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loosingfaith519:
My thought too. Thanks

mpire:
79% of which men? . Did you pull that data out of your ass? You mean 79% of you re.tarded no future, jobless clowns. Where did you get your Data Analyst degree from? Pretty sure it's from The University of Dumb.ass.

loosingfaith519:
I don't want to involve his mother. That woman is too fragile. I don't want things that break her the more and increase her BP

loosingfaith519:
I wish he could be opened like you. I would have gladly help him.
We always talked about this, he has promised severally to stop. When I mentioned it now, he would tell me not to take him back to his past, but he is still doing it. Even yesterday, he still Gambles.

MALIGNANTGuest:
You just exposed your Ignorance.
But it's expected.
U can't know more than what u know now except you expose urself to more knowledge.

You have to ThankGod for Nairaland, else what will someone like me have in common with you.
Our paths wouldn't have ever crossed.
I will advice someone like you to stayput on Nairaland and benefit from the enormous knowledge we deposit here.pl
When people like you were asked to go to school and study what others had researched, you resorted to prayer houses.
Now it's showing!
Wake Up.

All I needed was your submission to learn newer things you have never been exposed to.

Twoclans:
The comments on this thread sha .hmmmmmmmmmmm.

OP may you not experience pregnancy induced high blood pressure .That is my prayer for you.

Saig:
This is not God's grounds for divorce. It is only death and marital infidelity thank can permit divorce.

Why don't you sit him down and talk to him or you've done that and he refused to listen. Then take him to another person he respects and keep praying for him. That is better than divordivorce. Everything is not divorce.

Olaideolayemi:
This is a bad thought, marriage is an institution,where many problems, chanllenges arise, because he's a gambler now,you want to leave him.. It's very painful,You peoples doesn't like to face problem,all you want is sweet.. You better think we'll.. because to me is betrayer..when you do your marriage, you no say better or worst?Nawaa oooo..

Toks2008:
You dont have to divorce him.

Just make sure you makr enough money to take care of yourself and make sure you have the number of kids you can cater for by yourself.

Shebbi nah gambling, you will surprised that some men have more terrible addictions.

Gambling can still bring in millions if he is fortunate, people make a living through gambling (i dont support it tho) but please its not worth a divorce.

sirp9898:
Marriage is for good and bad sister.

During the good time you didn't seek public opinion
Now that is bad pray God to help you go throgh it untill it get back to the good time again

Mercychen:
That is why they are always looking for a working class lady who can bring to the table so they can continue gambling and spending their own money recklessly. You better dump his ass.

You don't need to go through all that stress of divorcing him because that will drain you mentally and physically except you plan to remarry which is not advisable as most of them are the same. So, just secretly get a place for yourself and unborn child and leave him without warning, before you lose your sanity.

When he's ready to leave the singlehood lifestyle and become a responsible husband, he can come for his family. Otherwise, forget about him. Life is too sweet to let one person keep you in sorrow all the days of your life.

Marriage is overhypped, especially in this generation of overgrown babies in men's skin.

Modified.

I'm ashamed of all the men attacking me for saying the truth. Anyways I'm not surprised. The truth is always bitter and a hard pill to swallow.

You want her to stay with a grown up man who lacks common sense to do the right thing just so she can answer married. What the heck do you men think you are?

I blame the women that hold some of you in high esteem; making you feel like something when in fact all that is left of the male folk is nothing but a bunch of lazy leeches.

My joy is that, there are still a few, and i mean, very few men who have sense.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

DrFunmisticGlow:
she is tired se.

Gambling is a very serious addiction.

I wish she could apply for annulment

ModestGal:
I hope you see and read my message. Please, divorce the idiot and assume he's a sperm donor, if you want to endure,be sure you will end up with depression and other mental health issues.its not worth it. And don't listen to the fools in this thread, they are usually against women and ready to bash women at any opportunity. Most of them are teens, frustrated and broke dumbies. Also, for the sake of your sanity,do not post for advice on this forum anymore,they will make you hate yourself with their bashing comments. Remember they are broke and frustrated

Try to join Facebook groups, avoid Nigerian fb groups,most Nigerian women are dumb, look for international groups,join and seek for advice.

