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So I went to a bar to relax after church and from the crazy NIgerian heat of today.
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One of the bartender, cheerful, pretty and shinny ebony tone; tall, straight shape with very sexy size shape of an ass came with her baby girl. This little girl is about 7 years from my estimation...but frolicking about and taking in the bad expoure of such ambience.

The problem I could quickly deduce is that this bar is a very notorious one, infamous for immoral kind of gals and guys who many times have no inhibitions about public display of affection...smoking , kisses and all sort. It houses a bar too , where hornny sexual duos come to relieve their inordinate appetite.

I began to wonder the much influence such place could have on that innocent 7 year old kid. Look at the risk, look at the future and psychological implications, and in all of these this baby mama probably do not care or is blinded by the poverty that brought her there in the first place.

My advice is this: Young gals should try to empower themselves first, above personal pleasure, instead of having the dream of being a baby mama.
Many a times, the kids are the unfortunate and innocent recipient of such ills.

Really sad. I can only imagine what will become of those kind of children..Hmmmmm
Babymamaism is more problem for the future.

Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men...

If your girlfriend gets pregnant, and you know you're responsible... Take responsibilities.

Abandoning them gives rooms to what you observed.

Modify...
I'm surprised the by numbers of attack I'm getting, truly the truth hurts.

For the record, I'm a guy and I know you guys want to shy away from the truth.

For those of you giving silly accuses of "what if she was a prostitute, what if she left because the guy was broke, what if she had a terrible character" all those excuses are bullshit to evade your responsibilities. You knew all of these before you had unprotected sex with her... If you have issues with her personality, take your kid along with you.
Men stop lying to yourself, even if your girlfriend/one night stand slept with millions of men, once the kid is born you'll definitely know if he/she is yours or not... You can't cheat or deceive nature.

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men

who chose to lay in bed with these irresponsible men?...is it a responsible woman? Women should be accountable for who they choose to spread their leg for.

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men

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But the focus from the post is on a female child at least, who is exposed at a young age to shenanigans she shouldn't have idea about.
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I was about 17 before I knew of such shenanigans cos of the strict home I came from.
Though I can agree with you, to some extent

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men

lol
What will you say about an 18 year old who got pregnant for a 19 year old in my street, is it because of the irresponsible guy or lady

Kuriosmynd:
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But the focus from the post is on a female child at least, who is exposed at a young age to shenanigans she shouldn't have idea about.
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I was about 17 before I knew of such shenanigans cos of the strict home I came from.
Though I can agree with you, to some extent

I know what the focus is, let's start from the root of the problem. If the guy responsible for the child took responsibilities, the innocent girl wouldn't be there in the first place.

How did you arrive at the conclusion that the bartender is a babymama?

arthurwillia:
lol
What will you say about an 18 year old who got pregnant for a 19 year old in my street, is it because of the irresponsible guy or lady

The problem still falls back to parental irresponsibility.
It takes badly raise children to engage in sexual activities at such age.... Check their families history.

Offpoint1:
I know what the focus is, let's start from the root of the problem. If the guy responsible for child took responsibilities, the innocent girl wouldn't be there in the first place.

Well, most of the times, Babymamaism is as a result of poor choice making and greed.
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For example, a lady just wanted to keep fvvcking me even when I was tired of it, even when I was not interested, but she was thinking I would change my mind, but then I can't imagine having kids with her which she obviously wanted...imagine I'm not that disciplined to use protection...not all guys have such self control. Today I've runaway from her cos I don't want to play into her game.
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So u see, gals make a lot of poor choices even though it's obvious they are erring.

OP, first, I want to commend you for your impeccable use of words. Your species are endangered here on NL.

over 90% of single mothers i have seen usually give birth to girls. why?

or is that Nature's way of continuing the cycle? babymama gives birth to another future babymama

czarr:
who chose to lay in bed with these irresponsible men?...is it a responsible woman? Women should be accountable for who they choose to spread their leg for.

It still falls back to the men, 95% of sex are initiated by men... The 5% are runs girls and ashawos.

Kobicove:
How did you arrive at the conclusion that the bartender is a babymama?

Another angle... I've seen lots of babymamas who are well behaved and strict with their kids. The problem is with the individual and not the name "baby mama"

With the constant marriage buhaha we've seen lately,I'm afraid that might be the only option to chose. I don't want to die before my time.

Kuriosmynd:
Well, most of the times, Babymamaism is as a result of poor choice making and greed.
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For example, a lady just wanted to keep fvvcking me even when I was tired of it, even when I was not interested, but she was thinking I would change my mind, but then I can't imagine having kids with her which she obviously wanted...imagine I'm not that disciplined to use protection...not all guys have such self control. Today I've runaway from her cos I don't want to play into her game.
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So u see, gals make a lot of poor choices even though it's obvious their are erring.

That's why I clearly stated "irresponsible men" are the cause.

You're a responsible man, you saw the future and you averted disaster.

Women are like kids, they behave like them. You can easily sway them with words or materials.

superCleanworks:
over 90% of single mothers i have seen usually give birth to girls. why?

This is a brilliant observation!
Despite being much accustomed to babymamas, I've never thought in that line even though I can now almost agree that most well behaved singlemoms actually have male child/children.
This is an apt observation..thumbs up!

