Op listen to your mind
Just doke her mercilessly

Stedygrowth:
Op, what you're going through is normal. The response you're experiencing is completely biological in nature, remember, you have not met her before. She, being your cousin's sister, does not in any way, stop from being a woman she is. The problem here is that, there is no conditioning between you two that establish the fact that you guys are sisters, as such, there is a clear prediction that if you have opportunity, you will make love to her.
Based on the above submission, I will suggest you help her find a place to stay. Even if she changes the way she dresses from now on, it will not still change anything, because you have been conditioned already. Until you will not rest. So, to be on the safe side, find a place for her as quickly as possible.
This does not require discipline, it require removing or staying away from the source of the stimulus. If you keep staying, you will do it one day.

Very mature response you've got here. Not all these ones thinking it's a taboo that OP's biological activity is taking place.
Like the OP said, he's not close with the cousin and their family. So it's possible that his mind has not been conditioned to accept the girl as his cousin sister

Maxwell775:
As in.. Before she started living with me, I use to wear boxers when I'm home alone But now I dare not expect I wanna disgrace myself.

My erection fit tear my boxers. So I do put on jeans or joggers when I'm home with her.

Tell her this.

You stopped wearing boxers when she arrived.
She should stop wearing tight dresses as a sign of respect. Baba, forget her age, scold that girl.

She'll even respect you more.

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have strong erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, coco-cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her to dress decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

Honestly I don't think she has any sort of ulterior motive. I think she already sees you as a brother...so her dressing isn't intentional at all.

If you aren't comfortable with it, simply talk to her like an older brother will talk to his kid sister without her suspecting anything.

Remember you just claimed you have a girlfriend.

Oga be a man.
Don't do anything stupid.
Stay strong and you'll over come temptation

Kolenda:

Very mature response you've got here. Not all these ones thinking it's a taboo that OP's biological activity is taking place.
Like the OP said, he's not close with the cousin and their family. So it's possible that his mind has not been conditioned to accept the girl as his cousin sister

Taboo? There is nothing taboo about a problem that is obviously a lack or mental discipline. The reason OP objectifies his cousin is simply that he sees her as a sex object and not an individual such as himself deserving of respect.

Rickmann:
I think she already sees you as a brother...so her dressing isn't intentional at all.

She probably even sees him as a mentally disciplined individual ought to see another human regardless of family ties.

Kobojunkie:
She probably even sees him as a mentally disciplined individual ought to see another human regardless of family ties.

Exactly.

candidladyTemp:



God iam ready to trade... Bring back aliyah and lefteye, take this pervert


You are not normal.... Are you guys cursed like em swear for una no no did someone place a spell on y'all

what you have to realize is that human beings are different and some men has more libido than others,I think the op is a normal healthy man that is been sexually assaulted by his cousin,I can testify about what this University girls wear at home,I simply have no option but to read the riot act to my daughter to stop going about naked in my house,what she wears at home whenever she comes back from school is far more worse than what the op is seeing,just pant called bum shorts and bra called top,what is wrong with this children nowadays,

Kobojunkie:
Taboo? There is nothing taboo about a problem that is obviously a lack or mental discipline. The reason OP objectifies his cousin is simply that he sees her as a sex object and not an individual such as himself deserving of respect.

You're correct. It's about mental discipline. We condition our minds to accept or reject certain things. Just like the way we've conditioned our minds that our siblings are no go area sexually. What we now do is to train our minds that even when we see them naked, we don't get moved

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candidladyTemp:



God iam ready to trade... Bring back aliyah and lefteye, take this pervert


You are not normal.... Are you guys cursed like em swear for una no no did someone place a spell on y'all

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Op take it to God in prayer.

Kolenda:

You're correct. It's about mental discipline. We condition our minds to accept or reject certain things. Just like the way we've conditioned our minds that our siblings are no go area sexually. What we now do is to train our minds that even when we see them naked, we don't get moved

Exactly!

Nobody is born with these capabilities from birth. Instead we create in our our minds these boundaries. Same way we train the mind to know that eating other humans is unacceptable is the same way we train it to knowing not to objectify others or make intimacy gadgets of them. The mind in turn controls the body and its every urges.

There is nothing normal about a grown man or woman getting an erection for a woman/man he/she is not directly involved with... unless the man/woman is sick either mentally or physically.

okoroemeka:
what you have to realize is that human beings are different and some men has more libido than others,I think the op is a normal healthy man that is been sexually assaulted by his cousin, I can testify about what this University girls wear at home,I simply have no option but to read the riot act to my daughter to stop going about naked in my house,what she wears at home whenever she comes back from school is far more worse than what the op is seeing, just pant called bum shorts and bra called top,what is wrong with this children nowadays,

Having high libido has nothing to do with what OP described. If you don't understand what libido or sex drive means, I suggest you make Google your friend..

Any man getting an erection from seeing his own daughter naked needs to go see a psychiatrist,
not make the gal feel self-conscious for a fault that has absolutely nothing to do with them. In fact I recommend such a man should not be left anywhere around female children at at point unto he has been mentally certified as being safe.

You can't stand bum shorts meaning your daughters are not safe wearing underwear or swimming trunks around you, abi? Go see a shrink abeg!

