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How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by gisthabit: 8:27pm On Jan 16, 2019

Getting married is one big deal. But keeping your marriage can also be a bigger deal. And for some people a very difficult task to achieve.
Nowadays, the rate at which marriages crash on a daily basis is not just alarming but also disturbing and I can assure you that it discourages some of the singles that are yet to tie the knot into doing so.

In this article, I want to take us through simple tips that can help you preserve your marriage from avoidable crash and breakups.

Top 5 Simple Tips to Prevent Your Marriage from Crashing

#1. Learn to compromise

A lot of couples have issues every now and then because none of them is willing to compromise for the other. You cannot continue to have your way all the time.

Back then as a child, I use to know a man that believes that his decision is always final simply because he is the man and the head of the family. He stands on his decision even when it is evident that his opinion isn’t the best.

There should be some room to accommodate the other person's opinion or suggestion at least for the simple reason that both parties are going to bear the consequences of one person's decision either good or bad.


#2. Don’t be a liability to your spouse

Get a job or start a business of your own if possible. Considering the economic situation of the country nowadays you will agree with me that you really need a job to help support your spouse and prevent yourself from becoming a liability to your partner.

Your partner may love you for the time being even with your joblessness but as time goes he will begin to get fed up of you most especially if you are always demanding for money from him or her.


#3. Learn to manage information

If you must have peace and harmony in your home then you must learn the art of information management. Don’t be quick to dole out details on family matters to third parties all in the name of relatives, friends and family.

I was walking behind two women some few days back and I overheard one of the women telling the other about her husband and how he treats her.

While it is good to talk about your spouse to your friends, you also have to be careful with the manner and the kind of friends you are giving such information to. This is to avoid putting your partner's reputation and pride at stake.

One great risk that comes with discussing family plans and secrets with a third party is that you may end up being ill-advised by the third party who might not be happy with the information you have passed.

To be on a safe side please keep your good and bad news to yourself.


#4. Have quality sex

My dear, do not do the mistake of taking your “holiness” into the bedroom.

Research has shown that most couples that do pick up a fight every now and then have been having a very poor sex life. Are you aware that a serious rift or quarrel between couples can be settled after a good sex session even without any formal reconciliation meeting?

Marriage is not a bed of roses that was why sex was made to spice it up. Sex has a way of connecting the two parties both emotionally and spiritually.

My advice to you today is that you change your attitude towards sex and see how your marriage life will change for good.

#5. Respect each other

Respect for each other should never be taken lightly. A woman can be the best cook in the world but the moment she lacks respect for her husband then there is going to be a big problem.

The same goes for the man, you might be up and doing by providing for the family needs but if you don’t respect your wife then you are in for a big mess.

A lot of things depends on the level of respect you have for your spouse. When you have respect for your partner things like being faithful, not raising your hand against your wife (even wives beat their husbands nowadays) and staying away from other negative marriage vices becomes natural for you to practice.

It is said that respect is reciprocal, but I want to add that respect is intentional and requires a conscious effort.


Source:https://gisthabit.com/top-5-simple-tips-to-prevent-your-marriage-from-crashing/

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by gisthabit: 8:33pm On Jan 16, 2019
You should also read: Top 8 Money Tips for Salary Earners to enable you manage your salary in 2019

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by CreepyBlackpool: 8:33pm On Jan 16, 2019
marriage that will crash will crash.

Check all these relationship counselors, lots of them have failed and broken marriages and relationships

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Christty(f): 9:06pm On Jan 16, 2019
If you do it right, you will enjoy your marriage. Women should be submissive and husband should be patient and be a good listener. To crown it all, no matter what happen, don't allow third party into your home because they will advice you wrongly and make jest of you behind you.

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by JudgementHammer: 10:26pm On Jan 16, 2019
Christty:
If you do it right, you will enjoy your marriage. Women should be submissive and husband should be patient and be a good listener. To crown it all, no matter what happen, don't allow third party into your home because they will advice you wrongly and make jest of you behind you.
Are you submissive?

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by okeysly(m): 10:42pm On Jan 16, 2019
INTERESTINGLY INTERESTING
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Rosarie(f): 10:43pm On Jan 16, 2019
My dear na real work.u both need to constantly remember it's for better for worse.the pressure from finance;kids; work;budget can sometimes weigh u down.every couple need time to breath out

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by MANNABBQGRILLS: 10:43pm On Jan 16, 2019
Very good thread....

