odinson1:
Men una mumu sha

When we keep telling you People not to get married, you'll call us broke,immature frustrated and all other sorts of nonsense.

You got married to Parasite who's Sucking you dry, draining the very life force you have. If you don't cut off that leech,she will drain you till you become a shell of your former self.

But seriously guys, lets reason it this way. The money he has been giving to his wife all these while,if he didn't get married and have children now,he would probably have used it to open a business,have investments or Get a new house or something like that. Now a woman has tied him down and It's now stopping him from progressing.

All he cares about are his wife and his children,they are all Liabilities to him. This is why men are advised to have a good job and a nice comfortable apartment first before getting married. You know why? It is because you will most likely get married to A Parasite who will Make you stagnant,it would be almost impossible for you to get past this financial struggle except you get a better job with better pay.

Men! Run away from a marriage that will stop you from Achieving greatness. Having children is not an achievement,it is normally biological for one to procreate,so there is no big deal about it. Having a wife and children when you are not financially stable,will only drag you down and make you stagnant!

And also, DON'T EVER GET MARRIED TO A BROKE LAZY WOMAN! They are Parasites whose only Objective is to latch on to you, and suck out your energy,time,resources and peace of mind.




@the bolded,A good woman? Really?

She and her children eats 3 square meals, while his mother only eats once. You call that a good woman? Wait answer this instead,would she have done same to her own Mother?

This is the real talk I tell most guys. Leave marriage and woman matter. Build yourself first. Having kids and getting married is not a competition. It's better to start having kids in your late 30s to 40s when you know you are very much balanced and already or almost at the peak of your career where nothing financially can disturb you about their upkeeps . Not when you are struggling you now add extra loads to your neck. The frustration you will taste would be vanilla flavor.

Honor10:



Is she still breastfeeding kids of 2 years and 3 months? Stop talking nonsense, the wife is a lazy parasite.

Didn’t you read where the poster said his wife is breastfeeding?

Prospertochu:


I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

Sorry bro? @the last bolded

Nitah1:
I think I like you

Are you a female?

Hell! Abeg send the baby ukwu back to her parents home.she go learn to be loyal

Prospertochu:


God bless you ma I am trying my best but if my wife carries on with her attitudes she will loose me because my health is getting worse day by day and if I die she will take care of them alone

Bro the solution here I see is getting more money. Truckloads of money. Forget the nagging woman. Continue giving her the 30k u can afford but totally ignore her. Then focus on making money on a massive scale. Go YouTube, learn digital skills , search here in nairaland for good business u can start with little capital. GIVE YOURSELF 3 TO 6 MONTHS AND GO HARD ON THE BUSINESS OR SKILL. With a strong focus you can turn your situation around.

She no dey work?
Why are some females so inconsiderate like this?

It's best to let her go back to her parents, for the health of all concerned before stress and hunger start kill both of you and your children.
Seems you don't even care for the marriage or the children right?

Prospertochu:


Her own mother is a landlady but she doesn't even want her back but she keep threatening to leave , this time around I will let her go she is free

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

and is it a sin if she also work, so as to support the family?

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

how old are you kids and what is your wife doing?

Are you applying for another job?


Dude don't skip this question o, e get why I dey ask

I still don't understand why some men are marrying jobless women. Before you marry her, make sure she's also working, even if you're a millionaire.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

What is your qualification and where is your location.

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

Who cares if the salary is poor? The family is in dire financial straits and she has the audacity to be choosy about jobs? That right there from your wife shows she is a liability! Bro, you have to work on her to get that job as that will ease the financial stress on you! If she doesn't agree to get any job to augment the family's income and continue to be a liability which frankly she currently is, divorce is the only option and solution here. You can always take care of the kids if it happens. Just saying. If she doesn't like teaching job, you can find her a salesgirl job very close to the house that takes at most one third of her salary as feeding and transport so that you can finally know if you have a liability as a wife or not. I rest my case.

