Truvelisback:
Bro, start saving money, get a gas cooker and fend for urself. Ur elder bro just taught u a lesson. Learn to survive alone.

InTheCloudySky:
If he's not housing her, is she supposed to be living on the streets when she can stay with him? And how is he feeding her when he told her when she has money to refill gas, they will start cooking in the house again and she will eat? How do you say something so cruel to your own sister?

I don't see any sense of entitlement with the OP, else I would've called it out. She trying. The brother is just being unnecessarily stingy and mean towards her. If I were him and in their position, I would share my last cup of water or whatever I'm eating with her because that's what a loving older sibling should do. It's not as if she's hasn't been trying herself.

Mariangeles:


OK. When he starts making money, he should fend for himself abi?
Na only elder brother own everybody dey chop.

There were 2 young men who earn the same salary working for the same company. They both lived in a 2 bedroom apartment and share the rent. Call them James and Paul.

James drinks alcohol and lives with his girlfriend in his room. He owns an entertainment system including a TV, DVD player, and speakers, and he also decorated his room.

Paul doesn’t have a girlfriend but he owns a laptop which he uses to do graphic designs as a side hustle.

Before the end of the month, James is broke and comes to Paul to borrow some money. To James, Paul should understand that he has a certain lifestyle so his salary isn’t enough. If Paul refuses, James thinks Paul is stingy because he has the money to spare, or maybe envious that he (James) has a beautiful girlfriend but he (Paul) doesn’t.

Paul on his own part has decided that it’s not time yet to have a girlfriend and he doesn’t need an entertainment system, but he needs a laptop to make extra money and build his savings and investment accounts so that someday he can quit his job and sponsor himself to college. Paul doesn’t have a problem with James’ lifestyle, but he gets upset when James comes borrowing. Why? Because he (Paul) would also like to go out with friends and drink and also have fun with a girlfriend, but these things will interfere with his priorities of saving and investing for his future education.

To Paul, he has the money James requested but he won’t lend him because he (Paul) isn’t a bank. Paul thinks that James should take responsibility for financing his lifestyle. Paul’s priority is to go to college.

Paul thinks that David takes him for a fool, doesn’t care about him meeting his future career and financial plans, and therefore isn’t a good friend. David also thinks that Paul is selfish, envious, antisocial, stingy, doesn’t care about his welfare and therefore isn’t a good friend. That’s how they started keeping malice for each other

InTheCloudySky:
I thought OP's female, but ok. ​I'll address him using he/his/him then. Tbh, as long as the OP is the younger sibling, which he/she is, gender isn't relevant in this situation. I wasn't supporting him because I thought she's a female. My stance remains the same, irrespective of the gender.

OP doesn't sound like someone who is "relaxing", nor does he sound entitled nor lazy. He's doing something to make little money and has been the one refilling the gas, (albeit he says the last two weeks have been tough for him). His brother's attitude and words towards him are too bad. You can tell a lot about people's character (especially those close to you) by how they treat you during difficult times. I cannot be eating while a hungry sibling will be sitting in front of me with no food and then I'll open my mouth to say when he/she has the money for gas then he/she will eat. If we're not sharing, I will kuku give them my food to eat while I go hungry.

Mariangeles:
Op, are you a male or a female?

socialmediaman:
OP @ Picktrust does this story below apply to you?

Kriss216:
Something must have made your brother suspect you're hoarding your money. Maybe he sees betslip in your pocket or around the house.

Kriss216:
Something must have made your brother suspect you're hoarding your money. Maybe he sees betslip in your pocket or around the house.

He's your brother, no need to start keeping malice with him. Next time he starts eating noodles, get a spoon and join him.

Picktrust:
Good day all, please judge this matter and see if what my brother is doing to me is fine or not. I also need your advice.

I live with my senior brother. We are all managing life because we are struggling. He sell for person in the market while I am an apprentice. Last year November, I started learning fashion design and I am barely 3 months. So we agreed I will be the one refilling cooking gas always and buy other little things like salt, pepper, soap and so on while he'll buy most of food items.

Since I cannot sew well yet, money does not flow my way so common but there is how my boss will send me to go deliver work to someone and the person will dash me N1000 or N2000 sometimes for my effort. Another way I make money is by amendment of clothes when i have. That is how I make little little money for survival. I have been refilling the gas as far as money is in my hand but this January, things are very tough that I hardly see N100 especially the last two weeks.

Send me your account number, let me transfer 3k to you.
I do not see any sign of laziness here on your part.
All i see is an elder brother whose sense of love and responsibility has been blunted by poverty.
May God have mercy on him.

Because I don't have money to refill gas, my brother is now eating from outside or sometimes borrow a neighbour gas to cook noodles and he will eat alone without minding if I have eat or not like what happened yesterday which i was very hungry, saying when I have money to refill gas, we will start cooking in the house again and I will eat. I have try to tell him I don't have money these days but he is saying I'm hiding my money and be looking at his face. This is coming from a blood brother who is my senior.

Note: I am 23, SSCE holder. I decided to learn the trade after my attempts to go to university failed financially and otherwise.

Please is this alright because am beginning to keep malice with him.

Picktrust:


You quoted the whole thing without saying a thing.

ChybuzzDD:


I mistakenly buried my response in your write-up.

Picktrust:


Ok. A million thanks.

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ChybuzzDD:


I mistakenly buried my response in your write-up.

ChybuzzDD:


Done

Picktrust:


Male

pansophist:
Your brother is a shitty person. I can be greedy to every damn person outside, but my family I don't joke with. You're hustling, younger, have been refilling the gas before, but just two weeks, not even two years, and he is eating in your presence while you're hungry. Blood may be thicker than water, but love is thicker than blood. He got no love for you.

It's sad it took something as small as food for him to show himself, now imagine if your life have to depend on him, maybe due to sickness, it can be catastrophic. Situations like this teaches you something, and it is that you're alone in this world. So double your hustle, and just get something to survive on for a start. This too shall pass, but you'll emerge stronger and see the world for what it is.

Ahmed0336:
Few things may be the cause of his reaction.

1. You have a history of not saying the truth hence his mistrust to you.
2. He is just being an aszhole.

My take; sh*t happens, double your hustle and keep to his terms of agreement.

Kriss216:
Something must have made your brother suspect you're hoarding your money. Maybe he sees betslip in your pocket or around the house.

He's your brother, no need to start keeping malice with him. Next time he starts eating noodles, get a spoon and join him.

Picktrust:


Ok. A million thanks.

0580041007, GTBank