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Pierocash:
She did the right thing by blocking you. You are an irresponsible man. You can setup a business for her but can't take care of a family or a baby? Not that you are jobless,you are working. Those Uber guys you see,are most of them not married,how are they taking care of their families?

Most rich kids you see today became rich through their parents' riches as well. How many real rich guys made it on their own without some kind of parental backup. Even at that,you can handle your family well with the one you are doing. Don't waste another person's daughter chasing your own selfish agenda in the name of you want to be rich.

Go and do the needful and marry her if truly you love her,stop acting cunning and sounding too irresponsible

Snok58:
Far from it, this is my reality

nighter:
You are wrong by all means! There's nothing good about her. How can you call a deceitful person good?

Uche1993:
Please I was just going tru the comments and I am tagged as a materialistic person. Please I am not, the only time I have asked for so much more was to buy an iPhone so I can be taking good pictures of my perfumes he gave me 80k and I added my own 100k, also the business he said he started for me, we are on a contract example my last purchase was a total of 170k he gave me 150k and I added my own 20k and from this 150k he gave me I have paid back 122k and what I am owing him is 28k I have not finished selling the perfumes, with whatever I sell I give him money until my debt is complete this is how we work, we only had a money once plus the 28k I am owing him about 34k this is because my sister was in need and I used it to help her out, I promised to pay back even with this pregnancy issue I have your access bank account I maybe late in my payment but a promise is a promise and I will definitely pay back. I am more than grateful to you for supporting my business even tho it’s based on borrow but not many people can do this, when I started cryptocurrency you supported me I am grateful.

But I am proud to say that I am very very supportive and not materialistic, I asked mister victor to go and learn a trade about car parts or house, even if he leaves the country he can then be importing and still be making money.

He put me on an allowance of 5k weekly, aside from this money I have never asked him for any other money (please Victor if I am lieing tell the whole world) never asked for food, clothe, internet subscription, hair nothing at all I make use of this money and even buy him things once in awhile I still have savings with PiggyVest please how am I a bad person.

I asked him to introduce me to his mother, on my part it was not a big deal and I needed it for assurance. I am a very beautiful girl and with a good shape and intelligent, I get request from men on a daily basis, but never have I cheated on victor Infact ask him I do tell men that I am married just so they can leave me alone and to avoid cheating, I don’t collect money from them nothing at all. I have been totally faithful to victor it breaks my heart this morning that he told me that the child is not his own, I have his voice recording denying the child, DNA test would be very okay with me to verify this I don’t mind. I introduced him to my mum because in my family my mum is like our best friend to me and my sister’s, we relate like sisters so it’s more like I was excited to show off my boyfriend to my mum and sister no big deal.

He said I lied about my menstural cycle, lol he know I don’t remember things very well that is why I have an app that records my flow and predicts the next flo also my ovulation too, it was just once at the beginning stage I got angry when he asked me about it but since then I have been open like a book to him about everything he has access to my two phones he checks on my flo app whenever so please victor how did I lie. December period was it not one of the worst months of our relationship I even asked for a break up before my mum intervened how then will I ask for a break up and still plot to carry your child, how victor.

Since 12-1am you woke me up I have been crying I can’t go back to sleep, never in my life did I think victor you will do this to me, if I was asked to swear for you I would. I blocked my mum and sister on call and on WhatsApp because I can’t bear to keep hearing my mother cry and my sister disappointment.


All I asked is to perform the igbo rite, I am from imo and our list is long but I asked victor to come let us plan this out, I was there when my sister did her trad her husband did not do everything on the list we can simply present what we have but at least we have done something, and our child will have your name and two parents.


Please if you are a woman reading this or a doctor, I have been experiencing stinging pains in my tummy and my back hurts, please is it normal. I don’t have friends to talk to I can’t talk to my mum and sister I am ashamed to talk to them, obviously I can’t talk to victor, please I need help is this pain normal, it’s more painful on the lower part of my tummy.

bencarson007:
90% of the people who advised you here are evil. Never sleep with a woman you cannot father a child with if the worst comes.

You claim you love her and next you warn her off ur mom and deny her the joys of motherhood.

Ogbeni you are heartless.

Anyways I wish you the best. If that girl is my sister, bro she having that kid and it bears my family name. And if you come close, I go use matchete on you.

As for saying that you won't spend ur dad's money, na useless pride dey do you. If not for ur dad and some stipends from him and some small platform to spring up, would you have bought that car you use for UBER.

Your friends are good people . I would have chased you outta my crib a long time ago because I never see who dey near river wey dey use spit wash eyes when pepper enter him eye.

Take it from me bro.
UR BABE IS A GOOD WOMAN AND YOU ARE IRRESPONSIBLE.

Any of those mofos up there that says let her have the baby or she pinning it on you never wish you well.

