SOZINN:




You are a real man.

fattprince:

Agreed. But I didn't say him not helping the girl is bad. No it's not but I'm just saying how I will react if it were me. She asked for help and I helped her because if it were to be a guy I would do. I like helping people.

When I went for some program early last year, we had one lady that feels she is the Queen and like to behave like she's the head. We (everyone in the program) were chatting one day when she called a food hawker. When she came she happened to land beside me, when this lady asked me to help the hawker in putting her wares down. I did as if she wasn't even there. I didn't even flinch. She had to stand up to do it herself. Everyone there was surprised but they all laughed about it. I refused her because she didn't need the help she was only trying to check if her charm will work by asking for help.

fattprince:

Agreed. But I didn't say him not helping the girl is bad. No it's not but I'm just saying how I will react if it were me. She asked for help and I helped her because if it were to be a guy I would do. I like helping people.

When I went for some program early last year, we had one lady that feels she is the Queen and like to behave like she's the head. We (everyone in the program) were chatting one day when she called a food hawker. When she came she happened to land beside me, when this lady asked me to help the hawker in putting her wares down. I did as if she wasn't even there. I didn't even flinch. She had to stand up to do it herself. Everyone there was surprised but they all laughed about it. I refused her because she didn't need the help she was only trying to check if her charm will work by asking for help.

Osas187:
I was fetching water this morning and a girl came to fetch too,she meet me there but ordinary good morning she didn't say to me,when it full I carried my water go inside,by the time I came back she's still dere waiting for someone who will help her to carry her water on her head,as she saw me she said "Please assit me" I told her I can't,she looks my face with suprise and said "you can't ?" I said yes I can't.I see dissapointment in her face,but I feel happy and I walked out like a KING.

Chiagozieking:


Simp = Sincerely Isn't a Man Presently

Uncledare4:
she already said'please' why not help her and move on. Humanity is all.

AntichristXXX:
Life doesn't get easier when you get a woman. It gets harder. Honest people know this.

Yet one of the most unpopular truths that provokes ridiculous reactions even in men is to say that women drag you down more than they help you.

People hate hearing this. Makes them defensive.

SankaraSo:
God no Marry
Jesus no Marry
Angels in heaven are Males
12 Disciples Males

But Lekan in Iyana Ipaja start new Opay work, and his next goal is to have girlfriend.

From him N30,000 salary he will pay school fees, buy airtime and even feed the girl.

No be curse be that

SOZINN:





100%
I agree with the bolded. I heard about a similar case but the boyfriend just walked away and ended the relationship after that. And the girl tried to put the blame on the guy for not fighting for her. Does that even make sense? Was she trying to test his loyalty or what? What could a woman possibly gain from getting two men to fight each other for her sake, if not an ego boost.

Can you imagine that? Placing her boyfriend in harms way just to massage her ego. If we had fought each other I'm sure she would have walked out of that place feeling like a queen. The whole set up was intentional.

Oh and about having what it takes to put that guy to sleep. He was trying to act like a thug but I smiled because I know it was not in him.
I bet he has never had metal pointed to his head before.

But that part of me had been dead for a while now and I'm not about to wake him up for the sake of one stupid biťch.

AntichristXXX:
Life doesn't get easier when you get a woman. It gets harder. Honest people know this.

Yet one of the most unpopular truths that provokes ridiculous reactions even in men is to say that women drag you down more than they help you.

People hate hearing this. Makes them defensive.

Smartb0y:
I want to share a typical story many will find similar.

There's this guy,he made a way out for himself couple of years back only to waste most of the millions on booze and women.

Fast forward, for almost a decade he found himself struggling due to lack of planning.
The funny part is that he blames the spiritual for his circumstances and not himself hahaha.

As if that's not enough,he got himself a baby mama for a gf.
She's been with him for over 4years if not more.

He had to pack out of his apartment cuz he could no longer manage with the house rent.

He now lives with the parent and the baby mama still comes around to stay,is that not madness

How can someone think this way guys

Some people are just doomed tbh, no matter the help you render them.

They'll always give in to their compromising nature hence they'll never grow.

For me it's the lack of shame of the said individual and inability to accept he's his own fault and enemy.(imagine blaming your faults on something that doesn't exist hahaha)

The ability of some individual to live in such redundancy is alarming really.

ubunja:
Lmfao

CaveAdullam:


A lady I visited yesterday narrated a story that almost follow same line as yours. Though the said man was into cybercrime, he made mad loads of money and spent it recklessly. He is now back to square 1, hits his wife almost on a daily basis and depends on neighbors for food some times.

