) woman if you are not from there.


Don't make the mistake of marrying a lady without any source of income.



As a lady don't marry a proud cultist, they don't always live long even after settling down.

advanceDNA:


A lady with a very high sexual appetite

anochuko01:


Find one who respects you, who's teachable and ready to make sacrifices. You should also be the same to her

derecho:


The bolded is an opinion by those who don't fully understand Love.
What I quoted was a Bible verse, I thought you know.
Love is so deep that all the commandments is summarized into one- Love.
Even the Bible says God is Love.
The more we understand Love, the more see we've not started.
For example, if you Love, submission won't be an issue.If you love, you'll want the best for your spouse.You can't love someone and want to disrespect them.Love can make you die for someone if need be.

If you want to see love as a virtue, then it's the chief of virtues AND THe ONLY ONE THAT MATTERS.

It was Love that made God give His only begotten Son, while we were yet sinners-nothing attractive about us.
Hence, love can make you give all to an undeserving person. The issue of attraction is immaterial. Love elicits Mercy...

Love is never blind, it chooses to be blind and hopes for the best.
I wish I fit continue

Opeyemiextra:

I want to believe that but I have seen that love is a different thing on its own and you can do all these things because of love but not everyone has the capacity to.

whippersnapper:
Lastly don't marry a female nairalander.they're all hypocritical feminist

Mummyfour:

I have seen a man that is closer to his children than his wife.

xeju:

Love isn't actually a thing on its own, it's the the compilation of good characters shown toward others

Marvyx:
That number 1 is where so many people miss it. The fear of God in a person will eliminate so many premium tears..

Elporo:


Wise man. I wan buy him a keg of palmwine!

Opeyemiextra:


You do have a point. We do most of these things because of love but you should also note that not everyone is capable of these things mentioned.

For me, love is a decision. Now, what that decision is for everyone would be different.

xeju:

Yea, it could seen as a decision. Decision to be kind, merciful, compromise, be slow to anger, forgive, etc. Not everyone is capable of these characters because love is hard, hence they say perfect love doesn't exist either in heaven or hell or earth

Yampotatocarrot:


Something else is wrong with this man o. Even if e no wan go house chores, he can't do even school runs that dads love to do cos the few times they're chanced to do it, it brings extreme joy to their kids?? No o, trust me, this case isn't normal and definitely absurd