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What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Picktrust: 5:02pm On Jan 26
Good day all, please judge this matter and see if what my brother is doing to me is fine or not. I also need your advice.

I live with my senior brother. We are all managing life because we are struggling. He sell for person in the market while I am an apprentice. Last year November, I started learning fashion design and I am barely 3 months. So we agreed I will be the one refilling cooking gas always and buy other little things like salt, pepper, soap and so on while he'll buy most of food items.

Since I cannot sew well yet, money does not flow my way so common but there is how my boss will send me to go deliver work to someone and the person will dash me N1000 or N2000 sometimes for my effort. Another way I make money is by amendment of clothes when i have. That is how I make little little money for survival. I have been refilling the gas as far as money is in my hand but this January, things are very tough that I hardly see N100 especially the last two weeks.

Because I don't have money to refill gas, my brother is now eating from outside or sometimes borrow a neighbour gas to cook noodles and he will eat alone without minding if I have eat or not like what happened yesterday which i was very hungry, saying when I have money to refill gas, we will start cooking in the house again and I will eat. I have try to tell him I don't have money these days but he is saying I'm hiding my money and be looking at his face. This is coming from a blood brother who is my senior.

Note: I am 23, SSCE holder. I decided to learn the trade after my attempts to go to university failed financially and otherwise.

Please is this alright because am beginning to keep malice with him.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Ahmed0336(m): 5:04pm On Jan 26
Few things may be the cause of his reaction.

1. You have a history of not saying the truth hence his mistrust to you.
2. He is just being an aszhole.

My take; sh*t happens, double your hustle and keep to his terms of agreement.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:05pm On Jan 26
Something must have made your brother suspect you're hoarding your money. Maybe he sees betslip in your pocket or around the house.

He's your brother, no need to start keeping malice with him. Next time he starts eating noodles, get a spoon and join him.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Foodqueen(f): 5:11pm On Jan 26
Eeya!!!

Forget what we see on movies.

Life is hard.

Manage anyhow you see fit.

This too shall pass.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Beremx(f): 5:18pm On Jan 26
You can fill your gas according to what you can afford. Gas vendors sell gas as low as 1kg. You can always plan ahead too

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:21pm On Jan 26
Beremx:
You can fill your gas according to what you can afford. Gas vendors sell gas as low as 1kg. You can always plan ahead too
Exactly

I filled 3kg earlier this year. Was arranging one stubborn soup like that, gas finished midway and my favourite female neighbor travelled. Man was low on funds, had to call the gasman to help top 3kg.

Still on the 3kg now cheesy

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Romanoff(f): 5:22pm On Jan 26
I will just wait for "team blood is thicker than water" to come and put mouth in this matter.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:27pm On Jan 26
Romanoff:
I will just wait for "team blood is thicker than water" to come and put mouth in this matter.
Go and reconcile with your siblings, Roman

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:32pm On Jan 26
sadly, instead of being grateful that you have a brotha that pays for EVERYTHING ELSE in your life, you are here looking down on him being upset because "you" are slacking off. you better be grateful yeah, and stp looking down on small stuff. SORT YOUR LIFE OUT!

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Nekky5(f): 5:36pm On Jan 26
Try and have an honest discussion with him as regards your income flow. Let him know and see that you are being sincere ,that is if you have been oo. Love him and live in Peace with him . You guys are blood Brothers. Meanwhile work harder legitimately while you look for own apartment no matter how small it might be.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Romanoff(f): 5:38pm On Jan 26
Kriss216:

Go and reconcile with your siblings, Roman

I'm not in conflict with my siblings.

I've just seen a lot of times that blood is not thicker than water.

I've seen siblings kill each other over inheritance.

I've seen a rich sibling abandon his family because the became rich.

I've seen a son and daughter call their mother a witch.

I've seen a mother and father hate thier children.

So is blood thicker than water in these instances?

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:43pm On Jan 26
Romanoff:


I'm not in conflict with my siblings.

I've just seen a lot of times that blood is not thicker than water.

I've seen siblings kill each other over inheritance.

I've seen a rich sibling abandon his family because the became rich.

I've seen a son and daughter call their mother a witch.

I've seen a mother and father hate thier children.

So is blood thicker than water in these instances?
You've never seen a brother come through for a brother when friends disembarked?
You didn't see when Naira Marley mom was the only woman standing for him when he was in prison?

Blood will always be thicker than water.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Romanoff(f): 5:43pm On Jan 26
@Op, your brother is a shitty person.

He knows you're an apprentice. If he can afford to fill the gas and do the things you're spos to do for this month but chose to let you starve, he's wicked.

Everyone knows how January is, who wan dey amend cloth or give tips for January when we know how January dey be? And he knows you're not on a salary.

Me I can't do that to my sibling sha. E

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Magnoliaa(m): 5:43pm On Jan 26
Romanoff:
I will just wait for "team blood is thicker than water" to come and put mouth in this matter.

