MadamVanessa:




Fake women everywhere , faking their life just to get married to a man.

Why pretending to be who you're not, you just want to pretend just to get married.

Coly2012:
He sudden change may be related to what she have seen inside marriage as compared to when you were still dating,
You no challenges comes along with marriage and you may think you have much now but when children starts coming in expenses tends to skyrocket and the much you can save now might be your saving grace, opting to bring dependants in is another huge move at an early stage of marriage.
My advice- she have her own perception which you most respect as they are not out of place, if you most give, she must not no, you can pay fees for people without bringing them into your home, don't and never take her refuser as been wicked or a sign that she have changed.

ElonEmpire:
GoodMorning all ,

I will make this as short as possible.
Before marrying my wife she seems to be this very generous and accomodating fellow . I felt fall in Love with her because this is just the kind of partner I want,
I have not really stand very well financially, though comfortable and contented , but I have this great dream of, because of what I pass through to help as much people as I can.
While dating her she told me all kind of stories of her philanthropic and generous gestures to people.
But moving forward to today she seems to be direct opposite of everything .
She detest people coming close or we offering any kind of help or assistance to family both hers and mine not to talk of friends.
What about suggesting to assist a relative that can't afford, with their child education na war
We have not born but I have more than enough space to bring one or two children to see them through school but my wife is not buying is at all at all.

I know who I am before I marry , this is the only thing that give me joy ,and my only reason for asking God everyday to bless me so that I can bless people.
But right now am seriously confused
it hurt me alot but I don't wanna force anything against her will.
I have tried discussing it over and over with her but she is still not buying it, with the excuse of that we have not stand enough to carry anybody .

What could be her reasons and
What should I do?

UyaiIncomparabl:
You can help people without trying to bring them into your home. Help them from afar.

I also hope you aren't trying to outdo yourself in the name of "we rise by lifting others" by helping everyone who needs assistance? You'll fall while trying to find your feet.

Don't come and quote the Bible for me that says "it's better to give in nothingness". It doesn't exist. If you are rich and choose to be generous, I can understand. Seemingly, nothing like being "wealthy" was mentioned in your post. That being said, I can't tell you how to spend your money.

Also, the fact that your wife pretended before marriage to be what/who she is not is deceitful. Women should just be themselves, honestly. Who go rate you, go rate you.

Furthermore, you can't force people to believe in your cause. It's your prerogative to be philanthropic, not hers.

Be what you want to be in peace, and don't spite her for not following your cause. You'll only be brewing grounds for malice and hate. Learn to balance your home without affecting your relationship with outsiders and vice-versa.

I come in peace.

kingyakos:

Giving is a gift

UyaiIncomparabl:


No one said it's not. Everyone should strive to be a GIVER. Giving gives me joy. If there's anything that gives me fulfilment in life, it's GIVING.

However, forcing people to believe in that cause is not advisable. Not everyone can give as much as others. Not everyone has a large heart, as much as we would want everyone to.

tensazangetsu20:
I get where your wife is coming from. As much as it's good to help you also need to plan for your family. You are a married man and your responsibility first and foremost is to your wife and your children. Nigeria has zero social contract so you need to always plan ten steps ahead. What if you lose your job tomorrow or your business takes a turn for the worst or Nigeria happens to you. Will those you have helped return the favour. Put your family first.

Kellzzyy:

Mumu