BLoomfrancs:



If experienced people dey talk, old fool like you no suppose dey put mouth.

This doesn't even deserve a reply from me.
Cheers

udemzyudex:
There's this babe ,she's a very close friend.
The way we talk and play you might think we are dating,at a point I wanted to tell her to by my gf but i sense it will be a bad idea,it's better we just keep things on the friendship level,we do have misunderstanding, especially on small issues but always resolve it.

The reason I didn't want to make her my gf is because she have anger issues,he get angry easily and sometimes don't want to admit she's wrong.
I get angry easily too and I sense that if we decide to start a relationship it will never last,it's better we just remain friends.

I just hope this your relationship won't lead to marriage ooo because it will be a disaster waiting to happen,no be swear ooo.

Sorry

Laggatumuch:


Boss you are on a long thing..
That your money don go ,just take it as giving back to the streets

Lol.. which money?

Which one be Marian sanda again? Una no go kill me for this forum oo

Bola146:
wahala

And that was how Abuja Maria Sanda sandered her husband to an early grave. Today she's walking free on earth,while late Sanda is in Limbo wailing even after death.


Lol...85% of Nairaland men are SIMple men. They carry women they should never have anything to do with in the first instance only to come on NL and start wailing like a cat.

Op..where's ur location abeg we need to use broom on ur body. You're possessed

udemzyudex:


Lol.. which money?

Sorry it's a mistake , I was replying a guy making inquiries about greenfold farms

TechSpecialist:
na Edo/Delta girl?

As if it is not in every tribe ,who does piercing pass among all the states in Nigeria ,you will see them with four to five piercing some their ears has cut into many parts with over bleached body ,I don't have time for tribal sentiment.

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

. Look, you are the biggest fool on earth with a dick in between his legs. What's wrong with you! You are seeing all these and you are talking thrash about not catching her with a man? You want to waste your life with someone whose life is already on a roller coaster? What charm did they use on you or are you on a willful journey to destruction?

Laggatumuch:

Sorry it's a mistake , I was replying a guy making inquiries about greenfold farms

Lol..ok

omokab:
some men willingly put themselves into a serious problem. I have. A similar case like that sometimes ago. Her mother is also a single mother with all her children with her . I tried to unite my girl with the father but it was difficult. I left her when I realized that she is not someone I can control. She is always get annoyed for a little thing. Never happy except when she is in need of money. I tried a lot for her in term of monetary assistance. I bought two sewing machine for her. With some other needs in her shop. Rented shop for her and painted . feeding and so on which I can't mentioned . Her attitude pissed me off because I know if I mistakenly marry her I will never ha e rest of mind.
My advice to you is simple. Let her go .you will certainly see a better one. Don't think of what you have done for her in the past . Don't marry any lady out of pity because you will blame yourself in the future .

You did well. May heaven reward you. It 's good that you saw the signs and walked away to avoid story of had I known later on.

Op better know something and wise up.. Before I forget, let me remind you that sugar daddies and chairmen them no Sabi chat or use chats, they only call with different numbers.

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

The signs are there but you want to ignore. After your wedding now you will come here to cry on how your got married to a bitch

I think the OP's lady should run all i am seeing here are red flag signs of a control freak. Checking her phone? Lord Judgmental .

Her mum and sister's circumstances could be beyond their control. This lady should run as far away as possible.

Brainard22:
SImpLE man

Asin,he is a SIMP

we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman

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@bolded! So because you never catch her mean to you that she's loyal abi? i pity you

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

Twoclans:
The way I love leg chains ehhhh,anybody that has an issue with it should just be going.I cant give up my leg chains for anybody.

Ashewo vibes my foot

Sheybi when you clock 80yrs , you go still dey wear am as per old olosho.

Pearlyakin:

Sheybi when you clock 80yrs , you go still dey wear am as per old olosho.

Yes nahh,why not

you need to deal with your temper(never go physical with anyone least of them all a woman) signs are there now u are ignoring them...the reasons she is from a dysfunctional home and her sister having 3 kids from 3 guys is staring u in the face now u no want hear...she has foundational issues to battle with, the 2 of you need genuine repentance from sin....and go ur separate ways...if it is the will of God for the 2 of you to marry he will bring back later.

Every woman will get angry and hit a man that is hitting her, or do Ou expect her to sit and be crying when you are hitting her?

Most times we like blaming others why the problem is in us, stop hitting her, you have no right to hit a woman,
Stop hitting her and see if she will hit you, but work on your self first, because if you go In to another relationship with such attitude ,you will end up complaining

Secondly accept her the way she is, that is the only way marriage and relationship will work, leg chain,and other things does not matter

Forget her family past

We all have a past, just ensure , two of you are prayerful to avoid repetition of family history.

