My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

Brother, I really don't know what you are going through because I ain't you, but I can only imagine it.

Firstly, you need to work on your self esteem. You gotta work on your confidence. You have to accept your situation and then determine on working on it. Don't be let down by your problem. You are a graduate and I believe you have dreams to actualize, focus more on that. Life is a journey and you gotta prepare for the battles and distractions.

Secondly, you gotta work on your communication skills. Once you could have confidence, you wouldn't be ashamed of yourself no more. There are many materials online that could help you with your communication skills (YouTube inclusive). As regards your father, there are parent(s) like that and you're unfortunate to have one. You really shouldn't worry much. Work on getting your own apartment, it will make you feel more better and happier.

Thirdly, I wouldn't want you to blame any deity for anything. This type of mentality will make you not leave the same spot and it will make you become vulnerable to clerics that would extort and manipulate you.

Lastly, follow my suggestions if you feel they worth it. I wish you well, brother.

See op don't be bitter about the situation. Gain self confidence first as its very paramount then try the below tips

1.)Slow down. One of the more effective ways to stop a stutter is to try to speak more slowly. ...

2.)Practice. Reach out to a close friend or family member to see if they can sit with you and talk. ...

3.)Practice mindfulness. ...

4.)Record yourself while talking ...

You'll surely be fine

Hmmm... Indeed you are so depressed.

The good news about your post is that... you have just Discovered yourself and I'm so happy for that. Now Listen to me.

While I was growing up, I have always wanted to be a lawyer because "I talk too much" But that wasn't God's plan for me. I discovered my purpose in life when I was in S.S.1 3rd term.

I went to command secondary school ipaja Lagos (boarding house). Your Junior Waec results determines if you belong to science, commercial or art class. When our results came out and the list were shuffled. I saw myself in science class but I purposely went to register myself in art class.

I was bored in my 1st & 2nd term in art class. no calculation courses apart from mathematics. I was tired of reading long notes without practicals or calculations. I wrote a letter to our commandant stating why I wanna go back to Sci class. Then he approved it.

Today I'm a medical laboratory technician in a prestigious hospital here in Lagos. And I also do business.

Now here is my point: YOU want to be a lecturer/teacher but is that God's plan for you?? Now that you have discovered yourself, kill that mentality of becoming a lecturer/teacher. That's not your purpose in life take it OR leave it. Else you will commit suicide and die for nothing.

@27 You're still young. Work on your confidence, Set a goal, ask yourself where do want to be in next 5 years. Think critically and research about businesses to learn and venture into.

ABOVE ALL, PRAY TO GOD FOR GUIDANCE. Ask God for forgiveness for the rubbish you wrote in your last paragraph.

No dey rush
Always be calm before u talk

There is an ability in every disability. Start by writing books. Start a YouTube channel for tutorial videos. For the videos, record yourself talking but mute the sound, give someone else a script to do a voice-over for the videos. Depending on how educative and understandable your content is, people will discover you and make you a big boy. This is what I can suggest now. I do not know if stammering is treatable.

I feel your pain brah, accept yourself for who you are.. it be better that way.

OP don't be depressed, listen to those advice above and try this.

get like 30cl dry gin, the local one called ethanol(not schnapps)
add alligator pepper and cayenne pepper(chillg pepper)
mix vigorously before use
take one tea spoonful and hold it in ur throat for seconds before spitting it out
do this twice daily for two months and see ur stammering reduce gradually.

HenryIgwe01:
My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

Try putting earpiece on and play a music, and at thesame time read anything, you would barely stammer.
Practice this frequently and you are good to go

There was a group I joined and a lot of people have the following solution to stammering: Get an empty snail shell, put water inside and drink morning and evening, they said it was very effective... Please try it out if u can.

There's nothing wrong with you bro, your mentally is actually the problem here. Change it

HenryIgwe01:
My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.

Brilliant and intellectual minds are here so I believe you people can help me with an advice because I am so depressed and I don't know who to talk talk to about my depression.

I'm a stammerer, a chronic and dreadful one at that. I can repeat an initial word like forever before I could complete my statement. It has made me hate my life and existence. I have a very low-self esteem, I can't express myself, I can't even approach a girl not to talk of being a relationship because I'm afraid of being mocked.

I'm a graduate in accounting education from AAU. I have always dreamt of becoming a lecturer/teacher. I'm smart and intelligent, I love to impact knowledge but I can't express myself. It's a big disability for me.

Back then in University, when i went for my teaching practice, the first day I taught in a classroom, I sense an undesirable atmosphere. I knew the students were trying to laugh but they respected their selves. When I got home, I locked myself and I cried.... But life goes on.