Nigerians and there lame excuses ehn.....

nickvanilla:
Honestly, except she's wearing bum shorts that's revealing her butts, there's no reason for you to be turned on. Learn to look away.

There is no need to look away instead what is needed is maturity and discipline of the mental kind to overcoming these things. Una dey see male runway models wey dey even see the gals naked for the same dressing room abi? Ever asked why those guys no dey get erection with all those unclad women around them?

Ever wondered how it european men and women can thrive in their many nude beaches without loosing their minds each right there and then? Have you ever heard of a rape pandemic on any of dem beaches as a result of all that unclothedness?

Mental discipline is something every man and woman ought to have regardless of race or nationality. A man/woman should be able to see a fellow human naked without being sexually aroused. That is a huge sign of sexual maturity.

candidladyTemp:



God iam ready to trade... Bring back aliyah and lefteye, take this pervert


You are not normal.... Are you guys cursed like em swear for una no no did someone place a spell on y'all

I used to think this fella is smart. I am disappointed. I just read your comment where you said God created Eve cos Adam was incompetent. We really have a lot of dumb people in this country

Ichabodcrane:

I used to think this fella is smart. I am disappointed. I just read your comment where you said God created Eve cos Adam was incompetent. We really have a lot of dumb people in this country

A die hard Christian spotted

Yakuri

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have strong erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, coco-cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

My opinion...
Since she isn't your blood sister, there is a possibility of that happening. It's not an abomination, you are human. Don't mind all these people saying shit. U seek advice, them no give u. They will be the first to blame u tomorrow if you make mistake.
I don't know how close you guys are, I'd advice you talk to her about her dressing, and what she is putting you through. If she is matured enough, she should understand and adjust. If she doesn't, then you tell her to look for her friend to stay with. To avoid sad stories.

I'm too tired to comment.

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have strong erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, coco-cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

You're a bleeping pervert

Ichabodcrane:

I used to think this fella is smart. I am disappointed. I just read your comment where you said God created Eve cos Adam was incompetent. We really have a lot of dumb people in this country

this is the dumbest thing I've read this year. Bro don't mind those girls.

Atleast, water still dey inside coconut But na ordinary air dey inside nairaland feminists head... Very empty head and anyhow girls.

stand her down and want her tell that you not not comfortable with how she frocks in the bedroom

All these holier than thou's claiming Saint obi, giving u advice are hypocrites.

We're all humans, we have blood running through our veins. She's your cousin, u and her didn't grow up together, your bound to have sexual arousal if she dresses in a seductive manner. It shows u're a man down there!

Even the bible states that one should "Flee" from temptation.

However, that's where self control comes in!

If you truly want to end all these, u should have a candid talk with her... Letting her know how her sexy countenance arouses you. It's just biology. She should be more aware that her actions can put u both in trouble.

If after doing the aforementioned and no changes, YOU OR YOUR COUSIN SHOULD FLEE. You should talk to ur mum that your cousin is making u uncomfortable or give one excuse just for her to see reasons to seek alternative accommodation for her.... Let her go stay in the school hostel or live elsewhere.

You're solely responsible for your actions.

Cheers.

techWriter3:
stand her down and want her tell that you not not comfortable with how she frocks in the bedroom

Read your comment again? You're a tect writer and you can't write/compose simple sentence.

Now, touch your knees... Don't beg me... I say touch your knees!!! You dey Mad!!

Prick no get shoulder e nor get shoulder put d head d rest enter

Smartgeek:
All these holier than thou's claiming Saint obi, giving u advice are hypocrites.

We're all humans, we have blood running through our veins. She's your cousin, u and her didn't grow up together, your bound to have sexual arousal if she dresses in a seductive manner. It shows u're a man down there!

Even the bible states that one should "Flee" from temptation.

I was waiting for someone like you to stupidly quote the bible.

So here are two things. According to Jesus Christ, the fact that you are around by a woman who is not your wife is counted as sin against you.... Matthew 5 vs 27 - 28. By that standard, lusting after any woman you are not married to is a sin. This while you contradict by claiming it is OK for OP to lust after his cousin. See how foolish your attempt is?

And the same scripture also tells you that when your body part causes you to sin, that you should cut that your body part off - not someone else's body part ooo. - Matthew 5 vs 29 - 20

Where Paul suggests you should flee temptation, he didn't say you should warn other people. Instead in this case, his suggestion to you would mean that you stop lusting in your hearts after women as this is a sin and all sin is condemned as unholy to God.

Please stop quoting bible foolishly abeg!

Op no get money now, you want make them beat am lock am.

Sarsaproko:
Just bang her if she let you. Sanusi Lamido married his cousin..So kini big deal

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have strong erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, coco-cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

So if you were to be my dad ,it will be a long story for I & my younger sisters.

If at 20yrs, she doesn't know the implication of her actions with indecent dressing around a male host, then she is dumb. That's how some of them get raped from dressing provocatively.

@OP My own take is that she is wearing those clothes deliberately to seduce you and have you oil her cuntus.. maybe konji don dey finish the girl sef who knows. A time will come when she'll start walking around the house braless with tits dangling around if you don't put her back in line now.
Sha be careful so they won't accuse you of rape in the future.

oke2018:
So if you were to be my dad ,it will be a long story for I & my younger sisters.

Who says ‘Cousin sister’ ? SMH