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I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Noah9: 8:28am On Jan 11, 2022
Good morning nairalanders. Pls I'll go straight to point.

My wife and I have been married for 3 years, God has blessed our matrimony with a beautiful daughter. My wife is so decent, caring and beautiful inside out. I have been a great husband and father to my pretty daughter. I have never cheated on my wife since we got married.

Recently, she barely give me sex. Infact it would take a whole month before I could see Just the color of her undies and I wasn't happy about it.

Last week Wednesday, I committed an unspeakable abuse, I'm so ashamed of myself. I Raped my wife and I hate myself since that incident.

Honestly, I don't know what came over me that particular day, I tried to make advances towards her, she refused and she pushed my hand away. Out of anger I slapped her on her face (she bled from her mouth), I overpowered her and forcefully had my way through. She cried all through that night.

I regretted my actions, I feel remorse, I hate my Life cry. I have begged her seriously to forgive me but she haven't said a word to me for over 5 days now. She cook for just herself and my daughter, she no longer sleep in our matrimonial bed, she would rather sleep in my daughter's room or the visitor's room, she no longer greets me anymore.

I have never abused, beat or raised my hands on my wife or any woman before. Last week was my first time I did such an abominable act in my Life sad. What If any one notice we're having issues now, how will I explain to them what actually happened?

I don't even want my little daughter to know we're having issues. I don't know who to talk to. It's a faceless forum that's why I'm sharing my pain here cry. Pls how do I restore back happiness in my home, I need my wife to forgive me. I'm truly sorry from the depth of my heart and I promise it will never happen again.

Please Help Me.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by FBIBOT(m): 8:33am On Jan 11, 2022
Now I have to do alot to erase that scene from her mind.... The love she had for you don reduce to 50%

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by socialmediaman: 8:36am On Jan 11, 2022
Does this even sound real? I believe you should ask for forgiveness if you want her to forgive you right?

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Christinaog(f): 8:36am On Jan 11, 2022
Men are scum

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Noah9: 8:40am On Jan 11, 2022
socialmediaman:
Does this even sound real? I believe you should ask for forgiveness if you want her to forgive you right?
I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions. cry sad

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by AntiMCU: 8:52am On Jan 11, 2022
Seems like marriages these days is synonymous with sexual starvation.

At least, our forefathers had polygamy (options) for issues like this.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by nrexzy: 8:53am On Jan 11, 2022
I don't support rape oo....
But.....

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by socialmediaman: 8:59am On Jan 11, 2022
Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions. cry sad

You have to give her time and support. Taking responsibility means accepting that she needs time to heal from the trauma you caused. You hurt your wife and you want her to bounce back to normal immediately so that you can have a good meal? It sounds selfish and insensitive. It seems spousal rape isn’t captured in Nigeria’s penal code, if that’s the case, I suggest you do your time showing remorse and making reparations

Edit: as Amarisco suggested, You need professional help to manage your anger problems. Your wife also needs therapy to heal from the trauma.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by ibechris(m): 9:00am On Jan 11, 2022
Both of are u wrong and you messed up the whole situation but in fact,u didn't marry a good wife but a pretender if I may say.

Submissiveness is the hall mark of a descent woman.

There is simply no submissiveness in that woman. How do u justify her hoarding sex in marriage, in a weddedhome?. Her action could have made u to commit adultery which is still possible if the situation doesn't change.

Both of you need to talk extensively and if it worths involving her family,u had better do it fast before it goes out of hand.

Wishing u the best as u put situation under control.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 9:04am On Jan 11, 2022
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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by lkillbrokehoes: 9:06am On Jan 11, 2022
Christinaog:

Men are scum
I hope you are not another fake account on here Hmmmm

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Amarisco(f): 9:06am On Jan 11, 2022
socialmediaman:


You have to give her time and support. Taking responsibility means accepting that she needs time to heal from the trauma you caused. You hurt your wife and you want her to bounce back to normal immediately so that you can have a good meal? It sounds selfish and insensitive. It seems spousal rape isn’t captured in Nigeria’s penal code, if that’s the case, I suggest you do your time showing remorse and making reparations

I think this is pretty sound advice. On top of that though Noah9, you need to really get to the bottom of that rage that overtook you. What you did is only on the surface - the issue runs deep and it may still come out in a different way or for different reasons.