I graduated 2017, I went for nysc 2018. Since then my life has no bearing. I have not achieved anything. I feel inadequate despite I read a lot and I'm intelligent. It pains me I can't communicate to impact knowledge without stammering.

My father is making it worse for me, he compare me with other guys, he has never appreciated any thing I've done for him, he talks down on me. He finds fault in anything I do, he talks as if I created myself.

My mom and siblings are the reason why I haven't committed suicide. They encourage me everyday, especially my mom who is sick now.

I prefer to be completely deaf and dumb than for me to talk and not be able to express myself.

God is not perfect. If God was perfect, he would not have created some people with disability or deformity. Some people were born crippled, deaf, blind etc.. And you wanna tell me God is perfect? He's a partial and sentimental God. I try to understand his vision but all I see is damages.

Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

Go and start eating okra and thank me later.
I was once like you. Then also build your self confidence. Start thinking like a king. Develop superiority complex. It will help overcome stammering. After some time you will see yourself talking most times without stammering

HenryIgwe01:
Please I'm so depressed. I need advice.

Stop blaming God and instead work towards getting treatment..

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Stuttering is a childhood-onset fluency disorder. According to DSM V, it has a couple of diagnostic criteria.

Symptoms
Stuttering signs and symptoms may include:

■Difficulty starting a word, phrase or sentence
■Prolonging a word or sounds within a word
■Repetition of a sound, syllable or word
■Brief silence for certain syllables or words, or pauses within a word (broken word)
■Addition of extra words such as "um" if difficulty moving to the next word is anticipated
■Excess tension, tightness, or movement of the face or upper body to produce a word
■Anxiety about talking
Limited ability to effectively communicate

The speech difficulties of stuttering may be accompanied by:
■Rapid eye blinks
■Tremors of the lips or jaw
■Facial tics
■Head jerks
■Clenching fists

Stuttering may be worse when the person is excited, tired or under stress, or when feeling self-conscious, hurried or pressured. Situations such as speaking in front of a group or talking on the phone can be particularly difficult for people who stutter.

However, most people who stutter can speak without stuttering when they talk to themselves and when they sing or speak in unison with someone else.

Treatment options available for Adult stammering
1. Speech Therapy
2. Psychological Counseling and CBT
3. Support groups

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https://stamurai.com/blog/stuttering-treatment-for-adults/

Don't be depressed, be happy, you are not alone,
a medical doctor in my church told us he was once a chronic stammerer, but now he speaks fluently.

Don't be depressed, be happy, you are not alone,
a medical doctor in my church told us he was once a chronic stammerer, but now he speaks fluently
STAMMERING IS TREATABLE

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I can feel ur pain bro, don't worry you gonna be okay.
Lalasticlala mynd44.

Dear Op, I really don't know how best to encourage or motivate you, but will like to leave you to the hand of a quote from Tyrion Lanister in the movie, GOT, he said and I quote, "Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you."

Those of you suggesting the op should take weird concoction, I don't understand .

Which one is drink dry gin mixed with alligator pepper together with milk and milo, then slice onion and curry. . Nawa oo

@op I think MufasaLion and Jennyclay made a point. Follow thier advice.

Please suicide is never an option.

Good evening,
I guess you are bittered because of your what you see as a weakness or disability. It's all good.

I remember a time just like you I was also a chronic stamerer, I had to hit my leg on the floor to even utter a single word. But today I talk very fast that people think am rapping.

And you know it disappeared And I didn't know how it happened. I only knew I was serving God with so much zeal.

Haven't you read that the grace of God is sufficient and His power is made perfect in weakness. You just need to remember this and ignore every other negativity.

You might not have supportive parents like I do. But we have a God that loves us even in our weakness and he is the best person to reach out to and tell of your heartaches

Stop trying to analyze God and his love. His ways are higher than ours and his thought above ours.

He is committed to healing us if we are committed to believing him. He healed me many years ago and I know that what he makes happen to one, he also makes happen to all.

Focus on your life, have a plan for your life. I know of people with worse disabilities than yours and they are doing great for themselves and being recognized all over the world

Stop making excuses. Start doing the needful. Nothing can limit you unless you let it.

Just to let you know, you are loved, you are blessed and highly favored and I believe in you and the progress you will make.

Your first sentence gave me goosebumps.

I'm Henry, 27 years, a graduate, and was once a stammerer.

The similarities are eye popping.

I can totally relate to the loss of esteem, and embarrassment when you experience a block.

Scientists don't know what causes it, but I believe it's purely psychological.

Ever wondered why you don't stammer when talking to yourself?

It's a long road to finally defecting this impairment. But if you're determined, you can live a stuttering free life.

I'm proof.

Brighton1:
Those of you suggesting the op should take weird concoction, I don't understand .