Rubbiish:

@bold no one is asking u to go & steal, but u people should also try to help yourselves & the society! U should have stopped at the first kid for now till u increase your earning capacity considering the fact that your wife is not working! 55k is too small to run a family like yours, there is sure going to be problem. That is what is happening now. I wouldn't blame your wife because the money is small. But after the first child, u people should have made financial plans before adding more kids. If i may ask, is your child school fees, clothings, health care & other things inside the 40k u are giving to your wife or it is just for feeding?

he said TRIPLETS OOOOO

Rubbiish:

That is what I am saying.
U already have a 2 year old child right?
Or it is your marriage that is 2 years?

you be mumu walai

Hei slay queen

Don't let my Nairaland jokes confused you. As far as marriage is concerned, you are still a kid to me.

Why because you are talking to a father of 15,12,10 and 7 years old beautiful kids. i have been married for 20 years now and my wife nearly bring that stupid attitude,but i deal with her in a language that she will understand.

Women can only mess with weak and broke ass men, but not people like me who so many women are dying to have.

As far as i know, women are the most confused people on earth

Just Bleep off

Simran94:

A breastfeeding wife of three triplets is what you call greedy and a wicked soul because she’s trying to feed 6 people with 40k monthly? How do you want her three babies to feed? The woman who breastfeeds them, if she isn’t healthy herself, how will the three babies survive?

Some of you boys on NL will just talk like it’s easy being a woman

Man I feel your pains,you are digging your grave already BC you cannot set her up in business BC from your pay no saving! No future!! God for bit if you loose your job,what happens? You are all died. You are not married but in bondage. You are already giving this lady all your today,tomorrow and future. You know how much you are earning and she knows then what is the problem. You live within your earns and save or you will died,kill your children and the foolish woman will abandon your children and follow another willing fool. Wise up if you are earning little save. A word is enough for the wise.

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

The last statement that your mom can watch the kids and the seeming refusal of your wife to take up any available job to ease your financial stress indeed confirms my fears your wife is a liability. You either have to snap her out of it or go the divorce route. Ire o.

so how are you going to survive when you start paying school fees

Pele, feeding one kid is not easy let alone three and some kids can eat in your absence but in your presence they won't eat... just be calming down .... it is well like one of my friend would always say.

Ttest:
he said TRIPLETS OOOOO

You must be a very senseless animal!
Read the thread further to see the op had to rephrase his statement for all to understand!
Animal!

Ttest:
you be mumu walai

Senseless animal!
Stop spamming my mentions!

Prospertochu:


No problem bro we don't want anymore kids 3 is already enough if she ever fall pregnant I will hang myself, my plan was to start up a business for her but since there is no capital I have asked her to go and work even if it's teaching job she said the salary is poor and she want her own business. I don't know why she is still want me to suffer when she is not handicapped and can also work while my mum watch the kids

send her home let ur mum take care of the 3 kids in while you hustle better that one no be wife na weyrey

Rubbiish:

You must be a very senseless animal!
Read the thread further to see the op had to rephrase his statement for all to understand!
Animal!

your papa na animal

LuckyLadolce:
What is your qualification and where is your location.

I am an OND holder and I live in enugu

Rubbiish:

Senseless animal!
Stop spamming my mentions!

ehn. You still be mumu

Nitah1:
Most of you ladies that are quick to call men jobless are actually jobless,even the phone you are using to type now is from the money made from your kombi ....

What do you do for a living?


Someone brought a problem to a forum for solution only for you to manifest your street attitudes.


Are you like this naturally or you are made?

How your sisters got theirs from kombi giving you their money to survive for your dump sites

cyndyuc:
I understand what you are passing through. I will advice you mandate your wife to get a job. Your wife is not considerate at all. Please, take care of your mum, give her 10k like you are planning. If your mum can still work, please let her get a job even if it is cleaner job. Sincerely, your income cannot sustain you all. Either your wife works or your mum works.
Have a family meeting and discuss this issue o. Feeding is not easy now o.
Your kids will start school soon, how will you cope?
Treat this issue as urgent.

make mama go work ?

And u are here to know what we will tell u right?���.
Ok let me consult the elders in council.

Kai that your wife is trying o. She must be a good economist for managing that peanut for feeding six families. Op must be staying in one remote village for that money to sustain you for those period. Here in asaba that money will disappear within two weeks with just family of three. I do spend 120k monthly for feeding with a kid and wife

Ttest:
how old are you kids and what is your wife doing?

Are you applying for another job?


Dude don't skip this question o, e get why I dey ask

They are 2 years + , yes I have applied for high paid but to no avail. If you have any please offer me I am ready to relocate