Work on your anger

See there is no woman on this earth you will hit that will not hit you back, some will work out of the relationship
Some will stay and always retaliate.


quote author=Beautifulearth post=109851028]Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.[/quote]

Ficient:
You have to make a decision and live by it. For exact same reasons and background issues I left someone that I really loved. Eventually her first marriage crashed like I suspected. But today she is settled, but she still hates me. Sometimes I keep wondering if getting married to her might have broken that jinx in her family but I couldn't take that risk, make nobody vex including the SIMP side of me. O yes, every guy has a SIMP tendency. That's why I said make a decision and live by it, that's life

hmmm. Your ex gf was raised by single mom too??

omokab:
some men willingly put themselves into a serious problem. I have. A similar case like that sometimes ago. Her mother is also a single mother with all her children with her . I tried to unite my girl with the father but it was difficult. I left her when I realized that she is not someone I can control. She is always get annoyed for a little thing. Never happy except when she is in need of money. I tried a lot for her in term of monetary assistance. I bought two sewing machine for her. With some other needs in her shop. Rented shop for her and painted . feeding and so on which I can't mentioned . Her attitude pissed me off because I know if I mistakenly marry her I will never ha e rest of mind.
My advice to you is simple. Let her go .you will certainly see a better one. Don't think of what you have done for her in the past . Don't marry any lady out of pity because you will blame yourself in the future .

sent you a pm

If you want to get married, take a good look at her mother, a donkey doesn't give birth to a sheep

Just keep waiting for other people opinion while you are already seeing the red flag. It's your business and your choice. I have nothing to say here.

seanwilliam:
hmmm. Your ex gf was raised by single mom too??

Her mum had kids for 3 different men. Dad married multiple wives . One elder sister a baby mama, another in second marriage. And she eventuality in her second marriage

Ficient:


Her mum had kids for 3 different men. Dad married multiple wives . One elder sister a baby mama, another in second marriage. And she eventuality in her second marriage

how many years of relationship did you have with her and how were you able to break up without her resorting to violence ..?

omotoshodontee1:
Imagine a grown up man placing more priority on fidelity over physical violence..u wan die early?it baffles me d way some people dey reason sha

Fidelity over physical violence. Instant stroke for some men if they find out their kids are illegitimate

TechSpecialist:
na Edo/Delta girl?

Stop stereotyping.
Please stop the BS. Thanks

@womenareapess

This op no no say na ashewo he don carry as GF ...hahaha �

Typical street gal wey be olosho ..na dis guy de carry for head

Let me I from you guys no woman loves you they are looking for what they want from you when they are done they jump to d other nigga bids higher

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

Oga look at the character traits you can live with in a woman and stick with it. Person tie headscarf like mother Theresa doesn't mean she's a wife material. So person wear nose ring and leg chain doesn't mean she's ashewo. Let trivial things not blind you from what makes up a human. Yeah values are a thing but it doesn't Make up a happy marriage. Person fit no dey smoke but the worst husband ever. Same goes with women .

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it(I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

help yourself and Run away from that engagement. I have nothing to tell you again, if you don't take this advice,we will read about your death on nairaland.
I don talk my own.

BLoomfrancs:


Oboy go siddon. If you do not know that 99.999% of girls with leg chains are prostitutes then shut the f uck up. From the days of yore till now. It was like a sign to tell men what they do without telling them what they do. Just like those who use upside down pineapples to show that they are swingers. Bro, it still holds true today. I might overlook piercing and neck chains but you see that leg chain, na their identity be that.

True bro na Dem identity be dat , any girl I see wearing it I don't trust Dem

I got niggas whose wife's still water it these r advance ladies but sometimes I wonder can't these ladies respect themselves

Any girl of 18 to 30 that rock leg chain omo na olosho

Neck chain means notin I hate piercing to much in d ear one is ok In the ear lobes

Beautifulearth:
Met my girl 2yrs ago and we apparently love each other but I’m worried due to some factors I noticed…..

She’s from a dysfunctional family (Mother is a single mom who left her home because her husband married another wife and Her Sister is currently in her third marriage with 3 kids from 3diff men).

She’s insisting on doing things we agreed she wouldn’t do, she was using leg chain when we met and she stopped it because I told her I don’t like it (I don’t like ashawo vibez like 2-3 neckchains, leg chains and piercing) now she’s insisting on doing some of them which led to a great misunderstanding between us which we still trying to resolve.

And lastly we do have little quarrels a lot even tho most would be settled because we both have anger issues and sometimes get physical with each other because she will lash out and will try to want to stand up and fight you like a man and my mom really doesn’t like her because of her quarrelsome attitude and only support me because I love her……..we stayed this long because I never suspect or caught her guilty of infidelity(I go through her phone unaware and she never gave me a reason to suspect her) which is a trait I always wanted above others in a woman.

LMAO... I can clearly see where the problem is.

First off, using leg chains occasionally doesn't make a woman an ashewo.
It can be used minimally so as not to give that so-called vibe you're talking about.
The "minimalist" or "the less-is-more" dressing is a turn-on for me in a woman.

It's NOT about her coming from a dysfunctional home as such. Many women and men
come from such families and made a decision to come out right in life... even better
than those who come from families where their parents are together!

You both need to read the book by Dr. Gary Chapman called "The Five Love Languages"
Both of you are NOT getting it right in terms of connecting with one another on
the emotional level. If she loves to read and is willing to read the book, then she'll
learn some deep insights. But if she is NOT willing to read and learn, then "ditch"
her and get another young lady. Change ONLY comes from within and you cannot
force a person to change unless the person resolves to stop smoking, and telling lies
that can "cause a building to collapse," etc. Lol

Last but not least, I do like the occasional anklets [ankle chains] and a thin waist chain
on a woman [especially if she is intelligent and has well pedicured legs]... but I dislike
nose piercings. So every individual on earth has personalised likes and dislikes.


All the best.