₦airaland Forum

November24:
Youtalk with a victim mentality.
We women,do worse. And the man is the head whether u like the idea or not

Col0gne:
Marriage and it's endless list of rules ehh. Fact is, not everyone is marryable or destined for this.

Col0gne:
Marriage and it's endless list of rules ehh. Fact is, not everyone is marryable or destined for this.

Ninisun:
For the one of sleeping in different rooms, some couples can't help it Op... women like wears or clothings a whole lot and so sharing the same room won't really be nice if the accomodation is not so large. Most couples still be in love even though they sleep separately. It's not easy to sleep with a partner that snores abeg...that's a suicide mission .

For that of flirt, most men/women flirt on social media and if you start thinking about that...see you see your grave. It's not every issue one needs to think about in marriage cus this economy is frustrating already.
There's how long you will be in marriage, you won't remember your salary is yours jare...as a good wife wey I be, my salary and his are our own unless we want responsibilities to choke us. Our children is our number one priority and so why should we hide our money while they look unkempt?
I don't tolerate people insulting or belittling people I love most especially my husband , just be ready to be thrown out cus you are an intruder.
Marriage is more of being with one eye, one ear, no lips and no brain from both partners and every good thing that comes with it will fall into place. It's not a bed of roses but mine is 90% rose cus he makes me happy always like seriously.

ssogundele:
Any rule outside “husband love your wife and wife respect your husband “ is just epistle! That rule is God ordained. He is the originator of marriage and knows the best to it.

jeff1993:
No 3

Most Nigerian women are greedy in nature.... They have been wired to use "Your own is our own ... My own is my own"... If I can find a Nigerian lady who is not greedy with her money and had an average character ... Am all in for marriage!!!!

No 7

That's is if u married a proper home made woman not all this shawarma and pizza slay queens!!!!.... You can't be putting on long nails and want to cook with it for me .... I can manage if she is not super good in the kitchen ....Eating outside would balance the equation!!!!

No 10

Divorce is always a very big and Fat option ..... Please as a Man or woman, ur Pearce of mind is ultimate and Paramount!!!! .... If ur spouse can't give u peace of mind, if he or she can't make u happy, there is no need trying. Divorce him or her. You can still be a great parents to your children without being together .... That's why I advise Men against spending excess money to do an elaborate marriage that is not even necessary..... Na the money the man take marry him dey think na him dey make am hard for am to divorce!!!!!


Lastly truly marriage has no manual .... Each marriage is unique on its own .... Elderly people will say when u want to marry as a man, make sure u have seen enough of life before u marry, not because u have enough money!!! .... Build your tolerance level to a nearly absolute level.....

baby124:
Islam is an offshoot of a culture that does not respect women. Women know exactly what they want.

HacheNoire:
If you want to enjoy life and live long, stay away from Black women!

It’s automatically and genetically instilled in them.


If you feel you anxious to commit suicide, you don’t need a rope, all you need is a Nigerian wife

complexBoss12:
I attended one wedding, a Catholic wedding. while preaching, the priest said something I will never forget. He was like, when you go to school, you get a cert after graduation. In endeavors of life, a certificate is issued at the END to show qualification.

Only in marriage, is a certificate issued the very day you step in. So from your first day you're are graduate, you're qualified. This is because in marriage the beginning is the end and the end is the beginning. For you to agree to be married means you have trained yourself and feel you qualified and ready.

But is that the case today?? most times I am **** scared if marriage. My father thought me that you never stop working on a marriage. The few ladies I have dated, when they discover you just want peace of mind and apologize even when you're right for the sake of peace, next they want to take you for a fool. Going the alpha way, keeps them in check, but doesn't really guarantee a happy home because I want my woman to love me and not fear me. This gender called women, you can never tell what it is they really want.

My verdict: Marriage has no solution or 12 or even 100 things to abide by, you can only try. Christians will say, only God can give a happy home.

Ladyhippolyta88:
This your number 3 needs more emphasis, especially to the so-called heads of the families specifically the average Nigerian man who sees headship as authoritarianism, that don't like to open up to their wives, listen and hear from them because they believe they should be making the decisions alone without due consultation.

Always learn to carry your wives along and you will not die if you adopt her advice or opinion on issues two heads are better than one and you can never know it all.