LMAO. Me, I wonder why they are fighting and keeping malice and not trusting each other like that when they are not women. undecided

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Romanoff(f): 5:45pm On Jan 26
Kriss216:

You've never seen a brother come through for a brother when friends disembarked?
You didn't see when Naira Marley mom was the only woman standing for him when he was in prison?

Of course. I sent two of my siblings to school after my dad died cause I finished school at 20 and started working early.

That doesn't mean I haven't seen siblings in my same shoe behave shitty to their blood.

The saying that "blood is thicker than water" is not always the case. I have people who treated me better than my relatives. People that aren't even from the same state as I am.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Magnoliaa(m): 5:51pm On Jan 26
Ahmed0336:
Few things may be the cause of his reaction.

1. You have a history of not saying the truth hence his mistrust to you.
2. He is just being an aszhole.

My take; sh*t happens, double your hustle and keep to his terms of agreement.

I agree with this. It is either the brother is 'wicked' or is not.

I just pray things turn out well for you, OP; I don't have much mouth to chook in this marra.

I don't get why some of y'all don't try to sort matters out, though, before bringing them to strangers here - floating without contexts nor background.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by ViperAda: 5:53pm On Jan 26
You see these apprentices dem never chop belleful but go dey carry money dash girls, enter hotel go smash ashewo with small change dey suppose take chop. Your brother is doing well until you get sense.


-Viper

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:54pm On Jan 26
Romanoff:


Of course. I sent two of my siblings to school after my dad died cause I finished school at 20 and started working early.

That doesn't mean I haven't seen siblings in my same shoe behave shitty to their blood.

The saying that "blood is thicker than water" is not always the case. I have people who treated me better than my relatives. People that aren't even from the same state as I am.
I've seen two friends calling themselves My Blood , when one was arrested, the other absconded. It was the brother of the arrested one that came from another state to bail him.

For me, I don't think I can love any woman more than I love my mother. I keep telling anyone who cares to listen.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Romanoff(f): 5:55pm On Jan 26
Kriss216:

I've seen two friends calling themselves My Blood , when one was arrested, the other absconded. It was the brother of the arrested one that came from another state to bail him.

For me, I don't think I can love any woman more than I love my mother. I keep telling anyone who cares to listen.

Good for you.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Kriss216: 5:57pm On Jan 26
Romanoff:


Good for you.

I know.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Sonnobax15(m): 6:05pm On Jan 26
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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by chii8(f): 6:07pm On Jan 26
Someone should just dash him 3k to refill the gas nah undecided undecided undecided

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by waploger(m): 6:14pm On Jan 26
wetin men don see no be chyse!!!
Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Beremx(f): 6:17pm On Jan 26
Kriss216:

Exactly

I filled 3kg earlier this year. Was arranging one stubborn soup like that, gas finished midway and my favourite female neighbor travelled. Man was low on funds, had to call the gasman to help top 3kg.

Still on the 3kg now cheesy
na so!! Waiting till you have funds to refill a 12.5kg cylinder ehn, it’s better to buy what you can afford. I cannot come and kill my self

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Magnoliaa(m): 6:20pm On Jan 26
waploger:
wetin men don see no be chyse!!!
Asinn. I gree. The life of a man is as hard as a frozen Eba. cry I really piry y'all.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by eniolorunfe: 6:43pm On Jan 26
Is there no other means of cooking asides using gas? If you were not living with your brother won’t you survive? It’s time to start thinking outside the box.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by waploger(m): 6:44pm On Jan 26
Magnoliaa:

Asinn. I gree. The life of a man is as hard as a frozen Eba. cry I really piry y'all.



Both gender is complicatedly hard...
At times I would wish to be a woman then I remember women own hard aspect and I would be thankful for being a man.

. This is currently happening to me and my junior bro...

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Nobody: 6:58pm On Jan 26
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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Picktrust: 7:08pm On Jan 26
ViperAda:
You see these apprentices dem never chop belleful but go dey carry money dash girls, enter hotel go smash ashewo with small change dey suppose take chop. Your brother is doing well until you get sense.


-Viper

Not everybody do the same thing.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Mariangeles(f): 7:09pm On Jan 26
Your brother doesn't want to be overburdened and one can't blame him.
He's doing so much for you already as it is (by housing and feeding you), so don't be ungrateful with the sense of entitlement.
Remember, he's your brother and not your father.
So, you should be responsible for him as much as he is for you.

It's not even like he owns his own business yet, he's just an onye oso ahia, but he still does what he can to meet up.
You too you need to step up and support him. Borrow if you have to and fill the cylinder, even if it's half way. (You know you can if you want to)
Don't just relax and say "I don't have", find a way.
Elder brothers are humans and they need support too. We need to cut them some slack.

If you were squatting with someone that wasn't your brother, wouldn't you find a way to meet up with your own contributions?

You're the one that's not being fair with your brother to be sincere with you.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Truvelisback(m): 7:16pm On Jan 26
Bro, start saving money, get a gas cooker and fend for urself. Ur elder bro just taught u a lesson. Learn to survive alone.

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Re: What My Brother Is Doing To Me. Is It Fair? Please Advise by Nobody: 7:21pm On Jan 26
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