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by lonelydora: 10:45pm On Jan 16, 2019
Okay nah

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by bestman09(m): 10:46pm On Jan 16, 2019
#6, PRIDE!

Many marriages have crashed because of pride, especially on the side of women

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Rosarie(f): 10:46pm On Jan 16, 2019
Christty:
If you do it right, you will enjoy your marriage. Women should be submissive and husband should be patient and be a good listener. To crown it all, no matter what happen, don't allow third party into your home because they will advice you wrongly and make jest of you behind you.
sometimes third party is needed .there are some issues that can escalate if not properly handled.there are some u need to cry it.marriage is not jail sentence.what if he hits u.what if they both have anger management.what if one is sleeping around and can effect the other with hiv.or a gay spouse or lesbian.or u marry one spouse refuse to have sex .my dear Tori many.some times a mature third party is involved to avoid divorce.

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Nobody: 10:47pm On Jan 16, 2019
Get a side chick
No matter what wife does at home e no go pain you.
No sex? No worries.... Drive to side chick
Side chick no dey nag
Them loyal
Them Sabi nack well
They are good listeners.
Me no send again o. My wife know her sef. The day wey she carry phone wish her happy New Year long time come pass phone give me na that dey I fear.
In all our home is happy. I care for them, they leave me with my sidechicks
Marriage saved.

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by landmark86: 10:48pm On Jan 16, 2019
1. Avoid social media e.g facebook, whatsapp, twitter, instagram etc.
2. Only stick 2 ur bible or Quran
3. And satisfy your man or women with enuff sex.

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by hapiness44(f): 10:49pm On Jan 16, 2019
Support your spouse. That is why I am doing this. Please people kindly check the below link

https://www.nairaland.com/4545349/sister
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by chocboi78(m): 10:50pm On Jan 16, 2019
The easiest way is to sign DAVID DE GEA
Shikenah

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Heffalump(m): 10:51pm On Jan 16, 2019
No.4 is a bomb! I can't agree with you any less kiss
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Divay22(f): 10:53pm On Jan 16, 2019
Communication, still the bed rock of every marriage.
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by sweetilicious(f): 10:58pm On Jan 16, 2019
okay
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by honestivo(m): 11:00pm On Jan 16, 2019
Tolerance
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by ChidiAlaigbo: 11:04pm On Jan 16, 2019
Heffalump:
No.4 is a bomb! I can't agree with you any less kiss

Young people sha. Better start thinking about making money. How many 40+ are having regular sex?

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by ChidiAlaigbo: 11:05pm On Jan 16, 2019
Divay22:
Communication, still the bed rock of every marriage.

Number 1
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by mastermaestro(m): 11:11pm On Jan 16, 2019
Shibaraba:
Get a side chick
No matter what wife does at home e no go pain you.
No sex? No worries.... Drive to side chick
Side chick no dey nag
Them loyal
Them Sabi nack well
They are good listeners.
Me no send again o. My wife know her sef. The day wey she carry phone wish her happy New Year long time come pass phone give me na that dey I fear.
In all our home is happy. I care for them, they leave me with my sidechicks
Marriage saved.

There is a way that seems right to a man, but the end...

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by lefulefu(m): 11:15pm On Jan 16, 2019
i gbadu number 4 and 5 .
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by dingbang(m): 11:15pm On Jan 16, 2019
hapiness44:
Support your spouse. That is why I am doing this. Please people kindly check the below link

https://www.nairaland.com/4545349/sister
you are a blessed woman
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by handsomeyinka(m): 11:17pm On Jan 16, 2019
Na number 4 advice sure pass
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Rick9(m): 11:30pm On Jan 16, 2019
All these stewpead relationship/marriage tips,nonsencxe
You guys just like writing sheit , as if you can control time.

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Nobody: 11:47pm On Jan 16, 2019
grin grin grin

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Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Nobody: 11:52pm On Jan 16, 2019
Being single is not bad
Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by Nobody: 12:04am On Jan 17, 2019
We hear you grin

Re: How To Prevent Your Marriage From Crashing by safarigirl(f): 1:02am On Jan 17, 2019
A marriage that will crash will crash, no matter how submissive a wife is, no matter how calm a husband is. What will be, will be.

So, do your own and let the other person do their own and if the marriage was started on a good foundation it will probably stand the stormy weather. The question is, how many marriages today, are set on a good foundation?

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