If you can, seek some sort of professional therapy to really overcome that inner violence.

But don’t expect her to love you to the same degree as she did. That’s just me keeping it real. Just accept that as your sentence and make the most of it

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by socialmediaman: 9:10am On Jan 11, 2022
Amarisco:


I think this is pretty sound advice. On top of that though Noah9, you need to really get to the bottom of that rage that overtook you. What you did is only on the surface - the issue runs deep and it may still come out in a different way or for different reasons.

If you can, seek some sort of professional therapy to really overcome that inner violence.

But don’t expect her to love you to the same degree as she did. That’s just me keeping it real. Just accept that as your sentence and make the most of it

I agree. He needs professional help, and she’ll need therapy as well

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by nrexzy: 9:14am On Jan 11, 2022
InTheCloudySky:
You didn't bother asking her/finding out what was going on with her to have refused you but you resorted to violence.

Slapping her was bad enough but slapping her to the extent of her bleeding in the mouth meant you must've been done with a lot of force, not to mention the force you must've used to rape her. Sorry (not sorry): you're a beast. After being violent with her, what do you expect?

Get on your knees, plead with her, ask for her forgiveness, then let her know you won't ever repeat such violent actions towards her. Secondly, you're selfish if you're expecting her to cook for you after what you've done. You should be the one cooking for her during this time ―to appease her. Things should fall back unti place if you do that, otherwise keep eating the indomie you've been eating.

Na him wife oo no b babe oo...
Abeg
D kingdom of God sufferth violence...... Etc

Lemme ask why on earth would his wife starve him. Of sex for over a long period with no reason?

E make sense to u

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Uyi168: 9:14am On Jan 11, 2022
AntiMCU:
Seems like marriages these days is synonymous with sexual starvation.

At least, our forefathers had polygamy (options) for issues like this.
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reasons why I'll always support polygamy.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by nrexzy: 9:15am On Jan 11, 2022
Bros conduct DNA test on that ur daughter ooo...
U cant bee too sure these days.....

Umu asa di mean....

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by gfon(m): 9:19am On Jan 11, 2022
Why didn't you get a side chick outside instead of raping your wife? You really messed up man.If my wife ever hoards sex from me,i wouldn't even beg her,would just get one babe outside to cure my konji or i refuse eating her food.by the time you do that consistently for two weeks,she would be the one to even beg you.Rape is never an option,either you are married or not.Masturbation would have saved you from this stress too.Just beg her very well,maybe take her out too,but don't involve any third-party in the matter.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by backnbeta(f): 9:25am On Jan 11, 2022
Spousal sexual abuse is terrible, can't just be excused! You should have addressed the reason she stopped having sex with you in the first place. Was it because she had a personal issue? Did you do something she didn't like...it could have been due to any factor but you ignored the cause and dealt only with the symptoms which was her withdrawal from you emotionally. That said; she messed up by not opening up to you on why, and subsequently denying you of sex. You should continue to apologize, seek wise counsel if there's any around you until you are able to sit down for a real discussion where both of you must find a way forward undecided

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by AntiMCU: 9:28am On Jan 11, 2022
Uyi168:
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reasons why I'll always support polygamy.

Honestly, seems like I'll join this polygamy bandwagon.

One woman is not enough for a man.

Toks2008, your attention is needed here.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 9:32am On Jan 11, 2022
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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Foodqueen(f): 9:33am On Jan 11, 2022
Give her time to heal.

But u bleeped up Sha!!!

Nb- your wife has seen this post.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Truvelisback(m): 9:34am On Jan 11, 2022
This story sounds like...