On the issue of excuse, it is a feature in the human psyche: it serves as a media to escape shame, the feeling of guilt, being ostracized, and to maintain status and reputation. Excuse is an escape route, a useful one at that for the human species.

That young man is doomed! With a quiet retrospection, he will know that he fvcked up his life by himself rather than apportioning blame to both existing and non existing entities. But he wouldn't like to take blame for his recklessness, poor choice and decisions, hence, will quickly allocate cheap excuses to counter anyhow that tries to hold him accountable for his deeds and how competent he his.
It will be more difficult for him to even lift a spoon now because he has tasted the sweetness of life and ego wouldn't allow him bring himself low and start from the bottom to the top. People like this hardly change, most times, it's good you relegate them to the bottom or deal with them from afar because no matter the help you try to render, they either see it an attack on their ego or a mockery of their current state.

Thanks.

fattprince:

Exactly as long as she said please that's respect enough. She just might not greet because they were strangers not to disrespect.
But there are different ways people do their thing

McOluOmo:
"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach"

Gurus in the house please enlighten us more.....

Guys wey no get girlfriend get peace of mind

Osas187:
I'm not a stranger to her,we both live same street,she knows me very well but we don't talk,maybe she thinks I've to talk to her first as other guys do to her.

sajmark:
Random tips for kings 3

Smartb0y:
Bros, you're overthinking the matter.
It's not compulsory someone greets you.

fattprince:

True, every man with his decision though. If it were me I would help her but tell her, it would have been better for her to start with good morning.

Osas187:
"Please assit me" I told her I can't.

AS AN UNDERGRAD MY FAVORITE WORDS USED TO BE "I CAN'T". FOLLOWED UP BY "WHY SHOULD I DO THAT?". THIS WAS MY DEFAULT SETTINGS PRIOR TO THE TRP KNOWLEDGE. COCONUT HEAD DOINGS.

EVERY SINGLE REQUEST WAS MET WITH I CAN'T. I WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ANYBODY ESPECIALLY THOSE THAT APPEAR TO REALLY NEED MY ASSISTANCE, BUT ONCE SHE ASKS, I DON'T. USUALLY FELT LIKE EXTORTION TO ME. I MEAN WE'RE SIMILAR IN ALMOST EVERY WAY AS HUMANS EXCEPT THAT YOU HAVE A VERY LOUD MOUTH AND UNAPPRECIATIVE HEART, SO WHY SHOULD I DO ANYTHING FOR YOU WHEN YOU'RE NOT WILLING TO DO ANYTHING FOR ME?

"ARE YOU NOT A MAN? LAZY/STINGY BOY".
ME: ARE YOU NOT A WOMAN? LAZY/STINGY GIRL.

NOT ONLY WILL THIS SAVE YOU MONEY/ENERGY, BUT IT GIVES YOU CONFIDENCE AND FETCHES YOU RESPECT. ARE YOU HELPING YOUR SCHOOL GIRLS LIFT THINGS? OR DOING ASSIGNMENTS AND TAKING ATTENDANCES FOR THEM ONCE THEY ASK? OR YOU'RE LIFTING CHAIRS AND CARRYING BAGS FOR YOUR FEMALE COLLEAGUES AT THE OFFICE? OR YOU'RE SENDING MONEY AND AIRTIME TO THE GIRLS THAT DEMAND IT ON YOUR WHATSAPP?
LMAO. THE "YES MA" MAN THAT ALWAYS STRIVES TO DO WOMEN'S ERRANDS IS LOOKED AT AS AN IDIOT. NO WOMAN WILL EVER WANT HIM. PLEASE BE LIKE Osas187. ALWAYS SAY "I CAN'T" UNLESS IT'S GOING TO BENEFIT YOU 100%.

CaveAdullam:


A lady I visited yesterday narrated a story that almost follow same line as yours. Though the said man was into cybercrime, he made mad loads of money and spent it recklessly. He is now back to square 1, hits his wife almost on a daily basis and depends on neighbors for food some times.

On the issue of excuse, it is a feature in the human psyche: it serves as a media to escape shame, the feeling of guilt, being ostracized, and to maintain status and reputation. Excuse is an escape route, a useful one at that for the human species.

