Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

That's a good idea for now, though temporary. Just try and convince her without fighting her. I'm sure she will eventually see reason.

IamAsiri:
That's a good idea for now, though temporary. Just try and convince her without fighting her. I'm sure she will eventually see reason.

What of that is a good idea?

It would probably cost, as someone said, approximately 150k to hire a nanny to take care or his kids as is. So unless his wife makes 180 - 200k at least at her job, they wouldn't be able to break even.

Unless his mother took over full-time care of her triplets so they can both work, the wife is better off staying home to manage the kids herself.

As for kids, he needs to find a way to get his tunes tied.

Kobojunkie:
Insult me all you want but it won't take away from the foolishness that is your current life and the fact that rather than resolving the core issue, what you seek to do is tack on more foolishness to your status quo to then conveniently place the blame on just your wife in this.

P.s. I don't live my life foolishly.

I use to respect you but tonight u prove me wrong.... U r supposed to advise this man but u r raining insult on him..

I'm. Disappointed in you

DenreleDave:
I use to respect you but tonight u prove me wrong.... U r supposed to advise this man but u r raining insult on him..

I'm. Disappointed in you

Are you blind? What insult did I rain on him?

What is wrong with indicating the foolishness of one's current path?

aanuoluwami14:


How would a mother of three be working when they can't afford to pay for school fees The mother in-law is not ready to take care of those children.

U r big liar... Where did d Op said the mother in law is nt ready to take care of the children.. U r just turning it in favour of the wife bcox u r a lady...

Very wicked soul not saying the right thing....

Kobojunkie:
55k a month for a family of 5 and you want to have your mother added to that list? You are very very unserious individual.

I guess u r a lady.. Dts why u didn't say sumtin good to the guy

He needs advsiez not ur harsh words..... I lost my respect for you...


What's bad if the wife go and work then the mother of the op take care of the kids?

DenreleDave post=109429773[b:
]I guess u r a lady.. Dts why u didn't say sumtin good to the guy [/b]
He needs advsiez not ur harsh words..... I lost my respect for you..
What's bad if the wife go and work then the mother of the op take care of the kids?

Oh now I see where you are going with this. You think this is another one of your useless "us vs them" arguments? No wonder you are unable to see the foolishness of OP'S attempts to blame his predicament on his wife.

Did the Op in fact state that his mother would take on full-time care of his triplets to allow his wife work or are you simply inserting that here so you can blindly turn this into gender war as is your usual?,

Is this real or are you making this story up? Cos if it were real ehn, i would make sure i track your location. Locate you and beat some sense into your thick simpleton head.

Kobojunkie:
Oh now I see where you are going with this. You think this is another one of your useless "us vs them" arguments? No wonder you are unable to see the foolishness foolishness OP'S attempts to blame his predicament on his wife.

Goodluck!

U don't deserve my reply.... Ladies will always be ladies even when the truth is glaringly clear

am tired right now i want to sleep


but you made a very big mistake giving money to your wife

next time just ask her to list out the food items she wants to buy

dont give her the money herself

just collect the list and go and buy it by yourself in the market

and its even better and safer if you dont tell her how much you earn

if she complains about money all the time

just place a cap on top of the sitting room s television and drop may be one thousand or two thousand there, if she asks for money for maggi or matches just tell her to go and check the television top


when she spends the money in the cap finish and she comes to tell you, tell her thats all thr money you have with you SHIKENA!



LIVING WITH WOMEN REQUIRES A LOT OF WISDOM!

DenreleDave:


U r big liar... Where did d Op said the mother in law is nt ready to take care of the children.. U r just turning it in favour of the wife bcox u r a lady...

Very wicked soul not saying the right thing....

You are having mental illness

OlawaleBammie:
Ur wife no get any work??

Is ur wife so idle??

She no dey contribute??

Hin own na just to open leg anytym necessary abi??

Am sorry to say that ooh...



Modified:

Sorry, i didnt hear wen u said she's breastfeeding, so if she's has bn contributing before she put to bed well, wait and roju till she wean her babies finish.

Still breast feeding 2yrs and 3 months babies....odiegwu.

Kobojunkie:
What of that is a good idea?

