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maureensylvia:
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KiNg0G:
Hahahaha.


You never hear say them dey rent people to come sit down for chair?

That nor be issue na.

CXLVII:
As a hardcore introvert, I will never have a reason to invite people to anything.


It’s just so impossible!

Canopy, chairs, party or drinks are not in my dictionary. I don’t go out and neither do I expect anybody to invite me to anything cos you will be disappointed.

I will never have a reason to invite people.

Acidosis:
The whole idea of separating canopies is senseless and invalidates whatever sort of love you all claim to share. All I see is fake love, insecurities, show-off, Etc. By the way, why do you need the crowd for grandma's burial? Are you going to bury some of them along with Grandma?

Rather than play along , make things go your way. There are 1001 ways to bury the dead.

Klass99:
You will be a very good somebori to run things with . You are private, you also come across as coded and someone who likes to keep things on the down low.



Always the sensible guy. But, what are these 1001 ways to bury the dead? Abeg spill o.



Ishi this thing no be by force o, so long as you are kind and interact well with people at any level, regardless of their status (e.g. cleaners,CEO, etc) you will be alright in this life and like Acid said, you don't need a crowd to bury the dead.

I like quality over quantity, if I have to bury my dead I will be more focused on getting that business out of the way and moving on with my life. While earnestly hoping my dead made heaven and if one or two friends show up, I will be grateful, always holding them dear to my heart.

But, their presence, the food, grandeur and fanfare activities around the funeral, will not change the final destination of the departed. Nothing we do after a person passes, matters as much as when they were alive or where they end up.

That's why I love that song celebrate me, now wey I dey alive. The song is also one of the reasons I repeatedly give money to one of my relatives, even after saying I won't. At the back of my mind I keep thinking, this money she is asking for, that you don't want to give her. If she kpoof now, you'll end up spending more money to bury her, than what she asked for.......so just give her and do extra.

CUMIN:
He would have learnt a lesson that has never been taught in school from that.

You have to strategically mingle with people you like and dislike

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

Carot:
are u an introvert

MufasaLion:
Lol

Don't be disturbed by that. Mingling is good but it should be limited. I like being private but I still got some real ones that would pull up for me if I wanna organize something. Although, I don't even like parties, so there's no need for their gathering.

I can go months without contacting people. Even my social media accounts are as silent as a grave yard. I'm sure many people don't even know my whereabouts except people in my neighborhood here and I ain't got no friends among them. Crazy!

izzou:
[color=royalblue]Lol.

Personally, I won't let anybody emotional trap me into their lifestyles.

I am not the party and events attending guy. When I have an occasion, I don't even want any crowd to attend. The few people I'll invite would show up. That's enough.

I don't even understand the sense in having separate canopies, but that's another issue for another day.

If you don't like it, don't bend because of societal pressures.

Real friends are those who show up in days of trouble, not in attending parties[/color]

MufasaLion:
Even my family and close friends have known that I hate unnecessary noise, gatherings or attention.

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

Carot:
are the quiet type

akinade28:
I'm going to give a different opinion based on the comments on this thread.
I'm also an introvert who likes a cool and quiet life. When I was younger, i hate unnecessary attention, popularity and the limelight with passion. I love it when people don't notice me, I just do my thing and get out. I could only keep very few friends. But as I am growing older, I have come to realize there are games of number in life, you just need to learn how to mingle, and relate with variety of people, though you need to take necessary precautions. Being an introvert is not an excuse, because there are certain position you can never reach except you are popular ( a lot of people really know you), no matter how good you are at what you do. For example; politics, business and the cooperate world. One of the reasons we will keep having dumb leaders emerging in Nigeria is because the smarter and better ones are not popular at the grassroot level. People will only vote for people they know and are familiar with. Though you might be better than others, there are certain opportunities ( e.g brand endorsement deals, awards based on voting, official post based on voting) you will never get or know about except you are popular. In the world of business, if people don't know you, you are on your own, you will see inferior product and services sell faster than yours. That is human psychology for you. Though getting people to attend your ceremony might not seem important, but there are other vital things in life you will definitely need popularity for. I know it is not within their comfort zone but introverts need to develop their social skills.

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

Ishilove:
Lesson learned. Me wey dey avoid mingling, I really gats to start mingling with people and not turn to an Island

Ishilove:
Lesson learned. Me wey dey avoid mingling, I really gats to start mingling with people and not turn to an Island

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

GraciousGod190:
A Church member invited the masses to his mother's burial ceremony last week Sunday, today when I got there I had to look for his own canopy..to my surprise they were just few persons sitting on his canopy with lots of chairs vacant.

and I came late o, we talking about after 2.48pm

His siblings canopies were filled to the brim, even his uncle's canopies were filled up that they were even coming to collect chairs from his own canopies to theirs for their respective guest. (this guy is the second to senior) I could see the embarrassment on this man face... he was just quiet and moody.

Food he cooked was surplus, nobody to give after sharing for we the church members that came..he had to even give us extra takeaway home because we didn't pass 10...still they are still enough leftovers.

While I was coming home one of the member from the church a very good friend of mine gave me a lift, then he told me Alex...you see why you need to dey mingle with people all around so that when you want to do things people will come.

You can't just put your full mind for people in church or family members...they disappoint you.

As you go people own, na so people go like come your own.

it really touched me, because I might even be worst than this guy, I hardly go out in the day....I don't have friends.. nobody to invite me to party... people in my street don't even know my name..This is really bad I need to change.

So introverts how do you handle stuffs when it comes to parties like this that you can't bypass? With all eyes watching...

pocohantas:
Wetin be this na? Hahahahahahahaha

UzomaFC:
I like staying alone oooooooooooo, at least it has saved me so many troubles.
My wife at times will be talking and I will be looking at her, well she knows me very wella.
We are 12years this year and we don't go out.

This year marked my 19yrs at my work place.
these are my stats:
Company Party: 2
Company Bar: 2
Weddings: 0
Burial: 1
Birthday party: 1
Others: 0

Even were I work, they know me that Igwe does not go out. but funny enough when they needed someone to represent them,
they will call me.
My own is Work/Church and nothing.
I don't even like staying in crowd talk more of inviting anyone, Nna men the lower or fewer the better for me.
Low headache, low troubles to attend to, infact low everything.
infact if I have my way, I will just go inside the forest and build and live there.

KiNg0G:
Hahahaha.


You never hear say them dey rent people to come sit down for chair?

That nor be issue na.