That young man is doomed! With a quiet retrospection, he will know that he fvcked up his life by himself rather than apportioning blame to both existing and non existing entities. But he wouldn't like to take blame for his recklessness, poor choice and decisions, hence, will quickly allocate cheap excuses to counter anyhow that tries to hold him accountable for his deeds and how competent he his.
It will be more difficult for him to even lift a spoon now because he has tasted the sweetness of life and ego wouldn't allow him bring himself low and start from the bottom to the top. People like this hardly change, most times, it's good you relegate them to the bottom or deal with them from afar because no matter the help you try to render, they either see it an attack on their ego or a mockery of their current state.

Thanks.

Think4Myself:

Yes she should have greeted, but not helping her is too harsh in my opinion

Smartb0y:

Bros, you're overthinking the matter.

It's not compulsory someone greets you.

CaveAdullam:


In addendum: Such kind of men behave like women because they feel entitled to get whatever they need regardless of the fact that they are unable to get it. They lack the temerity to go back to knock on heaven's door because they know they wouldn't be answered. They can't bear the pains of hell this time around because hell now is more rougher and tougher; their energy is too minuscule to tackle it.

Their narcissism plummets because they now want everyone to come to their rescue as they now see themselves as victims of circumstances. Any decision not centered around their wellbeing calls for chaos as their ego is now in charge, and anything that will ensconced that ego must be consumed even if by force and acting like a tornado. Because they now feel some sense of shame, seeing that they are no longer worshipped and in control, they will do whatever thing to showcase themselves.
This is also true for people starting from the bottom. The bottom is dark and they are unrecognizable until they shoot out above the ground. However, the ones able to bear the shame of starting from the bottom, be courageous and full of strength will always climb to the top.

Thanks.

PS: smartb0y, see what you've done to my fingers, a parrot at that!

Dizzyyish:
I've really been thinking about this for a while now...
Women don't really have much to offer other than sex. I remember someone saying if sex was removed, they'd rather be stuck on an island with a man than a woman. Having a child is the only good reason I can think of for being with a woman, everything else like cooking and cleaning can be done by a man (or a maid; cheaper without the liability of a relationship). In the long run, a relationship is a win for woman and a loss for man.

Like what's the benefit of even befriending a woman? They're not funny and eventually (like martinez said) it will lead to them asking you for things or being disrespectful i.e., entitlement or over-familiarity. Whereas a man can genuinely befriend a woman (as he assumes her friendship will be worthwhile like that of his fellow man), a woman is almost always friends with a man for what she benefits from him, in most cases, money/gifts and attention (that they need to optimally function).

Solipsism and egocentrism --- these two factors are the building blocks for why women don't like themselves.
"Women know themselves and they hate each other."
In need of help, a man will most likely meet guys for help; a woman will most likely meet guys for help.
Something that makes me laugh is when they say "A woman is so complicated that she doesn't even understand herself." --- a person that doesn't understand themselves... is that not a confused person?

“Women remain children all their lives, for they always see only what is near at hand, cling to the present, take the appearance of a thing for reality, and prefer trifling matters to the most important.”

The fundamental defect of the female character is a lack of a sense of justice. This originates first and foremost in their want of rationality and capacity for reflexion but it is strengthened by the fact that, as the weaker sex, they are driven to rely not on force but on cunning: hence their instinctive subtlety and their ineradicable tendency to tell lies: for, as nature has equipped the lion with claws and teeth, the elephant with tusks, the wild boar with fangs, the bull with horns and the cuttlefish with ink, so it has equipped woman with the power of dissimulation as her means of attack and defence, and has transformed into this gift all the strength it has bestowed on man in the form of physical strength and the power of reasoning. Dissimulation is thus inborn in her and consequently to be found in the stupid woman almost as often as in the clever one. To make use of it at every opportunity is as natural to her as it is for an animal to employ its means of defence whenever it is attacked, and when she does so she feels that to some extent she is only exercising her rights. A completely truthful woman who does not practice dissimulation is perhaps an impossibility, which is why women see through the dissimulation of others so easily it is inadvisable to attempt it with them. – But this fundamental defect which I have said they possess, together with all that is associated with it, gives rise to falsity, unfaithfulness, treachery, ingratitude, etc. Women are guilty of perjury far more often than men. It is questionable whether they ought to be allowed to take an oath at all.
- Arthur Schopenhauer

SOZINN:

I've been there. In November some guy appeared out of nowhere and tried to start a fight with me because I was holding hands and flirting with his girl.