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aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

obowunmi:
You should have never married.

aanuoluwami14:
No wonder you showcase your insanity here typing empty skull advises here, are they God to know how many kids are inside her belly? When he was playing with her legs, didn't he think he would result to this? He didn't have something to fall on but he would have sex with her?! Your type are having bastards children outside been denied . Prayers without work is invain. Sule let me tell you, prayers work very well

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Prospertochu:
We are 2 in number me and my younger sis she is a house help, the family house Is my father's family house my father is late and his siblings kicked her out. That is all I have for now and I won't go and steal

OlawaleBammie:
Yea i have modified, i actually read ur post where u said she's weaning her babies.

Triplet is not easy, even me, i cant allow my woman to work if she put a single baby to bed not to talk of triplet.

But well, from his writeup i detect that the woman has always bn a leech joo, we know dem, awon alabodo.

aanuoluwami14:
You are foolish also, That is what a jobless son should do to his mother, when she ought to have taught her son to zip up when he is jobless, she didn't. He went to bring troubles now, let all of them face the consequences

aanuoluwami14:
With the current situation in Nigeria, even with management, #50k can't be enough for all of you including your mom. Your wife might be so fed up with the triplets consumption, a woman who will take good care of triplets should be very well fed, it's not a easy task at all. Endure with her, let your mother endure too, pray for more income, there will no more fight again.

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Prospertochu:
I married her against my wish her mother forced me to marry her because of the pregnancy. I blamed myself sha maybe if I have had use condoms I wouldn't have been in this miserable marriage.

Ifakiland:
It's your fault bro....why will you marry a jobless broke woman?? When you know you don't have money??
You've plunge yourself into a circle of poverty, deep poverty....if you have married a rich girl from a rich home, she won't be so desperate to suck you dry....also tell your mom to go to her husbands house, she's not your full responsibility

odinson1:
I'm glad you acknowledge your mistake. There are only 3 ways with which you can get out of this Mess. If you continue like this,you will die poor and miserable. This is not a curse,but I'm just speaking Reality here.

1. Divorce!

2. Look for higher paying jobs if you can.

3. She should get a job herself and contribute financially,while you both take turns in looking after the kids.

4. If 2 and 3 doesn't work,then 1 is your only option. Afterall,you didn't marry her of your own freewill.

Bubblewitch:
Oga, she is not a leech.. they are both at fault, having unprotected sex and all. I send 50K for only my mum every month and it’s not enough, talk more of 6 people sharing that. Abeg times are hard

aanuoluwami14:
You dey mad

HRSweetness:
Exactly. Thanks for this advice. I was so moved by his story, I thought of giving him the 10k for hi mum on a monthly basis. But how far would that go really? What he needs is a significant raise from a better job and side incomes.

55k?!! Read his other topics, he has been earning this meager amount for 2years plus.

Ifakiland:
It's your fault bro....why will you marry a jobless broke woman?? When you know you don't have money??
You've plunge yourself into a circle of poverty, deep poverty....if you have married a rich girl from a rich home, she won't be so desperate to suck you dry....also tell your mom to go to her husbands house, she's not your full responsibility

otokx:
This story needs more information.

Acidosis:
Acid? I don't think I've seen that moniker around here.

Landmack:
Days after advising him to update educational status of himself and wife’s...he hasn’t done it.
Three threads all about his wife and 55k salary...mehn this story is what it is,a hoax.

Blessedassuranc:
I love your suggestion as per the way out of their financial constraints. But i ve an issue on baby formula. There are alternatives that i know. So she shld go look for the alternatives. It must be be the usual expensive baby formula.. lets learn to oive within our means pls

Bola146:
Haaaaaaaaa I know how frustrated your wife would be while breastfeeding those 3 kids at once sir, it's not easy, she will be feeling hungry at anytime, feeding the triplets alone excluding you, your wife and mother, 50k can't be enough sir. Things are too costly in the market. You and your mother need to be very patience with her please. I pray that God send helpers to you and your family. You might apply for better jobs with better pay if you see. Please don't be too harsh to your wife and kids. It's because of this Buhari regime, it will soon be over. Keep praying and have faith that things will be alright one day.






That is why I hate married people bringing out their dirties outside especially on nairaland, those irresponsible married men who can't give their wives and children #20k per month would come out here to type rubbish leading you astray. Please ignore all those people saying too harsh words at you. Cry unto God your helper for better job to take good care of yourself and your family, don't let their words turn to depression to your life.

odinson1:
@First bolded is why it is a Foolish concept to even consider asking a woman for Relationship Advice. They don't Think with their brains. If he continues to "Endure with her", he will Die young because the stress is too much! She's draining away his energy,pushing him pass his breaking point. If this madness doesn't stop,he will Die a miserable old or in thise case,young man.

@2nd bolded, If prayers worked, there would be nothing like World Hunger

Walkee:
who cares about the opinion of a short black Yoruba girl with small pot belly and mouthstache?
Sure we're polygamous and our women also work hard for our attention

Simran94:
For economy that is hard, in fact, 3 is too early to stop breastfeeding. Baby foods and diapers are very expensive now, imagine spending 24k monthly of baby foods alone for triplets, why won’t she prefer breastfeeding which is cheaper?