It would probably cost, as someone said, approximately 150k to hire a nanny to take care or his kids as is. So unless his wife makes 180 - 200k at least at her job, they wouldn't be able to break even.

Unless his mother took over full-time care of her triplets so they can both work, the wife is better off staying home to manage the kids herself.

As for kids, he needs to find a way to get his tunes tied.

See what I quoted. He said the mother will babysit while she gets a teaching job. If he feels that his mom is up to the task, I think that's the best option they have for now. It will afford them a little extra cash and also relieve the wife of the headache of how to manage the little they have while still taking care of 3 two year olds.

snitchbitch:
am tired right now i want to sleep


but you made a very big mistake giving money to your wife

next time just ask her to list out the food items she wants to buy

dont give her the money herself

just collect the list and go and buy it by yourself in the market

and its even better and safer if you dont tell her how much you earn

if she complains about money all the time

just place a cap on top of the sitting room s television and drop may be one thousand or two thousand there, if she asks for money for maggi or matches just tell her to go and check the television top


when she spends the money in the cap finish and she comes to tell you, tell her thats all thr money you have with you SHIKENA!



LIVING WITH WOMEN REQUIRES A LOT OF WISDOM!

Lols . That's what we want actually. It's better if you actually go to the market and get all those things on the list without missing any. Saves the woman the stress of trying to permutate . Hope you know that inflation is real .

IamAsiri:
See what I quoted. He said the mother will babysit while she gets a teaching job. If he feels that his mom is up to the task, I think that's the best option they have for now. It will afford them a little extra cash and also relieve the wife of the headache of how to manage the little they have while still taking care of 3 two year olds.

OK. But I will add that watching the kids is different from taking on full-time care of them or hiring a nanny to care for them full-time. What they need is someone who will take on full-time care of the babies, not someone to simply watch them and let them sit in their filth for hours .

Earning 55k....living rent free, married to someone not working, have 4 kids already....when people do not plan their lives well, they get in trouble easily. You better pray for a better job cos when those kids start school, that's when you would know what you've done! You weren't financially buoyant but got married! What were you thinking!

Kobojunkie:
OK. But I will add that watching the kids is different from taking on full-time care of them or hiring a nanny to care for them full-time. What they need is someone who will take on full-time care of the babies, not someone to simply watch them and let them sit in their filth for hours .

Well, they can't afford a nanny in their current state so their grandmother has to act as their nanny. Else, I see no other way out of their mess. Having triplets is talkless of now relying on 55k to take care of them .

Prospertochu:


My triplets are 2 years and 3 months

2 years plus. Did you mention that they are still being breastfed?

And what about school? Does the money include school fees or they have not started school.

You need help...a better job or something that brings in money. It will be hard for your wife to start a business or work while taking care of triplets if there is no help for her.

Bola146:



Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

Breastfeeding 3 2yr olds? Did the op say his wife is still breastfeeding?

ImaIma1:


2 years plus. Did you mention that they are still being breastfed?

And what about school? Does the money include school fees or they have not started school.

You need help...a better job or something that brings in money. It will be hard for your wife to start a business or work while taking care of triplets if there is no help for her.

She doesn't breastfed them , they haven't started school and my mother is ready to watch them while my wife go to work but my wife refuse saying salary is too poor and she want her own business.

Realestbae:
Stupid fool ,u r putting all d blame on a young mother of triplet when Ur lazy mother can not fend for herself, imagine Ur sister is a household is ur mother crippled or just lazy she is supposed to be supplying U with food stuff n by adding to Ur problem or is it how her own mother is depending on her. Oga Ur mother did n't plan her life well she is more of a leech n a bloodsucker let her go and hustle to take care of Ur sister who is a household. Ur main focus should be d welfare of Ur kids feed them well

How dare you insult his mother?

You are a disgrace and it shows that you don't even respect and value your own parents.

Shame on you this is too low.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?

Why is nobody asking you why your wife isn't working?
Your wife disgust me. She is lazy and a parasite. Kick her out of the house to support you as a provider. She is just at home lazying around, gossiping, getting fat while you work and submit 90% of your salary. Monkey dey chop baboon dey work.
My parent my mama dey work, my papa dey work. Children no lack anything. Papa pay school fees for all his children, he pays all the bills and pay for my mum monthly for food. She support him by adding her own. And take care of any unforeseen expenses that comes by.
Don't be a simp

Prospertochu:


She doesn't breastfed them , they haven't started school and my mother is ready to watch them while my wife go to work but my wife refuse saying salary is too poor and she want her own business.