Which one is drink dry gin mixed with alligator pepper together with milk and milo, then slice onion and curry. . Nawa oo

@op I think MufasaLion and Jennyclay made a point. Follow thier advice.

Please suicide is never an option.

Brother, most Nigerians are ignorant and even the educated ones are half-baked. I wish the OP would be wise enough to take the right path.

Wawelexy:


get like 30cl dry gin, the local one called ethanol(not schnapps)
add alligator pepper and cayenne pepper(chillg pepper)
mix vigorously before use
take one tea spoonful and hold it in ur throat for seconds before spitting it out
do this twice daily for two months and see ur stammering reduce gradually.

What about Cameroon pepper and Morocco ginger??

CastingCrowns:
Get an empty snail shell, put water inside and drink morning and evening, they said it was very effective... Please try it out if u can.

Tortoise shell should be better for him to put water and drink

Wawelexy:
OP don't be depressed, listen to those advice above and try this.

get like 30cl dry gin, the local one called ethanol(not schnapps)
add alligator pepper and cayenne pepper(chillg pepper)
mix vigorously before use
take one tea spoonful and hold it in ur throat for seconds before spitting it out
do this twice daily for two months and see ur stammering reduce gradually.

Does this really work?

CastingCrowns:
There was a group I joined and a lot of people have the following solution to stammering: Get an empty snail shell, put water inside and drink morning and evening, they said it was very effective... Please try it out if u can.

Does this really work?

Kollins11:
What about Cameroon pepper and Morocco ginger??

Tortoise shell should be better for him to put water and drink

oga face front or make u near wall

odinson1:


Does this really work?

yea it does, tested and trusted

Wawelexy:


yea it does, tested and trusted

Then why isn't it popular though?

MufasaLion:


Brother, most Nigerians are ignorant and even the educated ones are half-baked. I wish the OP would be wise enough to take the right path.

certain ailment have been cured before education was even introduced in African(even the world at large) and this hasn't stopped

stop the habbit of talking down on ur own method of medication just because of foreign education.
you dont even know about the medication i suggested but u re quick to criticize and generalize by tagging africans as ignorant.

go to elewe omo people and ask bout this medication and stop acting like u re an island of knowledge.

No offense meant.

[quote author=HenryIgwe01 post=110481345]My name is Henry, 27 yrs old. I am new here, it was my younger sister who introduced me to nairaland. She is a member here.


OP, CAN I ADVICE YOU? IF YES THEN LISTEN.

Would you not mind to go the traditional way to cure this stammering of a thing? if Yes read this.

My dad was a chronic stammer, until it got to me as a son, whole growing up, Omo I do feel like killing myself then, but not until one day GOD bring solution through Lord Jesus Christ into Our family.

I don't really know how I can help you with pictures of what we used to cure it, It's over 15Years now, None of Us has stammer for an hour, I can't remember I was once a stammerer self. I can talk now from morning till night, even during argument without having any atome of stammering.

You need A shell of Snail, to solve your problem with Prayer, and I believe God will take control of the situation.

1) Go and Get a live snail
.2) Boil the snail Alive or boil water and pour it on the snail
3) after boiling it, Remove the whole Snail body from the shell.
4) Pack all the body and throw them away
5) Do not eat nor taste the Snail oooo
6,) Now Wash the shell thoroughly, Make it clean
7) You can keep it for some hours or Few days inside your room or a place where people will hardly and rearly see it.
The second day, Start using the shell to drink water, Anytime you want to take water, Make sure You pour the water into the shell of that Snail and Drink from the shell.
9While drinking of after drinking be making some prayers
10) Telling God that has soft has the shell of Snail is, so like that should your utterances be, As easy as a Snail is so should your words be, IJN.

Bro, This make look like a child's play or superstition but I must tell you, I was once in your shoes, I know how it feels, I know what you are passing through.

What I gave you and others here for free, Has cured so many people from stammering. HAVE FAITH IN GOD THROUGH CHRIST.


THANK YOU, IRE OOOOOO

odinson1:


Then why isn't it popular though?

God! My problem with u people.
thousands of medication that re out there(esp in Asia and Africa) that re not yet popular.

Wawelexy:


certain ailment have been cured before education was even introduced in African(even the world at large) and this hasn't stopped

stop the habbit of talking down on ur own method of medication just because of foreign education.
you dont even know about the medication i suggested but u re quick to criticize and generalize by tagging africans as ignorant.

go to elewe omo people and ask bout this medication and stop acting like u re an island of knowledge.

No offense meant.

Y'all learn the hard way. Y'all will ignore the medical care and opt for other options till your health get deteriorated, then you start running back to the clinic when its too late. Y'all will then blame the health-care system for your misfortune.

Pathetic!!!