Guy move ahead. You dey waste my data.
Mtshwwwwww
Irresponsible bother

Snok58:
My sisters husband is from imo, my brother's wife from Benin. This should tell you about my family... You generizations doesn't hold sway here.

frozen70:
You are not someone that must he forced to go and do traditional marriage of a lady that got pregnant for you, it's not bye force

She has studied your family very well and wants to be a part of your family by tricks, so she became pregnant to achieve that

Now tell me, where you really ready to marry her, with or without pregnancy or you simply just want to keep her on hold till you get stabilized

Two things are involved here

If you want the woman, be prepared to keep the pregnancy but must not do the traditional marriage because its a way to commit you, especially if you are too sure of marrying her

If you don't want the pregnancy, and she wants it, let her keep it, be prepared to be a father and play the role you can

If she continues to block you, just leave her and her family, it's a bait to make you do their bidding

If they can't really get you, she will unblock you

They should keep their pressure to themselves

Snok58:
Good day guys.
I apologize for the long read and typos.

I met my girlfriend last year and everything has been moving fine. She was someone I intend to marry regardless of our issues. She is very loving and caring.

On my own part, I just finished my masters and I've not been able to get a good job. I used my savings to get a car and my friend gave me free accommodation in Abuja and I started uber. I'm a struggling guy but I come from a wealthy home, my father passed on recently and I control most things but I just remit them to my mum and I stopped her from giving me anything because I don't get satisfaction spending my parents money.

My girlfriend is young but she dreams of getting married early, I understand but I needed her to be industrious. I started a business for her in October which she tries a lot and she's making baby steps. I also give her stipends every month.

Our sex life is cool and I've tried using condom but she always frowned at it, so I resulted in calculating her free period, it was going well until a day she refused to tell me her cycle after we had sex. I got pissed and confronted her that I'm not ready for her to be pregnant, she said she won't and she's also not ready for it.

I came back from Abuja briefly in December and I was with her, I asked her for the cycle and she shifted the date and I miscalculated, long story short, as at yesterday she is 6weeks pregnant.

She told me the result, I asked her what should we do, she said she'll keep it but I'll have to do traditional marriage. Hmm, sincerely I did not want the child at this time. I told her I can be a father but I am not ready to be a husband, trouble erupted; she told her mum and her sister they called me I stood my ground that I'm not financially capable of setting up a family. She called my elder sister, I also did not bulge but however my sister noticed that she was building her judgment of me on my family wealth. I told my sister, I will only set up a family with only my acquired wealth and as it stands I'm only an uber driver.

I confronted my babe yesterday and it was evident that she wanted and planned for the pregnancy, she was happy. I was livid I told her that since she planned it, she should handle it that I just owe her money for the baby and delivery if she decides to keep it, and that my marriage plan will be put on hold, because I'll have to spend my savings. I was saving to do traditional marriage then travel out if things don't change. A child was the last thing on my list.

My girlfriend has blocked me everywhere and I suspect that her family are of the opinion that it's either I do traditional marriage or she removes it.

Guys my relationship is seriously threatened, I need advice vis a vis bashing

Uche1993:
I don’t know how this works but a reply to your above message victor okafor uzochukwu if I planned this pregnancy to come at this stage not minding our plan then God in heaven that sees and knows our hearts and true intentions may he deny me of every good thing in life, what ever I put my hands into let it not work out.

Snok58:
Good day guys.
I apologize for the long read and typos.

I met my girlfriend last year and everything

Uche1993:
If I did not love him let me die, I was literally obsessed with this guy like he was my everything, my only friend outside my family, my only boyfriend. I am my family’s responsibility, I am not his responsibility. From today we don’t know who he is, he doesn’t exist to us and I don’t exist to him, let’s God’s will be done and let him fight for me and my child. If we did mister victor any wrong I will publicly apologize and own up to my mistake but if he is the one that lied to me and is still lieing here let God fight for me.

Uche1993:
I think I know you lol read my write up if I was manipulating him I will insist on marriage as the case maybe my family has relieved him of any responsibility, I am not mister victor’s responsibility neither is my unborn child his child. He is a very free man, I have warned him not to send any money as per child support if he does I will send it back to his access bank account, I don’t need a penny from him. I am my family’s full responsibility me and my child. I don’t know who mister victor is, if he tries to come near me or this child in the future, it will be the day he enters prison for the first time in his life.

Uche1993:
I don’t know how this works but a reply to your above message victor okafor uzochukwu if I planned this pregnancy to come at this stage not minding our plan then God in heaven that sees and knows our hearts and true intentions may he deny me of every good thing in life, what ever I put my hands into let it not work out. But if I did not plan this and I am here suffering emotionally and physically and you are so upset because I said no to abortion then in this life this will be your last child, you will never live to carry a child in your life, and your sister that called me this morning favor as a woman that I even took as my junior sister telling me to abort your child, my sincere prayer is that she will meet someone like you that will promise her marriage and get her pregnant then leave her, she will suffer just like I did then she will understand her statement “if she was in my shoes” All my sweat and suffering for you I brought you to abuja but if this is how you will repay me and my family, the land of abuja will reject you, you will toil day and night and never see anything to show for it.