I know this advice is not gender specific but in the average Nigerian marriages it's men that often do this,while the women always consult them when she is the one making a decision

jeff1993:
No 3

Most Nigerian women are greedy in nature.... They have been wired to use "Your own is our own ... My own is my own"... If I can find a Nigerian lady who is not greedy with her money and had an average character ... Am all in for marriage!!!!

No 7

That's is if u married a proper home made woman not all this shawarma and pizza slay queens!!!!.... You can't be putting on long nails and want to cook with it for me .... I can manage if she is not super good in the kitchen ....Eating outside would balance the equation!!!!

No 10

Divorce is always a very big and Fat option ..... Please as a Man or woman, ur Pearce of mind is ultimate and Paramount!!!! .... If ur spouse can't give u peace of mind, if he or she can't make u happy, there is no need trying. Divorce him or her. You can still be a great parents to your children without being together .... That's why I advise Men against spending excess money to do an elaborate marriage that is not even necessary..... Na the money the man take marry him dey think na him dey make am hard for am to divorce!!!!!


Lastly truly marriage has no manual .... Each marriage is unique on its own .... Elderly people will say when u want to marry as a man, make sure u have seen enough of life before u marry, not because u have enough money!!! .... Build your tolerance level to a nearly absolute level.....

HacheNoire:
If you want to enjoy life and live long, stay away from Black women!

It’s automatically and genetically instilled in them.


If you feel you anxious to commit suicide, you don’t need a rope, all you need is a Nigerian wife

Ladyhippolyta88:
This your number 3 needs more emphasis, especially to the so-called heads of the families specifically the average Nigerian man who sees headship as authoritarianism, that don't like to open up to their wives, listen and hear from them because they believe they should be making the decisions alone without due consultation.

Always learn to carry your wives along and you will not die if you adopt her advice or opinion on issues two heads are better than one and you can never know it all.

I know this advice is not gender specific but in the average Nigerian marriages it's men that often do this,while the women always consult them when she is the one making a decision

Col0gne:
Marriage and it's endless list of rules ehh. Fact is, not everyone is marryable or destined for this.

oilmonie:
it's because women use their heart and not their head. Listen to a woman but don't take her advice.

Estellie:
Naso one listen to me buh refused to take my advice, instead he took the advice of his male friend. Naso Oga lose over 15 million naira and is still spending money trying to recover the lost one.

Another one lost money and a brand new car worth about 5 million just because of some foolish deal that he thought was legit. Dude didn’t even tell his wife about it cause he knew she’ll talk him out of it.

Men, y’all so stubborn and pathetic sometimes.

complexBoss12:
I attended one wedding, a Catholic wedding. while preaching, the priest said something I will never forget. He was like, when you go to school, you get a cert after graduation. In endeavors of life, a certificate is issued at the END to show qualification.

Only in marriage, is a certificate issued the very day you step in. So from your first day you're are graduate, you're qualified. This is because in marriage the beginning is the end and the end is the beginning. For you to agree to be married means you have trained yourself and feel you're qualified and ready.

But is that the case today?? most times I am **** scared of marriage. My father thought me that you never stop working on a marriage. The few ladies I have dated, when they discover you just want peace of mind and apologize even when you're right for the sake of peace, next they want to take you for a fool. Going the alpha way, keeps them in check, but doesn't really guarantee a happy home because I want my woman to love me and not fear me. This gender called women, you can never tell what it is they really want.

My verdict: Marriage has no solution or 12 or even 100 things to abide by, you can only try. Christians will say, only God can give a happy home.

Col0gne:
Marriage and it's endless list of rules ehh. Fact is, not everyone is marryable or destined for this.

folks4luv:
Yea, divorce is an available option but the point is not to use it as a weapon to get the other person to do one's bidding. Like a wife that knows her husband loves her, then uses divorce to threaten him to have her way. What she is doing is breaking the bond they share, putting her husband on the defensive and making him plan for a life outside the marriage. It goes both ways.

If divorce will be mentioned, make sure you mean it and you wanna go through with it.

whitebeard:
if divorce is an option then why marry in the first place...more like u don't know what exactly it is dat u want..!!

judedwriter:
Don't marry because :

1. You are getting old

2. You are lonely

3. You are pressurized

4. You are mocked

5. You are criticized

6. You are embarrassed

7. You are impoverished , etc.

Marry only for love. If you don't love that man or woman PLEASE DON'T MARRY!