HenryDion:
OP, first, I want to commend you for your impeccable use of words. Your species are endangered here on NL.

Lols. Thanks ehn.
Stop hyping baba. Plenty brilliant and accomplished men full here.
Many times they don't like typing cos they are too busy

Offpoint1:
It still falls back to the men, 95% of sex are initiated by men... The 5% are runs girls and ashawos.

women are the sexual selectors...as long it's not rapey then the responsibility is on the woman. How many men wanted to have sex with you that you let have sex with you? Men can only try, women remain the sexual selectors.

There is no such thing as accidental pregnancy. Women control who can be brought into this world through child birth.

So I went to a bar to relax after church and from the crazy NIgerian heat of today.
...........

One of the bartender, cheerful, pretty and shinny ebony tone; tall, straight shape with very sexy size shape of an ass came with her baby girl. This little girl is about 7 years from my estimation...but frolicking about and taking in the bad expoure of such ambience.

The problem I could quickly deduce is that this bar is a very notorious one, infamous for immoral kind of gals and guys who many times have no inhibitions about public display of affection...smoking , kisses and all sort. It houses a bar too , where hornny sexual duos come to relieve their inordinate appetite.

I began to wonder the much influence such place could have on that innocent 7 year old kid. Look at the risk, look at the future and psychological implications, and in all of these this baby mama probably do not care or is blinded by the poverty that brought her there in the first place.

My advice is this: Young gals should try to empower themselves first, above personal pleasure, instead of having the dream of being a baby mama.
Many a times, the kids are the unfortunate and innocent recipient of such ills.

Really sad. I can only imagine what will become of those kind of children..Hmmmmm
Babymamaism is more problem for the future.[/quote]Ur grammar alone scare me

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men ...

If your girlfriend gets pregnant, and you know you're responsible... Take responsibilities.

Abandoning them gives rooms to what you observed.

Imagine your mentality.

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men...

If your girlfriend gets pregnant, and you know you're responsible... Take responsibilities.

Abandoning them gives rooms to what you observed.

OP didn't mention anything bout the irresponsible fella that absconded/ went AWOL


Hypocrites everywhere !!


Thank you for this comment

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czarr:
women are the sexual selectors...as long it's not rapey then the responsibility is on the woman. How many men wanted to have sex with you that you let have sex with you? Men can only try, women remain the sexual selectors.

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Lord God of Zion!!! You people truly think with one side of your brain!! Just so unbelievable

Candidlady:
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Lord God of Zion!!! You people truly think with one side of your brain!! Just so unbelievable

You don't think at all

czarr:
You don't think at all

Learn to stfu when you don't have Nada to say

Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.

Iswear you disgust me!!! Insallah our paths will always be parallel lines!!! Kai !! And a lady will call this one too "my boyfriend" myopic skunk

God forbid

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men...

If your girlfriend gets pregnant, and you know you're responsible... Take responsibilities.

Abandoning them gives rooms to what you observed.

Again, men get blamed for women's stupid actions. When they will start taking responsibilities for their actions is what I don't know.

czarr:
who chose to lay in bed with these irresponsible men?...is it a responsible woman? Women should be accountable for who they choose to spread their leg for.

Person name na off point , you still dey try reason with am.

This reminds me of those days when I used to drink in street bars.

I actually saw a mature man bring his little boy (4 years old or so) to the bar, then he ordered beer and allowed the boy to drink until he slept. This was a mature man, looking responsible. I couldn’t help staring. Our eye jam. Me, I carry my eye comot and face my beer.

That boy might grow up to win drinking competition in future sha. Practice makes perfect.

Candidlady:
Learn to stfu when you don't have Nada to say








Iswear you disgust me!!! Insallah our paths will always be parallel lines!!! Kai !! And a lady will call this one too "my boyfriend" myopic skunk

God forbid

You are and would continue to be a waste of space

czarr:
You are and would continue to be a waste of space

Iblame god who didn't put a price tag on the air we breathe!! You this good for nothing being .. That looks like the aftermath of goro and Shiva unprotected sex won't be here crawling into my mention


Please stay outta my mention

Candidlady:
Iblame god who didn't put a price tag on the air we breathe!! You this good for nothing being .. That looks like the aftermath of goro and Shiva unprotected sex won't be here crawling into my mention


Please stay outta my mention

Stale

Offpoint1:
Baby mama is the result of irresponsible men...

If your girlfriend gets pregnant, and you know you're responsible... Take responsibilities.

Abandoning them gives rooms to what you observed.

As your name is, so is your comment ...

Candidlady:
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Lord God of Zion!!! You people truly think with one side of your brain!! Just so unbelievable

Lemme get this...
A woman will sleep around...
Refuse to use any form of protection...
Get pregnant for a man...
And when the man goes away...
She absolves herself of all blames and puts it on the man?
How stupid and immature ....

She had a choice to not have sex with the man, she had sex...
She had a choice to use protection, she didn't...
She had a choice to abort, she didn't...
And now that the cumulation of those choices have resulted in pregnancy, it's suddenly not her fault? It's now the man's fault??

Gosh!!
Indeed people do think with one side of their brains and it's unbelievable ....

Sheybi women are out there shouting "my body, my choice" it's their body, so if they end up as baby Mama's, then it's their choice!