Acidosis:
I was going to ask the usual question here "why didn't you do your due diligence". But then I have discovered that the easiest thing to hide before marriage is addiction/habit. Anyone blaming you is just being unrealistic. You may never know whether your spouse is into drugs, a chronic gambler, a porn addict, or a bisexual. It takes only an app to become a chronic gambler these days. Addictions are mostly things people do in the secret, when they're alone, so how on earth are you going to find out whether your man gambles with money?

The compatibility metric is even useless when it comes to certain issues. For example, no chronic gambler wants to marry another chronic gambler, so chronic gamblers seeking marriage would most likely hide/fake financial discipline or "investments" just to lure a spouse who's probably carried away with money, level of education, good family, or good looks. It's a complex issue.

To the OP, I would only be lying if I tell you that I have a solution. I don't have any. On one hand, I can't advise my sister to remain with a chronic gambler. On the other hand, I think it is too early to have this divorce talks. I mean, your marriage is barely 4 month old. But I hope you find a way around your issues. Maybe it's time to activate your conflict resolution plan. A resolution plan may include "a very good family", "an entity he respects so well, e.g. spiritual fathers", etc. If he has none, then your divorce may be faster than you envisaged.

Gamesmart:
A man who wastes and squanders the money that should be used to take care of the household and raise the kids is of no value as a husband.

The only circumstance that I would advise her to stay with him is if he agrees to have her control the access to all his income and then she gives him monthly pocket money. That is the only way to handle a gambling addict.

Otherwise he is useless in her life!

Toks2008:
Gambling is bad but there are people who have changed their lives positively through gambling or is lottery not a form of gambling?

Furthermore, marriage is not like a dating affair where you can just leave especially when kids are involved.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

ModestGal:
I hope you see and read my message. Please, divorce the idiot and assume he's a sperm donor, if you want to endure,be sure you will end up with depression and other mental health issues.its not worth it. And don't listen to the fools in this thread, they are usually against women and ready to bash women at any opportunity. Most of them are teens, frustrated and broke dumbies. Also, for the sake of your sanity,do not post for advice on this forum anymore,they will make you hate yourself with their bashing comments. Remember they are broke and frustrated

Try to join Facebook groups, avoid Nigerian fb groups,most Nigerian women are dumb, look for international groups,join and seek for advice.

mpire:
Truthfully, it's too early to throw in the towel, divorce is awful; unless you know somethings that you cannot deal with for the rest of your life and you're certain he's never gonna change. If you've only been married for few months,I'm assuming you're in Nigeria ask a lawyer if you can annual it instead of a divorce. Annulment is different, your plate is wiped clean and it never shows you've ever been married. I'm not sure about naija, but ask a lawyer. But honesty 4 months is just too short for anyone not to endure and throw in the towel; but I know it might hurt you so bad to wanna up so soon, it's your call at the end of the day because only you will live your own life. All the best.

loosingfaith519:
I recently discovered my husband has an addiction and I can't stay married to him.
As soon as money enters his hand, he starts funding some online app and start gambling.
We got married last year Nov.
We have needs and plans we agreed to achieve before the end of March. Which a better accommodation is one of our first goal. Our present accommodation is not ok at all.
On my own part, I'm saving to meet up with our Target, but I discovered, he has nothing. He collected contributions last month, over 200k. All that money wasted. He can't account for it.
January salary has entered, he has started wasting it again.

I'm expecting him to provide 300k at the end of this month. So, that when I sum it with mine, we can have over 600k. Get a decent accommodation and invest the rest.
We need to plan, save for our baby, but his attitude with money is not encouraging me.
The truth is, my husband is stressing me for lack of accountability.

Pls, how do I go about a peaceful divorce? I'm confused, because I'm pregnant.

All the things I'm seeing him do, suffocate me.
What do I do?
Pls, advise me.

HarunaWest:
The man when do you this thing,e no go better for am. See bitterness all over your post. Wetin man do you?

Gamesmart:
Please stop talking crap!

If you are using a small amount you can afford to lose to bet, it is not that bad.

If you are betting a significant amount of your income hoping to hit it big and "change your life" via gambling or lottery, you are either:

(a) sick in the head (aka addict) or (b) sick in the head (aka reetarded)

b is even worse when you justify your stuuupid actions with "there are people who have changed their lives positively through gambling".

Toks2008:
Habba! No be fight nah abi why you come dey wail like a crying banchee.

We are having a discussion so please calm your raging nerves.

My point is clear,... You just dont run out of your marriage as if it is just a date.

If you dont gerrit, forgerrit. Good night.