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 9:57am On Jan 11, 2022
Your wife is trying to control and manipulate you, that's how woman are. She's trying to control you using sex. angry. You're the husband and it makes no sense as to why she would just refused giving u sex for no reason at all angry

Don't be a SIMP. Man up and take charge of your home angry

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Nobody: 9:57am On Jan 11, 2022
Mtcheww na fake story self,

But Op you get mad writing skills..

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by nrexzy: 9:57am On Jan 11, 2022
InTheCloudySky:
1. It doesn't matter if you're dating someone, or are married, no means no. Whether na your babe or wife, rape is rape and is a crime in both instances.

That's Bs... What are the chances of one raping his wife?? U sleep on same bed, walk around nude, etc..


2. Learn to read. He said "recently", meaning her refusal is recent, not over a long period. Even if it were over a long period (which isn't the case), the right thing to do would've been talk to her or seek professional help together to get to the root of the matter, not abuse and rape her. Forcing anyone to have sex with you, whether na your babe or wife = rape.
Ur correct...

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Sirqt5(m): 10:03am On Jan 11, 2022
assaulting ur wife was too bad bro . you no go want a dude do same to ur daughter in future

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Toks2008(m): 10:07am On Jan 11, 2022
AntiMCU:


Honestly, seems like I'll join this polygamy bandwagon.

One woman is not enough for a man.

Toks2008, your attention is needed here.

Polygamy should only be the last option.


Don't get it twisted... I am not an advocate of polygamy but I always state my realistic opinion about it as a sinless act and a better option for a man rather than sleeping around with side chicks thereby committing sexual immorality.

Polygamy is for the rich or if the extra wife won't mind not getting any financial help.

The OP ought to have addressed the root cause rather than raping her.

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by Jamesbiodun(m): 10:09am On Jan 11, 2022
Both of you are at fault though, why will your wife sex starve you
Raping her is bad too...
I don't think your wife really love you as you say coz no sane wife will sex starved her husband without giving a concrete reason... undecided
If she had a reason you won't even think of having sex or trying to force her for sex, she is the one that caused this shit...
Better know your stand maybe she has been getting sex somewhere and doesn't enjoy yours this is why she didn't want sex with you...
Peace be unto both of you

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by freshkpomo(m): 10:11am On Jan 11, 2022
Noah9:

I have apologized. I even bought a little gift along side but I saw them inside the trash nylon bag when I came back from work.

I haven't eaten good meal for some days now. Just meat-pie and juice or indomie.

I don't know what to do. I'm truly sorry about my actions. cry sad


You just fell into the trap, you just gave your wife something to hold on to.. I don't know why women are this heartless, almost all marriages are having this issue, and before marriage you need to see how these same women will give you all the best position in the world but once them reach house them go put key for tow tow.... It will make you wonder if you are the only one in love,or you are over demanding or you are not giving them good sex or there is another man in their life.. all these plenty thought fit make man loose sanity and for a man who does not want to cheat, loosing his mind might turn him into a monster and do the unthinkable.

Women stop deceiving men because you want to wear wedding gown like your friends because it seems you are after the gown and not the marriage because that gown looks like an achievement to you, if you see a man's labido is too high for you during courtship, kindly quit and tell him your reasons.. Things like this should never be issue for marriage, how woman go stay for a week or more and her husband body nor attracted her, yet she dey shake yansh round house expecting the man to look the other way, is that not witchcraft...

OP, I am not in support of what you did, but if your wife continue with her no sex attitude.. Just leave the house for her, shey she can cook and eat alone... At least if you nor dey see her, you nor go dey turn on.... She destroyed her marriage herself not you... If you get money, lodge hotel, chop better food, if na wine take calm am down.. after all life is more than SEX...

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Re: I Regretted My Actions. Please Help Me! by descarado: 10:13am On Jan 11, 2022
Wonder if seun pay these people for these stories.

Or the mods use diff usernames to chun out shaming threads.

And we will rush to comment as long as its the gender we hate.

Mtcheew

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