Guy’s he said money is the issue after speaking with my family this morning, I am my family’s responsibility and we have decided to remove him from anything concerning the child and me. He bears no responsibility he is a free man. But let the tears of my mother and my tears speak for me. Hopefully this will be my last reply to him, I don’t know how to but I would have loved to delete this post but I can’t let this be a reminder to him.


Keep your money, and forever leave my life and the child’s life.

AwesomeDuru:
You're wrong.

There's nothing irresponsible about getting a girl pregnant.

Isn't that the core responsibility of every male species?

When another man impregnates my daughter, the fault's not on the man, it's on my daughter.

She allowed him impregnate her.

Stop being a simp and blame the wh.ore for allowing him get her pregnant and then wanting to tie him down with pregnancy.

That's gross irresponsibility on her part seeing that she wouldn't be the one footing the baby bills.

This young man is totally free to walk.

She won't be the first, neither will she be the last baby mama on Earth.

Quit being a Simp!

Oyin2212:
You're saying rubbish bro

Iyaebe:
and I hope she's still available emotionally and physically for you by then.Victor think deep.Shalom

Snok58:
My sisters husband is from imo, my brother's wife from Benin. This should tell you about my family... You generizations doesn't hold sway here.

Privatepart00:
Manipulation in progress
Heaven doesn’t grant such wishes
You planned this all along , all the epistle of doing buying and selling hold no water , still your way of achieving the plan. He borrows you the money ? Which you wished he was dashing out instead of borrowing lol. All this faculty of Arts female students trying to raise their shoulder so high.There’s nothing so unique you did for him , all trying to force your way into the family.
You don’t pressure a man to keep a pregnancy which he told you from day one , he is isn’t ready for , you are against abortion? But you ain’t against fornication? Choosing the one that suit your plan.
With the names mentioned so far , I am sure I know this people .
Victor please stand your ground . A lady doesn’t know her cycle ? Fallacy of the highest . If you allow her manipulation get hold of you, I am sorry for you. Why some Imo state girls always like this? They already know because of their list many people run away from there . I have someone like this just that I don’t even her the chance to come close.
Saying she doesn’t mind staying in the family house at Enugu is all a ploy . The young man doesn’t need the pressure from your manipulation, allowing selfish interest to cloud your eyes .

Snok58:
I just hope she's ready to grind with me because I'll guarantee that if I marry her at this time, all my budget will be according to what my uber business gives me. I will not collect from anyone. Then from there we can both analyze how prepared we are for marriage.

Iyaebe:
Snok58 I am giving you a sound warning not to destroy your own life with your own hands, you'll surely regret your actions if you don't immediately retreat and do the needful, also remember that the beginning of most successful things in life always starts very rough,both of you have claimed to love each other and she even agreed to rock the boat with you with anything you have to offer no matter how little it is.Don't listen to internet boys who don't know anything about life and it's rules,this lady's tears will not dry before God answers her curses on you(I'm very sure of this) but it can still be redeemed now.So do the needful now and let both of you forgive yourselves, that pregnancy you so hate might bring open doors to your life,don't act out of ignorance. Think and think deep

Ishilove:
Have you asked her if she is ready to grow with you?

Let me give you my candid opinion based on all you have written and the impression I am getting.

Your girlfriend is naive and I have a feeling she is in her early 20s. I may be wrong about her age though, but that's the impression I'm getting.

She seems to be more enamored with the idea of marriage and not marriage itself.

She is not on the same page with you on the issue of finances. This is going to create problems in your marriage because what she is expecting is not what you will give her, vis a vis a lifestyle funded by your family's wealth.

Her greatest ambition in life is to be a wife. I'm not sure she has thought much about life after becoming an MRS. I doubt if she has really thought deep and hard about where she will be in ten years time.

Is she ready to support the family with part of the proceeds from her business? Is she ready to make sacrifices that come with marriage?

You will secretly resent her for pressuring you into marriage. This resentment will sometimes be voiced out when those inevitable arguments about money and budgetary spending crop up.

At the end of the day, we, your Nairaland in-laws will not be there to suffer or enjoy with you the attendant ramifications of whatever decision you choose to take so I can only say this:

You are on your own.

You're advising him when the marriage has already packed up.
The said girl said she's 21and the only thing she keeps hammering on is marriage, she hasn't even made mention of how to build her life positively and how to achieve financial stability without the help of op, omo Ishi na siddon look I dey this year with all these relationships brouhaha wey dey happen everyday for nairaland.
If they know how dey take arrive at this junction with belle on top make dem continue laidat.

silibaba:
I agree but then find a lasting solution to the situation on ground.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Swallow your pride bro. Accept all that have happened and re-position.

You said you won't tamper your inheritance. Even dangote, innosson dey leverage bank loan.you don't need to suffer before you become rich. Put your father wealth into work bro.