If you look at most families today, the children hardly mention their fathers when making a reference to something inspiring. I mean quoting what your father once taught you or something positive you learnt while growing up. I am referring to fathers of our time

xynerise:



You can ignore if your father is not among. Your dumb skull should read the title and see if you can't find "most".


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donstan18:

You are referring to your father who didn't teach you anything positive, not our fathers.

donbachi:
Pressure here and there...una wan kill us?

donbachi:
Pressure here and there...una wan kill us?

bukatyne:
Nice thread.

mariahAngel:


No, it's not.

For someone to think to create this topic tells that it's coming from somewhere...either from experience growing up or...
As for me, I don't relate.

kingreign:
Xynerise, my brother man, you aren't far from the truth.

We have a lot of dead beat fathers in these days who's only job is to birth children then abandon the responsibility of grooming their offsprings to be properly train and responsible people.

Some weeks ago, I saw a man parked by a shopping mall, he had his son sit beside him in his car, he was busy smoking and drinking and the poor lad of no more than 4 years old was busy trying to disturb and tell his dad that smokers and drunkards will die young.

I sat in my wife's car just a car space away from them and was shaking my head in great disbelief and shame.

swiz123:
I don't have a problem if kids don't regard their fathers that much probably because of his busy schedules which their tiny heads can't understand.

My real problem is when an adult still think that his father is irrelevant because he doesn't baby-sit them... like WTF!!.... Shouldn't you have outgrown that stupid mindset?..

Most men who thinks that their father is irrelevant because of your silly reason and therefore goes about asslicking their momma are the reason why most marriages are living hell for modern wives.

Most orphans at motherless homes would give everything to have someone who can provide can feed, shelter, clothe and pay their school fees. That momma's love you so much adore isn't a priority to these unfortunate children...

I don't know how old you are, but please, change your mindset from today onwards

donstan18:

You are referring to your father who didn't teach you anything positive, not our fathers.


It still doesn't change the fact that your parents didn't teach you anything positive.

Below is my proof, a screenshot of your statement on this forum about them.

They failed, ruined and slowed your success, according to you.

Stop forcing our fathers To be like yours!!

ImaIma1:
I disagree.

A lot of fathers in recent times make efforts to be part of their children's lives...making memories and all.

Just going to the supermarket, I see fathers with the children without the mothers. Even my husband has taken our daughter to parties I couldn't attend on his own.

Being close to your children or not is a personal thing and a choice.

I have even heard of a father who travelled to help out his daughter when she gave birth. Their mum was late and the man was quite close to his children.

The issue for some men is that they feel too big or believe they cannot bring themselves so low to do some things. Imagine going to help your daughter after she puts to bed. How many men here see themselves doing that?

xynerise:


You still have to agree to my topic ...

ImaIma1:


If you had read my comment well, you would read that I said a lot of men in recent times are making efforts.

And I said some men feel too big.

Which is the majority between a lot of and some?

xynerise:


There is no definite quantity for both.

ogawisdom:
Mothers will always come before fathers so quit competing it's just natural. No one will love u more than your mother in this world.

If a father provided all your needs while growing up and paid all your school fees and the child still can't love him then he will when he grows up.

Discipline your children and provide for them, be there for them as much as time permits.

Stop trying to be a mother when u are a father.

xynerise:
Yes, I said so.

If you are of the school of thought that providing for the family along automatically makes you a caring father, then you are among those that
risk being irrelevant to your children.

If you look at most families today, the children hardly mention their fathers when making a reference to something inspiring. I mean quoting what your father once taught you or something positive you learnt while growing up. I am referring to fathers of our time.

Today, everything is about making money and paying the bills. That is not enough.
How close are you to your children? It is always the mother that attends to issues that trouble the children today. Even though fathers source for solutions at the end but the children will always remember the person that discovered the problems, or at least care to know what the problem is.

How often do we call our kids, sit them down and ask them about the kind of challenges they face in life?

Some fathers hardly call their children (far from home) on phone except the mother does and maybe pass the phone to him. This has made some people to call mostly their mothers on phone and explain situations to her rather than the father who provides the money to solve the situations.

You can see that despite most fathers provide the money, yet the mothers get most of the appreciation.


My point is, we shouldn't be too focus on just making the money. Let us remember we are also making a family too.


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