Both of you need to put heads together to find a solution. And it's not the time to start regretting marrying her. Who would have housed her with triplets?

If she's going to start work, the salary has to be worth leaving the kids. Obviously, money for a business is not available now. I pray you both get a solution.

Prospertochu:


God bless you ma I am trying my best but if my wife carries on with her attitudes she will loose me because my health is getting worse day by day and if I die she will take care of them alone

someone who is really in dilemma and needs help would drop his wife's education status as well as his for the general public to help with a better job. rather what we have u doing here is lamenting and telling us on how you will hang yourself like we told u to keep parting your wife's legs, not using condom and birthing more kids to come suffer in this world.

pls edit your post by fixing ur location and both couple's edu status for possible jobs. Be smart and hopeful. you're even an igbo guy for that matter and being too slow...cheii

Prospertochu:


God bless you ma I am trying my best but if my wife carries on with her attitudes she will loose me because my health is getting worse day by day and if I die she will take care of them alone

someone who is really in dilemma and needs help would drop his wife's EDUCATION STATUS/LOCATION as well as his for the general public to help with a better job. rather what we have u doing here is lamenting and telling us on how you will hang yourself like we told u to keep parting your wife's legs, not using condom and birthing more kids to come suffer in this world.

pls edit your post by fixing ur location and both couple's edu status for possible jobs. Be smart and hopeful. you're even an igbo guy for that matter and being too slow...cheii

And never u think of giving ur wife money to start a biz for now...doing biz now in Nigeria requires courage because of the soaring prices of goods rather she should get a job. Force her to take up that teaching job shes rejecting...she should learn to start somewhere while looking out for better offers.

And lastly,pls padlock ur peniss.

Prospertochu:


She doesn't breastfed them , they haven't started school and my mother is ready to watch them while my wife go to work but my wife refuse saying salary is too poor and she wants her own business.

2 years 3 months old triplets and your mother is ready to cater for them.

Tell your wife to get up and go look for a job before she kills you with overload, things are not easy for you and your wife is supposed to understand that and even seek help from her family members if need be.

Talk to her, she is being unreasonable where does she except you to get the money to help her start a business when she is not willing to use her hands to work for it since you are not Bill Gates, tell her to treat your mother right things are not easy but that should not be an excuse to treat your mother badly.
And better advise yourselves and don't have children anytime soon until your financial situation changes for the better

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

Save money to go and do family planning now

OP, since this woman is giving you issues, why not drive her out of the house and marry another woman? I don’t understand why she can’t manage 40k naira for feeding 6mouths in a whole month, i mean, she must be diverting that money into something else like building a house.
Don’t be a simp, chase her out of your life

Bola146:



Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

Why are you not praying for the wife to get a job and supplement the household income ?

Vyolet:
OP, since this woman is giving you issues, why not drive her out of the house and marry another woman? I don’t understand why she can’t manage 40k naira in a whole month, i mean, she must be diverting that money into something else like building a house.
Don’t be a simp, chase her out of your life

You forgot to add that he should also get an extra twin from the another woman to solidify his ownership of her and add to his current load on just 55K salary.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?

Seun please take down this trend. The op is a SIMP, I detest them.

[quote author=Prospertochu post=109420863]I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets , my salary is 55k i used to give my wife 20k mother 10k , 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house. My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more , I had no money to give her my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it . My wife used to fought me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house hearse we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k , so far we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful. Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly she have agreed. Now that my mother is here with us she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us note I dobt eat breakfast I eat lunch at work and in the evening at eat at home , she is only giving my mother foods in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day. I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods. It is my decision good?[/quote

If the 40k is only for feeding, I suggest you stop giving her the money and be buying food stuffs yourself and encourage your wife and mother (if she's not too old) to get a job to supplement the household income. Since you don't have enough, there's nothing wrong with your wife working and contributing. Things are really hard now brother but the lord is your strength